i like a boy named jim and my friend asked him for me if he'd ever consider to go out with me/she said nice things about me to him/etc. he said he wasnt sure because he doesnt know me well enough to do that. obviously this means to get to know him better. but i have the horrible case of SHYNESS only around HIM! and ive tried really hard to fix this. i need guy's opinions: what would convince him to go for me? my friend's say he'd go for me it's just i need to get out and show him what im really like. ive got everything that would make him say yes, except my voice keeps holding back. i need advice and help.. any is great- thanks so much. oh yeah- im 14 and try not to mention asking to go places, because in our grade, we arent really into that mode yet. ;)
if you are in eighth or nineth grade and you aren't in the "going places mode" what planet are you on?! Dude... even six and seventh graders 'go places'. Besides... it'll make you look cooler and older... and going places is fun and gets you something to talk about, or if your at the movies something to not talk about. but if you can't go to a fair, the movies, a cafe/lounge, a local comedy/music/poetry club, the mall, your house, or somewhere... You are pretty much doomed. Just start by saing hi to him... then work your way up to small talk/flirting then call him.
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Hey, I have a scenario for you all. female responses would help the best, I have this friend at church, that I hardly talk to, and in the last 3 day,s we have gotten closer, she gave me her cell number and we talk all the time. So I told her 3 day's ago that we should hang out, and she said yeah, we should. So today, saturday, Im gonna call her and find out what time to pick her up, and find out where she lives. Since it's just me and her, and we have gotten closer, what do u think this means? She just wants to be closer friends, or is this a date and we're not just hangin out? what do u think, anyone help me?
It sounds like flirting... maybe she's just a friend but wants to be something more? Girls are complicated, she might just want to hang out and flirt... so go somewhere that doesn't have a label for 'something more' attached. Like movies... if you go there, that's where people make out, so if you're not sure, don't go to the movies. Go... to a coffee shop, or comedy club, or a lounge, or place where local bands play... somewhere fun! :) Good luck with her!
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Ok i asked a question eirlier in the month about a guy i really like and telling him i like him. Or atleast its what ya'll said to do and i was almost there some days but i just couldnt think of almost ruining everything if he didnt fell the same way. We flirt,he opens doors for me, and its all ok. But for some reason, it seemed like he liked me a lot but now its kinda fading away(or so it seems). Maybe its just this week or something and our relationship will go back to its normal ways (flirting, liking eachother stuff). But Should i still tell him, and see what happens?? I really like this guy, he means so much to me. what do i do?
Love cannot be denied... sometimes flirting ins't enough. Tell him.
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Ok, well I met this guys 3 weeks ago, and we both liked eachother a lot! I felt like I knew his hole life honestly I could of wrote a book on him. In that week we would kiss and make out and the sort and he sort of stuck to me in my heart, well last week on monday we decided to be friends, it was better for him, and I wanted to make him happy, so I agreed, later that day I cried my heart out and the next day too, but never in front of him. We give eachother lots of hugs and we talk on the phone a lot too and i Help him out with his love life too, and I feel like a jelous tention. As much as I wanna be friends, I wanna be a little more too... WHAT SHOULD I DO!
Be his ideal girl. Offer him something he can't refuse... no I don't mean sex but I guess that would work too, lol. You can't deny your feelings... flirt like crazy.
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ok well i have this semi big crush on this kid on my sports team i talk 2 him n everyhtin but i juss dont kno wut 2 do 2 get him 2 really notice me i think one of my friends likes him also but hse denies it and she knows i liek him but she flirts w. him so much i realli like him n woudl like 2 take my friendship 2 the next level but im juss so confused bout it all i dont kno if i shoudl tell him cus then if he doesnt like me then it'd b awkward cus its an all yr team but then its liek if dont then i could b missin out on an opportunity id like 2 have n if i do tell him how should i tell him? plz help me in ne way u can i really need it! thanx if u can help!
I know tons of people who get uhh 'rejected' and end up becoming great friends with that person anyway, no awkwardness at all. like me... i rejected this guy and we became best friends. lol... good luck with him. Go for it! Flirt majorly and hang out with him on and off campus and then tell him how you feel about him and ask him if he wants to go out!
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ok theres a really hott guy...cam...hes like my best guy friend..((ive already asked a simalir quiton but not the same))ok so my freinds all say he likes me but also likes another girl abby too...but c abby is a grade higher and cam said he would never ever go out with a 8th grader. shoul;d i ask him out...or jsut flit and crap with im for a while>>>??
flirt like crazy ;) and if he truly seems interested... play hard to get! good luck! :)
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Hmm well.. I'm in highschool and so is this guy. He looks good & okay we don't talk really but every time i see him we do the eye things, just like the other day i was walking he was lookin straight at my eyes n i was lookin back in his.. it was from accross the hall wen i was about to leave & so we followed eachothers eyes, me looking back and him lookin back at me.. We do it everytime we see eachother pretty much but we haven't talked & I reallly wana get to kno him but im not jus gona walk up to him n be like yeah whats up haha.. so any suggestions? i really wana get to know himmm.
do you know what he's interested in? Maybe in order to get to know him, you have to get something to spark between you two... for example if he likes music try inviting him to a concert. good places to invite people: movies, lounges, raves/parties, ehh dances are okay, the beach, skating rinks, etc.
just say hey to him one day... don't say anything, just look him in the eye do the "nod thing" and say hey and pass by. That could easily start something. Maybe smile a little or wave. Ask him if he wants to hang out some time. Or write him a note saying you think he's cool and you want to get to know him better... notes usually work. :) Good luck with him... if you have any more details and want more ideas, email me at sweet_metal_girl@hotmail.com. thanks for your question!
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okay well i used to be really like a crazy flirting slut but then i found this one guy and we went through a lot together and im not really gunna go into detail but i like used up my heart on him and forgot to like care about all the other guys that have been like giving me attention and i just couldnt help it but now im in the process of getting over that one guy cuz we are like through its really hard but i really wanna like find another guy to build something with or like get back my like social part of me with boys cuz i like talk and flirt with plenty of boys its just i kind of forget how to make a guy friend, i know it sounds gay but oh well and theres this kid in my science class and i really wanna talk to him but he doesnt talk that much in that class cuz i dont know but hes really nice and hot and friendly and smart and i just wanna like be friends wtih him but ive only tlaked to him like once before and he doesnt sit near me or anything and im not good at science whatso ever. Could you please try your best to help me with my multiple issues
Just be like hey *so and so* how's it going? what's up? *flirting, small talk, and jokes* so you wanna go with me to --- tonight/on Friday?
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Ok, at the beginning of the school year in a new city, and at a new school, (I just moved here) the first day of school, theres this guy that asked me out when I never even talked to him once, not knowing him at all. Let's call him Bob. Bob has liked me from the first day of school till today. He's had many other crushes and girlfriends other than me but still likes me and flirts with me. As I got to know him, I started to like him. He isn't that hott, but has a great personality. He's the player type and if I went out with him I wouldn't be able to trust him. I really like him but I don't want to go out with him. I don't know why.. He's got a girlfriend right now and people say I shouldn't go out with him because he is a total man whore. At school he ignores me but glances at me whenever we pass in the hall. Do you have any advice? I'd be greatly appreciated!
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P.S. I'm 13 and in grade 8 if that helps.
ya hun... I recongnize that type. He's what I'll call a "user and abuser". He'll be a jerk to you around his friends, he'll ignore you in public, but then when you guys are alone he'll flirt with you and stuff... But he's the kind who would cheat, tell his friends about private things behind your back, use you, and basically abuse you. so despite his good personality, he doesn't have looks to make up for his being a player... you probably shouldn't be more than friends with him. :)
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hey this guy in school he is a guy who likes heavy metal! well anyway he let me listen 2 some of his favorite stuff! and seemed so excited me all his fave songs!! He told me that 2 need 2 have black stuff 2 actually hear this music! i had a shirt under my shirt and i lifted it up and said i'm afraid i don't!! he lifted up his white shirt and his abs wre right there!! ppl keep sayin' we're flirting but he denies it! and i find out that someone talked 2 him about it and that he knows i like him ... what do i do? is he flirting with me or not? i'll rate! :)
Goths/punks and rockers are complicated. You can't know for sure unless they tell you to your face. I would know... before I started "dressing in black" lol, I had a friend like that and I ended up finding out he had a girlfriend. So all I can say is... become good friends with him and flirt like crazy with him and invite him to hang out... then ask him if he likes you, and before he responds - tell him you like him. Good luck with that! :)
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Christmas! Omg... Its just around the corner. Its coming faster, then light. I have this boifriend. I LOVE HIM TOO DEATH!!! But i mean this is our first Christmas together. What should i get him for christmas? I need help. I Love him sooo much. I want it to be something special. Truly special. Please help!! ME!! Ill rate you VERY HIGH 5 Whole BIG POINTS! Avice Columnists help me!! Im just lost!!! ASAP! Quick help me... I have only a week to get his present cause im busy with other stuff til x-mas!! Thankss!!!! soo much...
Okay... you probably should add your and his age and his interests. but... clothes/accessories, CDS, his favorite movie/dvd, or you could take him somewhere... like go to a water park or skating rink and the movies and dinner. Or... just base it on what he likes. If he likes eating, add a meal that you made yourself - if he likes Manga/Anime get him some book/movie that he's had his eye on. Or get him an Halo 2. or... just Do something special with lots of time, energy, thought, and heart put into it... no matter what it is if you put all that into it and he really loves you, then he'll love what you give him.
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im 13 years old. theres this guy that i REALLY like! we kiss in the mornin but its just a little peck. hes goin around telling everybody that we make out and crap. and i really wanna make out with him. im just scared hes gonna say we did somethin else you know...should i talk to him about it?
Make out with him... no harm done... but after you do confront him about the whole matter. Relationships thrive on three things - honesty/conversation, loyalty/trust, and making out. lol so if he gets angry about you thinking he'll say you did something else, at least you made out with him before you broke up. And that way... if you did break up, at least you know he wasn't worth it if he and you can't survive such a silly confrontation. :) well good luck, hope he doesn't say your doing something else, hope you don't break up... and hope you make out. lol... :)
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okay so this is the deal i have always had boy friends and well yea i liked them at the time and we only lasted like 3-4 weeks yea not long at all well now this year i met this boy trevor and well i really really really think im falling in love...but i wouldnt knoe wut luv is cuz like ive never been in it b4 i mean we've been dating for like 2 months and well i really feel different around him i feel like i can b myself and i can open up to him about n e thing. well trevor on the other hand i never knoe if he feels the same way About me..cuz well yea he calls me every night but when i c him he always acts soo shy at school and he always is soo short temperd like im always affraid that if i do some thing bad that he will like hate me and it doesnt even have to b n e thing big just like me not callin him when he tells me to call him back i mean ive seen him totally flip out on other peeps but i knoe he never would on me cuz he has great respect of women and gurls. so i guess me question is would you call this love?? and not only from me but form him too??? answer me sooon i really need to knoe
ehh... just sit him down and ask him how he feels and what he thinks of you. If he really cares about you, he'll be honest and tell you what you want to hear. Good luck with that! :)
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OK theres this one boy that i have a HUGE crush on and he only likes my 1 best friend bc shes popular.. and shes pretty well everytime i go to my locker, hes always standing by her, it makes me feel like im not good enough or something but her locker is like 6 lockers away but hes always just standing around her..like all the other boys do and stuff and hes asked her out and hes asked out my best friend, why hasnt he asked out me? What am i doing wrong.. i mean i think im pretty.. but i guess thats not good enough for him=[ Plz help me=/
Maybe you just need a little self confidence. Walk up to him, talk to him about things he is interested in... make a few jokes, flirt a little... :) Tell your friends that you like him so that they won't flirt with him. And if you think he might like you... ask your friends to find out what he thinks of you. Good luck with that guy! :)
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i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire
okay tell him how you feel about him and ask him if he feels the same. Don't make him think your mad at him and don't make him think your "not good enough". Go to him calmly, honestly, and with confidence and just spill it.
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Why is it that everytime i want to really express myself to my boyfreind he acts like he really dosent care what i think and then when i asked him how does he feel about me he said what does that have to do with anything thats going on and it has a lot to do with it. HE is the type to hurt your feelings . now he said all this stuff when he was MAD. When he is mad i do not like him. he was mad because he said i hung up the phone in his face when i didnt. so i told him what happen and he still acted the same. I cant leave him because im 15 in love and he is the best thing that ever happen to me in a long time. HE actually came and turned my life around and i dont think i can do it without him. I am a Black FEmale
Oh chica... you can get way better guys than that. It actually sounds like he's cheating on you or using you.... or he could just be a jackass. BREAK UP WITH HIM.... besides, when you are a teenager... it almost always feels like love. It could take you a while to get over him, but you will... he's not that great. :) Good luck!
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im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?
just stick with him and wait it out.. older guys that give you at least that much are hard to find. but he better be hot to make up for his being a slight jerk.
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I am a 17 year old female and my exboyfriend is 16years old. My ex-boyfriend which is the 2nd guy I ever dated is my first love and he told me that I am his first love. Ever time we see each other we end up making-out even if one of us has a boyfriend or girlfriend. He also like to irritate me alot and he like to play a lot of stupid little games and its annoying. I tell myself that I'm over him but every time I see him I fall in love with him again. What can/should I do?????????
that's the funniest thing i've ever heard. it doesn't really sound like love, but if you think it is... tell him how it is. OR you could just go out with other people and randomly make out with this guy. the only way to solve it is to go out with him or tell him no making out or dating... we're just friends. otherwise you'll complicate things too much.
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ok, so heres the delio, i had been waitin for this guy to ask me out for 4 months, he had told a bunch of ppl he was gunna and we had been flirting and stuff, well he finally did on halloween, and i said yes , well 3 or 4 days into the relationship he gets in a fight with my friends, see hes christian and he believes no sex beofre marriage and no abortion and that kinda stuff which is what i believe too, but my friend dosnt, and so he called her a prostitue, well i stuck up for my friend, and was pretty much you dont have any right to call her that, you can tell her what she believes is wrong but thats crossing the line, and he got mad and is now ignoring me because i "took their side" over his, he has been ignoring me for the last 5 freakin days! and i have apolgized like 3 times, even though i feel like i did nothing wrong, and today i finally said we either need to fix this or break it off, because i dont want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend ignores me, even though i really really like him, but im sick of it, what should i do? should i try and work things out, or break it off with him?
Your fifteen... there are plenty of guys who will give you the attention you deserve. If he's going to ignore you after you apologize, he's not worth your time. Especially since he expects you to take his side after 3 or 4 days. When you've been going out for like more than 3-6 months, then he should expect you to take his side, but he was out of line with what he said anyway. break up! :)
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i was staying after school waiting to be picked up and the 1 guy that ive liked ALOT with me. (he kinda had feelings for me but he is so hooked on his gf) well my dad called my cell and said my Aunt DIED, and he'd pick me up in an hour. so i started crying histerically, and Tom just came over and comforted me and i layed there in his ARMS crying. he literally wiped my tears and layed with me the whole time. Once i stopped crying he leaned over and kissed me. and then... we started making out for minutes straight, it was the most amazing/beautiful thing EVER. eventually i had to leave, & later Tom called & said how perfect that was & never had anything special like that. well he asked me what to do about his gf cause theyve been together for a year & he doesnt know if he should TELL her or NOT. hes really confused. so what should he do about his gf do you think he should tell? i dont want her to be mad at me and have all her friends threaten me and stuff. please help i dont know what to do about the whole situation, this is too much... (DONT TELL ME ITS WRONG WHAT WE DID CAUSE no shit I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!!)
it wasn't wrong... you two are friends who have feelings for eachother and you were vulnerable. He needs to be honest with his girlfriend but he can't say it was you... the best thing for him is to break up with his girlfriend, probably because if he doesn't it could ruin your friendship and get a lot people hating both of you.
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