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This guy that I've been friends with for a couple of years just got divorced. He told me that he wants to get married to me. He has never had children and said he wants to start a family with me. My concern is that he is 45, 17 years older then me. If we started to have children, by the time my child was 18 he would be in his 60's!! I am also concerned because he is quite old fashioned, and would want me to be a stay at home mom. I just got a promotion at work, and I don't want to have to quit it so soon. I've only been with the company for 4 months. He also has a tendancy to treat me like a child, has a bad temper, and is very tight with his money. He's also very possesive of me. I don't know what to do. He would be a good father, and I know I'd be a good mother, but I don't think I'm ready to start a family. My job is too important to me right now. And he seems really desperate to have a child, he's not getting any younger. Does anyone have any advice? (link)
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His biological clock is ticking, so he is pushing you into marriage and kids before you are even engaged?! You say that he has a tendancy to treat you like a child, has a bad temper, and is very tight with his money. Well,let me tell you sister-girlfriend.....he won't be any more patient with a child than he is with you and kids are very expensive! Those are two serious things to consider. But let's go down to the very basic foundation of a good marriage and family: love and respect. Can you be happy with someone who treats you like a child? Will you be happy giving up a job that you really enjoy? You could become very resentful of him (and children) if you give up everything for someone else's happiness. I say, wait until you find someone that you are IN lOVE with.....there are other men who would also make good fathers. He sounds like a control freak to me.......be VERY careful not to be pressured into something that you are not ready for at this time in your life.
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OMG... are you serious?! my friend said you couldnt so i didnt use any protection and he did inside me! (link)
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I am completely serious and you will find that guys will say anything to keep from using a condom!
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So my boyfreinds birthday is next thursday and I want to do something special for him. But then comes the problem. We're both still in school (hes going to be 17 and im 16) So i can't really doing anything that great during the day...and then that night i have a volleyball game like an hour away and i usually dont get home until about 11pm so i dont know what I can do...anyideas?
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I have celebrated many (many, many, many, many) birthdays and there is a common problem of conflicting schedules. Although the actual date of someone's birthday is significant to them, there isn't any reason you can't celebrate BEFORE that date. Do something 1 to 2 days (or more) before his birthday. He won't mind if it is early. {Going out afterward, doesn't quite feel the same.} Go to dinner, the movies, whatever it is that would make it special for HIM. Have a small cake or treat with a candle to make it seem more "birthdayish". Then on the actual birthday, wish him a Happy Birthday and say, "I had fun celebrating your birthday the other day." You could also save a small gift for him to open on his birthday. He can open it when you are not there and it will remind him of the special time you had earlier. It is the thought that counts, not the day.
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Okay. I know this question is getting SO annoying..but I need an answer...and haven't found one that goes to what I need to know.
Alright, so I and this guy have been going out for 3 weeks tomorrow, and on Valentines day it will have been 5 weeks (That assuming I can count. :P ) We're both new to having a boyfriend/girlfriend, so we aren't really lovey dovey or "cute" or anything like that - heck, we don't even hug that much.
I want to get him something for Valentines day, but I don't know what. I don't want to get him anything big, but I also think it would be kind of awkward for me to MAKE something for him, because thats just not the kind of relationship we have.
He's in to music, horror and comedy movies, and acting silly almost 24/7.
What would be a good gift idea, something that isn't..strange..for our relationship, but at least something to say "Hey, its Valentines day and seeings as we're boyfriend and girlfriend, I thought I should get you something, because..thats how it works and I like having you as a boyfriend." (link)
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I just gave this advice to another girl who has the same dilemma:
Guys love to eat. Make him something sweet: chocolate fudge brownies, homemade chocolate chip cookies, a heart shaped cake (it can be small). Make him a treat bag with some of his favorite junk foods: chips, popcorn, candy, and so on. Make a little card for him to go with it. Guys love to be spoiled! It will be a thoughtful gift without being tasteless. (Pardon the pun!)
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I am a single girl in her twenties and joined a ToastMasters Club back in September. I joined the club to help with my speaking skills and self esteem, and also to meet some nice single guys. Well to my disapointment I didnt meet any nice single guys, but I did meet two really nice married ones. They are both the nicest guys, and treat me with respect. The one has 3 boys, and the other guys as far as I know doesnt have any kids. I find myself going to these meetings sometimes just to see these two men. I don't want to have an affair with either of them, or replace their wifes. I just like going because of the way they make me feel. I've had problems with men in the past. My question is am i commititting a sin by liking these guys? I would also like to add that I don't fantasize or lust about them, I just wish that I could be there friends. (link)
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As a single girl in her 20's, you are probably attracted to these men because they are intelligent and attentive. They treat you nicely, because they are gentlemen and they are mature. The problem is......they are married. You feel attracted to them because of the attention they give you. Every woman wants attention from the opposite sex to assure her of her attractiveness. Be careful to never lead them on or flirt about anything romantic or sexual. If any one of them ever approaches you about 'getting together', do NOT get involved in a one-on-one relationship. The Rotary Club is an excellent way to build confidence...what a great idea you had! Try visiting a college book store or campus eating place to meet other SINGLE intelligent guys. You don't necessarily have to go to a college to meet educated men! However, you could enroll in just one course to meet guys. It doesn't have to be an academic based class, it could be an elective like a speech class, art class, etc. Junior and/or community colleges are less expensive...especially just one class. Stay away from married men...even if it is a friendship. The temptation could be too great to resist and married men may be willing to have a fling, at your expense.
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This guy and I just started going out. We go to the same school so I get to see him every day, but on weekends he's always with his friends. The thing is, I don't really want to hang out with them. I've only met a couple of them and I didn't like them very much...plus I've heard from him that they like getting high(not necessarily him) and I'm really not into that. How am I going to tell him that I don't want to go places when it's him *and* his friends? I mean I could give it a try but if I don't feel comfortable I won't know how to tell him that, since, you know, he likes them a lot(duh). I don't want to sound selfish as though I'm like "yeah, you can see your friends as much as you want but I won't be coming, just tell me when you want to do something with only the two of us." Any advice? Thanks! (link)
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The most important thing about the situation is that you MUST be honest with him about how the drug issue makes you feel. DO NOT be embarrassed to say, "I don't feel comfortable hanging around with (and especially DRIVING around with) people who get high. I hope you understand, because I don't like harming my reputation and especially my life with unnecessary risks."
You need to stand firm on this one, because drugs are serious business, I don't care if it is "only smoking pot". Pot impairs your reaction time when driving, clouds your memory and influences you do to stupid things you wouldn't normally do. If you are with people who are high or carrying dope, you can get busted, too. Police don't listen to sob stories when they pull over a car load of high teens.If this boy likes you at all and cares for you, he will respect your openness. This way you are letting him know that you are not going to let drugs enter your life, through him or his friends. If he is hanging with kids who like to get high, he is either already doing it or it won't be long before peer pressure gets to him and he joins them. Put your self FIRST, don't depend on the judgment of others.
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Ok i have a huge problem. See tomorrow i start school and my parents told me that i have to take this other person to school w/ me. Well He is just so happens to be my moms boss's little brother. Unfortunatly he is my age. i really dont want to take because i know my mom and his brother will try to hook us up. what should i do? (link)
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I don't know if you have even met him or not, but give the guy a ride. Before you do, tell your mom that you are NOT interested in him as a prospective boyfriend and you are doing this as a favor to HER {she'll love that part!}. It is possible that the guy feels uncomfortable like you do. However, if HE indicates that he is interested in you as a girlfriend at any time, {and you don't want to reciprocate}, use these approaches...
...a) Talk about other guys you are interested in and hope that he gets the hint.
...b) Tell him that you need to concentrate on school right now and you aren't looking for a relationship/commitment.
...c) Tell him that you would be glad to give him a ride, but you have a REALLY busy schedule for dating/getting together/whatever.
He may end up being a fun person to share a ride with occasionally and saying "hi" to when at school. You never know. You are in charge of what happens, so if he bugs you......tell your mom you tried helping out, but he'll need to make other arrangements for future transportation.
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Hello, I would like some advice.
I have a very young child. I am a single mother. and I am really happy with my life so far. However there is one serious problem. My childs Father is in Jail.
He went to Jail about 2 and half years ago.
I still love him a great deal.Before he got arrested we were very much in love and lived together we were planning a wedding and so on..
But now he is jail and I am really very lonely. I meet some nice men, but not the kind that I would want to spend my time with.
Some people say that I should have "fun" low maintanence relationships while he is in jail yet then be honest with the men I spend time with, let them know that I plan to wait for my childs Father.
My child father's wants me to be faithful to him. We were planning on getting back together after he got out, which will be in about 1 year and a half. But, seriously this is tough for me. I know that once he is out of prison I will be faithful to him, like I was before for 3 and half years.
I miss him, and I know that he is the only man for me, however I met a man recently named John.
I tried for a long time to avoid him (john) and to stay faithful to my hubby.
There is no doubt about it, I still love my childs father(hubby)and I can't stop thinking about him, however it is not enough for me living out here without him. It's not about having a MAN, this I know to be true.
John is really sweet. HE is fun, and I like him.
I am not as attracted to him, but that does not matter to me.He is sexy a FANTASTIC lover, Yes, we've "gone there" already! I am ashamed, although We spend some fun times together.I have not had sex in a long time. I have had relations before, but I never loved anyone, or thought of loving anyone so those little flings ended pretty abruptly.
Anyway,John is not as romantic smart or sensitive as my hubby my husband is special, and I really believe to be my soul mate. But he really does like me alot. John and I have very little in common, but we have some really great things in common. When I've been with other men, I basically felt pretty detached. I feel a little closer to John though. And he is a respectful well mannered man.
So now it's down to this,John wants to take it one step further, he wants me to be his "lady"
I really think John is sexy and kind, and despite the few flaws he has, I really enjoy myself with him. And I can't help but spend time with him. I guess I CAN help it, But It's not easy.
Do you think I am hurting myself, by being alone, and dead inside?
I don't have the male companionship I need in my life.
I am not sure I want to be John's lady. Because my feelings and emotions are so wrapped up in my past and in my future with my childs father.
I can't shake my hubby. It's not easy. We just fit so right, but he is not here, and I am tired.
I don't know if anyone can relate. I am ashammed, But I am not sure what to do?
Should I keep John in my life? and just play it by ear? Or am I wrong to cheat?
I will never ever NEVER!!! tell my hubby.
But I DO feel very guilty. Truth is ,I have needs. I love being a MOM, but I am left with all the responsibilities,I am stressed, it's so tough being a full time Mother.
My child is so young now, she does not know all that goes on. But I am very respectful to her, and I don't present a bad example. I just need some me time.
I went out this weekend with him. The first nice self indulgent weekend in about 2 years. I am so refreshed and loving, and it's easier to face my routines and my problems.
I feel so good, But I feel so bad at the same time.
What should I do?
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You have repeatedly said that you want to marry your child's father when he gets out of prison and that he is your soul mate. I am not sure why he went to prison or if he will turn his life around once he gets out. This will be VERY important as a child is at stake here. However, this is what you must base your decision on: Am I willing to wait for this man and continue a lifelong relationship with him once he is out of jail?
If you are definitely leaning toward marrying your child's father, then you cannot continue to deceive him by going out with other men. I understand that you are lonely, stressed and have needs. If he is in prison waiting for you and is counting on marrying you and forming a family, then you must make a decision now, to break off all other relationships.
If you are uncertain about being with this man (your child's father) as his wife, then tell him that. He must know that there is a chance that you may not be waiting for him when he gets out. It would be cruel for him to be counting on you 100%. It is better to have him informed now than to be ambushed with a surprise when he gets out.
HE was the one who ruined his life and your chance to be married when he broke the law. Are you are willing to forgive him and believe that he is a changed man? Will he work hard and be a good father and husband? If you have doubts, then focus on your DAUGHTER. She is the most important one involved.
In the mean time, going out with other men and having various "flings" as your friends put it, is irresponsible and selfish. What about pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, the influence on your daughter? She may not appear to know what is going on now because she is young, but she will one day. Do you want her to know that you didn't have any self control? How can you expect her to do the right thing with her life, if you can't do right yourself?
This man John is wanting to move forward in a relationship. I'm not sure what he means by wanting you to 'be his lady'. Does this mean living with you, having an exclusive sexual relationship with you, or supporting you? Now there are several people involved (Your daughter & her father, John and you). You cannot be undecided and wavering back and forth about what to do.
Is John willing to play second fiddle to this other man because he is available to you now and not in jail like the other guy or does he even know how you feel about your daughter's father?
Whatever your decision, you must not decide on your own needs for male companionship, but what is best for your child.....PERIOD. Make a decision and inform all involved with you, so that everyone knows what to expect. Good luck.
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Iwas under the wrong impression that a guy that I am friends with at the gym liked me. I asked him out for coffee and he didn't tell me right then and there that he has a girlfriend. He phoned me and told me after a week and a half. The reason why he didn't say anything sooner was because he felt it was too personal a subject to discuss at work, and that he could get into trouble for getting involved with someone in the gym (he is a gymnist). When he told me he had a girlfriend and things where quite serious,it hit me like a ton of bricks. Now I'm realy embarassed to even face him at the gym. He says we will always be friends but I've lost face. In my own eyes it looks like I'm the desperate girl that asks for dates and then gets rejected. I should never have asked him out at all. How am I going to face him like nothing happened? I feel realy bad and uncomfortable. Tell me what I should do in facing him. Maybe I should ignore and avoid any contact with him. I'm embarassed. Barbie. (26yr female) (link)
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I can understand that you feel embarrassed about the mixup. However, the positive side is twofold:
a) This guy feels flattered that you asked him out and no harm is done.
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b) Now you know that when you do ask a guy out for coffee (which is a GREAT idea!), you can preface it with, "Would you like to go have coffee, that is if it won't make your girlfriend jealous". Then he will come back with either, "I don't have a girlfriend" or "I'd like to, but I am seeing someone." This way, he will either accept or he can gracefully decline and no hard feelings.
You can still smile and say a friendly "hello" to this guy without feeling embarrassed, because he was a gentleman to call back and be honest with you. He will realize that you know he isn't available, so when you have contact with him, treat him like you would anyone else.
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I had written to you earlier about the boy I like being really shy on the phone. Now, I'm beginning to think it's not just shyness. We basically agreed we wouldn't start anything until summer. And it's summer now! We haven't done anything! Everything was great for awhile...we talked on the phone and internet alot. Then, he was gone on a trip. But he didn't call me when he got back. So I finally called him...and we talked about doing something for his birthday together. Well, his birthday has passed and nothing. He works all day most of the time, so I know he's busy. But I call his cell...so my # should show up...and he doesn't call me back. And I'm afraid I did or said something wrong...and I don't understand if he's just really busy or doesn't want to talk to me. I've been really looking forward to this summer and now I'm afraid I'll never get to see him. Should I tell him this?? (link)
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I don't understand why this guy is making your heart ache...and that is exactly what he is doing. He seems to have a reason (excuse) for NOT following through with: picking up in the summertime with the relationship, calling after he went on a trip, getting together for his birthday, and so on. If he has broken this many "dates", he isn't interested in a relationship that is beyond talking on the phone and via the internet. If you are the only one trying, you are being taken for granted. You should probably go on without him. Keep your eyes and heart open for someone more considerate and don't allow yourself to be treated 2nd hand....you deserve more.
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I like this guy (we'll call him X). I met him on a Friday a few weeks ago, hung out with him for about 6 hours straight a few days later, and he tells me that he really likes me. I started talking on the phone and developing strong feelings for him. We hung out again and he talks about how much he likes me + also about trying to make a relationship work with the two of us. This friday, he cancells plans with me and says he's intimidated by relationships/commitment, even after everything he had previously said. Now, on Friday he says he's going to think it through and we're going to hang out on Sunday instead, so he asks me to clear my schedule. I do, and now he's not home, nor has he bothered to call me or sign online all day. How am I supposed to be reacting to this? Should I give him any more chances or is it not worth it? (link)
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Let me summarize this to make sure that I understand. He backs out on you after being together. He tells you he likes you. He backs away and says he doesn't want to commit. Then he tells you to clear your schedule so you can discuss it further, because maybe there is a chance..... and then he is unavailable?! He's had ENOUGH chances. He is already treating you badly before there is an actual steady relationship commitment, so there is no way he'll be any better IF you ever do connect.
This guy is playing "hard to get", BUT you need to play "easy to FORget"! Leave this guy alone and steer in the direction of nicer guys.
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ive been goin out /w this guy 2 weeks exactly. were kissed b 4, and weve held hands god nows how many times, and we went 2 the movies yesterday and he had his hand around me and i have my head on his shoulder. that basically shows you how close we are. i just got out of school for 3 months. i gave him my phone # in his yearbook. i still feel strange about calling him though. and i dont now why. do i call him or wait for him to call me?
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Things sound as though they are going really well if you have been going out and he is affectionate in a sweet way. Ask him if he has ever had girls call him. If you are too embarrassed then just hint like crazy, girl! You can drop hints like: "Hey, did you ever write your number in my yearbook?" or "The people at my house aren't so great at taking messages, so can I have your number in case I thought you'd called and I missed it?" He can only say yes or no!
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I'm 24 and I've been with my boyfriend, Rob, for 2 years. He's got everything I look for in a guy. He is tall, dark and handsome with a wonderful personality.
But every 6 months I visit my parents who are living in Canada and 2 years ago (just after I'd started seeing my boyfriend) I went to see them as usual. And there I met Jason. His parents are friends with my parents and the first time I saw Jason, he just blew me away. We had this incredible connection and chemistry and it was something I'd never ever felt before. The instant attraction between us was unbearable. But obviously there was Rob to think of and I was there for only 2 weeks, so nothing happened. When I got back and saw Rob, I'd kicked myself for even thinking there may be something with Jason, because Rob was just perfect. But 6 months later, I went to Canada once again to see my parents and just like before, Jason managed to take my breath away. It was as if we'd never been apart. There was still that amazing chemistry but this time stronger. But again, nothing happened. It was exactly the same last year when I saw my parents twice. So this has been going on for 2 years and even though I'm still with Rob and he's wonderful, I just can't forget Jason (he's still single). He's always somewhere in my mind. I can't imagine my life without Rob but I find myself wondering what Jason is doing and excited about seeing him again. Is this fate trying to tell me something? I feel lost and confused. Please give me your thoughts. (link)
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You are young and probably pretty, too. I know you are bright, because you express yourself so well. You can be "in love" with someone or love them and feel attracted to someone else. Why do you think people flirt? The key is you DON'T have to act on it. If you are serious about your future with Rob (possibly marriage), then realize you cannot let your emotions (hormones) lead you to cheat with Jason. Think about how you would feel if Rob were attracted to another girl while you were away. This attraction you feel toward Jason is partly excitement about a "secret rendezvous" or a "romantic fantasy" even though you two aren't exactly involved with each other. It sparks a bit of romance in your mind and heart and makes you feel adventurous and desirable. As far as fate goes, it is more like statistics, because you both have parents that are friends with each other and there is a strong possibilty that you are going to meet up with Jason when you visit. Rob is here and you have a life together and Jason is in another country. Unless you are going to leave Rob and move to Canada to pursue Jason, don't mess up a good thing. P.S. Don't feel that you need to come clean and tell Rob about your feelings for Jason (especially if you ever argue and you want to "get back" at him), because you will plant a seed of doubt in this handsome, good guy's mind.
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Ok this boy and I, we like each other...we just haven't gotten real serious yet. But we plan to start seeing each other this summer. Anyways, he gave me his number... the only problem is that he's so shy. Which is fine...he's a really good guy. But sometimes on the phone he'll just mumble. And I think well if he wanted to talk bad enough, he'd call me and he'd be more talkative. But I just wonder if he thinks the same thing about me. Because sometimes he'll say "you never called" I'm just worried he doesn't want me to...and that I'll get on his nerves if I call alot. Should I talk to him about this? How much is TOO much to be calling? (link)
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When he says, "you never called", then it seems he is indicating he IS waiting for you to call and as far as he is concerned it isn't too much for you to call often. He is certainly shy about calling you! I would also think that his shyness is one reason for his mumbling when he calls. Let's face it, most gals have an easier time talking to a guy than vice versa. Studies have shown that females rate high in verbalization far sooner and with more skill than boys do, but enough of the early childhood lecture. Sometimes, even when you really like someone, it can be hard to keep a conversation going and to think of topics to discuss. Here are some suggestions:
Find out a TV show that you both like and watch it while on the phone together. That way, you can make comments or jokes about what you are watching. It is also a good way to find out his interests. If you don't have a tv in your room or someone else at your house is in the room and you can't have the TV and phone to yourself, then listen to the same radio station together. You can comment on the songs, lyrics, what music you are both into, who you do and don't like as singers, current events and even make fun of the commercials. This is a beginning way to form a common bond and awkward silences won't seem so awkward on the phone. NOW, as far as getting him to call YOU back, make a game of it. When you are getting ready to hang up say things like, "Tag you're it! Call me!" or "I'll be up around 11:00 tomorrow morning and will be home until (whatever time) before I go to (whatever place) so call me then, okay?" Then he will have to say yes or no to calling you back and get a confirmation out of him that he understands you want him to return some calls. Let me know if any of this works.
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There's this guy i have a huge crush on ,
and reccently , he has been sending me vibes that he isn't interested in me , which is the opposite of what he was sending me a week ago . He basically ignored me !
To tell the truth , i feel hurt . I suppose i was exaggerating a little , but i have written this poem which is in the topic "Education-Writing" Called Everytime . Read it and i guess you will understand how i feel now .
What should i do ?
Please help .
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Your poem could be a song on the top 10 charts. I wouldn't send this to him, as it seems too desperate for this stage in a NONrelationship. You've indicated that you both were checking each other out and hadn't gotten together yet. In this case, this is the type of soulful poem that is sent AFTER the breakup of a serious relationship.
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What are some nice sweet romantic things guys can do to make there girlfriends just feel really really loved...........please help...thanks you all! (link)
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I agree with the advice that Girlwithamansname gave you about affection that isn't too sexual. For example, brushing her hair out of her eyes, and believe it or not, kissing her on the hand while hand holding or on the cheek is sooooo sweet. Being chivalrous and being a gentleman are a sure thing. When you are out together, even at the mall, take the initiative a buy her a drink/soda BEFORE she asks. This shows that you were aware of even the most basic of her needs. Thoughtfulness isn't expensive.
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There is this girl that i like and I have known her for a long time but I don't know if she likes me and she always has a boyfriend that I helped her hook up with what should I do (link)
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If you still see this girl, you can ask, "How's everything going with (the boyfriend)? You know if things don't work out, I wouldn't mind seeing you myself. You are a terrific girl." Then she will see that you have an interest, but that you are respectful that she is still seeing someone. There is a risk she may tell her boyfriend that you were checking on them and offered to step in if he dropped out!
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Do you think it's possible to say you're "in love" in high school? What age is too young? And is it possible for a high school relationship to last? I really feel like I'm in love right now...and I can't picture myself with anyone else. (link)
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Romeo and Juliet were about 14 or 15 and they were in love. I know couples who have been married 50 years and are still in love. Many high school couples go on to get married after graduation or continue to date through college and then marry. I met my husband at 18 and dated 4 years before we married. You could certainly be "in love" in high school. Are you in love when all is well, or could your love withstand a disagreement? The real questions are: What is the quality of the relationship? Is it one sided? Is it healthy? Do you both give to the relationship? Is it respectful? Do you have common goals for the future? Not that all relationships lead to marriage, but if you are "in love" it should last. If not, then it was love for one boy that faded and love can come again to you in the future for a permanent relationship.
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There is this person that I really like, and I am preety sure they like me too. But we both are to afraid to say anything to go out because we don't want to ruin our friendship. What should I do. (link)
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You could approach it in a very casual way. Ask them if they are going out with anyone on a Friday or Saturday night(for a date). If they say "no", you could say, "I'm not going out with anyone either. Want to take me out?" If they agree, go and have fun! If they don't take you seriously, then you can blow it off as a jest or maybe it will get them thinking about you in a different way......?
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Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 8 months now and I love her so much and I know she loves me she says it all the time and stuff but I dont know if she is always happy with my I cant really tell her how I want her to feel or anything or talk to her about this there has to be something I can do to show her I want her to be happy basically happier then she has ever been before like can you tell me how I can do this because that would be a big help anyone help me one this subject I just want my girlfriend to be super happy around me and not like faking the whole happiness thing so please help me with what to do thanks a bunch.
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No one likes hearing this, but you can't make someone love you and you can't let another person be a source for your own happiness. If she is your girlfriend and seems to return your feelings, (although it sounds like it is not the level you would like it to be) then find new things to do together. Sometimes, a relationship can get in a rut or become too predictable if you don't freshen it up. Do something that is out of character and surprise her. It doesn't have to cost money. Be creative! Go to a local park and have a picnic and bring a radio. Go on a walk through the park or local outdoor area. Go through a photo album of yours or hers and learn something new about one another. This could uncover new feelings.
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