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Sneaky ?
If I wanted a boyfriend, but my parents wont let me, should I go about it the sneaky way and not tell them ? What would be the cons and pros to that if I did? I'm turning 14.
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no, you should not go behind your parents back! there can be and are some major consequences! your parenst would find out sooner or later anyways, and think or not only how you would feel, but the punishment you would get! trust me, there are lots of guys who will still like you later on. i'm waiting for the perfect guy before i get into a relationship, and my parents set limits on when i can "date" a guy. you only need one guy, and he will be perfect! and think about it...whats the point in dating? the point of it is to find the guy to marry, not for fun, just to say, "i'm dating this guy". you can get seriously hurt! you start giving yourself away to a guy you probably wont marry! then think of how your husband will feel! what i would do (and have done) is write a list of standard you your your future "husband" need to meet. one of mine is that he saved himself for me, and i for him. i'm also saving my first kiss for our wedding day. think about all the long term consequences that will happen if you date now, especially behind your parents backs. also, ask your parents the reasoning behind their decision, maybe that will help. if your friends are pushing you into this dating at 14 thing, then your need new friends.
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my opinion is to be sneaky bc thats what i do and it works most of the time for me.
i mean ok the good thing is you will have a boyfriend and you will be able experience realtionships, and you might date someone you rreally like, it could be a good experience and you could really learn alot.
the bad thing is if your parents do find out they might be mad for a little and not trust you or the guy you date and then you probably could NEVER date him.
but i would date if i were you or tell your parents you really want to ( they might listen ).
so i hope i helped. andd goood luck !
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Hey..
All girls want boyfriends, and 50% of these peoples parents won't let them..
Don't sneak a boyfriend behind there back.. I think you sit down and talk to then about it.
Don't say "But everyone else is aloud on"..it doesn't work...
But I think if you sit and talk to them about it maybe they will understand ...and they should understand how important it is for a girl to get a boyfriend and go through the stages of boyfriends and learning how to handle the different situations in a releationship..
Hope I helped.
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well i think its really weird how some parents won't let their children have boyfriends untill a certain age. but if i were you i would be sneaky and go behind my parents back. so if your all good with going behind your parents backs i say go for it because you might not get to go out with anyone you like and when the time comes and you are allowed to go out with boys they may not want to go out with you anymore. and if you wanted to go on a date with him then you can just say that your going out with your friends somewhere.
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So, you can't have a boyfriend - but who says, you can't have a whole slew of friends who are boys.
Don't sneak around. You'll always get caught and you'll never enjoy the relationhip.
Building a large friend base will last longer than a secret boyfriend.
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Being sneaky never works! It gets you in more trouble than you wanted usually as the level of trust they had on you goes out the window because you hid the truth. Almost always, a sibling, friend, friend's parents will inadvertantly mention your relationship with so and so in front of your family.
You should be be dating at 14-years-old unless there's evidence that you aren't mature to handle it yet. There doesn't appear to be. They are probably worried about sex, drugs and getting in over your head. But if you're a level-headed kid and good all around they should let you go about your business.
I think the problem is that they aren't ready to let you go and still see you as 6-years-old. I have a few tips for you though that may get them to open their eyes and see that dating is a normal part of the life of a 14-year-old girl and should be.
You should invite the boy in question and his parents to a gathering at your house this month and have your parents meet his parents and also meet him. They'll form a friendship (usually) and look positively on this boy as a result and maybe they'll drop their guard after a little while.
Do you have a relative, family friend or adult you trust that knows your parents? You really need someone whose opinion they value. Have that person talk to them and joke "I guess (your name here) is getting a lot of calls from boys for dates right?"
If your parents say no then this person could talk about them being old-fashioned, find out way and tell them they cannot stop the inevitable. They can also mention how your friends with this boy and think he's an outstanding person.
You can also talk to your guidance counselor or teacher about this as they will know how to talk to your parents about not letting you grow up and that you need that kind of interaction with boys at your age as well as females. Trust me, teachers will point it out if asked that a kid is being held back from experiencing normal things their peers are.
That's some ideas that work. I think if they got to know the guy and his parents and someone they knew who knew you talked to them about you and dating things might go your way. The sneaky way just won't work. Trust me.
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You know what i think? If you love a guy no matter how old you are or what your parents think, you date him!
Most peoples parents tell them they cant have relationships until a certain age because they worry about them getting hurt, and in these days about sex.
If your intuition is telling you that you should date him and you want to then do it. Who and when you date is up to you and no one else. What you do is another story.
Pros:
1.Your doing what you want and thats all that matters.
2.Your happy.
3.Its great for young teens to experience relationships and begin to develop their emotions also to help guide them later in life when their relationships become more commited.
Cons:
1.Getting caught.
2.Hard to see your boyfriend outside of school.
3.Lying to your parents (guilt).
Look, if you love a guy and you want to be with him then go out with him. Even if later down the track you tell your parents they can't FORCE you to dump him.
Do whatever you feel is right!
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXxx
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Okay, first off, you are 14 years old. Therefore you're a teenager & teens usually date. Your parents aren't saying "oh you can't have a boyfriend just because". They obviously have their reasons. Talk to them about it. Explain that you think if you get a boyfriend, they should make their own judgements of him to see whether you should date or not. It would be unfair to ban the whole boyfriend issue, because not all guys are the same. Introduce your parents to the guy you would like to date. If you don't have one in mind yet, then just wait until you do. Invite him out to dinner with your parents or have him over. That way your parents will know him or maybe even get to know his parents. If you go with the 'sneaky' approach, it could definitely fall through. First off, your parents aren't stupid. They've raised you & would find out you have a boyfriend sooner or later. You can't drive yet, so they'd probably be the ones driving you to see him & what not. Also, if they do find out you went behind their back & got a boyfriend, they will be very upset with you. You could lose their trust & they won't want you to date even longer. Talk to them about it & explain that you want a chance. Listen to them though. They are your parents & know what they're talking about.
-hope that helped!♥
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