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(Need to know facts: I met his guy about two weeks ago, he is two years older than I am and I just moved into town.)

Alright so I just moved into my university dorm room and at one of the "meet and greet" parties I met this guy. He seemed like any other second year, trying to show off to all the freshmen.

Last weekend was my birthday so we went to a club and partied it up. By 'we' I mean my roomates, and such, including him. At the club my roomies and I were just celebrating my legal-ness and he comes over with the rest of the gang and says something like "group hug for the birthday girl!". Whatever, anyone could have said it right, but everyone else let go; he held on to my waist and started dancing with me. We walked home that night and we had a nice chat.

A couple of days later we were texting back and forth quite a bit. I was still in denial. We set up a 'date' to go to the gym. He was supposed to come over after class so we could walk over together. Two hours after we were supposed to meet, he texts me saying he went shopping and told me to call him when I wanted to go. I'm sorry but what the hell!? There wasn't enough time before I had my night class so he suggested he drop by after that class and we go until close. I reluctantly agreed and went to class. He somehow convinced mt to get out of clas early to meet him. Three hours waiting on a park bench in the cold kinda sucks. I decided I had had enough and went home. I got a call an hour later asking me to buzz him in the building where I live. I was really mad at this point but I wasn't going to stoop to his level and cancel last minute. After all, he DID come across town just for me. We ended up only having about 20 minutes at the gym so we had to walk home because they only give you a bus stamp if you stay for an hour. We had another nice chat, where at one point he offered his sweater because I was clearly cold in my tee.

When we got back to my appartment, all my roomates had gone nextdoor, leaving us the appartment to ourselves. (my roomates are sneaky like that) At this point I realised I DID like him so I just sat back and ignored the fact that I had waited for him a total of 9 hours that day. He stayed at my place until almost 2 in the morning, we had one of those 'omg' talks where you just want to keep talking because you're in the 'zone'. I really enjoyed it.

The next day, I was still a little frustrated by the fact that I had waited so long and he didn't even appologize. So I told him (through facebook mind you). He did however reply later on that day with a sincere sounding appology. We are supposed to get-together Friday night to watch a movie at my place.

Now, there are two questions I would liked answered.
One being, is there potential to him liking me because I want to tell him if there is any. I know that there is no way that anyone who doesn't know us both can tell me for sure when I can't even tell myself..lol but I'm just looking for an outsider's view.
Two being, do I pick a regular movie or do I chance it and pick a comedy/romance?

(If you require further details, I will be more than happy to add them in the extra section)

Yes there is potential to him liking you but for now i would just say cool out, and go with the flow. Its still early... 2 weeks, and yu have a lot of school left. Im a freshman in college to and my opinion would be to focus on school, and just for now... make friends. He is two years older then you and that doesnt mean much, but make sure you get the "full him" first, and see where it goes!

To your other question... just go see a hot movie thats out that you both wanna see... its plenty of them out.. and it will be something you both will enjoy :)

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15/f ok so i really like this guy and i think he likes me back but he's just too complicated for me. we've never really talked before but just eyecontact and my friends tell me he always looks at me etc. and i used to date his best friend so i know him just a little bit but only talked once or twice. anyway im pretty sure he started liking me and i like him back. this is going on for over a year now. he's never had a gf and ive never had a bf. but he always makes me sad by his behaviour. i mean sometimes he notices me but then he just ignores me and makes me feel like shit. and i know hes doing it cos he wants to be cool but still. and basicly i know he's not that great and deffinetly not the best guy for me but i cant help liking him. im trying to get over him but i always think: what if it could be something AFTER ALL and im throwing it all away. you know what i mean? and i have my eyes on a nother guy who actually makes me smile a lot but i just dont seem to like him in that way. i dont get it, because i KNOW that if i like the other guy i'd be happy but i cant help liking HIM. i always seem to choose the guys who make me feel bad about myself and who are hard to get, and never like the sweet and kind ones :/
heeeelp
and please dont say that i dont really know him cos we've never talked. trust me we DO no eachother but i dont wanna spell it all out cos it'd be long. just trust me on this :)

You said you never really had a bf so i dont think this is a case about running to people bc you have low self esteem.. you just seem to go for the bad guys... which isnt ALWAYS a bad thing because they may portray that bad guy role to everyone else.. but to the people that take the time to dig a little further, they turn out to be the sweet and kind ones! i know.. but its crazy. SO I just say talk to him, i mean, you said you really havent and you never know what can happen from a simple talk! Just try it.. and if he still seems like a dorkwad.. then you'll know!

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13/f

my best friends boyfriend likes me A LOT.
a couple days ago we were watching softball ***school thing*** and he played me a song. He said "listen to it". It was Far Away by Nickleback. I love that song. I didn't think anything by it. But today at lunch if he really felt that way and he said yes. So the song was in my head and i was listening to it on my ipod. "I dont like him i just really love the song." and my best friend got mad at me because i was listening to the song that explained his feelings. Please help me

My advice would be... to pull HER boyfriend over and tell him.. he is her boyfriend, and he isnt right for him to send you things like that. Then you need to pull her aside and let her know it was just a song (even if he has feelings.. forget them) it was just a song, and there are no mutual feelings behind them.. and assure her that it wont happen again. You dont want to mess up anything with your best friend over some guy... your 13! So try to take a little advice from someone a little older.. GUYS ARENT WORTH THE TROUBLE.. THEY COME AND GO BUT YOUR TRUE FRIENDS WILL STICK BY YOU!

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does anyone know a song about A) a girl whos in love with her best friend and/or B) a girl whos in love with a gay guy

Its a song by Musiq and I think its called half crazy... go listen to it!!! or atleast see the lyrics

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There are days I wish I never meet her, and I wish I never help her from her issues.
But for some reason I was lead to this path to meet her and help her, but why!?
I am in love with my best friend that I know for 8 years. And I am a woman who found out that I am bisexual. I had past relationships with men but they never work out and I never got over her. It’s hard when I try to deny my feeling of her when she is a touchy close person to me. She leans on me and teases too. I know friends do that but she can go too far on being close. She is still very close to me after I told her ho w I felt about her. She was shocked about it and she told me she is fine with it and will still be my friend no matter how I feel in my heart. She doesn’t feel the same way about me and she not ready for a relationship and she isn’t sure what gender she likes her self. I ask her why that is and she said she doesn’t feel any towards to men.
When I try to get over her I just can’t! I cry because I can’t get over her. What should I do?
I am moving to Hawaii with my family and my plan was to never talk to her no more so I can get over her. But she is my best friend and I don’t want to break her heart. What should I do if I see her with someone elus? I won’t handle it well I know it I just wish I can find out what to do.

You have to tell her how you feel. There was some chick I met that was in college.. we were kinda close, and i was STRONGLY attracted to her, but never told her about my orientation, and never told her how I seriously felt about it. She moved back home after school...we still keep up with each other, but I really regret not telling her. So my advice to u is... TELL HER! Its going to be hard but you have to tell her everything you feel. Maybe her teasing you..isnt just a game to her..maybe shes doing it for a reason! Sometimes you have to put some things aside and just go for it... you only live life once!

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Sexy [from a guys point of view], acceptable in society if they are bisexual, acceptable in society if they are straight, and/or just plain wrong?

I think its sexy from any point of very if the girls are hot. I dont think its wrong. Some do it just as a dance.. others do it for more serious reasons...but hey.. if it floats your boat thats all that counts!

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okay im going out with this guy
its great.
but like he wants to hang out everyday
and im the type that needs my space
like hanging out on weekends is great
and maybe sometime during the weekdays
but i feel like im too busy to hangout on
the weekdays...what should i tell him?

I think you just need to be upfront with him. You dont have to come out and say I NEED MY SPACE but one way or another your gonna have to tell him, or he'll drive you crazy.. its something that could ruin a good thing. If he wants to hang one day, just tell him that you have something home to catch up on and you cant hang that day, or tell him that your goin out with some of your other friends for a night out. Just tell him what you need to do... if things are going great.. then he should understand.. and not have a problem with you having a life!

Good Luck

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ok well im 13 female.
i started high school already.well the point is that there is this guy...hes a 12th grader,cute,funny,and cool 2 talk 2.
We started talking because my friend wanted 2 get at him but he liked her as a homegirl. so she found herself a boyfriend and told me that me and him talk so good to each other that we should go out.And the thing is everybody asks me if thats my boyfriend and i say no but they don`t believe me because we are always together. n0w for the other part theres this other guy witch i like and he is just as cute,sweet,nice,and down to earth.well he tells everybody im his girl right...so he asked me to kick it with him on friday and i said sure but then the other guy asked me to go to the movies with him knowing that i was gonna go kick it with the other guy. i said sure to because i was just gonna spend some time with them right nothin serious.well the thing is that today in lunch me and da movie guy took a picture together because idk y but we did lol and the other guy got mad when he saw it on my myspace.I really hate to pick one because they are both great but i d0n`t kn0w what to do.oh and if this helps out da kick it guy even sings to me on the phone and i think that is so cute! s0 if you were me what would you do??im sorry for making it so long but yeah!
if you have a myspace add me at abelsandoval@sbcglobal.net thx i really need help on making up my mind and maybe there i can show you the guys=]

They both sound like great guys...but I cant help ya pick one! Thats your job! Just go with the one that you see the most happening with, like.. which one you think you could go far in a relationship.
Maybe just chill with both of them on a friends level, and get a better feel for who they really are, and it'll be easier for you to make a decison.
so for my advice.. i would say as for right now.. dont get caught up in a boyfriend girlfriend thing with either of them right now.. just do ya thing... keep it on a chill... and it'll get easier to find out which one is really for you!

Good lucky pimpin!

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16/f

ok so this has never happened to me... I'm not one to act like this AT ALL.

I have the most amazing boyfriend(17) ever. He is perfect for me in every way.

I think about him every second of the day and at night.. I stay up for 2-3 hours thinking about him. Whenever I don't see him for a few days I miss him so much I cry (sad, I know).

Sometimes he'll drive across town just to see me for 10 minutes then, 1 minute after he leaves he'll call me just to tell me he misses me.

Every time I'm with him everything seems to fit just right (like a puzzle, he says). We are so comfortable with eachother it's unreal. I feel like I've known him forever even though we've only been dating a few months.
(he told me he feels the same about me)


What's going on with me? I feel like I'm going crazy!

this is a no brainer... I think you like your boyfriend a lot.. and in this case.. i think it would be called............
Love

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It has been about three years now, and I cannot get over my ex boyfriend. I don't know what to do anymore. The last couple of weeks were perfect. I thought I finally got over him when we stopped talking for a while, but we started talking yesterday and I realized that I'm not over him. He hurt me so many times. He did really messed up things and I need to get over him. And I feel as though I'm getting there until he calls or messages me. I already locked up all of his things and through away memories. I need to get over him, what else do I do??
:(

Hmmm sounds familiar...
The best thing that i could say right now would be to tell him not to talk to him...because obviously you need a little more time to get over him. I remember i was in this exact same positiion and my friends would do everything to keep me from answering my phone when he called. Even tho its been 3 years apart... sometimes it does seem like it takes forever to get over someone.
Give yourself some you time... not seeing him, talking to him.. it will make a world of difference!

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ok soo.
me and this guy, Allen, have been i guess "talking" for about a week or so.
and we are ALWAYS together at school.
like, after every single class he waits on me.
and we always write each other notes and stuff.
and he comes up my house all the time and we go to the movies, or go eat or something.
he's told me he lkes me, and he knows i like him. and he calls me like everyday.
but he wont ask me out..... ?
it's killing me. lol

why wont he?

btw, hes a senior. im a freshman.
is that why?

Some boys arent really always caught up on asking a girl out. By him always walking you from class, and going out to the movies... calling and everything, I think that says a lot already! Just go with the flow! Dont try to rush things with him.. you gotta give guys their time!

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I really hate saying this and even admitting to myself that I have feelings with the same sex as me...a girl..not really a girl but a boyish one. Maybe i started to like her because she's really a caring person and is sensitive to other's feelings. When we talk, I feel as if my problems would go away and feel alighted. But then the problem is aside from the gender, she does have a relationship with another girl. I don't know when she think that i might have feelings for her but she did at one time. When she somewhat think, she showered me with many attention..but I think with my head than my heart, I know it's wrong so I kind of avoided her. When she talks to me, I don't have the same enthusiasm as before. By what I did she maybe realize that she "mistakenly" interpret my feelings. There was a time I really avoided her. but when she was absent I had a tantrum and I miss her. This is wrong I know it. That's why I wish people could help me on what should I do..I think avoiding is not a solution. Saying it either is a big mistake.

first off... I personally dont think its a wrong thing at all. Who are other ppl to tell u that its wrong to feel some type of way for a person. I dont think that you should avoid her, it would just make things harder the next time you see her. Tell her how you feel... everything has to start there. Its going to be hard to start off.. but youll feel better at the end.

Email me sometime if you wanna talk about it!

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ok i like my b/f but i never REALLY REALLY liked him okay hes really nice and all its like i like the b/f thing just not the boy....... i mean ther is nothing there n e more well i kinda wanna break it off w/ him but like my friends dont want me 2 and our 1 month aniversary was monday and he bought me diamond earings i no weird 13 year olds wer do we get this money ?! n e way i have 4 classes with him... i wanna break up with him but i dont no if i should b/c i dont wanna make him feel bad and i just dont wanna go o/ w/ him n e more! so should i break it off with him or not and if i do how should i do it?

Try givinbg him a little more time..Its only been a month! Try doing more things together, something like going to the movies, or the arcade or something like that! Boys can be really hard to figure out, but give him a little more time. If you still dont notice any change in your relationship, then I guess you should break it off. :(

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what do u think about a 15 year old grl that likes a guy thats 13 goind on 14?
*needs honest oppinions*

My thing is...I wouldn't want to start a sexual (if thats what your talking about) relationship with someone if I dont think they are going to be old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibilities that might arise if you were to get pregnant or something like that.

I really dont have a problem with age, its more of a maturity factor with me

I hope I answered your question..if not, email me or something if you have anything else!!

Best of luck!

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sorry if this is long, but there is this guy that i like and we used to go out. he now has a girlfriend but i dont care, i still like him. This one girl likes him, so someone asked if he would ever go out with her and he said no. but then this girl asked if he would ever go back out with me and he smiled nad said "umm .. i gotta get to class" so the next day the girl asked again and so he was like "umm .. i gotta girlfriend" so he didnt say yes or no. Do you htink i still have a chance?

I kinda think you do...but on the other hand, he already has a girlfriend. I know you like him, but you dont want to get into a petty situation where you could get urself into something over a boy. My advice would be to back off him. If he was REALLY into you, he wouldn't still have a girlfriend. Wait until he dumps her...then go after him!

HAHA Take Care!

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ok...so i know this guy named "brownie" lol and he is soooo nice!we talk on the internet 24/ 7 to eachother and we say hi to eachother but it seems like i cant talk to him in person...i get all tonguetied...we go to diff. schools and he is one grade below me!!i also told him on the internet that i liked him...now im super embaressed!!!

Why are you imbarrased? You guys seem to know each other, so you know that he's not just some internet perv lol. I dont think you should be nervous at all! He might just be feeling the same way about you! But nothing will get accomplished if you dont tell each other!!

Take Care!

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Ok...me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 1/2 years now. But for these last few months, it seems like something is missing. We had a fight a while ago, and now we dont talk as much. I dont want to lose her. I dont want so much time to go by that we find it harder to express the important stuff we have to say. I dont know what happened. Lately she never has time for me, its always either somethin else she has to do, or someone else around. I really dont understand it. We have been through so much together, and I can't see myself being with someone else.

I guess all this was my fault. I have done some extremely stupid things in the past, but..I've apoligized for ALL of that, and now i've been completely honest with her, but I dont think she believes me. What should i do?

After you've been together for 3 1/2 years, you have one fight and stop talking? WOW what did you do buddy? lol and if it was that bad, do you still even deserve her? She sounds like a great woman. Anyways you seem like your still in love! therefore, I wouldn't give up. Now im not saying stalk the chick. I just mean call her every once in a while, let her know that she is still the best thing that ever happened to you. In your convos, drop little lines like. "You know I still love you right?" and she how she responds to things like that. Just do something,....work your magic, and dont lose her!!!

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I like my friend, hes so fun to be around & I think at one point he used to like me too, you know how you can just tell? Besides, i used to nag him about who he liked and at that point, he would say that he was shy and such, and that he didn't want to ruin anything if he said something. Anyways, after a while, i started to like him and it was obvious hehe. I told him I like him and wells he told me to call him back when I had a chance to talk about it, when I did, he ignored the subject and wells i thought something was there but i guess at that point there wasnt. Anyways, nowadays, it seems like he likes me again, doing the same things when he might have liked me, but on and off..and i think i still have feelings for him..should I ask him about it?

Yes, ask him about it. I know that you said that you told him you liked him, but really get him to talk to you about it. Who knows, he's probably really shy about this situation. Some things just come natural you know? Just continue to hang out with him and everything, and maybe sooner or later his true feelings will come out. He's going to do it on his own time

Best of Luck!
Take care hun!!

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Where do i begin? I was recently married 9 months ago to a 47 yr. old nurse. I am a female,45,and officer and have 2 girls, 11 and 16. I was single for 6 yrs. before, having been abused and mistreated for 11 yrs. I started over and now have a nice home and 2 cars, and have worked hard alone for what I have. So anyway I always wanted to marry again someday and have the family thing, and be happy.So I took a chance and boy I have been wondering about my judgement. We so rarely make love its getting hard to recall. He is just not interested he says, He hates when I say something about it, Another problem is I wonder could he be Bi-sexual, Right after we got married I caught him on the computer with men and women and talking sex, writing Bi-Sexual couples etc. I have caught him not about 5 times since we got married,. I Now have forbid him to use my computer, well he went to the library, and did it and he probabley does it at work. He denies that he is BI, saying it was for kicks, he was just messing with them and he was just curious about people. He hurt my feelings so much and not wanting to sleep with me, makes me feel unloved,and depressed, I love him, and want my marriage to work, but you dont have to be a bright light bulb to figure something is wrong here. I have threatened to go elsewhere for sex and he says go right ahead. I am so hurt Im miserable. He says he loves me but he sure dont know how to show it and says he will leave if that is what I want. Im getting to where I dont talk to him, I hold things in, Do I need someone to just slap me and make me wake up here and quit wanting that fantasy of a decent kind,loving husband? Thanks P.s. He has 2 kids that wont have anything to do with him, he was an alcoholic and married twice before.

I seriously dont think that this is the kind of guy that you want to spend the rest of your life with...right? You dont need him. If your telling him that your gonna go elsewhere for sex, and he says go right ahead, then you damn sure dont need him. It seems to me that you were doing ok by yourself! A great job (my sisters an officer), 2 kids, 2 cars... I think everyone dreams about that perfect family. and no, it's not a fantasy, because its something that almost anyone can have. and I believe you are one of those people.

I think that he probably is gay, or bi, but is still in denial about it. The best thing that I can tell you is to try and work / talk it out. Your not happy and there are plenty of other men out there who dream about that perfect family also. You dont need to be hurt, or miserable. Think about your kids, think about your happiness, that about what you truly want. Someone that you love---but your being hurt by. Thats not love. Find someone that is willing to put in the effort just like you are.

Hope I helped
Take Care!

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Ok.... I went to my best friends b-day party and my g/f was there and we were watching a movie and we started making out for like 15 seconds. Now i can't wait to see her again because i really feel different becasue we made out. Is this normal?

Please Help

Yes its normal! Give her a call and let her know how you feel! I bet she'll feel the same way and you guys could hook up again!

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