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okay so i was just wandering is it true kissing or making out comes kind of natrually? (link)
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Kissing is just like art and riding a bike, well sort of. You get the hang of it quickly, you find out the likes and dislikes of each individual person. add that with passion and feeling and presto !!!! A kiss is born! I hope that this helps !
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First off im f/16 (if that helps :D)
I am in this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, who happens to be my best friend as well.
For a background story, i met him in 9th grade when he was in 11th, we became best friends, we finally got together and been going out for little over 5 months.
Anyways I am in completely LOVE with him, although some may say sixteen doesn't know true love, I am more than hundred percent sure that he is the one i love truly with all my heart.
My problem is, i've always had this some sort of "commitment issue" but don't get me wrong, I am way past that and over that ever since i am with my current boyfriend.
But that is also a backdrop to me pushing off someone I love. To make this long story short, I freak out and just push my emotion to max.
For example, tonight we met up at the football game in our school (we barely get to see each other because he is in college and lives pretty far away and i cant drive), (i dont know if it was caused by me PMS-ing but) I saw him and he said he was going to church near my house after the football game and he asked me if i can go, i said only if your friend would give me a ride. He said probably not without asking him (which i expected kind of) but i guess I was already kind of ticked off from my family and other stuff like getting rain POURED because it was tropical storms coming, so I kind of took it out on him and got mad that he wouldn't even bother asking before saying no to me. (I know it's totally my fault) and I left him hanging and all that, and I started crying and i did tell him it wasnt him but I was still acting like a baby and such.
So I finally got to talk to him and he said everything was alright and that he is not mad at me at all but sometimes I feel like I am going to act upon my emotion like this again and just keep pushing him away slowly.
So what is wrong with me? Am I bipolar or something? (family history... I dont know if that's genetic) Why do i freak out and just push off the one i love the most? How can I handle myself better? Because even the littlest thing sometimes really get to me and I start going off and stuff.
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Stress is a funny thing and it effects everyone differently. Plus you also have to remember the people that you love the most take the biggest beating from you, because you know that no matter what you say that they'll love you regardless. It sounds like you had a rough night already, so it was probably you just exploding on the nearest loved one. the wonderful thing about it is that it sounds like your b/f totally understands that. ( But maybe talking with the nearest GIRL bff might be a better idea, next time. At least my bff lets me just get everything out and i feel totally guilt free !) Your b/f understanding, has to be a huge relief for you. There is nothing wrong with you! It sounds like he understands that you aren't pushing him away, even though you feel like you are. When you are angry about something try and remember who you are angry at and why. So next time you are with your b/f and angry with your fam, remember who you are angry with. It takes a lot of practice and experience to master this skill. So don't get upset if you fail the first few times, k ? . It sounds like you have a loving, caring and wonderful guy. And who says that 16 year olds don't know what love is ? think about it ! i hear about a lot of people marrying thier HS sweetheart and they are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversaries. So don't underestimate your feelings.
Hope that this helps !
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This guy and i have liked eachother for like 9 months now. He is getting mad at me because i won't go out with him but i dont want to because of how he ahs treated his other gfs and he isnt treating me too well right now. Well I found out today he kind of likes this other girl and I am so upset! But then i am so sick of everything he is doing to me(like things like this) and it's like i don't even know if i like him. I almost don't want to. I still have feelings for him and I want him. What should I do? (link)
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I say that it is time to run and never look back. If he already kinda likes another girl. Yikes. Aren't you his g/f ? Oh girl i say run away and don't look back. There are plenty of other caring, great looking guys waiting for you ahead !
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Im 16/f my boyfriend of 7 months (17/m) have been fighting alot and we just cant seem to get along. (I'm his first girlfriend) He doesnt' really know how to handle situations where he gets stressed out about things. He just seems to tkae it out on me, and then when i get mad or do soemthing he doesn't like he just gets mad and we're constantly fighting. We took a break a couple months ago and that was just a disaster. But we finally got back together and we're just always fighting and not getting along. Its came to the part where he says why dont we just break up. But we're so in love we dont want stupid fights ruining our relationship. What do you suppose we do, any tips on how to get along better, and not fight so often? Thanks. Much appreciated (link)
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This is my take on it. It sounds like no matter what you do this relationship is a disaster. What brought you two together in the first place? Whatever that was try to remember that when you are arguing. If you are arguing about the same things all the time, maybe you could try to sit down and talk things out together without raising your voices. And if you do raise your voice then the conversation has to stop and you will have to talk about it at another time. If you keep having arguements and all there is is yelling, screaming etc, then no one gets anywhere and nothing gets solved. If you are his first g/f maybe he is just afraid and like you said unsure of how things go. If you have had relationships before, maybe you could help him. ? If none of this works, maybe it is just time to move on. You have plenty of boys ahead of you. You don't want to be in such an unhappy relationship so early in your life. I know that it seems like the world revolves around this right now, but one day you will have a whole new outlook, trust me. I hope that this has helped.
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So I've had this boyfriend for a year and a half and for the first year of being together I truly thought he was the one and I loved him so freaking much. After that things went downhill...we started to be sexually active....and started arguing about everything. I had the worst jealousy issues with him.... anyways about a month ago I met this guy who pretty much changed my life. We hungout for a few weeks and got close. I felt like i had more of a connection with him then my own boyfriend...because my boyfriend would barely ever open up to me no matter how much i tried. So I broke up with my boyfriend for many reasons and started hanging out with this new boy. 3 weeks after breaking up with my boyfriend I said yes to dating this new boy. We stupidly had sex one night and it totally freaked me out. I couldnt get my ex out of my head I knew i wasn't over him...so I told my new boyfriend that we couldnt be togetheruntil I figured things out. So later on that day I had my ex come over and I confessed to him about everything and he still wanted me back. So without thinking I took him back but I have alot of feelings for this other guy. I feel so lost right now. Being back with my boyfriend I still feel as if nothings changed between us....he still barely holds my hand. Now the guy thats treated me so good is depressed. UGHHHH. (link)
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It's sounds like it's time for the old list. You write a list of Pros ( good things that you love/like about each guy ) and a list of Cons ( things that you don't care for about each guy ) Whose list of Pros is longer ? Maybe Guy #1's list of Pros is shorter and the cons are things that you are willing to live with in your relationship. Or vice versa . It sounds like you might want to be with this new b/f, because he matches with you a little more emotionally. However having the sexual connection with both guys, it can be hard to choose. So i'd say try the list. No one can really tell you the answer here, it is your desicion alone. I hope that this idea has helped.
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my ex is always on my mind. I want to cry and hurt myself and i don't know what to do. he use to love me and always come back to me, but this time no. you see i broke up with him cuz i thought he was cheating again, but he wasn't so i took him back, two weeks later he broke up with me and tol me he found someone better. he hasnt called or anything. he threw away our 4 year relationship for another girl. well its been about 2 months and i have a bf, but i dont' want to be with him. but everyone wants me to and my mom keeps telling me that if i dump him for my ex that she will send me away. she is talking about me and him getting married when i turn 18 in 9 months, and i cant imagine anyone with me but my ex. i just want my ex back. how do i get him back. and keep my mom happy and my friends. (link)
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Ok everything will be ok. You can love whom ever you choose. But do you want to go back with someone that cheated on you . Trust is a very big part of relationship. If every second you're turning around to see if he is checking out that hot girl that just walked past, that will get old. Not to mention that you dumped him because you thought that he was cheating already. Do you want to have to always be on the lookout ? I don't think that you will. and as for this current b/f, if you don't care for him then maybe you should break-up. If you are turning 18 soon there is a whole world of boys out there waiting. Waiting to take you out ! You don't want to be with someone that will hurt you repeatedly. Trust me i wasted 6 years, my freshman year of HS through my early twenties, with a lying, cheater. Thank god i moved on, before i made my life more stressful ! I hope that this has helped you.
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um sorry if this is so frank, but what is fingering and what is a handjob? My boyfriend started taliking about that stuff but i have no idea what they are. also, are you still a virgin after fingering? and what is oral sex? sorry if im a little behind. (link)
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Ok when you have been fingered it isn't intercourse. It's just foreplay. So yes you are still a virgin, there has been no penis inside you.
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What are some good songs and books to help a girl cope with the ending of a very long relationship? (link)
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I'm not sure if this will help or not, but my fave author is Nicholas Sparks. he writes really romantic love stories. And the band Everclear has some really good songs about hate their signicant other and stuff like that. There is a song called " Hater " by them and he sings about the girl that he doesn't want to be with anymore. But it's easy to think about it with your own situation. I hope that this helps.
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16/f senior in high school
What's the best way to get a guy to ask you to homecoming? (link)
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Discuss homecoming with your friends in front of him. Talk about dresses and shoes and the like. Ask him if he has a date and say that you don't yet, but you are hopeful. Stuff like that. If he likes you he'll get the message.
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Hey!
Im f/17 soon to be 18!
My question is do you think that and 17/18 year old should be datting a 22 year old... like im finishing gr12.. and he's finishing University...
Is that a really big age diffrence to you?
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The age difference matters now, but not when you are older. It's strange really. My Husband and i are 7 years different. I would wait to date him till you are 18 in case something were to happen and your parents got involved. You then wouldn't have a voice since you are 17. If he likes you and you like him, he'll be there when you are 18. Not that you can't talk with him and stuff. Hope this helps
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okay well i like this guy in my art class and he rides my bus. well i'm really into him and i would really like to get to know him but here is the thing: i have trouble talking to him first. insecurity i guess i don't know but i need to know if ther is anyway i could get him to talk to me because we have opposite friends and opposite lives except for art and the fact we live near each other. is ther anyway i can get him to talk first.....please help. (link)
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Okay < walk by him in the hall at school, smile, drop something in front of him. Say hi, wear something super cute, giggle and smile at him as you walk by with your friends! Sit near him on the bus. Ask him a question about homework. Don't be afraid to talk to him. He is probably as afraid of you as you are of him. Sometimes we girls have to be the man. lol
I hope that this helps .
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I've liked this guy since like last year and over the summer I thought I'd get over him but I didnt.
Now that school is back its even worse than ever.
I've fallen SO hard for him and I dont know what to do. When hes behind me in line, or when he looks at me, or if hes in close proximity I start to shake, my words dont make sense and I feel my face go red and my heart beats super fast.
I want to talk to him. I want to make a move. A subtle one like wink at him or smile at him. But I can never get his eye contact! I KNOW he looks at me but when I look hes not looking and when he looks im not looking. Haha
My friends say he looks at me - a lot. And I wouldn't doubt it. SO many times i've caught him and today was just one of those days. I'd sit in class and I looked up and his head quickly turn away. Afterschool he watched me walk away (according to my friend) just little things like that...
He's done a lot of other subtle things last year but I dont feel like typing it all out.
I dont know what to do with myself.
I HATE feeling like this, but I can't bring myself to do something about it.
I want to tell him/give him a hint. But my body wont let me!!!
Any advice?
He's kinda shy and quiet so its not like he'll be blunt and ask me out or anything.
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Then writing a note maybe your answer. Writing a note and handing it off in the hallway to him is fun, cute and it sounds like he does like you, so he'll probably be relieved that you are talking to him. If you wrote a note to him then you could get out everything that you want without getting all flustered. If a note isn't the answer then you have to do something to get him to notice you. Drop something in front of him, wear a super cute outfit, smile, giggle as you and your friends walk by and then smile at him. Give him a compliment, something, anything to open a conversation with him. Then you can slowly talk more and more. Hope this helps
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when i was 14 i went out with a guy who was 17. we lasted 4 months and i didn't really like him anymore so i broke up with him. that was two years ago but just lately i've been thinking of him and there's a lot of things that are reminding me of him. i don't want to get back together with him but i don't want to think about him. he has a girlfriend anyway. how can i get my mind off of him? (link)
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Focus on your friends or school activities etc.
MAybe you are thinking about him again cause you miss the friendship that you had? Maybe you just miss some of qualities about him and you are looking for that in someone else. Eventually you'll get over him. Time heals everything.
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Ok i dont know what to do bc i really like this guy and i have only told my really close friends but most of my really close friends are really close friends with him. But i want him to find out some how bc he is always like flirtin with me well he is like always sittin by me and talkin to me and flickin my bra straps and tickling me and stuff so i think that he might like me back. But all of my friends are laughin at me but he is really nice and he is kinda cute and like when im around him he just makes me smile. But i dont know how he will take it if i tell him so i dont know what to say but we always sit together and i have a couple of classes with him so it would be really obvious if i told him. But the biggest problem is that me and my friends are kinda preppy and he is a skater boy so i dont know how my friends will take it if i go out with him. But some of my friends have been like EWWW!!! and some have been like oh he is cute u should go for it and they all think that he would go out with me but i donk know. But we are always txtin each other so i dont know if that makes it obvious too or not so PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!
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If you really like him ask him out. He is probably afraid of rejection from you. If you think that you are preppy and he's a skater boy than he probably thinks that he isn't good enough for you and you wouldn't want him. And everyone is different about looks and stuff. Some girls like JOhnny Depp, some don't. Get it ? So what, if you are " preppy" and he's skater boy..!! If he's flicking your bra strap and tickling you i think that he really likes you. Boys sometimes don't know how to say things. Maybe you could ask one of his friends if he likes you, then it will probably get back to him. Then maybe he'll ask you out. Hope that this helps.
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okay well i have kinda a big problem.
me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago.
and my ex from before him is starting to come back and wants to be with me again.
but before in our relationship he was an ass and he did kinda treat me like shit and cheated on me. and alll my friendds hate him because of what he did to me.
but i lost my virginity to him last year, so i never really got over him completely.
and now hes back, and saying hes never got over me and hes always loved me and all this stuff
so my question is should i give him another chance?
or just kinda be with him for a couple weeks and see how he is?
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Did the guy that you just broke up with treat you better than the ex that's coming back around> ?
If so then keep upgrading to another better guy. You don't want to go on that ride again. Cheating, getting treated like shit, NO ! If you can't think of being without him and etc. Give this a try, write a list Pros about him on one side and Cons about him on the other. Which list is longer. if it's cons then say bye bye Mr. Cheater. If not you can maybe try to give him another chance, but just don't say that it's exclusive right away. Give yourself an out if things aren't going the way you want. #2 Write yourself a promise note ( i know that it's sounds stupid, but i have done this too and it helps ) Promise yourself in writing that if things keep going the way they were b4 then you have to lose him for your own good. I know that it is hard to get over an ex, a first love and the one that you lost your virginity to. But if things aren't right then you are only wasting your valuable teenage time. I hope that this has helped.
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so my friends have been telling me that this guy that i like will ask me out. and i've known that he's liked me for a while now. and we've gotten to get to knwo each other. so how do i say yes. i've never really said yes to anyone. do i just say...yes? sure? okay? i need help. :] (link)
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Say yes i want to go out with you. And if you already know that he likes you back it'll be a snap. He is probably really nervous about asking you. So if you can just say Yes to him, that will take a lot of pressure off of him.
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ok i am kevin burkett i am 13 years old me and my gf have been going out for 1 year and a half.
she has these two friends and they are guys they both like her and recently she told me she liked one of them but she still loved me and it took me a while to get over it cause this is not the first serious thing that has happend. and i am trying to get them to stop talking she want stop i have asked her multible times and she want give them up. she said they are her friends and that that she is not going to stop talking to them.
do you think that it is wrong for me to try to get her to stop talking to them? (link)
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You can't choose someone's friends, first off. Second, one of the most important parts of a relationship is trust. Has she actually done anymore than talk with the other boys? If not then there should be no cause for alarm. Some girls, like myself, find it easier to relate with boys rather than girls. Even if she said that she liked one of the other boys, if she hasn't actually done anything then you have to trust her. On the other hand, if she has done something other than talk with them, maybe it is time to move on. Cause if that's the case it sounds like she doesn't respect your feelings and you'd be better off without her. you are young yet, there will be plenty other girls. And plenty other tougher situations to deal with. Pick your battles in a relationship, otherwise you'll be angry about everything.
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Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him. (link)
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Ok to me this sounds like you are confused about this guy. Do you want him back now that you and this other guy from the summer are over? Or do you think that the guy from the summer treated you better and that this old b/f isn't for you anymore. Even though you may still have feeling for your ex b/f, he may not be right for you and you may be better off to move on without him. And this new MySpace layout thing, are you sure that you aren't mistaken that you are his g/f. Maybe he thinks that you are his g/f now that you did that stuff with him. ? Just a thought. Maybe it's just that this guy really is a jerk and wants nothing more that to get in your pants. It doesn't seem that way though since he's been calling and stuff for such a long time. Idk, you be the judge of that. I hope that this advice has helped.
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today at lunch my bf like hit himself in the head with a water bottle, and i, not wanting him to hit himself, took the bottle from him. then a few of our friends were saying hes whipped. and my bf didnt really oppose it. he was just like "hey that used to be you!!" to our friend cause thats what everyone said about his ex gf. i know i am so nice to my bf though he just does a lot of things that could get him hurt (usually a lot worse than a water bottle dont worry im not that ridiculous) and i have stopped him from doing these things as a way to show him i care (i have done this since way before we were going out) i didnt realize i was doing that. is it really that bad? hearing that and making that realization made me really upset. like since then i have been fighting back tears. and i avoided my bf for the rest of the day because im sad and i dont want him to ask why or wonder why im not talking. i had no idea i was doing anything wrong but now i see. help? (link)
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Dear He's whipped,
It doesn't actually sound to me like he is whipped. It sounds to me like he wants attention from you, or someone. Like he is doing things to hurt himself to see if you care enough to stop him. Is everything ok with him at home? Do you two spend enough quality time together ? These are questions that i'd ask myself. I hope that this advice has helped.
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well my boyfriend is a very quiet person and so am i well not as quiet as him once a person starts talkin to me i cant shut up. but he dont talk that much so how can i get him to start conversations and keep talkin instead of one sylable answers? (link)
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Dear non-talkative,
You should give this guy some time to open up to you more, get a little more comfortable maybe. When he does start to open up a little more, then ask an open ended question. A question that makes him give a explanitive answer. Hope that this helps.
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