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he wont let me get off the phone!
ok so im going out with this guy and if we are not hanging out he always wants to be on the phone i mean i love hanging out with him 24/7 and i LOVE talking to him on the phone but i am a human and people like there space so sometimes when i need time to my self i ask him if i can get off the phone and hes like .." why ,are you just trying to get rid of me " or he says stupid crap like.." ok whatever bye"
and it makes me so angry because i really like talking to him but it makes me mad that he wont even let me take a shower because he thinks that i am not really trying to take a shower, im trying to get off the phone with him ... how do get off the phone and not start a fight?
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i been there so many times. but except i was in the opposite position. whenever my ex would tell me he was going to get a shower or go eat, i would honestly never believe him. i think its because i didnt trust him. i would just think he was always going out with his friends or talking to another girl. my point is that maybe he doesnt trust you enough. hes too insecure and really a relationship like that will only fall apart. i know you like him cause you are obvisiously putting up with it but there comes a time where you have to let things go especially when the situations arent getting better. before you make your decision, tell him how it bothers you and how if he cant trust you then a relationship without trust is nothing then see if it changes. if not, then theres other fish in the sea. i wish you luck.
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OMG. This guy is immature, insecure, and needlessly confrontational. I'd tell him that I can only talk on the phone 1 hour/day. More than that interferes with the things I have to get done. What could you have to talk about on a daily basis that takes more than an hour? Are you just going over the same thing again and again? I'm sure you have things to do, like studying or working or maybe cleaning and laundry. Or maybe other friends? This behavior of his is controlling and desperate. It would be a deal-breaker for me. So I suggest that you talk with him, straight-up, and set limits. If he says that again about trying to get rid of him, I'd giggle and say, "Yeah. I have to [insert task, like change my transmission fluid]. I'll call you tomorrow." If he doesn't take it well and let you go, you know that he doesn't care about your feelings.
Sabine
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Wow, he's starting to sound clingy and untrustworthy.
Don't give him an option to respond. Just say "It was nice talking to you, have a great day!" and hang up.
And tell him the truth "Yes, I am trying to get rid of you. I don't want the phone glued to my ear."
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Just talk to him about it. Probably in person so he doesn't hang up on you.
You could always get your parent to 'yell' in the background.
"I need to use the phone!"
"We are going out for dinner, get off the phone!"
"I need to use the phone to call your ___ [aunt, uncle, etc]"
"I need to call my doctor, so get off the phone"
And maybe he will get the hint.
Tell him that you love talking to him but you need to take a shower [and kinda laugh] Tell him it won't be that long [you think]. If he's being an ass about it, then tell him you aren't trying to get rid of him .
You could always tell him.. you'll call him back right after.
How many times has this happened? Did you always say you needed a shower? If he calls you.. don't pick up or something. And when he calls back again [or if you decide to call him] tell him you were in the shower or taking a nap.
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