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Shy Guy
Ok this boy and I, we like each other...we just haven't gotten real serious yet. But we plan to start seeing each other this summer. Anyways, he gave me his number... the only problem is that he's so shy. Which is fine...he's a really good guy. But sometimes on the phone he'll just mumble. And I think well if he wanted to talk bad enough, he'd call me and he'd be more talkative. But I just wonder if he thinks the same thing about me. Because sometimes he'll say "you never called" I'm just worried he doesn't want me to...and that I'll get on his nerves if I call alot. Should I talk to him about this? How much is TOO much to be calling?
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When he says, "you never called", then it seems he is indicating he IS waiting for you to call and as far as he is concerned it isn't too much for you to call often. He is certainly shy about calling you! I would also think that his shyness is one reason for his mumbling when he calls. Let's face it, most gals have an easier time talking to a guy than vice versa. Studies have shown that females rate high in verbalization far sooner and with more skill than boys do, but enough of the early childhood lecture. Sometimes, even when you really like someone, it can be hard to keep a conversation going and to think of topics to discuss. Here are some suggestions:
Find out a TV show that you both like and watch it while on the phone together. That way, you can make comments or jokes about what you are watching. It is also a good way to find out his interests. If you don't have a tv in your room or someone else at your house is in the room and you can't have the TV and phone to yourself, then listen to the same radio station together. You can comment on the songs, lyrics, what music you are both into, who you do and don't like as singers, current events and even make fun of the commercials. This is a beginning way to form a common bond and awkward silences won't seem so awkward on the phone. NOW, as far as getting him to call YOU back, make a game of it. When you are getting ready to hang up say things like, "Tag you're it! Call me!" or "I'll be up around 11:00 tomorrow morning and will be home until (whatever time) before I go to (whatever place) so call me then, okay?" Then he will have to say yes or no to calling you back and get a confirmation out of him that he understands you want him to return some calls. Let me know if any of this works.
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