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Could this be fate?
I'm 24 and I've been with my boyfriend, Rob, for 2 years. He's got everything I look for in a guy. He is tall, dark and handsome with a wonderful personality.
But every 6 months I visit my parents who are living in Canada and 2 years ago (just after I'd started seeing my boyfriend) I went to see them as usual. And there I met Jason. His parents are friends with my parents and the first time I saw Jason, he just blew me away. We had this incredible connection and chemistry and it was something I'd never ever felt before. The instant attraction between us was unbearable. But obviously there was Rob to think of and I was there for only 2 weeks, so nothing happened. When I got back and saw Rob, I'd kicked myself for even thinking there may be something with Jason, because Rob was just perfect. But 6 months later, I went to Canada once again to see my parents and just like before, Jason managed to take my breath away. It was as if we'd never been apart. There was still that amazing chemistry but this time stronger. But again, nothing happened. It was exactly the same last year when I saw my parents twice. So this has been going on for 2 years and even though I'm still with Rob and he's wonderful, I just can't forget Jason (he's still single). He's always somewhere in my mind. I can't imagine my life without Rob but I find myself wondering what Jason is doing and excited about seeing him again. Is this fate trying to tell me something? I feel lost and confused. Please give me your thoughts.
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Talk to jason see what he thinks and go out for lunch.. but just as friends cuz you have rob. Dont do anything you have 2nd thoughts of regretting or wanting back. Cuz sometimes once you let go you can never grab on again.-trix
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You are young and probably pretty, too. I know you are bright, because you express yourself so well. You can be "in love" with someone or love them and feel attracted to someone else. Why do you think people flirt? The key is you DON'T have to act on it. If you are serious about your future with Rob (possibly marriage), then realize you cannot let your emotions (hormones) lead you to cheat with Jason. Think about how you would feel if Rob were attracted to another girl while you were away. This attraction you feel toward Jason is partly excitement about a "secret rendezvous" or a "romantic fantasy" even though you two aren't exactly involved with each other. It sparks a bit of romance in your mind and heart and makes you feel adventurous and desirable. As far as fate goes, it is more like statistics, because you both have parents that are friends with each other and there is a strong possibilty that you are going to meet up with Jason when you visit. Rob is here and you have a life together and Jason is in another country. Unless you are going to leave Rob and move to Canada to pursue Jason, don't mess up a good thing. P.S. Don't feel that you need to come clean and tell Rob about your feelings for Jason (especially if you ever argue and you want to "get back" at him), because you will plant a seed of doubt in this handsome, good guy's mind.
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Well all I can say is follow your heart. This is beyond all of my advice! Make the right choice!!
Bianca
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