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Okay, well let me start this off by saying my ex still likes me! So.....everytime we r going to hang out I'm up for it cause we r just hanging out right! But, when we actually start hanging out I get nervous/butterflies! Does this mean I still like him?? I REALLY WANNA KNOW IF I DO LIKE HIM!! PLEASE !HELP! ME PLEASE :)
We can't tell you if you like him, we are not little bugs inside you're head to tell you how you feel. Only you know what you feel.
Hey LostAngel havnt spoken in a while! :) my boyfriend's "ex" and the reason why i am putting it in " qutes is becuz she went out with him out of pityand felt sorry for him,.. any way she is trying to tear me and ben apart!! I dont know what to do, ben said to her i love stef and no matter how much i love you too, i wont let you get in my way! I love ben and i will never let any one tear us apart especially her! That fucking whore!! sorry about my lanugage but i just dont know what to do!! And im sure you wil try to help me thnx for everything!!
One- He shouldn't be telling her that he loves her..
Two- He needs to tell her to back off..but being that he already told her that he loves her.. I'm going to take that she isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
Three- Tell him to tell her to back off..
Four- Again you're young, don't make him you're everything..live your life before it's too late. :)
Hi, Im a female of 14. So there's this boy I like and last night while I was frenching him, people were like ew they're kissing. so today someone asked if i Frenched ir Madeout with him. I don't know the difference. What's the difference between Frenching, Making out, and just kissing?
it's the same thing, with a 1,000 different words to describe it.
and just kissing could just mean a peck on the lips without any tongue.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months but have been friends for a long time. I tell him everything and we are practically best friends. He treats me like gold. He is so sweet and appreciates me and can take me at my worst and my best. In the past I've been heartbroken very badly and abandoned, but he always assures me he'll never leave. I had a hard time believing that at first but somehow now I know he's here to stay. He says we'll only break up if I say the word. I think I fall in love with him all over again everyday!! He and I spend so much time together and it's like he's my other half.
Every Friday I go with him from school to his house. His parents don't come home until about 5, and we get to his house around 3. His parents are very laidback so they let us do what we want as long as we keep it light, just cuddling and kissing. But usually we take a nap together in his bed before his parents come home. We recently just became sexual, and he really likes it when I'm making the first move. Well yesterday I didn't feel like doing anything and he just kept kissing me and I'd turn my back and say no and push him away when he hugged me or something. That day he was just somehow getting annoying to me, which is so strange. I feel so bad because he just wanted to cuddle and I was being a jerk. I feel like I'm doubting "us".... Help!
It's alright to push him away if you didn't feel like doing anything, you don't always have to feel that you need to do something every single day.
I know in the past.. when I wasn't in the mood, and I didn't want to be touched.. sometimes it was a sign that I just wanted him to hold me even when I said no..and sometimes it outright meant no. I know what it feels like to feel like a jerk and not be in the mood. Though, when the guy stays right next to you and tries to just wrap his arms around you, it usually means he really does care.
Just because you weren't in the mood, doesn't mean you are doubting you're relationship. Talk to him..and apologize for how you acted if you feel that bad.
I hope I helped. :)
Thnx for the advice you have helped me out alot LostAngel!!
It's alright, I remember when I was your age.. I had no one to go to..and no one seemed to understand my life. I started at this site when I was 14.. so I've been here on and off throughout the years.
It's okay to have feelings for your ex, it's the one who was your very first boyfriend (correct?) Just don't let these feelings crosspaths with Ben, he's your's now..and your his.
Rape is a serious thing, I would know.. because..well.. my ex almost raped me.. and I had to fight it off.. it isn't an easy thing to deal with..and it messes with your heart and emotional thinking as time goes on.
If you know this guy will do that to you, I would back away from him..and stay far away from him as possible, you do not need that. That's someone who is selfish and just wants one thing, and doesn't think of the outcome of the situation.
Just rememeber you're only 13, you don't need to be dating at this age.. stay young as possible.. because before you know it you'll be outta high school with adult decisions.. and you'll wish you were a kid again.
Do you want the baggage of so much heartbreak when you're 19 and 20, and you go look back as say to you're self "WOW, I am only 19 and I already dated (X amount) of guy in the last 6-7 years.." That's a lot to carry on when you get older.
I know you will make the best decision, you sound as a very bright girl who is just very confused.
I am here for you, if you need anything. It's alright. :)
Where do exactly to insert penis into vagina. Ww are married and our ages are 26 and 24
It sounds to me as if you're ages are 16 and 14, because at the age of 24 and 26.. you should well aware of how to insert a penis inside a vagina.
how do i ask a guy out without asking him...hinting him to ask me??
Why wait? Why don't you just ask him out instead?
Im 13 and i have been dating this guy for 3 months now and he says that he wants to have sex. I told him that i do want to but i am just scared that it will hurt or i wont be any good. He said that he will never try to hurt me but it wll hurt for my first time. He said that he will wear a condom and not try to go too fast or hard. But condoms dont always work and so the thing that i want to know is that should i have sex with him? And what if the condom breaks i really do not need baby at 13 i already get picked on enough right now! I just dont want it to break and i feel like if i dont have sex with him he will leave me and i DO NOT want him to leave me!
What do you think I should do? I hope you can help me out as much as possible! thnx i appreciate it
Okay.. you're 13.. you're too young and not mature enough to hold an adult experience like sex.
You're asking us if you should have sex with him, which CLEARLY states that you aren't ready.
Every guy says the spiel of "Oh I won't hurt you..I'll wear protection..." blah blah. Don't fall for it.
You are clearly smart to know you can not handle a baby at 13, and I have very proud that you can admit that at your age and that you know the effects of sex at your age.
If he leaves you because you didn't have sex with him.. clearly it shows that he just wanted sex from you.
Put it to the test, and keep your morals and respect for yourself.. tell him no, if he stays than yes, he could be a really good guy down the road.. but if you say no, and he leaves.. then clearly he just wanted you for sex.
i do love my boyfriend but i still like my ex and well it doesnt help much when your ex is at your school and rides your bus! I know i have boyfriend and yes ill get over him but right now hes in my heart right with my boyfriend!
It sounds like right now your heart is with your ex, more than it may be with your boyfriend..
yes it is bad.. but as long as you focus on your boyfriend.. that you should be fine. :)
hi my name is emma i am 13 and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me what do i do
You're 13..
One, you're too young.
Two, you're asking us what to do..which clearly states that you are not ready.
Three, tell him that you are only 13 and you aren't ready.
At 13, you shouldn't be sleeping around and what not's. You're still a child, continue to do child/young teenage things. Don't try to grow up to fast. When your ready to have sex, you will know you are ready. Sex is an adult thing.
If you need anymore things, feel free to inbox me one.
how can i tell if a guy likes me??? he always hugs me , holds me from behind, make me laugh , but i cant tell if he likes me or not. i mean i like him and i make it easy for him to figure it out... but get this he already went out. 2 years ago.idk there is just something about him and i dont want to ask him because what if he doesnt im going to feel real dumb!!!!! what should i do ???
thx xoxox
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One, can you speak proper english and not "eye decay my bee eff eff jill" lingo.
Two, what is "but get this he already went out. 2 years ago." Is that suppose to be "he" or "we"?
Three, it sounds like he likes you, but again he can also be a player..because obviously you said yourself that you make it obvious.. and if he plays these cards.. and he knows you like him..and he wants to "lead" you on, then I say forget him.
kay so.... I have a crush on my best guy friend, and he knows.... But the problem is that he's never had a girlfriend.... How do I get him to notice me as more than his best friend?
You can't make someone like you, it comes naturally to them.
Also, Speaking from experience, dating a best friend can be risky..because most of the time.. when the relationship dies, so does the friendship.
Be careful, best of luck.
I met this guy during my vacation in Europe. We fell in love right away because we have the same interest and we are both loyal and devoted when it comes to relationships. We were inseparable for 3 months of my stay in Europe. He already introduced me to his family and stayed to his place a lot of times. When it was time for me to come back to my homeland in Asia, I found out that I was pregnant. We were both happy and promised each other that we will be together soon in the future and that he will be with me when I give birth. We're both so excited for the baby. Although sometimes, we have misunderstandings too because of long distance relationship. Until one night (18 weeks of pregnancy), he told me that there's one time it came to his mind that maybe he is not the father of my child cause I have lots of friends in Europe who are guys. And he one time read into my facebook account that one of my closest friends told me that he wants to have sex with me. But I assure him that I never had sex with anyone else during my stay in Holland and that I was not meeting my friends anymore when I met him, which is so true. He was really sorry that he told this to me and promised me that he will not hurt me anymore. He said that he knows he's the father of the child but he can't just help it thinking about my guy friends. But I am really hurt and I didnt expect it that he will say that to me. I told him that it is the worst thing I've ever heard and that I can never forget it. I want to break up with him because I cant accept it that he thought like that to me, and I felt sorry for my baby that his father once doubt that he's not his. But I love him so much. What is the right decision to make? Thanks in advanced.
Follow your heart, and do what you heart says is best for you and your child. This decision should be truly your choice.. because down the road you don't want to regret losing him or staying with him when your unhappy all because of people on an advice website said.
In my opinion, it sounds he is just sounded a tad jealous of your other guy friends, and that's all.
As I said.. follow your heart, only you know what is best for you and your child.
Best of luck.
So my friend asked this guy if he would go out with me && were both 11 ,he said he doesn't think he's ready for a girlfriend and maybe he might go out with me.He stares at me sometimes .Idk What do u think it means when he said maybe?
You're 11 years old.. be a kid. Do you really want to grow up that fast? When I was 11.. I was outside playing sports and being a child..
I didn't worry about dating until my senior year of high school, besides do you really want baggage when your 19-20 years old.. "oh I have been dating for almost 10 years now.."
Do you really want to look back down the road and see how many heart breaks you have had?
As for future reference, you're 11 years old. You do not belong on this sight until your 13.
My mom said to stay away from the guy I like. I told him she said that and now he is staying away from me. We used to be best friends.What do I do? I am 12 years old and I am a girl.
You are 12 years old. Mom always knows best, though I know you don't want to hear that. Your also too young to be dating and obviously this kid has brains to respect your mother's orders. Maybe overtime you can talk to your mom about talking to him again if you go so long without talking to him.. she can maybe see you can handle a friendship with him.
But again your 12, don't try to rush into something. Down the road you don't want so much baggage of old boyfriends and 10,000 heartbreaks.
I want to break up with my girlfriend but she is still very much in love with me. We have had a conversation and are currently on a no contact break for a few days. She thinks i'll regret it and don't fully appreciate what we have (She's my first girlfriend but she's had a couple before). I do really care about her and hate hurting her. When she tells me how much she loves me, and how she doesn't want to lose me, I really struggle as it makes me love her (how many people are we going to have love us in such a way in our lives?!) and so I really doubt whether I am doing the right thing.
Our relationship isn't helped by me being away at university and when we're together, it is great. However, I really struggle when we keep going for weeks without seeing each other. I find I forget why I love her and find it frustrating.
I'm pretty sure I want to break up due to the way I have these doubts and how when we're apart, I start to become distant from her and not that interested. I just really don't want to hurt her or regret what i'm doing. Advice would be hugely appreciated.
I can completely understand, and long distance relationships are hard..especially being away at school. Explain to her what you feel, and tell her what you told us. Long Distance is a hard struggle and it isn't easy being that far apart for so long. Ask her maybe to be still friends, and see when the summer or school is done for both of you.. how you would feel in the future about perhaps getting back together, but for now to just remain friends as you are still long distance.
what the difference between a thong and a g string?
It's the same thing, just 2 different names.
A G-string (alternatively gee-string or gee string) is a type of underwear, a narrow piece of cloth, leather, or plastic, that covers or holds the genitals, passes between the buttocks, and is attached to a band around the hips, worn as swimwear or underwear by women and men. It is also a style of thong swimsuit whose rear area can become so narrow that it would disappear between the wearer's buttocks. The two terms G-string and thong are often used interchangeably; however, they can refer to distinct pieces of clothing. In Australia the term "G-banger" is often used.
well what if a guy has the balls to go flirt with another girl and hold her hand while you were dating him and trys to ignore you , is he trying to get me to dump him! >:(
My opinion is.. that he is done with whatever he had with you, and that you really weren't something to him.
Sorry if it's blunt, but you don't need a guy who does that.
tryin to get back with my ex they just wanna be friends for now theywasnt ready for a relatonship.They said dang back up and give it a rest, put a lil space there then maybe you will get the answers you are lookin for. whats that mean?
They are saying, back up a bit give them space and let them breathe a little.. give them time to think about how they feel and what they want. If you push it too far.. you are going to push them away for good. Give them 5-7 days without talking, and see where that leads.. start off as friends again..and work from there.
im 14
well, ive been dating my boyfriend Jonny for about 3 weeks now. & im not 'in love' with him. hes a sweet guy and everything, but im not in love with him like i thought i would have been. me and him went through so much to be togher :/ befor we dated he was my bestfriend. and i always went to him for all my guy problems, and like i cant help but think of other guys sometimes.
i really dont wanna lose him bc i really like him. like, is it a good thing that im not in love so early in the relationship? or should i end it befor it gets seriouse? :/
Your 14... you do not know what love is.. it takes a while for someone to know what love is, it's okay to date your best friend..
If you become in love so early in a relationship, your confusing lust with love.