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Heyy, Brittany here. I know how you feel. Yep, I've been through a lot of crap. I can totally help you through your problems, and will work long-term with people who need some major advice. Ask me ANYTHING and I promise you that I will come up with an answer. I wont be satisfied unless you are first. Reccommend me to your friends if you'd like. If you want to get in touch with me elsewhere, my e-mail and screen name are below. If you cant get me there...I am on my Myspace quite often. So drop me a message! I'll get back to you ASAP.

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hey brittany. i've really liked, no loved this guy for maybe over a year. i'm good friends with him. should i tell him my feelings? i mean if he says no, its gonna feel so awkward all the time, and i guess if he says yes it would be wonderful lol. i s'pose its all risk. just wondering but what would you do?

Hey.. do I know you? Anyway...
The best thing you could do is tell him...if he says no, just act as if nothing happened. Its not really a big deal how he reacts. Just ignore him. What, is he going to make fun of you for liking him? If anything he'll probably be flattered. I'd tell him. If you want, take some time to think about it.

hope this helped. =)

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You see, my girlfriend has these friends who are rather nosy. I dont like to really be an ass about it but it happens and it hurts her everytime. How do I tell her that I dont want her friends nosing around our relationship withouth her possibly getting mad?

16/m

First of all, you're not sixteen. Second of all, your girlfried agrees that her friends are nosy, but would rather not have you talk to them. You see, this could result in a fight. These happen OFTEN. So just forget your girlfriend even HAS friends and go back to life before the nosy friends interviened.

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i know that guys dont like clingy girls, and i know that guys dont like girls that are to "separated" if you know what i mean...so my question is...what is in between clingy and separated to where it is just right and the relationship will not fail due to this type of problem....and also in that "just right state," how does the person act?

If you dont want to be clingy, but you want to be close your boyfriend, make HIM want to be close with YOU. Just try leaving him alone for a few days, and make him talk to you. If not, you could always do this...when he asks you to call him, just tell him you will call him in a few minutes...you're busy. Or just tell him you'll call later. Dont make it seem like you're obsessed with talking with him. Also, when you're on the phone with him, you be the one to tell him that 'you have to go' some of the time. He will like to know that you have a life outside of him. Some guys DO like clingy girls because it makes them seem like they are important and wanted.

hope this helped. you can ask me anymore questions if you'd like =D

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Me and my boyfriend had a massive argument and he hit me. he has never done that before and he was really sorry and said he loves me i broke up with him and he wants me back should i go back to him or move on.

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I wouldnt go back out with him if I were you. This time its an 'I'm sorry, I love you...forgive me...' But that means nothing. He could do it again and again and again. I think you should just move on...you could do so much better than a boyfriend that is abusive.

hope this helped! Good luck, and ask me any more questions if you'd like. =D

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ok i liked this guy for the longest time i have 3 more days of school left after that i have no way of seeing him over the summer i dont want to directly ask him out or have a friend to i want him to come to me cause i dont want to get crushed if i do. we have one class together and our lockers are by eachother. we talk to eachother like once a month but on friday i gave him a sucker so those are the things that give us a little conection. how do i get him to like me?

I must admit, it wont happen over night. You dont know how he feels about you, so it could be an easier task than you think. When you see him, try getting him to sign your yearbook (if you usually do that) and ask him to put his screen name or something that yuo can get in touch with him with. He wont think its wierd...just say that you want to stay in touch with people from school over the summer. He'll agree..I know he will. Then just gradually start talking to him online. You can flirt online and people wont even know it...so try some of that. He'll grow on you, just dont get TOO attached to the point you're talking to him every single day.

Good luck! Hope this helped...you can ask me anymore questions if you'd like. =D

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ok so i was talkin to my ex n he told me to listen to a song n thats what he wants in life....the song is swing life away by rise against.....the he IMed me n said "we live on front porches and swing life away"...anybody know what the song means or what that verse above means?
thanks

OHHH I LOVE THAT SONG WITH A PASSION. Lol, sorry for the outburst. Well, the song means that you are careless about life, and you live it to the fullest. The continuation of that part of the song is "we get by just fine here on minimum wage. If love is a labor I'll slave to the end. I wont cross these streets until you hold my hand." Its talking about living life with the one you love, and not caring what anyone else thinks. Not listening to society and doing things the way you want it. Its a song about independance.

Anymore questions and you can come to me if you'd like. =D Hope this helped.

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Okey, so i dont really know what i need help with, i just needed to talk to someone. Im soo sick of appearance being everything! Last summer, i got a makeover at a beauty salong..and the week after that i met a couple of friends that i hadn't seen for a while..
And now, im gonna see them again..and they've told everyone they know that im coming and that im really hot and stuff..so everyone is gonnna be expecting me to be gorgeous!! And im really not, i wont afford going to that beauty salong again :S and ive gotten fatter since then..and my hair is messed up, and my teeth are yellow :( im soo freaking out at the moment..i mean i dont wanna let my friends down..theyve gotten more popular since everyone is hanging out with them so they'll introduce them to me..
And imm not gonna be hot anymorwe :( they're gonna hate me, and im gonna hate myself. theres no way i can get hott in 2 weeks, or is there?

Thank you for choosing me to answer your question. =D
First off, I want to say that you really shouldnt care about what people think about you. If they really are your friends, then they wont care what you look like...they'll care about who you are. Thats what a real friend is. They most likely wont care what you look like, but just incase, I will try to help you. About your weight...it depends on how soon you are going to see your friends. You could go jogging on your free time. Jogging is a lot of fun if you take your iPod or something with you. You could do 500 crunches everyday before you see your friends...it really works well. Also, if you get any magazines, they have tips on how to work out...and sometimes have yoga moves for you. If you dont have any mags, then try getting some from people you know. About your hair...you dont need to go to the most expensive salon. You can find quality anywhere. If you still cant get your hair done, try something new. You can deffinatly get your hair looking good. Think of a new hairstyle or something like that. If you have money, you can go to the closest CVS or something and buy some stuff...like do it yourself highlights that your mom or friend can help you with. Your teeth can be fixed within a week. Again, if you have money or can get money, Crest White Strips work SO well. Within the next day my teeth were much whiter.
If you cant get the look that you want, just do your best. Your friends shouldnt care what you look like. If you arent comfortable with your apperance, then draw the attention to your personality.

Hope this helped. Come to me if you have anymore questions...I'd appriciate it. =D

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Okay, I am really confused!! A lot of guys at my school always talk to each other about how they are SO in love with me. But not one of them has asked me out at all during the whole year. And in class, all they do is gawk at me. I don't get it!

They probably just like you for your looks. Dont let them get to you...they're just being typical boys.
hope this helped. =D

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two guys tried to rape my gf when we were walking from a party. so i was in a fight with them, i knew it was a stupid move; i was out matched and out numbered, but i had to. well i manage to take one down and the other i guess just give up, but i took a good few hits, my ribs and face is like bruised up, and now my gf feels really bad about it, like it was her fault, how can i make her feel less guilty, and tell her that i dont care about a few hits in exchange for her safty? shes really sad and i that hurts more then any physical injury

Let me just say I think you're an awesome boyfriend for protecting your girlfriend like that. Thats amazing!!! But as for the guilt part, I think that any girl would feel that way. She's just worried and really cares about you. If shes still going on about the guilt thing, then just keep telling her that you would never let her get hurt, and you'd do anything for her. She thinks its sweet, and she loves it. BELIEVE me. Even if she dosent come off that way I know she'll be thinking it.

hope this helps. =D

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Hi,
I like this guy that one of my friends are going out with and she really likes him. I don't know what to do .should I be selfless and let her be happy or should I put my self first and take a chance on braking them up and losing a friend?

dont break them up! she is you friend!!! thats total betrayl! your friend would want you to be happy for her. YOU NEVER choose a guy over your friends...its trechery. find a new guy...even if u do break them up, he might not like you anyway...so you would have done it for nothing...and yet ur friend would still be mad at you.

good luck...=D

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This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.

Thanks!

girls hate it when a guy calls them 'hott' to their faces. it makes them feel disrespected and low. things you should say to make them feel wanted are like. you are beautiful...pretty...gorgeous...amazing...etc. make them feel like they really are loved and respected.

hope this helped. =D good luck

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Hey everyone, I was just wondering, I've never really just 'hooked-up' with a guy, meaning the only relationships I've been in, they had something serious part of it. I've never done friends with benefits. I was wondering what are your views on fwb and 'hook-ing/up' like what are the outcomes? benefits? feelings for one another? thanks in advance, i rate well. :--)

ok, friends with benefits is exactly how it sounds. FRIENDS with benefits. there will never be a relationship if he was the one that asked you. he just wants some ass from you without having to commit to anything. FWB is a very bad idea, and it can get you into trouble aka sex=child=life ruined. if he dosent love you then he can end up hurting you.

hope this helped. think about it...

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i've been dating my boyfriend for seven months. he lives in the neighborhood next to mine, so i see him almost every day (besides the days he goes to his mom's house in chicago). he's been drifting away from me lately, and he's starting baseball tomorrow and my volleyball's getting more time consuming. how can i let go of him without like losing all interest of our relationship? help! thanx =)

well, since you both have to do sports, and are dedicated to it, why dont you both agree to come to each others games?? When you have games scheduled on the same day, that would be a problem, but try going to each others games and cheer for each other =D Also, since you have been dating for 7 months, which is a long time, then maybe you could go with him to his mothers house with him? Ask him if he could get permission. Tell him that you want to spend more time with him.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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ughhh
my boyfriend smokes pot and i HATE it...i have really strong feelings about it b.c of certain things from my family // well i want him to stop and he promised me he would, he did it once and i wasnt so mad then he did it at this party that i went to! i dont want him to think im trying to control his life i just dont want to associate with people who do pot and i dont like to see him hurting himself like that...im scared to talk to him about it b.c i dont have enough strenght after everything that happened in my family...well, what can i do - leave your screen name for AIM if possible !

i know how you feel! one of my best friends had a boyfriend that smoked pot, and she asked him to stop. threaten him with your relationship if you need to, show him pictures of what happens to your body when you smoke. Its NOT a pretty picture. my friends boyfriend quit, but soon after he started again and they broke up. if he really loves you then he would please you. its helping him too!!

hope this helped. Aim me at TeaRMYPapeRWingS

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while and we really want to have sex like early this month but I always get my period in this beginning of the month and we both don’t want to wait. Can you have sex on your period..have any of you ever done that before. Is it safe?I rate 5’s.

yes, you could have sex during your peroid. it would be a mess, but bring that to your boyfriend...he may just not know. Dont surprise him with a bloody mess, lol. also, you cant get pregnant when having your peroid.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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Okay I was hanging out with this one guy tonight.. We went driving around and then we went over to his co-workers house to play some games.. Well things "happened" i should say.. But.. there is one problem.. He has a GF!!!!!!!! I dont know what to do. I like him a lot and he says he likes me more than ne thing.. and then he was telling me what he feels when he is with me. then I asked him if he felt the same way with his gf and he said no.. I dont know what to do.. PLEASE help!!!

if you really like him, and he really likes you, then he would dump his girlfriend. if he dosent feel anything with her, and he feels with you...that is a real connection, and i think that he should be with you rather than be with someone that he DOSENT like. ask him. pressure him into saying what he is going to do about it. you shouldnt be stuck in the situation, he should. you dont have the girlfriend/boyfriend, he does. dont be afraid to ask. =D

i hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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Can someone define the diffrence between love and being in love...anything corny is fine! Or could you define love itself.

Oh and is it possible to find love at any age? 15?

Love is just like saying 'i love you!' to your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Being IN LOVE is like really meaning 'i love you', like an intimate and soulful thing that you say to your soulmate, your lover. the person you want to be with for the rest of your live. it has a lot more meaning than just 'love'.

it IS possible to find love at 15 years, but it is difficult to know if you are in love. if you are in love, then the person you are in love with would say the same to you. if you do have a boyfriend, then try finding out if they feel the same way about you. you dont want to say that you are 'IN LOVE' if the other person isnt. i dont want to insult you in ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM, but they may get eeked out. dont be afraid to ask if he feels the same. everyone can make mistakes.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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well there is this guy...he tells me that he likes me but he always uses the excuse "i dont want a girlfriend right now" i really like him and i have for 2 years now...am i suppose to just forget about him? i dont know what to do i could really use some help...thanks

that is pathetic!!! if he likes you then he OBVIOUSLY would want you as his girlfriend!!! talk to him. ask him why he dosent want a girlfried, and yet he LIKES YOU. be flattered that he likes you, but keep your options open. look for new guys, and if one shows up...dont feel guilty about this other boy liking you. Its HIS FAULT that he missed his shot. =D

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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ok well there's this guy and he likes me and 3 of my other friends and he's obsessed w/ me and i don't mean to sound conceited but its so annoying and all he talks to me about is how hot i am and one of his favorite lines to say online is "you love me wut?" and he always does this and he's always like "i want you hardcore on the bathroom in the shower" and stuff like that and its really sickening and i want him to stop..but i mean he's one of my friends..and i hate when he does that..and he's just the most annoying person ever..and i'm sick of him saying that stuff..but i don't know how to say it..how should i tell him that he's so annoying and i want him to stop saying that kind of stuff to me..?

thats disgusting. even if he is your friend, i suggest that you do something about his way of speaking to you. HE IS TOTALLY DISRESPECTING YOU!!! if he liked you he wouldnt make you feel uncomfortable like this. tell him that. tell him that if he cared about you that he would respect you and what you want for yourself. if you DONT want to even be his friend, then really give it to him. just push him away if you need to, he shouldnt be like that.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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ok. theres this boy in my 2nd block class and i have never talked to him before, although i think hes waay hott. sometimes whenever the teacher says something funny or they play some weird music on the bulletin, we always turn around and look at each other and laugh. its like we have known each other for a long time and we're friends...but we have never talked before! The other night I dreamt that he talked to me and the next day he actually did talk to me for the first time! i joined in on the conversation he was having with my friend. he didn't say much to me, because I hadn't said very much, but it was a start. i don't know why though me and him look at each other a lot! and we laugh too! we don't even know each other, hes a complete stranger to me, but when he do that and look n laugh, i feel like i've known him forever! my friends think he likes me...is that even possible? i'm terribly sorry this is soo long! i'll rate VERY good i promise! sorry again!

~ Wondering if there's a "connection" ~

thats really cute!!! that has actually happened to me before also. I dont want to get your hopes up, because he may just want to be your friend...but if your friend says she/he thinks he likes you...then i'd say he probably does!!! Just try talking to him more, like you are doing. Try making it possible for you to sit near him in class(es), and find out his AIM sn or email. Thats always a good way to talk because you can say anything you want online. Its a LOT easier! I DO think it is possible that he likes you. Maybe he is thinking the same thing...'does she like me???' he may just be shy and not want to look like a fool. if you make the first move, then he may get more comfortable with you =D.

hope i helped!!! good luck ;-D

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