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my life sucks!
okay so i am a 16/f and im about to be a junior. my life is really hectic. i have a really bad attitude. and i get bad grades. like d's and alot of times f's. and i hate it alot! because i want to get good grades like a's and b's. and whenever my parents tell me to study or to do something i get mad at them. i have ADD so its really hard to concentrate in school especially since i always get picked on. i get mad and then start saying things and thats why i have no friends because people are always picking on me. i don't understand why. i don't do anything to anyone. i mean some epople think im annoying and i talk too much. and and because im so skinny. and i have no friends at all. no one ever talks to me. and whenever i talk to someone they start acting weird. and well i did have friends but they're moving. and i have no one to sit with. i did use to sit with these really nice black girls but like they talk to me in school only sometimes and they never call me to hangout. and i fell like no one wants me around. so what should i do?
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It's teenage rebellion. You need to improve on your self-discipline if you want to succeed. NO ONE can make you do anything, not even your parents. You need to let your parents know that you are trying, they only tell you to study because they expect more from you. Thats what parents do. Make sure your study environment is not distracting, and pick out a time of day and schedule it. You need to take charge, only you can change it. This is life. It's fucked up, and you have to deal with it.
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Hey whats up,
I know lots of people with this same problem, therefore I totally understand what your talking about. Now, from all thats going on in your life, your life doesn't actually suck,its just fine, your facing a few problems, but its still fine. At least, you may not see this, but that would only because your still 16 years old. And later on, when you grow up, and like be in your last years of college or start working somewhere great, you will make what we call true friends, and those friends wouldn't care how you look or how you act, but instead, they'll be there for you and love you and get along with you.
But right now, these dumb people you try to gain as friends, they may be trying to act too cool or better than you or anything of such, but really just screw them. You can't keep looking for friends, cause friends come by themselves by time, if you keep looking for friends and going up to people trying to start a friendship, they will act annoyed, but if you just act normal and talk to everyone and just be outgoing, then you'll find some people coming up to YOU and talking to YOU and wanting to start a friendship with YOU.
But before you do that, try to work on your attitude a bit. I, for example, have a very bad temper and i always snap at people and throw some shitty words their way, but there came a time, when my friends started to back out and people got mad at me and stuff, so I decided between me and myself, to work hard on controlling my temper, and that no matter how people annoy me, I still have to learn to cope with it.
And I'm sure that because of your attitude, thats why people pick on you, and find you annoying and they don't want to be friends with you, therefore, prove them wrong, and show them that people can change to the better.
I mean, like next time someone comes up and talks to you and he like annoys you, you should still control your temper, and try to talk as nice as you can, and soon, you'll do that on your own without having to remind yourself in controlling anything.
Seriously, thats usually why people back out, because of one's attitude, and you usually don't notice that, but its true. Why don't you try being the kind of hyperactive person, like fun and outgoing, and develop this kind of sense of humour, or simply even, why don't you try to act naturally, like forget the fact that your struggling to make friends and go up to people and join in conversations and throw jokes and act totally cool and normal. And it really works because people like these type of people.
oh and about the black girls you sit with, why don't you try to start a conversation about something other than school work, or try to call one up or like suggest hanging out after school...etc.
Last but not least, about your studying, I understand how having ADD could be pretty hard for you,but seriously you have to work harder on trying to achieve better grades, because apart from friends or school trouble or anything of such, your grades are the most important thing here, its practically your whole future.
And if you really are having so much trouble, try asking your parents for help, or your teachers, or like increase your studying hours and give yourself a more chance to try and concentrate, and maybe if their is a subject or two that interest you more and could grab your attention easily, try to work on them first to like get you focused on studying.
I know I said alot, and your probably lost, lol. But seriously, everything I said is true and if you consider it and try to follow with it, you'll get to do whatever you want, from friends, achieving good grades and certainly a better life. Although your life is already a pretty fine one, and your just making things harder for yourself.
If you need any further advice, please be free to contact me. I hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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