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i want a baby
im 16 and my bf is 19. we want a baby so badly. but thats only what we want. my mom would kill me and him. but what if it happens soon.
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What on earth do you mean if it happens soon?
Don't you have any form of self control?
How long have you known this dude, long enough to know how he would respond to most situations?
And you are 16, you get pregnant now, wait, THATS ILLEGAL! because the dude is over 18.
SO like, if you love this dude, and don't want your mom to sentence him to jail time, don't be sexually active.
look up "statutatory rape" thats ONE of the things he would be charged with.
Cj
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Honey, why do you want a baby at your age? Sure they're adorable, but that's no reason to just have one. You have to realize there are plenty of responsibilities that come along with having a baby. At your age these days, it's tough & too expensive to take care of one. I know you don't want to hear this, but it's true: you're only 16. How are you going to financially & physically take care of it when you're at work and/or school? I think you would be making a huge mistake by having one at this point in your life. If you're really serious with your boyfriend & want to make that kind of decision, I'm sure you can both agree to wait till you have finished school & you are financially stable to take care of yourself & the baby. If, right now, he plans to be around for the child for 18 years, then I'm sure he can wait a couple-few years before having one. If he can't wait that long, then he's obviously not going to be in the child's life for very long (& you do NOT want to end up in that kind of situation.) So think about this before you do anything. Protect yourself in the meantime & give it some time before you make such a big decision. Later on when you have matured, you'll realize what a huge mistake this would have been. & I can guarantee you will be glad you waited. I agree with the person who responded below me: instead of a baby, try getting something minor like a puppy together & see how that goes. :)
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okay. well it may seem that your in love and want a family already. and im not saying you dont love eachother, im sure you do. but please think about this.
aside from the finanical hardships and the disagreement of family members, when you have a baby, most of the attention goes right to him/her. you wont have much time for eachother anymore. your still so young! and so is your boyfriend. this is an exciting time in your relationship and you should be focusing on eachother. You're probably sick of hearing "you're only 16" but this really is true. Its such a young age and you have your whole life ahead of you. Why rush it?
Take time with your boyfriend and make sure hes the one that you want to be with for the rest of your life. if you have a baby with him and end up deciding he isn't the one for you, imagine how much harder your life with be and the life for your child will be.
and think about your mother. please. so many people take their parents for granted. they try to do whats best for us and the least we can do is respect their opinions. parents know best afterall. even if we dont want to believe it.
maybe you could try getting a puppy with your boyfriend or something. and see how much care and time it takes. just please consider all of these things. hope this helped.
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I would wait because at 16 you are honestly not ready. My sister-in-law had a baby at 16 and her parents honestly disowned her. She went through a rough time trying to rasie the baby and she had to stop her own life. You dont just have a baby because you want someone to love you because a baby can not honestly love you at first because they have to be taught love.
You have to have the money to raie the baby and know how. you have to be pateint and know that nothing will be about you anymore you life will basically be over and you with have to deal with your baby and making sure it is being cared for and happy. The best thing to do is wait till after highschool because once you have the baby you will most likly have to drop out. And in this world today you have to finnish collage unless you want to work and walmart all your life and live in the cheap run down apartment.
Fisrt you need to beable yo have a home and food of the baby and yourself. You never know if there will be anything physicaly or mentally wrong with a baby before it is born so you better be ready for everything. Your baby might have to have a sergery right when it is born and if you dont have the money you are screwed.
Hop this helped.
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