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Ex's Intentions?
K. Where to start? Well, I had known my ex-boyfriend for about 3 weeks before he asked me out. We went out for 2 weeks, and even though he was a shy and inexperienced boyfriend, I was completely happy with him. Anyways, he ended up breaking up with me after his friends had been pressuring him to do it. He also found out he would be moving a city away and felt that he couldn't handle a long-distance relationship.
Anyways, instantly after he broke up with me, he got really jealous. He would see me hanging out with other guys, and he would get so jealous that he'd make up stories of hooking up with girls to get back at me. In fact, he avoided me completely for awhile. Then, this past weekend, I ran into him and we ended up talking for hours. He got really flirty and for the past few days has been talking to me a lot and acting like he did when we were going out.
I still like him ... but I don't want to get hurt again. I was just wondering if anybody thought they could decipher his intentions, and if so -- if I should consider taking him back or not.
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Well you have to decide whether or not a log distance relationsip is a good idea or not. It probably isnt a good idea. But if you think you can pull it off, then you need to think about wether or not you would want to get hurt again. Because theres probably a 99% chance that he will hurt you again, because he gave into his friends pressure the first time, so he will give in again. And even if he doesnt, then theres probably a good chance he will hurt you anyway. But sometimes you have to way the good and the bad sure it may mean that you get hurt and break up again, but if you don't take a chance you will miss out on so many good things. So you can hide from hurt, or you can take that chance and be with him. So figure that out.
Then figure out why he's jealous. Is it because he thinks you are his property, or because he misses you. Because if he thinks you're his property and you shouldn't be with anyone else becasue you are rightfully his, then that's bad, but if he is just acting out because he misses you and thinks he's an idiot for breaking up with you, then you should talk to him, because mayeb he wants you back for the right reasons.
All in all, I think you should talk to him. He obviously is acting out for some reason, probably because he wants you back, and wether or not you want to get him back is the thing that you need to decide. We can't decide for you. You just need to listen to your heart and do what you think ti right. Good luck, and I hope I helped.
Love,
Angie91
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Hey, well, everyone deserves a second chance.
My boyfriend = the biggest failure of a boy I've ever met.
I took him back, because I liked him.
And then he fixed himself, without being fake.
Ya, I was afraid of getting hurt again, but I liked him, and that was a reason enough for me to give him another chance (and the fact that he gave me a sincere apology)
So maybe you should try again, even if you feel scared still that he will break your heart.
Everytime you get a new boyfriend, there is always that chance they will break your heart, you're just not thinking about it.
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Hmm. It sounds like this guy has trouble thinking for himself. It seems to me that he probably really liked you and never intended to break up with you, but because his friends pressured him into it, he went for it. He obviously still likes you and probably never stopped from what you said. The pressure of his friends and the distance probably all built up and put him in freak out mode.. causing him to break it off.
I really think you should try talking to him about it. And if you're not comfortable mentioning this in person, then try it online. You can usually get a lot more out of people that way. Ask him way he even broke up with you in the first place. I personally would tell him that i would consider taking him back if he learned to think for himself, rather than doing what his friends told him to do. But that's just me. You can choose to be more subtle.
It doesn't seem to me that he has any wrong intentions, especially considering the fact that he isn't very experienced. Just talk to him. You can get advice from 1000 people but in the end its what he says that matters, as long as its truthful.
Hope i helped!
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