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my quote-- "The past is the past and there is nothing i can change, The only thing i can do is help you with the future" I hope my advice helps you. In the future i want to become a Psychiatrist. My answers might not always be 100% correct but i try my best. && i would help anyone i could possibly help before i would even think of helping myself.
My name is Amy and iam 14, But i am very wise for my age. Just because im 14 does not mean i can not give good advise. I am COMPLETLY honest and if i think your acting like an idiot im going to say it whether you want her hear it or not. i dont care what people think about me, i have been though to much to. I dont beleive in lying to friends or people who need help && i ALWAYS speak my mind.
I have suffered through Depression, stress, and i keep all my feeling a secret so know one will find out or know im not stong or brave. I am always willing to help someone who feels the same. I've have/had mental breakdowns, suicidal moments, family problem, friend problem, & boy friend problems. im pretty sure that i am bipolar and ADD or ADHD, but i am afriad to tell me parents because i know they will not believe me. I am also all my friends, both guys and girls- and for ages 9-50, personal Psychiatrist so i know it all. I don't like stupid Drama and i am for the most part used to it, but I that how my life is. I LOVE reading about mental illnesses, i know its kind of odd- but thats me. && i love getting to look up and learn about something NEW!
If you have any thing you would like to talk to me about you can IM me. my Aim is xxTimesxChange or you can e-mail me at bballmonkey1993@yahoo.com
I would love to help.
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okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months and counting. and first off, i want to say that i love this boy, i realllly reallllly do. this isn't just a "fling" like my other relationships have been. he cares about me the same way that i care for him, and i know it. we're the perfect couple and everything. at the beginning of our relationship, i did treat him bad. no i never cheated or anything, i would just be mean. so one night we broke up and he ended up kissing a girl which really hurt, but that's in the past now and i've forgiven him. i can talk to him about anything and everything so he's basically perfect. we've had a rough spots and we broke up again about 3 weeks ago and got back together again. we're doing great so far and i plan on hanging out with him tomorrow but for some reason i feel wierd.. yesterday i didn't really feel like saying "i love you" as much. i told him that and he told me it was fine and that whenever i wanted my space or just to do my own thing for a day it was perfectly fine. anyways, today i felt wierd again and he keeps asking why i'm always mad at him and sometimes i do joke around where he thinks i'm mad, but i'm really not. i tell him i'm not mad. but he keeps urging it and yeah, IT DOES MAKE ME MAD. so he's hanging with his bestfriend who i don't like and who doesn't like me, long story, and me and my boyfriend got into a lil fight. i don't know if i should call him or just go to sleep... PLEASE HELP I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS FEELING. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE EVERY REASON TO BE HAPPY. i don't know if it's just because i haven't seen him in a week, and he would be the first to tell you everything's better when we're together, SO PLEASE HELP, THANKS!
maybe you should just call him, realationships are differnt between everyone you have your ups and you have your downs. sometimes also when you see someone to much you tend to get a little more annoyed at they. maybe you should take a break from him and just hang out with your friends..
and maybe if your ready quezze in that little i love you..if your ready.
hope this helped and have a happy holiday
ok so right now i feel like my mom totaly doesnt trust me right now and it pisses me off because everytime i ask to hangout with my friends or something she thinks were doing bad stuff and i know that she thinks i did some bad stuff because the chcik i was hanging out with does that stuff but i'm trying to stop doing stuff and change my life but everytime i try it's like she just makes me want to do more stuff like that because she thinks i'm doing stuff and i know i shouldnt want to do bad stuff like drugs or alcohal but i mean right now in my life i feel like i can trust anyone like i barely have any TRUE friends and like i'm trying to change but people wont let me what am i supposed to do
Well some things that the first to people answered are true. You should just tell your mom everything that you just wrote and CALMLY explain everything. The best thing to do is stay calm. && For what the first person said, staying away from her, i know thats not the easyest thing in the world. I've been there. I know how it feels not wanting to end a friendship like that, and you dont have to, you shouldn't have to. If you honestly feel like she is your friend expain to her that you want to stop what you are doing and change, give her examples. If you continue doing drugs or drinking your going to mess up your life big time. Right now your mother doe snot trust you, But if you keep your life going the way you are a lot of other people are going to not trust you- like other family, or friends you currently have. && thats not what you want in life, turst me. My brother went though all of it.
Maybe you can help your friend change. But thats probably not going to happen. Try hanging around a more positive crowd, what can it hurt?. It may save your life.
If you have any more questions or just want to chat. feel free to inbox me, && my email is on my site.
I hope this helped.
-- Amy.
Ok well recently I've been feeling sad that all ym friends are like not caring about me anymore and I know this happenes to everyone but I feel so bad!
Recently, I found a person on the internet who i can atleast complain my problems to but now it's like the same thing and he just seem to be really mad at me..
What should I do? I can't feel happy anymore
I had the same problem. I was depressed. I know it sounds unreal But alot of teens these days get depressed. It has to do with hormons and how your body is changing. i know that sounds stupid but thats usually the case. If you ever need anyone to talk to my Aim is - xxtimesxChangexx or my e-mail is xxTimesxChangexx@ aim.com.
Feel Free to talk to me, i would LOVE to help.
- Amy.
I am pretty skinny, but there is only one problem- I am wide? My upper body is wide, so I look weird in a lot of cute shirts. What can I do so I can get less wide? Thanks
Their is not a way to change the with of your body because your bones are formed that way.
Hope this helped
-Amanda.
I have a small lump (about half to 1 cm) which noticed within the last two days under my armpit. It's kinda sore, and its hard when I touch it, should I be worrying??
I had the same problem, but sorry i dont remember what it was called. There are two things it could be, and ingrown hair, or what i had, But it was a really long sciency word so i dont remember.lol. You should really go to the doctor to make sure. I waited a long time, like 3 mounths, to say anything because i just thought it was a pimp. well it wasn't. && mine ended up poping on the way to the doctor, im so lucky. But it is most likly going to have to be cut off. Dont worry to much. Hope this helped
-Amy.
wow this is the closest thing i've ever written to a journal haha sry its mad long..please help
Ok to begin with I am 17/m and there is a freshman girl I have liked since arouund christmas and um basically i cant tell if she likes me or not..at first i thought she did so i told my friends until one dumbass friend went and told her and since then she hasnt said anything on the subject and im too shy to ask her and the only place i see her is in drama class or right before school ends if she passes by my locker to go to her bus..
i have been making fun of her in class since the beginning of this year (2007) cause..i dunno im kinda scared i guess haha i've tried to talk to her before and she will usually just give me a look and say "hi" and i'll say "whats up" and she dosnt respond ..and sometimes she just ignores me..im thinking maybe she's a little mad cause i make fun of her almost every day. she says she doesnt care but i dunno..girls say they dont care for a lot of things :P
she's kind of shy in class but sometimes when i pass her in the hallways she'll be yelling her ass off and she has 231 friends on myspace (none are bands i checked) and after school she's always on her cellphone..and she plays 3 sports and also she's REALLY smart..like seriously she got all a's on her midterm, has a 101 average in our drama class, and she's like in all honors classes..insane
girls are so confusing haha
so i dunno..i guess my question is what is she thinking..does she like me? because i know that i can talk to her if i know she likes me but i dont want to embarass myself because ive embarassed myself more than once for this girl..i am seriously head over heels for this girl
thanks for reading
Well their is no real way of knowing whats on her mind because i am not her. Girls dont all think the same, some guys actully think that. lol.
sorry im honest, i know it hurts but someone has to say it.
Well she could have liked you in febuary, But guess what your friend messed up, and so did you. You dont make fun of a girl if you like her, you should relaly stop it because she will have no respect for you and she wont like you. No one likes to be made fun of, and she probabaly thinks your just a jerk for making fun of her. How is she supposed to get the hint you like her if your acting like a jerk? Its pretty darn hard.
Be nice to her and SLOWLY go back to flirting with her and talking to her. And after a couple weeks of maybe proving that your not really a jerk ask her how she feels and tell her why you were acting like that. Write a note and leave it in her locker if you are to embarassed to say it to her face, but saying it to her face is actully a better idea and it shows that you have balls. Its better to be try and be regected then to spend your life wishing you had tried and always having a crush on her. At least you would know she has no intrest and you can move on with your life, i know thats not always easy but things get better with time. I promise. If you need anymore help feel free to ask. Hope this helped.
-Amy
13/f I wanna completely redo my room. Theres a problem though, how do I approach my parents about it since my dad doesn't like spending a lot of money and my parents usually say no before even thinking about it. Its just that... I'm a teenager now, and my room is nice and all..but its just /boring/. I want to make it beach themed, and I want wooden floors and orange walls, orange comforters on my bed with the right shade of blue pillows and orange pillows on my bed and stuff. I know how I want my room exactly, but I dont know how to convince my parents since I know the money will add up no matter what, and we just got a pool heater so that took alot of money.
Aside from that if my parents say yes I'm having trouble finding just solid orange comforter! I found one on walmart that was almost perfect! But it was furry sort of, which I didn't want. I just want a solid comforter, can anyone give links to places that HAVE them? Please dont send me to sites like ikea, and say to check them because I checked those and they dont have them. Please just look and see if they have one and give me the link to the page if you can.
Thanks so much.
http://www.nextag.com/orange-comforter/search-html
http://www.artisticsensations.com/asp/product.asp?maincategoryid=15&catalogid=1189
What do you do when your best friend is a lesbian?!?!?!?!
thanks in advance!
i just found out that my best friend is bi. Yeah it is kind of weird at first, but just because it is a little different does not mean it should ruin your friendship. You have to tell your friend straight out that you are obviously not a lesbian and you have no plans of becoming one and going out. You should suport her in her decision, its not really her decision its just who she is and she cant exactly change that. It not something you wake up in the morning and say 'well today i think im going to to be a lesbian', its probaly something that has been bothering her for a while. Its not easy being gay/lesbian in todays society. People make fun of them and can really do some hurtful things. Just because your best friend is attaracted to the same sex does not mean that you two can not be close or still be friends. But you are going to have to get used to the fact that when you are togeather that you may be cheakin gout guys, and she may be cheaking out girls. Life is not exactly going to be the same for her, it is going to get a little harder. she is going to need your love an support.
Hope this helped
-amy
for everyone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend i have a favor to ask, please list everything you love about them and why you decided to be with them. as many things as you can think of! thank you.
Well me and my boy friend have known each other since we were six. We always had secret crushs on eachother, and we have kind of been dating off and on because my parents hate him. Its not him its just my parents are asses. I can honestly answer im in love. My boyfriend is honestly a one in a million guys, and i am so greatful. The main thing i love about him is he is honest, no matter how embarrsed he is or how badly he thinks i will react. He is trust worthy, i know no matter what is bothering me i can go to him no matter what! He is willing to listen to ANYTHING i have to say, even girl problems- some guys cant stand that. He can always make me laugh not matter what kinda of mood i am in, and i can get very depressed. He is full of life, always smiling. But most of all he loves me, he always puts me first. He is very caring and always telling me i am beautiful and how much he cares about me. He is very understand with everything i go through and he knows i can not be wtih him alot because of my parents. But he trys to see me every second possible. He is amazing.
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Give me so more information about this guy or girl you are going out with/ you wanting to go out with and i will try and help you. I would rather help you then brag about my BF. lol.
Just because the girl/guy you like is not the same does not mean he/she is not a good boy/girl friend. It depends on who you both are.
hope this helped though.
-Amy
I really would like to have a sign that I can put in the about me section of my myspace. Something in really spooky font that says, 'PoggieXPandemonium'.
Does anyone know any websites where I can type in 'PoggieXPandemonium' and then it comes out in a really cool font and gives you a code to put in your myspace?
Or any other way of making signs?
Thanks in advance, xxx
http://www.glittergraphics.us/
http://www.glittermywords.com/
http://www.pimp-my-profile.com/generators/shadow-text.php
http://www.myspace-codes.com/myspace_text_codes.htm
http://www.freecodesource.com/index.php?page=myspace/basic/marquees
Hope it helped
-Amy
my girlfriends anorexic. she weighs 75 pounds and shes seventeen. i try to get her to eat but she always tells me to fuck off. you can pretty much see every freaking bone in her body. she looks like shes gonna drop over dead any day. i wanna help her but i dont know what to do. she always accuses me of hinking shes fat also. which isnt true everytime i see her i tell her she looks too thin and to eat something. what can happen to her body if she doesnt eat and only weighs 75 pounds? and alos how can i help her? thanks.
Their is something mentaly wrong with your girlfriend, She looks in the mirrow and she has tricked her mind into seeing something that isn't really there. My best friend has the same problem.Anorexics have an intense fear of becoming fat. People with anorexia continue to think they are overweight even after they become extremely thin, are very ill or near death. You really need to get her into seeing a doctor or try working with her parents and have a group theropy. Be prepared for denial, resistance, and even anger. You can not back down and you have to be patient becaus she does nothing their is anything wrong with what she is doing, she also thinks it is the only way. Its very unhealthy for her body when she does not eat because she does not have the nutrients her body needs to do what she has to do. she is probably very weak. There are many medical risks associated with anorexia. They include: shrunken bones, mineral loss, low body temperature, irregular heartbeat, permanent failure of normal growth, development of osteoporosis and bulimia nervosa. One percent of teenage girls in the U.S. develop anorexia nervosa and up to 10% of those may die as a result.------------------------------------
If she addmits to having a problem and wants help you have to have someone with her all the time helping her get though everything.
hope i helped.
-Amy
14/f
well i have this issue. i can't stand myself , and i think i'm rly ugly and everytime i look in the mirrow i start crying. i dunno why but i take pictures of myself and also film myself 2 see if what i see in the mirrow is true , and that mostly makes it even more bad cuz i look worse. i even think about suicide sometimes coz looks are like the most important thing 2 me and say whatever you want , you're not gonna change my mind. but here's the twist....guys always stare at me (like a: "you're hot" stare and not an "you're ugly" stare lool) and my friends tell me i'm sooo pretty and so does my mom. they say i'm like the prettiest girl eva. but the thing is that i always see an extremly ugly girl in the mirrow/camera ..and i mean EXTREMLY UGLY!!! i am soo unhappy most of the time so i just wanted 2 ask if there is something like an illness where you see yourself totally different in the mirrow/camera? i know there is this thingy where you see yourself totally fat but youre like reeeallyyy skinny...but thats not my problem...my problem is my face so is there something like and illness for that? coz if there is i would be soo reliefed coz that means what i see is not true.
and yeah if there is....what can i do 2 "cure" myself
thxx!!!!
sorry this is long but i write alot when it is a topic that i have dealed with, either myself or my friends.
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I have a best friend with the same problem. She is extreamly skinny and very beautiful! I tell her everyday i wish that i looked like her. But she results to cutting, she is suicidal,she is Starving herself, and if she does eat she throws up after. Thats no way to handle things, either way with those 4 choices you are going to regret it! You do need help if you feel this way, you can be a danger to yourself, Especcally if you feel suicidal. Killing your self over looks, sorry to be honest, But it is kind of stupid. But to you i know its not because you have something that is mentally not right. Just because society tells you you have to looks, dress, act a certian way doesn;t mean thats right. I know this sounds kind of dumb, But it worked for me.
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Try making a list of things you like about yourself. First write down things you like about that you had no controll over, like that your an american, what neighbor hood you live in-if you like it, what school you go to- if you did not chose it and you like it, that you are a woman-- simple things like that. Next write down personality wise things you like- like if your a good friend, honest, trust worthy. Then, this is a Very important part for you, write down things you like about you apperence- maybe your eyes, or you hair, or that you a thin. -----------------------------
When you are feeling depressed or suicidal most of the time you feel unloved, or lonly. Last make a list of not who loves you-- because sometimes you can not think clearly of things like that-- But a list of who you would want attending your funeral if you were to die tomarrow. Such as family and friends who would be upset with you died, or if that does not work, of who you would miss if you were forsed to live on an island away from all people for the rest of your life. ------------------------------------
Remember death is not the only way out, you can find help. their are people that love and care about you on earth and would be depressed and maybe suicidal if you life their lives. Remember their is always hope. Pull the list out everytime you are upset and see why you are here, why you are living, there is always a reason.
- i really hope i helped. Tell me how you feel after.
- Amy.
I need a four page human body pic. that I can print out.
1/2 skeletal & 1/2 muscular and circulatory.
2 pages wide
2 pages long.
Please list any sites.
Thanks.
Keosha :)
School projects suck!
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.ashlandschools.org/morgan_cottle/body/body.JPG&imgrefurl=http://www.ashlandschools.org/morgan_cottle/body/&h=368&w=392&sz=22&hl=en&start=27&um=1&tbnid=FIax4hia839NgM:&tbnh=115&tbnw=123&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dskeletal%2Bmuscular%2Band%2Bcirculatory%2Bhuman%2Bbody%26start%3D20%26ndsp%3D20%26svnum%3D10%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN
http://www.scienceclarified.com/images/uesc_01_img0039.jpg
http://t3.pacific.edu/teams/M007305/humanbody.jpg
http://www.agen.ufl.edu/~chyn/age2062/lect/lect_19/147a.gif
you can go to paint or photoshop and cut out what ever you dont need in a picture and then just enlarge it.
i just wrote to you about having a crush on that boy but there is a problem with telling my friends- one of my friends like him too and my friends will think i am just liking him cause she does which is so not true i liked him before i knew that.
first, sorry it took me so long to answer, I have not been on for awhile.
To be honest if your friends would think that they are not true friends and they dont really know who you are. If they think you would like someone just because you are copying another friend thats just idiotic. Most people dont like people just because there friends do.
Maybe you can trust one of your other friends that would not tell the girl who also has a crush on the boy. Not all of your friends should think would you like someone for that reason, im sure there is atleast one person you can trust.
I have been in alot of siduations that one of my friends said i was copying her, and i was just being me, there is nothing special about that. And yeah she was mad at me for a lil while, But she got over it. She did not Dwell on something completly stupid, and yeah i explain to her that what i di dwas just me, its not my fault we do alot of the same things. Its just who we are. And personally if she did not except me for that i would have said forget about you and moved on with my life.
Its important to know who your true friends are and the friends you can trust with things like this. hope this helped.
-Amy
i have this crush on this kid in my class- at least i think i do. i dunno if i really like him sometimes i really feel like i like him but other times i feel like we are just friends. but i think i might just be pushing this thought that i like him out of my mind because i am scared because i do not know what to do if i like him or how to let him know (i dont want to let him know). i only had one other crush besides this and i dont ever really get this feeling.nobody knows about this either i am afraid to tell one of friends. What should i do? should i just give up?
The same thing has happened to me. Maybe you should try talking to this boy a little more. It might help you find out more about him and you will have a better idea on whether you truly like him or not. If you think you have a cruch on him then dont push it out of your brain because their is a good change that that thought is in your brain for a reason. You should tell one for your friends and if they truly care about you they will not judge you, they will try and help you figure out if you truly like him or not. You dont have to tell the kid you like him, You can keep it a secret from him if you want. Sometimes boys freak out over nothing, lol. But stay true to your self and how you think you feel. Hope i helped.
-- amy
I WOULD REALLY LIKE SOME GUYS TO ANSWER THIS ALSO., not just girls. kaythnx
hi. i dont know what caategory to put this as. but anyways. i really hate how i look, i think im soo ugly. but theres alot of friends of my friends who think im SO hott. but all the guys at my school dont think im not hott. heres a picture of me, can anyone give my sugestions/or tell me what they think of me? like tell me if you think im pretty or whatever. and be honestt, please. i take critisims (SP?) well. so yeah heres the pic... http://a652.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/60/l_dd4937230d074434256e580b3c109653.jpg. be honest. do you think im ugly, pretty, what?
Cant see your pic, your site is not working. Try just putting your myspace on their and put the pic you want to be shown as your Defult.
I find myself sitting at home waiting for my three friends to come over while everyone else is at the movies. No joke like EVERYONE is going to the movies tonight. I am the "leader" of the group and all I want to do is have fun. It's like my main goal in life is to have fun. I want to have a bunch of friends.. and more guy friends (I have some but just a few) How can I get more friends and not find myself sitting at home on friday nights?
be come more social.
Talk to people and get to know them
Try not to be shy and just randomly talk to people. Its the only way to meet new people.
Hey Im looking for some good music of... Dance, HipHop, Techno, Club, REmixes and stuff like
Glamorous by Fergie ; Akon ; DJ Shrek
Are you looking for how to get it or what kinda of music.
Well fallout boys, hellogoodbye, ludicris, eminem, nelly, 50 cent, jay-Z is good for dancing
i love to garden, its my new hooby, but it is winter now and i cant garden. how can i garden?
Sincerly,
Collin
maybe you can try to bring some plants that can live inside so that you can water and feed and make them grow inside where they wont die.
I eat way too much sugar in my diet, and I want to start cutting back. I do pretty well, but then I get the worst cravings and I eat a bunch of sugary food. What is the best way to make these cravings back down, and how can I lower my sugar intake more easily?
The best thing to do is get rid of all the sugar products in your house so you do not get as many cravings. && when you get cravings to eating an apple or something healthy. Apples have alot of natural sugar in them so they will give you alot of energy to do the things you need to do. When you eat like cake sugar it gives you energy for a little while and then it slows you down. But with natural sugar you keep going and going like the energizer Bunny :D hope this helped