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E-mail: smithy000@hotmail.com
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Location: Victoria, Australia
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Age: 17
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Member Since: September 14, 2004
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I love my boyfriend so so so much but he's kinda insensitive and he's always busy or wont give me a reason why he doesn't want to meet up or anything. He talks more to my friend (who's in all his classes) and his ex girlfriend (she doesn't live near but he texts her all the time.) I don't want to break up with him even though I know he doesn't love me but I can't keep on crying over him every night..what should I do? (link)
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If he is so distant and you barely talk, and he appears to never want to see you, and he's insensitive, perhaps you should break up with him. You might love him heaps, but you don't deserve to go throug all that, and you shouldnt cry every night over him, because that means your not happy with your relationship. Talk to him first though, tell him how you feel and what you've seen and thought, and give him a chance before you break up with him. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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Im 16 and madly in love with my boyfriend. We have been dating for over a year. The only thing is that he doesnt know that im in love with him. He does know that i care about him soo much.I have been wanting to tell him for the longest time that im in love wit him but i just dont know how. We can be jokin around and he will say sumthing and then i will say yea love ya to. and he just says you dont love me. His cuz even told me that he said he loved me but he wont tell me. I just want to kno how i can tell him b.c i want him to know. plz help! (link)
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You just need to say it, sometime when your both alone, with no distraction when your just together, you know those real peaceful moods where ur just kicking back with each other and talking and stuff? just say it then, just go "(his name here), I love you, more then you know" and kiss him. If he loves you he'll say it back, but in his own words. Hope it all goes good for you.
Good Luck :-)
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i like this guy but i alwayse make excuses not to see him. I broke up with my last boyfriend, and it was really bad. I think i'm just scared this new guy will hurt my feelings again. What should i do? (link)
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Don't be scared, thats the only thing you should do. If your scared of this guy hurting you, then your going to be scared of all guys if you don't get with him. It may sound weird, but it's true. It's like when your riding a horse, if you get bucked off, you should get right back on, because if you don't your fear will just keep growing, and you'll find it harder and harder to get back onto a horse as time goes by. So you should get with him if you like him, don't be scared, it's true, he may hurt your feelings, but it's all apart of life, and we all just need to accept the good with the bad.
Good Luck :-)
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Hey,its me again with another problem so here goes. Well Ive been seeing this great guy named Luis. I've know him for a long and I really like him but the problem is that he lives about an hour away from me but he has been visiting me at least once a week and everything is great. But the problem is that theres another guy named Jessie who I've known for a long time also but all of a sudden I feel happy and sometimes when its really cold in the mornings he gives me his sweater or hugs me when I'm cold wich is now giving me second thoughts about Luis. Because I know that I really like Luis but i don't know what to do about Jessie. Please help A.S.A.P. (link)
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Well you have to figure out wether you like Luis more of Jessie. If you like them the about the same, I would go for Jessie, just on the fact that you see him more often and he'll be there more for you then Luis. But if you like Luis to much, then stay with him, because it'll mean your just playing Jessie around when you really like Luis. So depending on your situation, its rather Jessie or Luis. Hopefully whoever you choose is the right choice for you.
Good Luck :-)
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ok im not a player or a guy that cheats i have friends taht are attracted to me.I always end up having sex with them i wanna know because after i have sex with them they get attached and they think there going out with me, or think i like them a lot and when they find out i had sex with other gurls they get all jealous wat should i do
should i stay with one out of all?
or should i just stop listening to my little head ?
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Dude, no offence, but that IS what a player is. Your getting around to all these girls, just having sex with them and then moving onto the next. You really need to choose one otherwise sooner or later you'll be getting a bad reputatoin, and no girl will trust you in a relationship. So pick one that you like, and stay with her, prove to everyone your not the player they think you are, because thats all they're getting jealous over. Pick one, stay with her awhile, and you'll be alright.
Good Luck :-)
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ok, my boyfriend of 3 years wants to go into the army for about 4 or 5 years. i was just wondering, is there any chance of him getting hurt,dying,etc? b/c if there is..i cant let him go. please help me. ill rate high. (link)
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Of course when anyone goes into the army there's always a chance that they're going to be hurt. But I doubt he'll be hurt badly, like death or sumthing, maybe a few bruises n scars, but thats about it. In this day and age the army is pretty good and the warms arent all that intense anymore, and if your on the winning side it's pretty good chance you'll be totally fine. So if he wants to join the army, let him, but make sure you still see each other otherwise it could effect your relationship.
Good Luck :-)
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I'll rate everyone who answers this question!
I met this guy through a friend. We all hung out one day and it was really fun. I got his screen-name and we talked online and I thought he was so cool. Then we got to hang out again at the mall and I found out that him and my friend are dating. I was happy for them but kinda bummed because I was starting to like him. Then my friend's parents said they could not go out because he wasint white. So their broken up, but still really good friends. My friend said I could try to go out with him since she knows I like him. I might try and go out with this guy. Thing is, I have no clue if he likes me. He says I'm pretty and he says I'm funny. I just dont know if he likes me more on a boyfriend-girlfriend level. Should I keep talking to him, and wait till he says something? Or should I just be like "I like you!" I'm confused on what I should do because I've never have wanted to go out with a guy. Sure I've had crushes, but go out with them..nope! Oh yeah, he still likes my friend. But I think he's open to another relationship. (Hopefully with me) Any advice would be helpful. And I'll rate everyone who answers:-D
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Wait just a bit longer, if he doesn't come out and say anything, tell him how you feel, because you dont want to be waiting around forever for him to say something first. Wait a little bit, then tell him, you never know what he may feel for you, he might like you but is scared that being with you may hurt your friend. So talk to him and tell him. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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so me n my bf broke up cuz i was grounded for like a month n he was sick of not bein able to c me. so anyway we r still friends and he invited me to his house this weekend. the problem is...everytime even now when he invites me somewhere i cant go cuz one time wen we were goen out i did something with him .. if uk what i mean .. and my mom found out. we had this whole fight about trust. so ne way i want to prove to him i can hang out so maybe well be bf n gf again but im afraid shell so no..which she prob will. HELPPPP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Just try telling her your going to his place. She probably just thinks your to young, but prove to her your not. Tell her she can trust you, and that you really like this guy and you want to be together, just basically explain your case to her. When your finished, say something like "I just thought i'd tell you what was happening so I wasn't going around your back and you didn't yell at me" or something, send her on a little guilt trip, when your finished just walk away and go to your room, she'll say yes shortly after. Just try it, hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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Well, ok my b/f moved to Oregon like 1 month ago and we are still goin out..coming up on our 11month anniversary. I miss him sooo much and i dont know what to do. There's this guy at my new skool that likes me and i donno if i like him...but i kinda flirt with him. I think that i do that cuz i miss flirtin with my b/f..even though me n my b/f talk every night..my heart aches all the time. I really donno what to do..i love him and yet we are so far apart. I dont wanna loose him :`( (link)
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I know long distant relationships are really hard, but you need to go and see each other. If theres just to long between each time you see ecah other, perhaps it'll be best if you had a break, i know it'll hurt you both, but long distant relationships are extremely hard, and sometimes better if they just don't happen unless your both totally commited to it working, which if you havent seen each other for a month it doesnt seem either of you are actually looking at your relationship very hard. So take a step back, have a look at your relationship, and see if it's worth it. Hope I helped, if you want anymore help, post me a message.
Good Luck :-)
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I really like this guy... lets call him M. Well M is SO incredibly nice, and hes cute and funny too! We're good friends, so he's usually easy to talk to. I wanna talk to him, about being more than friends though, because I really like him... Well, everytime I go to talk to him, I can't. I guess he intimidates me because he's so GREAT. How do I approach him without seeming nervous or unconfident? (link)
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Breathe...walk up to him, take a deep breathe and spit it out. If you really like him you really need to tell him how you feel, if you don't your always going to be wondering. But if you can't seem to get the courage to tell him face to face, try writing a letter, might seem childish, but a letter is always good, and it works. Just get your feelings across to him and you'll be alright. Everyone gets nervous so you just need to push yourself a little harder. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective? (link)
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It seems like trust issues are coming in. This is a very awkward time cause it can mean many things, and i won't lie to you, their not all good. Ive noticed this happens when rather a boyfriend is trying to find an easy way out of a relationship, or he's just really starting to get into the relationship and has realised what a great person you are, and he doesnt want to lose you. It is mostly the second one though, so i wouldnt worry, theres nothing you can really do to sort it out quickly, it will just dissolve away over a short period of time, dont't worry, it'll all end up for the best. Good Luck :-) (P.S. A Kiss followed by a sweet smile always goes along way, especially to do with trust, try it out)
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this guys at my school is so cute and funny and really awsome and nice, and i really like him.we're like best friends and people think he likes me which is great cuz i like him so we cold hook up or something...anyways the problem is i don't know how to tell him how i feel because i'm afraid he'll react badly to the situation and get all weird with me..how can i make sure none of that will happen and still know if he likes me? (link)
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If he likes you, and you've heard off everyone that he likes you, and YOU like him, go for it, just get alone somehow and tell him how you feel, being direct is the best way. If your best friends, just tell him, don't worry about making things weird, cos they will be for a short time, maybe a week, but things will get back to normal as quick as they got to weird, so dont worry. Tell him how you feel, and i'm sure you'll go far. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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hey, im wondering what kinds a girls do guys like and what kinds a things make guys want girls any advice u can givewill b greatly appreciated thanks : )
**hailey** (link)
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Every guy has their different "ideal" girl, so its quite hard to determine wat kind of girls guys like, but i know what we don't like. Altho it may not seem like it, guys absolutly HATE "fake" girls, those girls that go around trying to be 'all that' when their not, some guys like chicks like these, bu they're usually the stupid self-centered assholes, but guys like a chick that is...basically herself, one thats not going around trying to impress every1. Just be yourself and guys will like you, dont worry.
GOod Luck :-)
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I've had my boyfriend for about 2 weeks now. In the beging, we could never get enough of each other. We would sit by each other constantly, at lunch and everything, and now we don't even sit by each other at lunch.
I went to a movie today, I tried to get close but all he did was put his foot closed to mine. Though I was greatful for that.
He sometimes seems to be annoyed with some of the stuff I do, but then later it seems like he's happy with me again. And he gives me hugs and stuff all the time, (we're too young to kiss, even though we have! lol)
Well, I think I need to give him his space. We see each other in 5 of our classes, and we spent the whole weekend together the other weekend, and we call each other/talk online constantly. I think we're getting into a little too much of each others buisness.
So my question is, do you think I should give him his space, or do you think something else is wrong? Thank you.
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I think you should definatly give him his space. It appears that you have gone into this relationship to fast, you've only been together for 2 weeks and it seems like your spending TOO much time with each other, and your probably to young for a relationship that intense. So back off from each other a little, give each other a bit of space, and you'll end up fine.
Good Luck :-)
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okay.. i like this guy.. and me and him have been flirting since school started.. well.. i found out the other day he wants to go out with me and im totally happy.. and i was going to.. but then i got on my bus and i asked my friend if she knew him.. so that she could help with the hook up.. and she was like.. "oh.. hes my ex.. do you talk to him?" and i was like.. "yea... i met him this year.." and she was like.. "but you dont like him right?" and i casualy changed the subject but i do.. and then she asked me to ask him why he broke up with her.. and to hook them back up.. i dont know what i should do.. because i liked him before i knew that my friend did.. pLeAsE help! (link)
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Don't worry about your friend, if you like him and he likes you then get together, if your friend can't handle that then she isnt much of a friend. She'll be happy for you, jealous, but happy. If she still doesn't accept it just admit that he liked you, not her, and thats the way it is. Hope it all turns out good for you.
Good Luck :-)
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ok me and my gf r goin on 3 months........thas my longest relationship and shes the first person ive eva said i love u to and.....she talks bout her ex bf ALOT it seems like every convo we have is bout him.....and then when we r around each other she neva wants to get close i have to sit next to her and kiss her and stuff like tha.......n e ways this had happened a couple times and i need sum opinions......should i break up w/ her or wait it out and see wut happens.....i dont know wut to do...i still love her but it hurts when she talks bout her ex and ive asked her to stop but she doesnt.....n e ones opinion helps.......thanx (link)
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Hate to say it buddy, but i think your best off breaking up with her before you get hurt even more. If she keeps talking about her ex, then she probably still has strong feelings for him. If you don't break it off, your going to get hurt by her, because she will most likely get back with her ex. I'm sorry if this sounds nasty, but it's the truth. Hope it all turns out for the best...whatever that may be.
Good Luck :-)
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Its almost 1 year for me and my bf and I have noo clue what to get him. Hes 14. Any suggestions? (link)
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A good idea for a 1 year is a silver braclet, one with a bit where you can engrave something on it, just get a little message engraved (im sure you can think of something good) and it'll be fine. It's always a good gift. Good Luck :-) oh, and congratulations lol.
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ok me and my boyfriend broke up and we still say "i love you" but then one day he got really mad at say he never wanted to talk to me again..but then he called me 3 dayz later and was talkin to me (that night he called and said sorry about sayin that!) then the last couple of nights he wouldnt hang up til we said "i love you" like he would just say "bye" til i said it then last night i said bye and he goes "bye shut up you know what to say" ...but then he used to tell me about missin out on some other girl...so whats his deal ..can someone tell me or explain his game to me!!...SORRY SOOO LONG!!
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Hate to be the one to break it to you, but he's playing you. Guys have this thing about thinking when a girl says "i love you" to him that he's got her around his little finger, and i think that's all it is. You just need to stop saying it, and hang up on him. If you keep saying it to him and letting him twist his way through your mind, he's always going to think that your at his every command. Just hang up. Good Luck :-)
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ok me n my x broke up i still like him and he acts like he still likes me. the prob is..he has a reputation of cheating on ppl before n hes sorta a player. anyway, hes wicked nice n we r friends but he invited me to go to the mall tommorow n idk if i shud go cuz ik wed just do stuff like other times and i wudnt wanna go just to giv him stuff..its not worth it. but i like him too..ikd help (link)
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I think you should go with him, if he tries to pull a move or ask you to do anything just say no, if he still persists, walk off on him. If your really worried, by all means take a friend, or go as a group n get more people. Dont do anything you don't want to do, but i you like him, then at least go to the mall with him, you'll be fine. Good Luck :-).
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well.. I'm finally with Kevin. We've been together a little over 2 weeks. The more I'm with him. The more I fall in love with him. and I'm really comfortable around him. and I really love him. I don't know what to do. because like in school we hardly see each other. Im a senior.. and hes a freshman. hes suppose to be a Sophomore but he got in a lot of trouble. But yeah ne way.. we see each other in the hall way.. and we say hi.. but thats about it.. Then after school he has football practice. Then after that he goes with his friend.. and I absolutley hate him. It seems like he never has time for me.. and I talk to him all the time. and am usually with him every night. and Tonight is the first night I havent been with him or talked to him. and he tells me all the time he loves me.. but.. I'm afraid hes... I dunno.. falling outta love with me.. or planning to break up with him.. What should I do? I really dont want to lose him. I really do care about him alot.. :( Help someone!!
Sorry soo long. (link)
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From what it sounds like, it's the same as most guys. Guy's just have trouble handling everything, and just because we go and have football practice or go out with a mate doesn't mean we're falling in love. You need to accept that he has a life of his own, you've only been together for 2 weeks, he's just trying to do everything, after a little while longer he'll realise that he can't and you'll see each other alot more. Don't worry, this is just a normal start to a relationship, it'll get better. Good Luck :-) (P.S. If you always talk, then he isnt falling out of love for you)
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