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I like this boy. But I dont think he likes me back. I know this on girl, who likes him and she's really pretty and honestly I think she'll go out with him. But she does like this other boy way more. How can I get this said boy to start liking me? I mean, were friends its just.. I dont know if he'd like me. (link)
Well tal kto him way more, and don't change yourself for a guy. Then ask him if he wants to go to the movies as friends or hang out. If that works out then do it again but clarify that this time its a date. See what happens after that. I hope I helped if there is anything else you need to know or I forgot to answer please e-mail me. I hope it works out.


15/f

okies hey

i've met this guy in the year below me
well we hit it off right away and i really like him and it clear he likes me too , which im really thrilled about :) but the trouble is he is only 13 right now, he does look older though and is mature for his ages. he is just 1 year 3 months younger.

is this too young for me?

please help. xxx (link)
If the age difference doesn't bother you or him go for it! Age is just a number!


ok the thing is i'm really shy around the guy i like and i don't think i could ever have a chance with him and i think he likes my friend so i have no idea what to do for him to like me and get the nerve to go talk to him. i mean it's really hard my friend has no problem talking to him and his friend but sometimes i'm scard i'm gonna say the wrong thing and make a fool of myself. can you please help me.
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Don't be scared to talk to him. I know it is scary talking to someone you like (trust me lol), but if you don't he probally will just think about your friend because he doesn't know you that well. Guys are actually shy, in the sense that girls have to make the first move. Whether it's just talking to them or asking them out.
You should talk to your friend about him so you can see what's going on with her part, but be careful a lot of girls get REALLY possesive over guys even if they are just friends. Hope I helped. :)


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Hey everyone.

I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.

Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.

I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.

My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.

Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.

Thanks in advance. (link)
If you like him I think you should DEFIBATELY go for it!!! My thing is that anything could happen, you guys might not work out, or whatever, but it's awful to think back after you and a different guy broke up and have to say, "I wonder if I would still be alone if I would have satyed with him." Then you could resent your family for it. I think it's best that you give it a shot so you won't have to think like that, you know? If ending it seems like too much for you, then don't do it!! Good luck!


What are some good ways to flirt with a guy but not making it seem desperate? Thanks!!! (link)
Smile and giggle a lot! Look him in the eyes for at least 4 secs. that will let him know your interested. :)


well i like this guy. but he does'nt like me and that sucks. he never talkes to me or anything just because i'm not thaaaat popular. i dont know why he does'nt like me but i just wanna be friends! so what should i do now? i really want him to notice me and like me........heeeelp (link)
Do your hair/ make- up etc. Make sure you think you look really hott and talk to one iof his friends, that he is standing by. Or you could even just walk up to him and be like, "Hey." Casually. :)


I like this guy that lives downthe street from me hes really hott and i thinkhe likes me back. he alsoalready knows that i like him. The only problem is i already have a boyfriend and i know its not good to lead him on but i love being around him even though hes a little strange all of my friends sayi should breakup with my boy friend and go with the other guy i thinkthat to but wat should i tell my boyfriend.
Im 14 15 in september
and female (link)
If you luike this other guy more then it would only be right to break up with your boyfriend. No matter what it will hurt him but try saying something like, "I think we should just be friends," or "I see you as an older/ younger brother." Something like that maybe. :)


Tonight I am going to the movies with four of my freinds. One of them is a girl, my best freind, and the otehr three are guys. The one guy, lets call him Tim, has been freaking me out. He's always liek I dreamed about you last night and we were hooking up and going out. And I'm thinking of you, I love you xo. And like, I bet you are good at hooking up. And I jsut don't like it. So tonight I am worried he will try and sit next to me and like try to make a move. There will be other girls there who I'm not exactly freinds with. What should I do? Ignore him? Or what? (link)
Tell him he's freaking you out and you want him to back off. Tell your best friend how you feel so she can sit by you so he won't be able to. :)


yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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You deserve someone way better then that! You should break up with him and find a new guy, one that will like/ love you as much as you like/love them. Don't let him do that to you! I know it will be hard and it will hurt, but it will get better... I hope everything works out.


i hav a bf and hes rly sweet and nice, but i like neva get to see him cuz he lives in another town. wenever i go someplace and see a cute guy i always wanna flirt. is that bad since i already hav a bf? and since i wanna flirt wit otha ppl, does that mean i dont really like my bf as much as i thought? (link)
Long distant relationships are hard I know. Just because you flirt with other people doesn't mean you don't like your boyfriend as much as you thought. I do the same thing, it's because i'm a natural flirt. A lot of girls are. Don't worry, hope I helped.


Ok..soo i met this guy at a baseball game and he got my number from one of my guys friends. So he called me that night..and now we talk on the phone every night. And i mean we're starting to like eachother but the problem is..he lives like an hr n 30 min away. We really want to hang out..cuz we've only met once. But the problem is..it wont be awhile till come up there again..like the end of the summer. WHat should i do? (link)
I think you should just go with the flow and see what happens. If it's meant to be it'll work out. If not you could still be friends. Hope I helped.


me and my ex still have feelings for each other. i know he does because he tells me he does and we promised to date again once skool starts. but here's the problem we also said that we had summer off so we could date other people and he got a girlfriend. i didn't cuz well i don't really care for anybody but him. so anyways i think that girl and him might stay together for a long time and i'm worried cuz i love him and he's all i want. wat should i say to him. should i try to brake them up. i 'm really confused please help. (link)
Talk to him, ask if your plans to get back together are still on. If he says no act like you don't care and make him think it's a good thing because you have another guy you want. Actually find someone else if he says no, find someone A.S.A.P. that way he will get MAJOR jelous and hopefully will realize he made a mistake and try to get you back. I hope I helped.


So there's this guy at work (we're both 17) that I really like. When ever we work together, I always talk to him, sit with him on my break and stuff. My other 2 friends that work with him in his department keep joking around that we should hook up, which makes me wonder if he talks about me or has told them something. I also don't want it to get out that I like him because he's a good friend of mine and i don't want it to be weird at work if i did make a move or if he knew I liked him. I gave him my e-mail address 30 days ago, so like a month ago, and he never did anything with it. no e-mails or anything. so i don't know if he does actually like me like that and i would prefer not to have to tell anyone about it 'cause i don't want him to find out......

What should I do??¿?? (link)
If you give a guy your e-mail and he likes you he might not e-mail you because he is nervous about what to say. I would ask one of the people who worked with me and him to try to find out what he thinks about you and what his feelings are. If you don't want him to find out then ask them not to tell him. Let them know you are serious, if you can trust them in that way, I don't know how close you are with them, or how close he is with them. Hope I Helped!


my boyfriend has gone away for about 2 weeks and I wont be able to talk to him until he comes back. I want to suprise him and have some really special things for us to do when he gets back. Could you guys help me brainstorm some ideas?

I love him so much I want to show him (link)
Try to cook his favorite dinner, for him. Guys usually love food :) You two could have some kind of a romantic dinner and you could light candles, and play soft music. That would be really sweet. Hope I helped.


What should I do about the whole billy thing cuz dylan told me he likes me but i don't know? He said he would probally go out w/ me but i don't know what should i do??? (link)
If you like him go for it.


Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas? (link)
Tell him. It's only going to hurt him more in the end if you don't tell him NOW! I know it's going to be hard because you like him as a friend but you really need to tell him that. Make sure you break it to him gently.Make sure you let him know you want to be friends.


To graduate high school I had to take a theater class but I wasn't really into that stuff so instead of doing my assignments, my teacher let me do other things for grades (stay after and clean the stage, stuff like that). Whenever I'd do that, we would be together. We talked all the time and started to get really close. We ended up making out once but we didn't let it get in farther. We got together a few times outside of school for coffee and such but nothing more because we knew we couldn't


Well, now that I've graduated, he not my teacher, and I don't even go to that school anymore. So do you think it'd be okay to try to pursue a relationship with him? I'm 18 and he's 24 by the way.
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Yes definately. He isn't your teacher anymore and you don't even go to that school anymore so go for it!


13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it. (link)
I have been through the same thing. With the nervousness even though it isn't your first kiss. It's because you really like him. The best way to get over it is one day just walk up to him and kiss him. Once you do that the nervousness will be gone, and everything will work out. He'll be so suprised he'll love that. Especially if he thinks you don't want to.


Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now, and we've only made out. If we go any further with him..would that make me seam Easy? (link)
You wouldn't seem easy trust me. If you guys want to then you should. If you feel it's right, and you'll know. If you do decide to go farther, and end up having sex make sure you use protection. You have been together for 7 months so going a little farther wouldn't make you seem easy.


I work with this guy. But hes on a vacation break for about a month. Its his part time job becuase he is aslo military. I started this job in OCtober. He was the one that pretty much trained me on the job MOre then any others employees. Since i started there i have Had A crush on him.
Friday i drove on base to put my check in the bank and he was one of the security Guys checking the IDs. He saw me and smiled at me. And i drove away.

Also Theres a pretty big age gap. im 17f & hes 25m. And he has a girlfriend but hes not married.
My question is. Is there anything i can really do in this situation? And any advice that you would love to give to me.

Thank you;) (link)
If you really like him then go for it. The age difference isn't that bad. You only live once and if it was meant to happen he'll say yes. Make sure your casual about it. Good luck I hope I helped!!!




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