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Candace Rae- the topic of everyone's coversations. Keep my name in your dome & out of your mouth. :] My parents were blessed on March 31st, 1994. I'm 13 years young, but I stride to act mature but it's not usually easy. I'm a good time. I'm a learning wakeboarder and my longest record of staying on the board is 13 seconds. WOOHOO! My second home is the soccer field, no lie. If I'm listening to hip-hop/rap/r&b I'm usually happy. Try to take my music away from me & see what happens. I can't stand people who haven't listened to 2 minutes of my music & assume it's negative. I will speak my mind until I knock some sense into them. Anyways I live in New England so I'm at the beach A LOT. Don't be stupid and ask if I live in England because I will tell you to pay more attention in geography class. I'm the type of girl who'd wear Red Sox clothes to a Yankee Game. Now let's see you top that, biotch.

I have a problem with liars & ditchers. I also have a problem with people who diss soccer. Soccer is the national sport in every country except the United States. Yeah foo' I think that speaks for itself.

I love love love Dunkin Donuts. Yummy! Coconut iced coffee & Tropical Fruit Smoothies make my day. Speaking of things I love, Abercrombie and Fitch is definitely one of them. I have a Sidekick and I treat it like my baby. It comes with me everywhere and that's the way I like it. =)

Ima huge flirt & if I see a hot guy, I'll go up to them and say "I'd tap that, bang that, slap that." Haha I don't care. [:

I tend to cause a scene.... EVERYWHERE. =]

Ask me for advice, I promise I won't give you the answer you want to hear. I'll do my best to help you though.

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Anyone have any tips on getting more ungrossed out with doing stuff with a guy that involves his penis? Cause its not like i dont want to do stuff with him, its just like..i dont like penises. i find them gross. so we'll dry hump and grab/touch each other but i want to do more but i dont like the thought of touching his bare penis. can someone tell me how to get over that? thanksss. ill rate high!


It's obvious that you're either too young to be doing that stuff or mentally, you're just not ready. If that stuff grosses you out, why would you do it? Just wait until that kinda stuff DOESN'T gross you out, and that's when you know you're ready. Jeeze, just don't rush that kinda stuff. You want it to be enjoyable right? Not only for your boyfriend, but for YOU too. Wait please, you'll be thanking me one day.

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13/f hi, i'm in need of some help. well, firstly i like this guy and i've liked him since the 6th grade. i was very positive he liked me since then too.(i'm going to the 9th grade now) i didnt really start hanging out with him until 8th grade.(because i didn't even know his name in 6th grade, and he was on another team. then i went to stay with my mom in florida for 7th grade) well anyways, we became friends and all since he was in my class and his uncle was in my class in 6th grade... to the point now. He moved on october 6, 2006 and the last time i saw him was october 18, 2006. i talked to him on the phone about a month ago. and he's going to a different school than i am. currently, i am in florida with my mom for summer, and i have to choose which parent i want to live with for the next four years of highschool. if i lived with my dad i'd be closer to my guy and i'd have all my friends and i'd be going to a top school. if i stayed with my mom i'd have to meet new people all over again and i wouldn't be looking very forward to it since i don't have a very stable childhood. (i keep moving.) but i kind of want to meet some new people. and my mom is a female, so yeah. i've never really had a stable boyfriend, the longest was a week and that was in 5th grade the only time i've ever had a boyfriend! i'm rambling now sorry.
so here are my questions.
1.) should i call the guy again and ask if he likes me?
2.) where should i stay?


You're in a tough situation so I'll try my best to answer this...

1. You definitely should call that guy and see if he likes you. Why? Because if you've liked him for 3 years it's obvious that it's not just a "crush." I usually can't like a boy more than a WEEK! And if you choose to go with your mom, you won't have to regret not finding out how he feels. The worst that could happen is that he says no. Just call him up and ask!! If you move, you might not have that chance again.

2. I don't know what it's like where you live or the people you live near so I can't tell you where to go. It's up to you. Don't put this decision in my hands because it could effect your whole life... You should make a list and put the bad and good things about staying with your dad and the bad good things about staying with your mom. If you love your friends to death and can't see yourself being away from them, then maybe you should just stay with your dad. The boy you like should have nothing to do with your decision of staying or going because relationships don't usually last more than 6 months to a year and if you guys do go out, you're most likely going to break up so it's not worth basing your decision on him. I'm sorry to be negative, but it's the truth. Anyways.. do you wanna stay with the people you love or meet new people? Do you care about going to a top school or not? Ask yourself these questions. I understand what you mean about wanting to live with a female. It's easier to communicate and moms are more understanding about things. Okay, so really all I can say is follow your guts. If there's more good things than bad with staying with your dad, than stay with him and vice versa. Do NOT base your decision because of the guy. It's too big of a decision to base it on a boy that you don't even know if he likes you!

Just make that good things and bad things list. It really works.

If you need anything else just ask.

-Candace

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Hey Dudes & Dudettes ,

Is it possible to go out with your ex again ? After you like dated 3 times already..?? Because everyone tells me that me and my ex are so cute together and that hes the perfect guy for me.. and I was wondering because I still REALLY like him.. is there any ways to get him back ? Please help.

Thank you so much.

Betty.

Um, yeah you can go out with him again if you really want to and he likes you. If he still likes you I say go for it, unless he cheated on you. What made you guys break up? Did he cheat? Or did you cheat? Or did you guys just wanna be friends? If he cheated, he'll probably cheat again so don't go out with him again. But if he's trustworthy and you really like him a lot, sure go out with him. =) If you need to get him back make him jealous and kiss another guy in front of him. =)

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my boyfriends birthday is on july 2nd and he is 15 years old and i want to know what i can get him with $6.00 and i want it to be something special.


Uh, all you could afford is like 2 packs of gum. Not cool!

Yeah, you might as well make him something such as burning a cd with all of the songs you listen to together or songs he likes... Um, a little memory book with pictures and captions.. And that's about it haha.

I'm sorry but $6 wont get you much. =( Could you borrow money from someone? Or tell him you're sorry and you'll buy him something when you save up?

Merry Wednesday. :]

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Theres this boy, Brandon, he lives in foxboro mass. and i live in Westchester NY.

He days he loves me

Example on aim

"Brandon: I love ***** ***** [my name] more than anyone else in the world."

and he comments my myspace pictures/comments and facebook pics/ comments like

"now i see one gorgeous girl in this picturee "

"pshh can you say I see a gorgeous girl in the mirror?


he probably just thinks your hott and wants to bang you. he doesn't love you emotionally and want you as a fulltime girlfriend. probably as just a friends with benefits thing. also, are you sure he doesnt say that to other girls? because my boyfriend i thought only loved me, but i found out he says "i love you" and "your hot" to all his friends.. so don't just expect that he loves you. also long relationships dont always work out because you wont see eachother alot and you cant tell if they are cheating and you arent there to stop them. also, you cant drive 100 miles everytime you miss him. so theres kinda a downside to everything. i say you just stick to being his friend because he seems like a player. i could be wrong, but YOU have to make the decision and i can only guide you.

-much love

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15/m
riiight i need a bit of advice, girls your the only people who can help. i love my gf to bits but she keeps like having loads of mood swing i know the period n all that but its not that:S she keeps having loads of mood swings and everything is ok with her family and all that i dunno what it is. so girls do you get like this at times?? and if so why:S its personal yeh but i could realy do with the help. thanks very uch:)


it's not you she's pissed off about. it could be anything. maybe she's having a bad hair day, her mom forgot to wash the shirt she wanted to wear, she failed a test, her best friend is acting like a bitch... anything basically can make girls have moodswings. boys arent as emotional as girls which is a good thing and things bother girls more than boys. just dont mention it to her because she thinks its normal, which it is for girls. unless shes cutting herself and listening to screamo music, just let her be. kiss her and let her know you care, but dont butt into her business. just be the loving person that you are and she'll appreciate it.

=) you seem like such a nice boyfriend.

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I have a boyfriend and we've kissed and all. We've talked about how making out is with touching. We both agreed we want to and he says he likes to. He just hasn't done anything but the kissing part. I kinda want him to touch me more then he does but I don't know what to do and how do bring it up to him and if I should. Should I talk to him about it more? Or should I just leave it alone and have it happen on its own. By the way...we've been dating for about 6 months. And I still get butterflies about looking into his eyes. I really want to though.
What should I do?


if you start touching him a little bit he will start touching you. you can just straight out tell him where you want him to touch you or you could just guide his hands without talking.. if you're going to the movies you should see something REALLY scary so when you get scared you can like hug him and he'll wrap his arms around you and stuff.. 6 months is half a year and thats long enough so you can be open to him. communication is the key so let him know how far you wanna go.. he won't mind at all. =)

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okay so i have this best friend. hes a guy, and were like REALLY tight. i have a weird feeling that he likes me. once, he called me 13 times because he was "bored". we were online and hes like "im bored, im gonna call u" and i said "no im doing hw" but he called anyway and left all these funny messages. then, i texted him at like 2 am cause i was bored, and he says "whats up?" and i said "bored, im under-the-covers texting!' and he said 'ooooooh. sounds seexy." i laughed about it, but it was just really sudden to me. he even asked me to come to his house and swim, but i wasnt free. but does he like me??


yeah boys dont usually call girls that
many times unless they REALLY like that
girl. i say if you like him back, hang
out with him. kinda play hard to get but
still flirt because if you dont he'll think
you're not interested & move on. if he asks
you to hang out again say yes if you're free
and maybe bring some friends if you're
uncomfortable.. but hes a best friend so you
dont really need other friends. but dont be
all over him so he gets turned off.

good luck =)

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how do i get over a guy and like someone new with the old guy still being my friend¿


uhm, go to the mall, find a hott guy and start talking to him to get your mind off the other guy. if you dont talk to that boy for a few weeks, you'll get over him quicker. so for now don't be friends with him and give yourself time to get used to the change. also, stop using those upside down question marks and get used to the fact that if this isnt a spanish website, they are really unnecessary. =)

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my ex boyfriend is telling
people that im a bad kisser,
and that i dont know "how" to make out .

i've made out with more then one person already,
and no one has ever said anything about the way i make out.

is it just him, or do i really suck at life ?!


well if he's your ex he's probably just trying to get back at you for something immature. i don't get along with my ex either and he tries to ruin my life. but yeah, don't let it bother you because if he's just saying this now after you've broke up, then he's just doing it to piss you off. seriously, if you act like it doesn't bother you then he will eventually stop. oh yeah tell him to shut the hell up and if he has something to say to say it to your face. =] just don't let it get to you even if it already has. ex's will do all sorts of stuff to show their jealousy but you have to get used to it.

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Well I'm 13 and I am a girl.what happened was my brother found my message to my boyfriend about us planning to kiss. Then He confronted him, and now I think my boyfriends hates me. What should I do?


aww =/ that sucks.

first talk to your boyfriend. explain that this isn't your fault and you didn't even know he saw. and tell him that your bro was prying through your personal business and you're sorry if he's embarrassed and that you'll be more careful next time.

now about your brother. tell your brother he has no right prying through your personal business and if he doesn't stop, you can just as easily pry through his. then change your myspace password and make it REALLY hard and whenever you leave myspace, log out of myspace so he can't get on.

sorry you have to go through this =(
i hate sneaky brothers!

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Hello is it possible to find true love at a young age?

Thank you Betty.


Yeah a lot of people find love at young ages. Adults can act stupid and always say that teens can be in love, but it actually CAN happen. Anything is possible.

=)

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and she's straight and is a homophobe lol but she hits on me all the time i mean i've turned straight girls gay but not homophobes so i don't know how i should handle this or if i should do it at all, any suggestions?


Sorry hun.. but just try to move on.
There's no way you could ever turn her lesbian...
You'd end up making a fool out of yourself if you asked her out or something.

Hope I helped.

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okay i really like this guy but im 15 and he's 17. im not sure if im getting a message or something from him. he's brought me home from school monday and friday (today). and we were talking about serious relationships and how they are hard to find. On out way to my house there was this guy in his car staring at him, and i said "looks like he's checking you out" and he was like nah, i'd much rather a girl check me out. then he was like he was probably checking you out, your the pretty one in this car, or something like that.

i love the conversations we have. like its just, i feel so comfortable around him, around most guys i would have to have all my makeup on or partilly (sp). around him i could care less, and he still talks to me as if everything was still on.

any advicee?


Age doesn't matter. Some guys will use sweet talk to get in your pants because you're younger and ish. After you talk to him a few more times, ask him if you two can meet up somewhere. Ya know, mall or out to eat but not like a date. If he declines, maybe he just flirts with everyone and he's a player. If he accepts, judge him from there. If he stares at every hot girl while you're with him then be afraid. Be very afraid. If he talks sexually but not as a joke, he might just want you to get down your pants... I don't know who he is so I can't judge him but it's not a big age difference. But guys will do anything to get sex, so watch out.

But to make it clearer, if you feel comfortable keep talking and when you get into a REALLY good conversation, ask him to hang out. I like the fact that he called you "pretty" and not like "banging" or "sexy" because if he said you were sexy he might just like you for your body...

Anyway, I say go for it but don't get too obsessed because he might not turn out as perfect as you think....


=)

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a couple days ago in school we got out yearbooks. our whole school goes into a room and signs eachothers yearbooks and stuff, it's fun.
so, me and my boyfriend don't really talk and were not very close and the only thing we have done is hugged so far. we have never kissed not even on the cheek or anything and every other couple does. we are both very shy to eachother.
so anyway, we signed eachothers yearbooks. and what he wrote was 'josh xoxo'. does that mean anything? or does that just mean like love ya? thanks.


Aw, that's cute. Sorry, but personally I put in my friends year book "xoxo" and I never mean that I want to kiss my friends I'm just saying that I love them as friends ya know? I'm sure it didn't mean anything and he just couldn't think of anything else to write. If you wanna kiss so bad, either go ahead and just kiss him or talk to him about it. You need to open up because he's your BOYFRIEND... And he might be shy so don't expect him to make every move. Go up and kiss him on the cheek and see his reaction..

=)

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were getting our yearbooks in a week and i would like to put in my boyfriends yearbook that i want to kiss him(accually kinda make-out) but i dont know how to tell him in his yearbook. im to afraid to ask him in person so i want to put it in his yearbook. we have been going out for almost two months and we havnt kissed yet and im dying to make-out with him.it would be my first time making-out(ive alredy had my first kiss) and for some reason i really want my first time to be with him. can someone give me some ideas about what i could write?i have one idea and that is to put after p.s. im still waiting for my kiss but thats all ive got.thanks to anyone whoe trys!


don't write anything about kissing him because it's just kind of weird. you might come off to him as kind of scared if you can't tell him something that important such as a kiss to his face.

anyways, if you ever break up and he shows people his yearbook and how you wrote "i wanna makeout with you" than people will laugh at you. so just don't because you can never erase what you write in a year book and he can use it against you one day.

if you wanna kiss him so bad, go up to him and kiss him. any boyfriend wants to kiss their girlfriend, trust me it's just a known fact. or just like get on the topic when you are texting him or online.. just don't sound desperate or anything of that sort. send him a kissy smiley face when you're online. or be like "yeahh we gotta kiss soon. lol" but of course talking in person would be a whole lot better but i understand it's awkward and embarrassing.

just remember actions speak louder than words.

=)

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i was looking through my boyfriends calls online and he keeps saying hes not talking to this girl and the girl has the same story I SEE THE CALL IN his call log though hes so stupid why dont guys just admit to you there cheating?


a lot of guys just can't help but cheat. they have no respect and they will do anything to get with anyone. boys are liars and cheaters and you can't stop them. not all of them are, but your boyfriend could be one of them. i'd sit him down and tell him what you saw and if he still denies it then please walk away and don't come back. once a cheater always a cheater. some boys just can't help but cheat because they just don't have the feelings that girls do, or maybe no conscious. just forget about him. if he thinks he can cheat, then you have the right to think you're done with him.

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me and my ex "dj" are talking again. we had been together for 5 months and drifted away. well we might go back together. i finally told him how i am leaving for boocamp this coming up wed. "may 23" and my question is "should i continue our soon to be relationship or wait until i get back"


wait until you get back. that way you don't have to worry about him cheating on you while you're gone and feeling the pain of not being near him.. let me tell you long distance NEVER works because you never know if they can be trusted, even the most trustful people can let you down.. just wait until you get back so it will be more meaningful when you get back because you haven't seen him in a while.

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I need to ask a guy out on a date [1st date ever!] and i need cute [but cheap, please] date ideas. NO movies / dinner / my house [ew]. The first 2 are cliche and the last one will sound sl*tty lol.

Thanks in advance =] i'm 14 years old btw and the guy is 16. so no things like "local coffee house" lol

also, FOR GUYS...what's your dream date? [WHAT, not WHO. and no sexual things please haha] & would you rather call it "hanging out" or a "date"?

haha i'm so wound up about this


how about....
-bowling
-minigolf
-roller blading
-ice skating
-carnival?
-friends house
-the mall (good one)

and that's all i can think of haha. but i'm sure he wouldn't mind one of those or maybe you could just let HIM choose. i dunno.

=)

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i have an amazing boyfriend, he does everything you could emagine a wonderful boyfriend doing. we've been together 5 and a half months now. i used to be so happy with everything, but he's 3 years older than me. i'm only 15 and everything is so serious now. he also get VERY jealous, and i'm not allowed to talk to other guy, text any other guys or anything, i barely even get to hang out with my friends. i really love my boyfriend but i keep thinking do i really want to be so serious, i'm only 15 i need freedom.

i need some advice on what to do here?


he has no right to tell you who you can and cannot talk to.. it's a free country and we fought for this freedom so he can't control you..

he probably thinks he's doing the right thing and maybe he's just used to that way.. tell him that you need a little space and you want to dedicate some time to hanging out with your friends because you feel they aren't getting their fair share of time. and tell him that there are some guy friends you sometimes just want to talk with because their your friends and say that you would never like them anymore than a friend and he'll always be your number one. tell him it's not right to control your life and if he can't just back off a little bit and give you room, then he's not worth it.

seriously if you don't talk to him he won't change. don't be mean and just say what you told me in a very nice and calm way. he should understand or he doesn't care about your feelings...

well good luck.
-candace

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