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Should I go or should I stay?
13/f hi, i'm in need of some help. well, firstly i like this guy and i've liked him since the 6th grade. i was very positive he liked me since then too.(i'm going to the 9th grade now) i didnt really start hanging out with him until 8th grade.(because i didn't even know his name in 6th grade, and he was on another team. then i went to stay with my mom in florida for 7th grade) well anyways, we became friends and all since he was in my class and his uncle was in my class in 6th grade... to the point now. He moved on october 6, 2006 and the last time i saw him was october 18, 2006. i talked to him on the phone about a month ago. and he's going to a different school than i am. currently, i am in florida with my mom for summer, and i have to choose which parent i want to live with for the next four years of highschool. if i lived with my dad i'd be closer to my guy and i'd have all my friends and i'd be going to a top school. if i stayed with my mom i'd have to meet new people all over again and i wouldn't be looking very forward to it since i don't have a very stable childhood. (i keep moving.) but i kind of want to meet some new people. and my mom is a female, so yeah. i've never really had a stable boyfriend, the longest was a week and that was in 5th grade the only time i've ever had a boyfriend! i'm rambling now sorry.
so here are my questions.
1.) should i call the guy again and ask if he likes me?
2.) where should i stay?
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You're in a tough situation so I'll try my best to answer this...
1. You definitely should call that guy and see if he likes you. Why? Because if you've liked him for 3 years it's obvious that it's not just a "crush." I usually can't like a boy more than a WEEK! And if you choose to go with your mom, you won't have to regret not finding out how he feels. The worst that could happen is that he says no. Just call him up and ask!! If you move, you might not have that chance again.
2. I don't know what it's like where you live or the people you live near so I can't tell you where to go. It's up to you. Don't put this decision in my hands because it could effect your whole life... You should make a list and put the bad and good things about staying with your dad and the bad good things about staying with your mom. If you love your friends to death and can't see yourself being away from them, then maybe you should just stay with your dad. The boy you like should have nothing to do with your decision of staying or going because relationships don't usually last more than 6 months to a year and if you guys do go out, you're most likely going to break up so it's not worth basing your decision on him. I'm sorry to be negative, but it's the truth. Anyways.. do you wanna stay with the people you love or meet new people? Do you care about going to a top school or not? Ask yourself these questions. I understand what you mean about wanting to live with a female. It's easier to communicate and moms are more understanding about things. Okay, so really all I can say is follow your guts. If there's more good things than bad with staying with your dad, than stay with him and vice versa. Do NOT base your decision because of the guy. It's too big of a decision to base it on a boy that you don't even know if he likes you!
Just make that good things and bad things list. It really works.
If you need anything else just ask.
-Candace
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