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Hey. Pretty much all you need to know is that I love giving advice. And no question is too out there, as long as it is serious. So ask away! =]
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okay, so there is this guy that of my friends were talking about and he seemed really nice.. and they were like omg you and him would go good together and they said he would deff. like me...
...so i was talking to other people about him and i found out he is my ex's neighbor and they hang out a lot and my ex told him stuff about me (they said it was good stuff that he told him but idk)
and everyone is saying that him and i would make a great couple and everything but...we've nvr met sooo...
do i try to hang out with him and get to kno him or do i just forget about him?
---he's the same age as me but he's not going to my school next year---
thanks!!!
get to know him! you have nothing to lose. and if your ex is saying good things about you, chances are he doesn't mind. if thats even a concern of yours. as long as u are interested in potentially being with someone then i dont see why not! i would suggest hanging out with him and other friends too. you dont want it to be awkward, especially if your not interested in each other. i hope it goes well!
how do i ask a girl to hook up with me? like what is a smooth i guess pick up line? example scenario would be at a party, and i have been talking to and flirting with a girl the whole night.
okay. well, no pick up lines. as a girl i know that most of the time they are very cheesy. and not all girls are into that. so i'd be safe and not do that. just stick with something simple. girls appreciate simple things. like "you look really pretty". something like that.
and about the hooking up.. most girls wouldn't want some guy to ask them to hook up. that comes with time. some girls less time than others. just laugh a lot at what she says and compliment her. and you should be "hooking up" in no time.
right this is guna sound weird but do you realy like some one then start seeing them then you love them??? and what is love??? please help me out
let me put it short and simple.
you know when you love someone.
there are no questions or concerns. you just know.
if someone asks you if you love someone and you say "hmm well i dont know i guess so.." that isnt love. love is when you can say "yes" and be 100 percent sure about it.
i know its hard when you want love and wanna know how its found and when youll have it. but itll come. and youll know. and itll be wonderful. thats all.
hope that helped.
i like this guy im not sure if he likes me but i want to ask him out i get really emmbrassed infront of popular guys because some are mean.
i have 2 things:
1. make sure you have a pretty good feeling that this guy is into you. you don't wanna end up looking foolish.
2. make sure if u do decide to go for it and ask him out, that its not in front of a bunch of his friends. guys, especially "popular" ones, tend to act different around their friends so who knows how he'd respond even if he did like you. if its just you 2 alone, you will most likely get the real honest answer out of him
i hope this helps a bit! good luck
okay so my crush whatever you wanna call it well best friend since 1 st grade friend
i told him i liked him and he said he likes me to alot...
so i said i like you you like me does this mean anything?
and he said "taylor... im really sorry i like you alot probably more then you like me but i have a girlfriend an i dont want to leaveher... im sorry"
and i said its okay an i left
well we are still friends he said he thought i looked pretty today
but i wanna be his girlfriend his only girl but it just hurts how he feels the same way but wants to be with another girl
what should i do
an dont say "move on" because i cant okay
i've known him since 1st grade an liked him since fourth an i cant just forget about someone like that
from,
extremely confused girl
Alright. There really isn't anything you can do other than talk to him. Tell him that he's messing with your emotions and you're confused. Say that if he really likes you then he would do something about it. He needs to know that he can't go on with one girlfriend and one girl who he likes a lot, telling her how pretty she is, etc. This will just mess up everyones emotions.
You need to let him know that if he truly likes you he would end it with this girl. Most importantly, you can't let him think that he can keep messing with your head. Tell him that its now or never. This way, if he acts on it, you'll know that he really cares.
hope i helped. good luck
i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP!
Okay. Well in my opinion, are are one extremely lucky girl. You are with a boy who cares about you and not just having sex. In highschool, this is RARE.
Don't push this. 4 months really isn't as long as it sounds. you should be able to enjoy being with him without having sex. ESPECIALLY since you said that you can't say you love him back.
It seems that he likes you so much that he will say i love you and mean it and will wait until you know that you both love eachother for sure. If that isn't perfect i dont know what is. It sounds like you're pretty special to him if he insists on waiting. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It means he REALLY likes you.
Don't let your hormones get in the way of something this great. When you know that you love him, then you can make these kinds of decisions together. Just please keep in mind that you have soo many more years ahead of you. Please don't rush it!
i hope that helped.
15/f
This guy used to like me about three years ago. I was ridiculously stupid and immature back then, so I didn't act on it. I even thought it was gross that he liked me. But after I rejected him, I started liking him. And I haven't stopped since.
My interest in guys went way down, and I started questioning whether I was straight or not. But now I'm starting to realize that I think it's just been because I've liked him all of these years. I haven't had any classes with him since he liked me, and I haven't even talked to him since. I'm also A LOT different and more reserved now than I was then, so I don't even think he'll like what I am now. I don't even like what I am now, which is not attractive to guys, I know.
What do I do to either a) get him off of my mind, or b) get him to notice me?
I only see him pass me in the halls and such.
Thanks so much to whoever read this whole thing. I'll rate 5 to whoever answers.
ill put it simply.
this sounds so corny and oversaid.
but i really truly believe that you have to be happy with yourself before being happy with anybody else in your life. you need to think to yourself: who do i want to be? and act on it. once you learn to like the person you are then it's time to find the person who will accept and love you for who you are.
i always believe that if you have real feelings for a guy you should go for it. what do you have to lose? find out what his aim screen name is or if you both have myspaces send him a comment saying long time no talk, something like that. even something subtle like giving him a little smile if he looks at you in the hall. hopefully he'll get the hint that you want to become close with him again.
hope this helped!
I need advice on this guy that I like... The problem is that my other friends all like him and he basically flirts with every girl he meets. So what should I do? Forget about him? Still like him? Or ask him out? Or.. something else...?
Okay i have been through this before. Consider this: Are you a sensitive person?
If you were to date him and he were to be one of those guys who breaks up with you after a few weeks( which he kinna sounds like to me) would you be heartbroken or not? It's important to think about this when it comes to guys like these.
And are you looking for a fun fling or a serious relationship? If your looking for a relationship i would look into this boy more. How many girls has he dated? Do his relationships tend to last long?
There always is a chance that even if he is one of those guys who can hardly hold onto one girl, you can be the girl who makes him realize he wants something more than that. And if you really have feelings for him you could try asking him out and take that chance. Just know boys can let you down. Then again, maybe he wont =)
hope i helped
I like this guy who likes me back. Only problem is, he has a girlfriend. He cheated on her with me, and we were hooking up for a couple weeks. Then we talked about it all and he said "im confused, because i mean i love my girlfriend but then i see you, and i like you too. i dont think we should hook up until i know whats going on with her." so i left it at that. i was really upset for the next few days. we still talk, and i saw him the other night and he was standing behind me with his arms around me. little things he does makes me know he cares. but i dont know what to make of it. he tells me he misses me, and he was sad today when he said that he doesnt think i still like him because i dont call him or IM him all the time. i told him i dont want to be a pain. i miss him so much, and i know he misses me. but whats the deal..? sorry this is so long
Okay. First of all, you should tell this boy that he needs to end it with his girlfriend if he even wants to consider being with you. Obviously he doesn't love her if he has these feelings for you.
You should let yourself be off limits as anything more than a friend to him until he ends it with her...
or else:
a)hes gonna think its okay to continue cheating like he is now, which isn't good for you or his girlfriend
b)there is a chance you'd get caught with him and it could get out to his girlfriend and you never want to be known as "the girl who my boyfriend cheated on me with".
Hopefully he will understand where you're coming from and find a way to break it off with this girl.
I would take into consideration, however, the fact that he is cheating in the first place. Think about it. If he did it to her, isn't it just as likely that he could do it to you as well? Just think about it.
I hope i helped!
If people say making out is not something that should be done in public, where is a good place to do it?
I'm still young, and I don't think my mother would like it if I went up to my bedroom with my boyfriend and just closed the door. =/
help?
ohh there are so many places. i personally hateee PDA. and i get by somehow.
your basement
his basement (just be alert for parents and
siblings)
the movies (sit in the back and try not to be too
loud. or see a movie a long time after
it comes out so there will be none or
a very little amount of people in the
theatre. you can always sit there a
little longer than the movie lasts)
a neighborhood park at night time (at a legal time)
in your/his backyard at night time (can be soo
romantic in the summertime)
hope that helped somewhat!
my boyfriend and i were together for 6 months and i liked him for a year(it took us a while to go actually become a couple) well, i broke up with him a month ago because we fought too muchand when we first broke up i thought i should go out and have fun and flirt so i kissed two other guys and when i did i kept thinking about him and how much better of a kisser he was, how much nicer he was, etc..and ever since then its been off and on missing him insanely..to not wanting to talk to him(thats only when he wants to talk about stuff about him missing me and stuff though)to feeling like i absolutely love him..weve hung out since we broke up and on impulse i ran up and hugged and kissed him and felt SO HAPPY and i still find myself wanting to be with him..and other guys just dont seem to compare to him and i still always wanna call him when im sad and need someone..but sometimes i dont even think about him much and after the breakup i wasnt even that devastated..just felt empty..is this love or something im mistaking for love? im sorry its long haha i go into detail too much i gotta fix that i suppose
i really feel that love is this:
you think about this person all the time, and are content with just thinking about them, rather than feeling the need to always be with them.
you don't even have to ask yourself if you love this person. you know.
if someone asks you if you love this person, you don't even have to consider it. its always yes.
i suppose it shouldnt be complicated. you shouldn't have to consider many things. you should just know. and i really think that's love.
K. Where to start? Well, I had known my ex-boyfriend for about 3 weeks before he asked me out. We went out for 2 weeks, and even though he was a shy and inexperienced boyfriend, I was completely happy with him. Anyways, he ended up breaking up with me after his friends had been pressuring him to do it. He also found out he would be moving a city away and felt that he couldn't handle a long-distance relationship.
Anyways, instantly after he broke up with me, he got really jealous. He would see me hanging out with other guys, and he would get so jealous that he'd make up stories of hooking up with girls to get back at me. In fact, he avoided me completely for awhile. Then, this past weekend, I ran into him and we ended up talking for hours. He got really flirty and for the past few days has been talking to me a lot and acting like he did when we were going out.
I still like him ... but I don't want to get hurt again. I was just wondering if anybody thought they could decipher his intentions, and if so -- if I should consider taking him back or not.
Hmm. It sounds like this guy has trouble thinking for himself. It seems to me that he probably really liked you and never intended to break up with you, but because his friends pressured him into it, he went for it. He obviously still likes you and probably never stopped from what you said. The pressure of his friends and the distance probably all built up and put him in freak out mode.. causing him to break it off.
I really think you should try talking to him about it. And if you're not comfortable mentioning this in person, then try it online. You can usually get a lot more out of people that way. Ask him way he even broke up with you in the first place. I personally would tell him that i would consider taking him back if he learned to think for himself, rather than doing what his friends told him to do. But that's just me. You can choose to be more subtle.
It doesn't seem to me that he has any wrong intentions, especially considering the fact that he isn't very experienced. Just talk to him. You can get advice from 1000 people but in the end its what he says that matters, as long as its truthful.
Hope i helped!
ok.. the kid i'm hooking up with makes no sense.. everytime he calls me i can't pick up the phone cuz i happen to be busy. so he'll leave a message ranting about how i never pick up and yet he never picks up when i call him..
and also i have a stalker so my hook up agreed to help me get my stalker away so everytime i text my hook up i'll say "help me" and he just types back.. "ok"... and does nothing. yet whenever i see him he is soo friendly.. but when we're communicatinig through texts or email.. he only types one word.. i'm lucky if i get a sentence once in awhile. i don't know what to do.. i don't know what to say and i don't know what he wants.. what should i do? HELP ME!
okay i see 2 possibilities for this boy.
either he's just a jerk, like the other girl said, or hes just a normal, confusing boy.
ill notice a lot of the time when im with a guy in person he'll be so sweet and absolutely perfect. but when im talking with him on aim or through texts, like you said, he uses one word answers. he may just be trying to act cool and hard to get. even though to us he just seems to be acting jerkish. boys are stupid that way. find a subtle way to tell him that you wished he talked to you more through e-mails and texts. and be nice about it.
and maybe this guy isnt the best person to help you get this stalker away. this sounds like more of a best friends job or something. im sure u and a friend could have fun with that. a lot of times when a guy who likes you is involved in a situation that includes another guy who likes you, he gets uncomfortable. deff work this out with just a friend, girl or boy. but JUST a friend.
and about the calling thing, if you call him and he doesnt answer, then try to say nicely in a message or whatever that you would like him to call you back because you want to talk to him. dont rant on like he does. this way he'll know that you want to talk to him. and maybe he'll realize that he was being a bit of a jerk.
i hope i helped, good luck!
so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?
thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions!
Okay. All girls are different. Some think it feels good and some don't. A lot of the time the guy tries to fit more fingers in than he should. If he tries this just make a slight noise like your in pain. A quick "ow" should give him the hint.
The second question is harder. Different guys will interpret this in different ways. If he makes a motion to unbutton his pants or tries to get you to, and your not ready, then just move your hand away to his head or something and keep kissing him.
im not sure what you mean in the last question by "go over". so if u want me to answer that please explain what you mean to me and ill be happy to respond.
hope i helped!
My boyfriend got me a neclace for Christmas. I got him a neclace for Christmas too. He told me on the phone he got me a Teddy bear for Valentines Day. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO GET HIM!!! he has a new watch and I cant just get him another neclace! Guys or girls, what do the guys want? what can I get him for Valentines day?
i think its always appreciated when you give someone a gift that took time and effort for you.
rather than just handing him a necklace, you could make him a blanket. i know a lot of my friends have done this and the guys have lovedd it! everyone loves a warm blanket. you could just go to a store that has fabric and get his favorite sports print or favorite color. it's easy too. you dont have to know how to sew or anything. and you could make it as big or small as youd like, depending on your budget.
http://www.justmommies.com/articles/no-sew-blanket.shtml
basically you just take 2 pieces of fabric and tie the ends together in a bunch of knots. easyy!
itll end up looking like this
http://poseableplace.com/temppics/ebay/B20395.jpg
you could even use this fabric to cover a pillow or something. whichever you choose, itd be a great, personal gift and he will appreciate the fact that you took time and effort to make it!
im 16 and my bf is 19. we want a baby so badly. but thats only what we want. my mom would kill me and him. but what if it happens soon.
okay. well it may seem that your in love and want a family already. and im not saying you dont love eachother, im sure you do. but please think about this.
aside from the finanical hardships and the disagreement of family members, when you have a baby, most of the attention goes right to him/her. you wont have much time for eachother anymore. your still so young! and so is your boyfriend. this is an exciting time in your relationship and you should be focusing on eachother. You're probably sick of hearing "you're only 16" but this really is true. Its such a young age and you have your whole life ahead of you. Why rush it?
Take time with your boyfriend and make sure hes the one that you want to be with for the rest of your life. if you have a baby with him and end up deciding he isn't the one for you, imagine how much harder your life with be and the life for your child will be.
and think about your mother. please. so many people take their parents for granted. they try to do whats best for us and the least we can do is respect their opinions. parents know best afterall. even if we dont want to believe it.
maybe you could try getting a puppy with your boyfriend or something. and see how much care and time it takes. just please consider all of these things. hope this helped.
the girls at my school are getting gayer and gayer everyday, gay in the way that they are acting different and weird not actually gay. Ever since we changed school from 8th grade to freshmen all the girls think there hotshit now and try to boss around all the guys like there nothing so ive started not to listen to them anymore and now im hated?? and all other guys agree with me also. Like girls think there using you know and just start flirting with you to make them feel good about themselves when they really dont want anything from you. I Dont get it. And how should i act towards them without being a total dick cause thats how i have to act to show them there not hotshit.
i would say start hanging out with the guys more. these girls should know that you aren't like them. (which is a good thing) and if they see that your just a down-to-earth girl who the guys like hanging out with, they'll get the hint that they shouldn't be jerks to them. hope i helped!
i have this amazing guy friend, and i think i'm starting to like him. I'm not really one of the pretty girls, but i'm not neccessarily ugly either... pretty average, i suppose. Anyways, i really want to like this guy, and i want him to like me. however, i have friends who like him, and he has a friend who likes me, so it feels like i shouldn't like him, you know? I'm kind of wondering if he does like me, but is maybe thinking the same thing. he and i flirt like crazy, and he always starts it. and nearly everyone says we act like we like each other. is it possible that he likes me, or are we just friends? its too hard to tell!
this is always a tough one. well first of all don't worry about if your friends like him or not. if hes not into them, then what is the point? and if your not into that other guy who likes you.. there is no point in that either. maybe try hooking them up with eachother. at least then they will know that u care about them.
secondly, if he seems to be flirting with you then he probably likes you. when your talking, try scooting a little closer to him or looking him in the eyes. smiling is good too. but BE SUBTLE! if he doesnt like you like that you dont wanna freak him out. but if he responds well to it, its pretty much a given that hes into you. just dont rush into anything and take it slow. your lucky you 2 are already friends because then that step is finished. you already know a lot about eachother. use this to your advantage. hope i helped!
13/f
ok well i like this guy...and i was just wondering what guys in general would find most attractive about a girl.
also what are some good flirting tips?
and lastly what are some signs to tell me whether or not a guy likes me?
all help appreciated! thanks!
well there are all types of guys out there. its typical that when they're younger they tend to be more shallow, finding appearance or "hottness" to be very important. this will change as they get older, trust me.
but beyond that a guy would like a girl who can laugh with him, is generally a nice person, and who is easy going. i think this one is especially important because guys hate drama.
i could tell you all kinds of flirting tips that may work or not work, but i think you just really have to show that you are comfortable with him. and LAUGH with him. this is sooo important. even if what he says isnt that funny. also touch his arm every once and a while if he says something funny.
if this guy likes you he will laugh with you and he will smile at you. he will also look at you a lot. this is if he is open and more outgoing. some of the more shy guys may pretend to have no interest. this is tougher. you need to talk with him and let him know that your interested. but slowly. shy boys may look at you and then when you look at them, they look away. this way you KNOW they are interested. its so cute. hope i helped!