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How do I tell my mom I'd like to spend the night at my boyfr
So me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 7 months and 2 days to date. We're sophmores in highschool and extremely close. The point of my post is what exactly should I tell my mom in the way of guiding her to let me spend the night at his house? I've come out and asked her once or twice before and I've gotten "no" and "I didn't in the same bed as your father until we were married."
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how old are you for starters? if you don't mind me asking..
all parents say no whenever you ask that question even if your acually not going to have sex. you two sound like your very close, and if your absolutly sure that you want to have sex then i wouldnt bother asking your parents again. i don't know if going behind your parents backs and lying to them is one of your options. but if i wanted to have sex with my bf i would jus say that i am going to a friends house or something...if his parents are all good with you staying at his house then i would definitly use that exuse to have sex with him. but then again if his parents don't want you two to have sex either then you have to wait or find another place to do it. But the only other option i can think of is if you wait until your parents or his parents go out for the night and you could just do it there.
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I've asked before and tried everything. I was even with the guy for over a year. Usually I am SO persuasive. But this will not happen any time soon. I'm assuming in her days, the boys were absolutely.. not allowed to be in the same room with a girl overnight. [Friends wise]
Your parents will think you're fooling around and they don't want something to happen to you. Because they know you will be sharing a bed, I'm sure. Even if you say that you aren't, they will think one of you may have started something. Honestly they can't trust a guy overnight with you. Anything could happen. If she keeps saying she didn't get in the same bed until marriage.. then it will not happen.
Does your boyfriend have a sister?
This almost got me at my boyfriends house:
I was pretending to be friends with his sister and that she wanted me over to spend the night. It would have worked but I actually canceled it.
If he has no sister, it wouldn't be wise to make one up in case your parents want to meet her.
Even then, if it's under your boyfriend's house.. they will continue to say no.
I would forget the idea and wait until you're further in the relationship.
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You aren't going to be able to talk them into
this. I am surprised you think it is normal that
they would even consider it.
Even if you say you won't be having sex, lets
just say they weren't born yesterday.
My advice is to forget about it and not ask again.
Why? Because if they feel you are rushing this relationship, they could easily forbid you to
see him again.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the
truth of it is parents today don't approve of
teens having sex anymore than their parents did.
They usually get stuck raising the consequences. :)
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Her house, her rules. A sleepover with your bf will only occur when you move out.
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To all mothers ofcourse they find it worrying!
All they do is care about you and want to make sure you are alright!
And the definate NO NO is lying to your mother! The best way is to negotiate with her and try and come to some agreement.
Somehow gain her trust by doing the dishes for a whole week or being extra nice to her. This will show that you are responsible enough to stay at your bfs house!!
Also you could get your bfs mum/dad to call your mum and try to get them to tell your mum it will be okay!
Goodluck!!
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Sleeping in the same bed often leads to sex. If you had sex and said you were just sleeping with him you would be lying to you mom, after you promised not to.
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