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Broken Hearted
My girlfriend & I dated for 3 years and she was the love of my life. Well, I decided to take a job that I couldn't refuse in Michigan. I wanted her to move up there w/ me, but she said she couldn't leave her home in TX. The long-distance thing was too tough, so we mutually broke up on good terms. She then started dating someone new who she was "miserable" with. After over a year of staying in touch w/ her, I moved back home. A short time later, she ended up breaking up w/ the other guy b/c she wasn't happy. Well, we started slowly seeing each other again and things were great, but she wanted to "take things slow and not jump back into a relationship" since she just got out of a bad one. So, not trying to force her into a relationship, we just hung out and did everything that a normal 'boyfriend/girlfriend couple' would do. Well, after a few months of dating each other (and me thinking that we were gonna get back together), she met and started dating a new guy! I WAS CRUSHED!!! Here was a girl who was my best friend, someone I thought I was going to marry, & the love of my life........and now she wants to date this other guy out of the clear blue?!?!?! I was devistated. She's still together with this guy.
Now, it's months later. We still talk (fairly often) via email and sometimes on the phone (I NEVER call her...she only calls me), but I'm still not over her. I truly loved her w/ all of my heart. Part of me hates her for ripping my heart out and the other part of me still loves her very deeply and wants her back. Someone told me "if it's meant to be, then she'll come back to me one day". I just don't know what to do and I need help..... Any advice?
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When your girlfriend said, "she didn't want to rush into anything," that really meant, I WANT TO USE YOU, WHILE I DATE OTHER PEOPLE, AND SEE IF THERE IS ANYTHING BETTER OUT THERE....It seems this whole relationship has accomodated her, and there's not much in it for you. She didn't mind stringing you along, then dumping you for what she really wanted. It sounds like she was never commited in the first place. I know you love this girl, but look at what she is capable of....breaking your heart. What a person does shows WHO THEY ARE. She has shown you that she doesn't care deeply for you, no matter what she says. You don't have to wait for your feelings to change for her in order to move away from this person who can and will hurt you again. You will probably love her all your life, but you don't have to be a hostage to your feelings. Make yourself be with people that really care about you. Write in a journal, talk to friends, slowly get rid of things that remind you of her. Promise yourself that next time you will only be with someone that you can trust, and will give you all the good things you deserve.....Martita
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yeah i got advice but its not happy advice. just try and get over her. try new people. if it doesn't work out then i'm sorry. she could figure it out that you and her were ment to be together and you and her will be together again, but i just don't know it happens to a lot of people. just try and move on. yeah its going to be hard but just try. thats all you can do.
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Tht's a Total Bummer...If she's gonna pick a guy she just met over a life long partner who is dedicated and in deep love then she doesn't deserve you ... i know it's hard to just get over somone like tht but sooner or later it's gonna happen because watching her with him will just slowy hurt you even worse i wish the best for you and i hope i helped XoX liliy
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Wowers! Sorta sounds like the situation with my ex. I mean with out the moving around and stuff. But he just dates these girls out of the blue and it really drives me insane. Because I truly love him to death and he loves me too supposedly I mean I believe it you can look in his eyes and see..but anyways back to you..All I can tell you sweetie is just hang in there and follow your heart and maybe tell her how you feel maybe if she knows she will be nicer and think more of your feelings about things but god knows the ones we love can say something so innocent and hurt us so much...but yeah just hang in there and like the saying goes "If you love someone let them go and if they don't come back they were never yours but if they do they were yours to being with"
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Wow reverse that situation and I have seen it frist hand, same states and all. Like I told my friend. You gotta be honest, honesty may hurt for a while but at least you will know you gave it your best shot. If you really love her fight for her. *not literally* You just gotta be honest and talk to her about it. She may not even know how much she hurt you. I hope it works out for you!
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tell her your feelings for her...even though ya'll did things a normal couple would do, maybe she didnt think you still liked her after a while. but the most important thing is that you tell her EXACTLY how you feel, maybe she feels that same way about you!
~*Sarah*~
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awww darlinq lol...its a the "cat nd` mouse" a second the cat is yur friend next hes tryinq 2 kill yu l0l but yu have 2 explain even f it makes thinqs a bit diff..sometimes yu qotta do wierd thinqs 2 kno who truly luvs yu..yu mite not no...she mite still luv yu 2
hope it helps
-tay
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You need to let her know everything your feeling for her. Explain that she's the love of your life. Just spill everything. You'll feel better just knowing she knows how you feel about her. If she doesn't want to start anything up after you spilled your heart out to her, she's not worth it. If she can't see a guy thats right infront of her that loves her to death, find someone else. Maybe one day she'll realize she made a huge mistake. What she really did was get your hopes up, lead you on, then started going out with another guy. She's just playing with your feelings. You really need to find a new girl to love. Someone who won't break your heart like this one has. And thats so true. If it is ment to be, it will find a way. But I promise you, you'll find that special girl. You have to get your heart broken a couple of times by girls, before you find the girl that won't break it!
♥ Krissy
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you need to talk to her about it. you cant jsut go on feeling this way about her, both negative an dpositive. if you keep all these emotions inside, then you may hurt yourdelf and her. and maybe your right, if its meant to be, she will come back to you. but untill she makes that desicion, you need to get it al out.
**_Nicole_**
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