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I met this really cool guy at a party a couple of weeks ago and we had like everything in common. He seemed a little bit interested in me that night, but it was hard to tell. He got my screen name from my friend and he IMed me and said he wanted to do something that weekend. Plans didn't really seem to work out 2 weeks in a row. He definatly seemed interested like a week ago and he kept trying to see me. I kept telling myself not to get too hooked on the guy because I just met him and I need to get to know what he's like. Plus I didn't want to get hurt if things didn't work out. So my friends asked if he liked me and he said he wasn't sure because he doesn't really know me, but that I'm an amazing girl. So naturally being a girl, I plan out this whole relationship in my head not being able to control myself. The past week we haven't talked much and when we have he didn't seem to still be interested at all. He didn't say anything about maybe doing something this weekend, which he normally would've done at this point. I'm sooo mad at myself for falling for him because now I'm feeling really sad about the whole thing. I haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years and I've been searching for someone, but I didn't like anyone until I found him. Do you think he still likes me and I'm just reading too into it? And am I crazy for being so obsessive? Like maybe he's just busy this weekend or something... I don't know, but I'm confused and I just want to get over it! (link)
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Talk to him. Tell him how you feel maybe he is scared and guys get scared too. So just tell him how you feel and ask how he feels
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I have liked this guy for ages over a year and nearly all my friends have dated him. I think one still likes him. I have a strict policy not to date guys my friends liked, have liked or have dated. So I ask should I ask him out or stick to my policy?? Ps I am no glamour model
Thanx (link)
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Umm Well if you really like him I see no reason why you can't date him you know? Your friends have all done it but maybe talk to them first about it
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ok well i have a boy singing partner, and we spend alot of time together, and well my boyfriend thinks i like him. and hes all mad at me because, well, i had to kiss my partner for this song, and my boyfriend didnt know that it was part of the song and he got really mad. (link)
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Well if he won't believe you then you don't need him. Maybe just resurre him that he is the one you like and the one you are with. That you have no feelings for your singing partner and that the kiss was just a kiss it meant nothing to you unless it did. Dont lie to him but tell him straight up how you feel and stuff.
Good Luck
Adriauna
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Ok, this might be kind of long but here goes...I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and we are really getting on eachothers nerves, we fight over little things a lot and its getting old. He's always by my side and following me, hes really clingingy and hes just getting annoying. Don't get me wrong, he is the best boyfriend I have ever had--literally--and the longest relationship, but I just want to be friends right now. I don't want any boyfriend at all, but I have issues with breaking up with people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings I hate makeing people feel bad or cry, and I need some ideas as to how I could break up with him, but let him know I still love him, we still have a very big chance, I just need a break and want to be friends for awhile?
I rate high to answers that don't offend or piss me off.
Thanks for you help. (link)
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There is really no easy way to do this. You just have to tell him how it is straight up no lying or anything. I am the same way I hate hurting people but sometimes you have to do things like that. Don't beat around the bush you have to tell him because the longer you wait the worse it will be. Good Luck
Adriauna
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Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad? (link)
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In my eyes you have every right to be mad but then again maybe you don't I mean I don't know you or your boyfriend but maybe you should talk to him about it you know? tell him how you feel before you get really mad and when you are in a fight or w/e something you dont mean and ruin everything you know? hope i helped
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There's these really cute kids in my neighboring town, Dan and I don't know the other one's name. I went to see my mom to get stuff for dinner, there my age and so sweet. Is it wrong to like them? (link)
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No there is nothing wrong with liking them
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I don't want to be just cool with this guy that I really like. I want to be more than friends, but I don't know where to start. It's usually not that hard for me to talk to somebody. But he really makes me weak and when I try to talk to him, the words won't come out right. I don't know how to tell him. Because if I'm the only one feelin, he might not want to talk to me anymore. I don't know if I only feel that way. I think he likes me, but I'm not sure. How can I tell him how I feel with out wreckin our friendship? (link)
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Sweetie,
OMG It sounds like you are in love *but don't tell him that you just might scare* But do tell him that you have feelings for him. Write a letter to him explaining everything and it may make things wierd for a coupld of days but that's it..Just you have to be open with him and hope that he feels the same
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(17 yr old female)so theres this guy i really like. Hes my best friends cousin. She set him up with me one day over christmas break and we hooked up...well we just made out. His mom found out and got really mad and said that if he ever talked to me he would get grounded. Ive tried a couple of times since then to get togeather with him but it just never seems to work out. Hes and awesome guy and i know that he likes me alot. What should i do, should i keep at it or just forget about the whole thing? (link)
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Get your man sweetie! Trust me I was in the same thing with my ex for the last two years!! My ex's parents did not want us to talk or see each other so if they found out he was on the phone with me he would be grounded from only talking to me on the phone...so it really sucked but they finally dont care now...so just hang in there
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I'm 16 and in high school. Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up at the beginning of September. I had broken up with him because I wanted to be with someone else. It didn't work between us and I have been single for quite awhile. I really like this guy that I know, but recently me and my ex have been spending alot of time on the phone. I don't like him as a boyfriend anymore cause I like someone else. My ex flirts with me and calls me all the time. I try not to be mean or anything but I don't like him like that anymore. I have a feeling that he might ask me out again. I don't know how to tell him that I like someone else. What should I do? Please help me.
~Confused Chica~ (link)
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~Confused Chica~,
The only thing you can do is tell him straight up how you feel. By not telling him you may be leading him on and you don't want to do that do you? If you ever still want to be friends with your ex leading him on may make him hate you..
Hope I have helped
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I'v been doing the whole secret admirer thing for a day or so now. I think that this girl knows its me doing it. Should I just play it off and continue with the plan or should I just forget it and go for it. (link)
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I think you should keep being her secert admirer for a little while longer and maybe come out on Valentine's Day and ask her to be your girl..Hope I helped
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my boyfriend and me have been together for 6 months...we love eachother alot...and are a really happy couple...but lately i dont know...hes been really weird...all his friends have turned on him and now their telling me hes cheating on me...i dont know if its because their just trying to get back at him and take me away from him or if its true..ive asked him and he promises me that he would never do that and stuff and i seriously cant picture him cheating on me..ever...what do i do?? i dont know who to believe anymore... :( (link)
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if you really believe you bf then believe him..but you gotta remember guys tell girls alot of lies an ex or mine told me the same thing but he ended up cheating me..so follow ur heart sweetie
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My exboyfriend and I have been hanging out. We're the closest you can be without being together. Valentine's Day is coming up, should I get him something because we have feelings for each other, or should I just leave it alone since we're not together? (link)
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If you guys are really close without dating and having feeling for each other I don't know what would be work with getting him something. I'm planning on getting my ex something because we are really close.
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I seem to be the only one around me who is either single or just dwelling on the oh so popular topic of love. I know we arent ment to love anyone at this age, but two of my best friends constantly talk about maybe coming close to that feeling. I wish I could feel empathy for them... But truly I cannot. This is because I always get stuck with guys I dont really care about. I try waiting and staying single, so when the right guy comes along I can like him and become close to that guy. But I cannot have patience anymore! Please try and help... (link)
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You can fall in love at any age!! I did at 12..anyways sweetie just wait thats all you can do and a crush grows into like and like grows into love...just wait it all you can do
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i met this kid though my friend friday night we hung out i thought he was really hot and all that good stuff saturday night me and my friend got invited to this party she bet me 5 bucks that i would hook up with him. i did. we kissed a few times at the party he told me wow i wasnt expecting this to happen and then asked if i had a boyfriend i said no do you have a girlfriend he said technically yes but no i never see her because im not aloud to. later that night we went to his house and we all stayed the night there we kissed some more i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend what should i do? (link)
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Break it off until she is out of the picture and you know for sure she is out of the picture. Even though they never see each other and she is moving doesnt mean a damn thing he is still HER boyfriend. Sweetie put yourself in her shoes how would you like it if you were her and found that out...
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ok, i think this is going to sound really dumb, but i may as well ask it anyway. im 14/f.
well, im going out with this guy, we've been going out for nearly a month now, and he's my first proper boyfriend, and i know im the most serious he's had.
anyway, we're going to watch a movie in a couple of days, and some of my mates and some of his are coming too. the thing is, when we've been out before, we've been out in town, in the park, ive been to his house and things like that, so its not really the most romantic of settings, and i havent kissed him properly yet. i mean, we're fairly comfortable with each other and stuff, thre just hasnt been the right time to kiss him. and ive never kissed a guy before. so, any tips on how to handle the back row of the cinema? any advice would be appreciated. thanks (link)
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Hey! Well I go and make-out in a movie theather all the time. Just tell him that you have never kissed anyone and when you think the time is right just kiss him..Honey all you can do is what you feel ready for and what you feel is right. Trust me first kisses are very scary! I remember I was 12 at my ex-boyfriends house
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Okay - here's the deal. I have a lot of friends, but this problem includes two imparticular ones: Josh and Dana (guy and girl). They are probably the closest of my friends. I can tell them both ALMOST anything. I'd say I'm probably closer to Josh - and that's it. I have a crush on him. Here's the hard part: I think Dana likes him too. I told her awhile ago that I had feelings for him and ever since then she's been sort of hanging around with him too. i.e: I'll be standing next to him and she'll come over and just go right between us; she'll sit down next to him when I was right there next to him. It's getting me upset. I can understand if she likes him too, and I don't mind. I mean you can't control who you like and don't like. But I just wish she would tell me instead of flirting with him right in front of my face - and she knows that I like him. And the bad part is that I think he likes her too. They talk in front of me and leave me out sometimes. A few days ago I heard Dana talking to him and she said something about the mall and this weekend. It's really hurting me. I like Josh so much - he's my BEST friend and I love Dana because she's my friend too. I can't help but feel jealous, though. Help!! If you need more information, LET ME KNOW PLEASE AND I WILL POST ANOTHER QUESTION FORM!
-confused and hurt :( (link)
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I know how that feels. I mean my two BEST friends are a guy and a girl *Jake and Sabina*! They have no feelings for each other what so ever...Well we are out own "little family" So I'm the Mommy Jake is the Daddy and Sabina is the daughter...but I mean sometimes he will talk to her about all sorts of things and sometimes I feel like each other and sometimes its like they are flirting and when they do I just like freak and run over to Jake and start getting all over him and everything...but I think they best thing for you to do is confront them both about it...thats all you can do sweetie
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I'm a really shy, boring, ugly girl. Don't say I'm not ugly, believe me, I look awful - frizzy hair, horrid skin, big teeth - you'd be sick if you saw me. I don't have a life. I don't ever go out or have fun anymore because the friends I have are so immature and I don't really like going out with them because they always end up bullying me or asking random guys out for me, it's so embarrassing, and the boys say something like, "No way, she's a minger". I can't make more friends because I hate talking so much and I feel sick just thinking about it. I have 2 best ever friends in the world but I moved house and I can only speak to them on the phone, I want to move back because I hate it here - but my mum won't budge. I really want a boyfriend and I'm lonely but I'm so ugly and boring that no guy would ever be interested. Why is it I'm so ugly, what have I done to deserve this? I hate being me. I don't know what to do because I can't change the way I look and I've always been shy. I'm 14 and never had a bf, and I know I'm not the only one who hasn't but I feel ready. No boy would ever like me :/ I don't really see the point in life because I never have fun, every week is the same, and my grades are slowly going down at school because I can't sleep at night any more. I just want to feel loved.. sorry if that sounds pathetic but that's what I feel like. They say there's someone for everyone out there, but I guess some people were made to be single. I don't want to be single, and with Valentine's Day coming up I feel even more depressed. Also if you can help, I really need to 'let myself go', like I want to have fun but I get worried I'll look stupid so I don't do it, how can I stop being scared of everything Sorry I have so many stupid problems but please help :'( (link)
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Sweetie,
I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself. It's so sad that you do, but don't feel bad. I feel the same way about myself but the only thing different is I have tons of guys hit on me and I have had tons of boyfriends but they only were dating me for the following reasons:
1. They so I'm SO "hot"
2. For sex or anything sexually *which none got*
3. Just because I'm such a great girlfriend and I fall for like everything that comes out of their mouth
Anyways...Sweetie you don't need a boyfriend to make you feel better about yourself. I have been single for 1 year and 1 month *tomorrow*. Trust me you don't need them they just cause pain, tears, and leave you heartbroken. Plus if you give them NOTHING they drop you like a hot potato(sp) or just cheat on you. I mean I don't know what to tell you to do because all of these things you think are mainly in your head you know. I have the same problems *all in my head* I mean some aren't but some are you know? I know I prolly just made you feel worse there and if I did I'm so so so so so sorry sweetie. Can you do me a big favor? Email me at miss_adriauna04@yahoo.com and tell me more about yourself and more of your problems I just might be able to help you and make you actually feel good about yourself with or without a boyfriend. By the way I'm 14 too.
~*Perfectly Imperfect*~
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Justin and I dated for like, 2 months and one week. We broke up because he said I couldn't trust him, he cheated. But he admitted it to my face.
Now, we both like each other again, after being broken up for about a month and still talking and stuff. He called me a couple nights ago just to talk, which he's never done before when we weren't together. He wants me to ask him out this time though, because he asked me out last time.
Should I do it? Or wait for him to? I mean I'm pretty sure he likes me, he's said it and he even purposely got kicked out of class so he could come see me (I got kicked out of class too, lol.) (link)
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All I have to say is "AWWWWWWWW". You guys sound like me and my ex of 7 months. He cheated and I dump him there on the spot that was a little over a year ago though. I mean we still talk and are in love more than ever. My advice to you sweetie is if he said ask him out..ASK HIM OUT! Don't lose him. I mean I thought I had my ex and no one would take him even though we were not together but on January 19th of this year some girl asked him out and he said yes I mean he had no reason not to you know we were not dating..But anyways yeah don't lose him again Sweetie...Btw you guys sound PERFECT!
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My girlfriend & I dated for 3 years and she was the love of my life. Well, I decided to take a job that I couldn't refuse in Michigan. I wanted her to move up there w/ me, but she said she couldn't leave her home in TX. The long-distance thing was too tough, so we mutually broke up on good terms. She then started dating someone new who she was "miserable" with. After over a year of staying in touch w/ her, I moved back home. A short time later, she ended up breaking up w/ the other guy b/c she wasn't happy. Well, we started slowly seeing each other again and things were great, but she wanted to "take things slow and not jump back into a relationship" since she just got out of a bad one. So, not trying to force her into a relationship, we just hung out and did everything that a normal 'boyfriend/girlfriend couple' would do. Well, after a few months of dating each other (and me thinking that we were gonna get back together), she met and started dating a new guy! I WAS CRUSHED!!! Here was a girl who was my best friend, someone I thought I was going to marry, & the love of my life........and now she wants to date this other guy out of the clear blue?!?!?! I was devistated. She's still together with this guy.
Now, it's months later. We still talk (fairly often) via email and sometimes on the phone (I NEVER call her...she only calls me), but I'm still not over her. I truly loved her w/ all of my heart. Part of me hates her for ripping my heart out and the other part of me still loves her very deeply and wants her back. Someone told me "if it's meant to be, then she'll come back to me one day". I just don't know what to do and I need help..... Any advice? (link)
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Wowers! Sorta sounds like the situation with my ex. I mean with out the moving around and stuff. But he just dates these girls out of the blue and it really drives me insane. Because I truly love him to death and he loves me too supposedly I mean I believe it you can look in his eyes and see..but anyways back to you..All I can tell you sweetie is just hang in there and follow your heart and maybe tell her how you feel maybe if she knows she will be nicer and think more of your feelings about things but god knows the ones we love can say something so innocent and hurt us so much...but yeah just hang in there and like the saying goes "If you love someone let them go and if they don't come back they were never yours but if they do they were yours to being with"
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my boyfriend spends a lot of time with me at my house, but the problem is that i have a lot of siblings (they are close to my age, not much younger) and he always talks to them. he'll just disappear and hangout with them more and it feels like hes ignoring me. i dont really want to talk to him about it cuz i told him i wanted him to get along with my family so i dont want to be a hypocrite.. what should i do and is there any way that i should just deal with it? (link)
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Ok I know what you mean I had an ex that did that to me he got so close he started calling my parents Mom and Dad really creepy!!! Just like when he does it go find him and tell him to go and try and get him to spend more time with you...you know like make an excuse..plus tell him how you feel he may not know and if you tell him he may start spending more time with you because he may just do it because of the fact that you want him to get along with ur family
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