Q: If I wanted a boyfriend, but my parents wont let me, should I go about it the sneaky way and not tell them ? What would be the cons and pros to that if I did? I'm turning 14.

Q: So me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 7 months and 2 days to date. We're sophmores in highschool and extremely close. The point of my post is what exactly should I tell my mom in the way of guiding her to let me spend the night at his house? I've come out and asked her once or twice before and I've gotten "no" and "I didn't in the same bed as your father until we were married."

Q: So i like this kid Bob, and hes a total ass to me. So why do i like him?

Q: I'm really picky about the kind of guys I date, so when a guy asks me out, there's a good chance I'm going to turn him down. The thing is, I'm so bad at it! I either 1) panic and say yes, even though I don't mean it or 2) make up an excuse and hope he doesn't find out the truth or 3) ignore him and try to act like it never happened. It's so awkward & embarrassing! What are some good ways of telling a guy "thanks, but no thanks" in a straightforward but not rude way?

Q: 19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?

Q: How do you know when to kiss someone?
"You'll just know" doesn't cut it for me, k?

Is it when you stare deeply into each other's eyes and happen.. to lean in closer?

Is that the right moment to kiss?

I'm really nervous. I have kissed people before but this is my first kiss in this relationship. Usually my "first kisses" with others.. were bad.

And I want to actually remember this kiss with him.

What is better.. lipgloss or chapstick?

And what will make my breath smell good?
[I don't want to constantly pop in mints]

Q: Well im only 14 as you can tell.
I want a baby because they are soo adoriable.
I have a boyfriend we have had protected sex a few times already.
And would do it again.
We have been together for 2 years.
I love him and he loves me.
He is 3 years older.
My parents know and have known his family our whole lives, blah blah blah blah blahh.
So i keep telling him how much i want one but like he says i know you do but i am not ready to be a father and think about how much it would hurt and we dont have enough money.
So i need someone to try and convince me not to want one.
Because you have no idea how badly i want one.
Please help :\

Q: 23 Male

I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.

He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.

They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off?

Q: ok so my problem is that i dont know where to find a boyfriend. its not that i want one that bad its just that i hate all the guys at my school. the facts are im 15, ive had 2 boyfriends so far, and id like hooked up with a guy once when i was in europe. Now that i started highschool, i guess i had expected the guys to be cuter, and a bit more mature. well my question is where could i find cute guys to go out with, other than at school or the boring movies or the internet!? guys that arent sleezy and are boyfirend material.

Q: ok so im going out with this guy and if we are not hanging out he always wants to be on the phone i mean i love hanging out with him 24/7 and i LOVE talking to him on the phone but i am a human and people like there space so sometimes when i need time to my self i ask him if i can get off the phone and hes like .." why ,are you just trying to get rid of me " or he says stupid crap like.." ok whatever bye"
and it makes me so angry because i really like talking to him but it makes me mad that he wont even let me take a shower because he thinks that i am not really trying to take a shower, im trying to get off the phone with him ... how do get off the phone and not start a fight?

Q: I was just wondering , what would be a good present to get a boyfriend for valentines day? Cause i never know what to get them. Hes soon to be 14 and i would really like some ideas. Thanks!

Q: ok so i wanna propose to my girlfriend of 3 years. but i have 2 questiosn.

1.what stores can you buy really good engagement rings? like i know theres kay and zales but what else?

2. what should i do to propose really cute. like i was thinkinon valentines day..or like if i did wait till next xmas eve..under amistletoe or something. something really cute or creative. thanks soooo much

Q: I've been in love with this guy now (ever since 8th grade), I'm still in highschool. He's a teacher and I'm pretty sure he's into me. We touch and have our "moments". I promised his one of his family members that I wouldn't get him in trouble but lately we've been all over each other. He's so perfect in every way. What should I do?

Q: 13/F
i take advanced swimming lessons and my teacher keep asking me to join the team but all i do is say i'll think about it.i want to join because there's a competition in march that takes place in my ex-boyfriend hometown,so i wanna join so i could see him again(to hopefully not beat the crap outta him if i do)but i don't because i would have to practice like 6 or 7 days a week and i live far from where practice is and i wouldn't be able to get a ride.so my question is what should i do?

Q: I am 17 and I met this guy at a bar. He is 21 and I just wonder if other people think that is too old for me. Should I go out with him again? We exchanged phone numbers and we have talked on the phone. Any and all responses are appreciated.

Q: Over the summer I was in a relationship with an older man, and while I was away serving with my church...my dad found my cell phone bill and called my guy. My dad basically said that my guy should never talk to me again. Do you think that this was right for my father to do?

Thanks,
Jenn

Q: I was really living the life! Queen of the whole 1st year high schoolers was never hard to get used to. I was the most popularest girl in the whole grade, but only because I was head cheerleader, and ofcourse like every fairytale I had the star player on the football team, the most popularest, cutest guy in the whole grade, as MY boyfriend! Life could not get better! My dad had a great job so I was what you would call "Filthy Rich", and lived in a huge house!
Then one day my very rich dad lost his very "rich paying" job. We moved into a room in an apartment room, and I had to quit the cheer squad because we could not even pay the $80 fee. Then after that the roomer got around that I was now poor, and my boyfriend dumped me, which meant my popularity went buh-bye! Soon after that, my daddy got a call from his job asking for him back, so we got our house back and I re-joined the cheer swuad and the roomer went around and my ex-boyfriend asked me out. I said to him we can try. So I am going out with him on the Tuesday after X-mas, and I'm going to see if he really likes me or my popularity! But this guy is SOOOO cute, popular, and romantic! Should I dump him or take back my role, i mean after all, he is the MAJOR CRUSH of the whole grade and he likes ME out of 56 other girls! What should I do?

Q: I dont know why, but I'm attracted to my cousin, who's a guy. Ever since I was little I've always like been attracted to him, but didn't know how to handle it, since i can't really have a romantic relationship with him, cause of like.. incest. He's 6 months younger than me, and a Cancer, while I'm a Capricorn, so I guess opposites attract? Because it seems like he kinda has a crush on me too, but i guess its awkward at times, especially when we're alone. AHH! what do I do about this? or do i just ignore it? :/ its like a forbidden love or whatever you'd call it, lol.


13/f

Q: i am 13/f and have never had a b/f. I think its because i am ugly but everbody in my family (except my brother) disagree with that. I really want a boyfriend but i cant tell if nebody in my skool likes me. plus to add onto this i m moving and going to middle river on the 18 of december. wat should i do i am really desperate since all of my friends have had b/f's??????? please help

~tomboi524~

Q: Hi. :]

So, recently my mom told me I couldn't see my boyfriend anymore because of problems won't go into great detail. But, we have a pretty large age gap, so much that it is ILLEGAL for us to have sex. My sister called him & told him he couldn't see me anymore because of the whole situation that happened, and told him if he did - she'd call the cops.

My mother & sister don't know I'm seeing my boyfriend.. still. My dad is completely on my side because he really likes my boyfriend a lot and thinks we should see each other, so when me and my boyfriend go out, my dad pretends that I'm at my friends houses, he drops me off and he talks to their parents. So, my mom REALLY believes it, she doesn't even suspect it.

My boyfriend HATES us hanging out without my mom knowing, so he told me he doesn't wanna do it behind her back anymore. It hurts because there's no other way I could see him. :(

Is it wrong for me to be completely mad at him? I mean my dad is doing this for both of us, and it makes me feel really good.. and now my boyfriends not taking advantage of that!

Please help, thank you..

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