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hes taken but who does he like better?
I like this guy who likes me back. Only problem is, he has a girlfriend. He cheated on her with me, and we were hooking up for a couple weeks. Then we talked about it all and he said "im confused, because i mean i love my girlfriend but then i see you, and i like you too. i dont think we should hook up until i know whats going on with her." so i left it at that. i was really upset for the next few days. we still talk, and i saw him the other night and he was standing behind me with his arms around me. little things he does makes me know he cares. but i dont know what to make of it. he tells me he misses me, and he was sad today when he said that he doesnt think i still like him because i dont call him or IM him all the time. i told him i dont want to be a pain. i miss him so much, and i know he misses me. but whats the deal..? sorry this is so long
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He's playing the both of you obviously. He has a girlfriend, and cheated on her with you. Then he goes back to his girlfriend & cheats on you with her. Why would you wanna be with a guy who does that? If he's already cheated on his girlfriend, the chances of him doing it to another girl are extremely high. He shouldn't be with either of you. You obviously have something his girlfriend doesn't, and she has things you don't.
Find someone who "loves" you & won't cheat. In this case, he doesn't deserve a second chance. He should break up with his girlfriend, and when he does, don't go for him. You know what he's been doing & you know there's a chance he'll do it again. This guy's an idiot. But obviously, he'll get what's coming to him sooner or later. =)
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The best thing you can do is tell this guy to #$*#(% off. I know you probably don't want to hear it, and I know it's hard to do. But the fact is, if he cares so little about the commitments he's made as to cheat on his girlfriend with you--not just once or twice, but for a couple weeks--then even if he DID break up with her and get together with you, there's no reason that he won't turn around and do the exact same thing to you. Take advice from someone who's been in a similar situation--you don't want to be "the other girl." Have more respect, both for his girlfriend and yourself, and just walk away from the whole situation. You can find someone better who WON'T cheat, on you or anyone else. Best of luck. =)
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okay sweetheart first of all dont let him play you like a deck of cards. Not saying he is. Just tell him you need to have a serious conversation with him. In person. Just the two of you. Then tell him how you feel. Ask him how he feels? Which way one he wants to be with? Cause you dont wanna waste ur time on one guy. Not at all. i did and got played. but you know its life. Just talk to him. Ever wanna know if someone is lying while ure talking to them.....well if they look to the right they're remembering and if they look to the left they're lying. Thats true i learned it and tested it befefore always works. Hope this helped! GOOD LUCK!
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I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I have to say it. He doesn't care about you. Not fully, anyways. If he cared about you, he wouldn't do this to you.
He just likes the attention of two girls. That's why he said he doesn't think you still like him. Otherwise, he would understand that you shouldn't have to wait for him.
I say forget him, and here's why:
Once a Cheater, always a Cheater. Now, I wouldn't say this if he only cheated on his girlfriend once. Twice even. But You guys hooked up for a couple of weeks. That is not okay. If he will do it to her, then he WILL do it to you. And you have to face that. You don't need that in your life.
He obviously doesn't want you THAT badly, otherwise he'd dump his girlfriend. It's that simple. He'd find a way to make things happen.
Now, here's what I think you should do. Under no circumstances should you be 'the other woman' again. I'm not blaming you, but it's not a good situation to be in. He thinks he can have the best of both worlds, you need to show him that he can't. Tell him its wrong to do that to you and to his girlfriend, and that you aren't going to allow it anymore.
Now, if you still want to be with him, even after what I told you, tell him that its either you or his girlfriend, and if he 'can't choose' then you will chose for him, and you will no longer be one of his options. Its either all of you, or none. That's it.
Like I said, no more cheating. If someone finds out, you are going to be the one they point fingers at. His girlfriend might forgive him, but chances are she won't forgive you. Just a warning.
So good luck, I hope things work out for you. Again, I'm sorry if it's not what you wanted to hear, but I've seen my friends go through this situation more than a few times, so I have experience with it, and I want things to be the best they can be for you =)
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Okay. First of all, you should tell this boy that he needs to end it with his girlfriend if he even wants to consider being with you. Obviously he doesn't love her if he has these feelings for you.
You should let yourself be off limits as anything more than a friend to him until he ends it with her...
or else:
a)hes gonna think its okay to continue cheating like he is now, which isn't good for you or his girlfriend
b)there is a chance you'd get caught with him and it could get out to his girlfriend and you never want to be known as "the girl who my boyfriend cheated on me with".
Hopefully he will understand where you're coming from and find a way to break it off with this girl.
I would take into consideration, however, the fact that he is cheating in the first place. Think about it. If he did it to her, isn't it just as likely that he could do it to you as well? Just think about it.
I hope i helped!
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You do not need to be the girl who broke up him and his girlfriend. Stop doing anything with him while he has a g/f. I know it will be hard but it's what you need to do. Trust me I've been there. If you let him mess with you while he has a girl then he will think he can always go to you when he's bored with his current girl or when he's bored and she's not around. You need to tell him, "I wouldn't want a girl messing with my boyfriend, so I'm not gonna help you cheat on your girl. I will still be friends with you, but we are not kissing or anything else. When you break up with your girl, then we can do that if you want to be my b/f." He needs to get his head together and stop thinking that he can have his cake and eat it too. I hope this helped you :-)
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