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Okay, I was dating this guy who I was with for two years (we're not together anymore).
I lost my virginity to him, but honestly I didn't enjoy having sex with him.
I'm trying to make this as clean as possible, because I really don't want to break the rules, but I need help.
Anyway, he would want to do it all the time, but if I said I didn't feel like it, he'd tell me to stop being selfish and that sometimes you have to put your feelings aside for the one you love.
So, sometimes I'd give in, but sometimes I'd keep saying no, and he'd as if he could just "put it in" once so he could go and take care of it himself or something. Sometimes I'd let him, sometimes I wouldn't.
But one time when I did let him, he didn't just do it once, so I told him to stop, and he didn't. So I kept telling him to stop and eventually I was crying and he held my arms down so I couldn't fight him until he came...
Now he's trying to say it wasn't rape because I willingly let him put it in, and he tried to say I liked it, which I swear I didn't. I was crying the whole time.
I know it's probably a stupid question, and I'm not planning on going to the police or anything because it happened about a year ago, I just need to know for my own sake if that would be considered rape or not.
Thanks.
Yes sweetie it was rape. Im very sorry you had to go through that. from personal experience i know how scary something like that can be. now you dont have to go to the police (though you totally could if you feel it neccessary or think hes going to go harm more girls) but i really suggest talking to a counselor about it to make sure your ok and to help you. you may think that its done with and that it happened a year ago but those things can harm a woman for years if she doesnt deal with it. please get some help and im sorry he hurt you like that. you are so much better than that and worth so much more. and please please dont think it was your fault.
hope i helped :)
♥ HiChick
ok...me and my girlfriend arent really getting along anymore like we used to...weve been together for 6 months today and theyve been the greates times of my life...we barely talk anymore...we dont have anyting to talk about...and weve also been fighting and argueing alot but thats stopped...i want that spark, that fire that we once had...but i dont know wat to do to get it back...i need your help please!!!
well first if you guys keep fighting sit down and talk about it because communication is the most important thing in a relationship.
to get that "spark" back try doing new things! go to new places or go out and find something fun and different and crazy to do!! you guys will both enjoy it a lot and have a lot of fun! and maybe try some games for either romance or just fun. write questions and take turns answering them or play some truth or dare and things like that. just get creative and enjoy each other. thats what its all about!!
hope i helped! if you have more questions or need more help im always here :)
HiChick
Okay, so me and my ex boyfriend broke up after dating for about 5 months. i fell in love with him so quickly and i wanted it to last forever. he was the first guy i was ever sexual with. we never actually had sex but he fingered me and i gave him a hand job and he saw me naked and everything. we talked about having sex but we never got the chance. I also told him everything about myself and we were so open towards eachother. He is the first guy that I had ever really fallen in love with and the first i had actually opened up to. I was so upset when we broke up. i felt like my world was just crashing on top of me. I'm still in love with him and it's been a month since we split. We dont talk much anymore and it kills me. I want him back so bad but i'm not sure what to do. If there's anything that I can do to be with him again, tell me. please. I feel like i cant live without him and I dont want to move on. what can I do??
[please dont rate] i think i could help you but we need to know WHY you guys broke up so we can tell you how to handle the situtaion to get him back or if you should just try and move on.
post it and then more people can help
btw i have just had a difficult breakup and he was my best friend and now we never talk. we arent even friends. i know how hard it is and right now im just trying to get through it and move on and let go so i know how you feel
HiChick
Everything was great on Monday. My boyfriend was really sweet, as usual. He hugged me, kissed me, told me nice stuff..and i felt really nice around him. It's not love, but it could be.
Anyway, i knew stuff at home wasn't great for him...his mom and him fight a LOT soo..i never bothered asking him cause he'd get REALLY ticked off when i gave him advice or inquired about it. So Tuesday comes and he begins to ignore me. Like as if i'm not there. Just completely changed. I thought about it...and decided that maybe he needed some space or something...perhaps his mother made him really upset...so i ignored him too.
It was then that he suddenly spoke up, claiming that he was really confused and everything was a blur in his head. I noticed how depressed and upset he got in just two days. His face was all..bitter...and he didn't smile or anything.
It was as if he lost interest in me. He then asked me if i would be completely devastated if we broke up. Of course, i said yes..we've been together for four months and it's a pretty big deal...and it just makes me SO SAD that there could be a chance that he's suddenly losing interest in me.
However, i don't know whether he's confused about EVERYTHING right now. It's all unclear and he still claims to be confused and feeling depressed and crappy and horrible.
I don't know what my next step should be. I haven't dealt with this before. Has this happened to anyone? Why would he be confused all of a sudden just out of the blue like that?
=(
he may just need to get things in his life dealt with and taken care of. if he needs that space let him have it. as long as hes not rude or mean you can still be there for him and if you guys are meant to be he will come back to you when hes ready. but dont sit around waiting for him. talk to other guys. i dont mean get a knew bf in a week but talk to other guys and hang with your girl and guy friends and stuff. dont sit around waiting for him but let him know your there for him and really want to help him. tell him if theres any way for you to help him you will-as a girlfriend or a friend. he will like that you care that much and it will make him happy.
good luck and i hope i helped :)
HiChick
is thinking about cheating or looking at other guys considered actually cheating because my friends told me it basically was but i cant help it like i still look and check out guys even though im not single but its not like im doing anything with them..
If its cheating then everyone is a cheater! lol but seriously NO it isnt cheating and [sorry!!] but guys think/look at other women all the time! probably more than most women. we just do because we are human. guys think about sex all the time but we girls arent supposed to get mad because everyong thinks about those things and its just how we are.
hope i helped
HiChick
I'm really in a huge trouble.
A week ago I just found myself falling in love with an 11 or 12 year-old boy(he won't tell me his age)
I'm 14.
I've been against having younger bf.
I donno what I should do.
How to deal with the situation.
We are quite close. his class is right next to mine.
And I really wanna know if he likes me too.
How do I do that?
I would really appreciate all your advises.
there isnt anything wrong with it but 1) you will be teased and 2) ok he is still a kid! i mean maybe hes really mature but that is pretty young! if you were 17 and he was 15 that would be ok but hes still a kid. well idk i just dont really think dating a younger guy is good because guys are already soo much more immature than girls the same age as them. my ex is a yr and a half older than me and he is way more immature than me. anyway good luck. oh ya and just ask him! im sure he will think its so cool to have an older babe like him. LOL
HiChick
Hi.
14/m
I've been going out with this girl. Its been almost a week. We've each gone out before but it was like 4th grade with other people and it wasnt "real". Now we're 14, its the real deal lol.
So weve talked alot and hung out alot (not sure whether to consider them dates or not) and I'm wondering, should I kiss her on the cheek in the near future? I HAVE HUGGED HER BEFORE.
Any advice on cheek kissing/making out is very appreciated.
Thank you.
hug her and kiss her on the cheek before you leave and then kiss her on the lips next time and then start doing in a little more frequently and talk to her about it too!! because if shes happy with the whole kissing thing maybe another time you guys hang out you can have a little makeout haha :)
HiChick
well okay i kissed this guy i like yesterday and it was a weird kiss, like i dont know if i did it right or not. but then after we were like playing footsie. haha idk if it means anything but generally what does playing footsie mean?
playing footsie is when you play with each others feet like touching and teasing and pushing each others feet and usually it means they like you, and/or are flirting with you its really fun and cute!! :) hope i helped
I'll be turning 17 in 11 days, and my boyfriend of almost half a year (our year and a half is the day after my birthday), needs some help as to what to get me. I really don't care about it being a surprise for me, as long as he feels confident with giving me the gift. What are a few things I can hint towards when he asks me what I want? I already have a necklace, earrings, and a small ring, so preferably no jewelry. Just practical stuff really.
maybe just spend a day with just the two of you guys, or you could go shopping together and when you see something you like tell him, or tell him to get you a bath set like with bath beads, bath scrub, shower gel, candle, soap, etc. or maybe ask for a shirt or outfit or hoodie or idk how intimate you are with him but maybe you guys could go look at lingerie together and he could buy you some?? thats a gift he would be ecstatic to buy you! haha have fun!! :)
HiChick
13/f
(please dont comment on my age)
I just got a boyfriend, but he's in a different school than me, and he's also a year older.
we really like each other, but do you think its realistic that we could stay together for a while? we live pretty close together (bout a 20 minute bike ride), and we take the bus together.
So do you think it might work out?
(im going to his school next year)
Thanks:)
YA!! unless you keep questioning it??? just saying but no you guys should be FINE :)
hope i helped
HiChick
I'm a Senior in High School and I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. We've been having sex for a while now and prom is coming up pretty fast.
The problem is, is that looking at my Period cycle I am getting very worried that I might have my period on prom and I really really do not want that to take place (Because i would like to make love to my boyfriend on prom night;D )
My question is; is there a way to prolong your period? How would I be able to do it. My prom is May 9th so it's coming along fast. Someone told me birth control but how would I be able to get it with out the help of my parents and a prescription if I even need a prescription.
Please I am in need of help! Thank you :)
first you CAN have sex while on your period but i wouldnt suggest it. lol just imagine it...ya kinda awkward. lol anyway
there are local clinics in your area that will give you birth control without any questions and that can help and also you might want to get on the pill anyway if your having sex. also i heard a lot of excersining can do it but besides those things there is nothing you can really do. and for birth control you need to take it at least a couple weeks in advance so if you want to try that dont wait!
if you end up having it tell him and just either have sex anyway or plan an AMAING night for both of you a week later or something.
im sorry there isnt more i could tell you to help but hopefully everything goes well :)
HiChick
Hello all!
I met a wonderful man and have been dating him for quite some time. He is everything I feel women can ask of a man. Among other things he’s sweet, attentive, family oriented and even cooks and cleans (and better than me).
Well, he sat down with me to talk and told me how much he cared for and wanted to be with me and how he liked things to take a step forward. He then gave me keys to his apt, which I didn't accept. He also said that (at that moment) it would be a good time to share with me this bomb shell... Since he knew he wanted to continue seeing me and wants things to get more serious, he felt he should "come clean".
He married an ex-girlfriend of his for papers (naturalization). The process will take about another year or so. He hasn't been with this girl for some time now and she is also, currently dating someone. What do I do? I value marriage so strongly and he is most certainly a very strong candidate for it. I'd marry him in a heartbeat, but I feel so lost. Am I over-reacting for feeling so ANGRY? Do I continue seeing him despite this? Will I forever hold resentment because of this if I choose to go on?
He is so concerned with my thoughts on this, but I honestly don’t know what to think and even less what to do? Any insight will be appreciated.
Thanks!
F/26
it would really upset me too but did he marry her because he wanted to or just because he needed papers? if he wanted to commit to her and then didnt then there is a problem. if it was only for papers then talk to him and think it over and it will take some time for you to accept it and get over it but i think you should stay with him. hope i helped
HiChick
ok well i'm dating my ex again and we get along really well consdiering we've known each other forever and have dated a couple times. but this time it's kinda weird between us.. he calls and we talk for like 10 mins then he says he's tired and he wants to go to sleep. i mean i can understand this sometimes but HE DOES IT EVERY NIGHT. and it makes me think that he's bored with me or something.. do you think he is? what should i do to make him stop doing this? HELP ME!!!
im really not sure and i really think you should just ask him! hope i helped :] good luck
HiChick
I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now. Since 6th grade. Im 16, im in the 10th grade. Hes 17 in the 11th grade. Last night, he asked to see my text messages. I simply said no. Because my thing is, its my personal bussiness, and your not entitled to see it. So he gets mad, and says that obviously im hiding something. Was i wrong for not letting him see the text messages?
i agree that you shouldnt have to show him and you really dont have any reason too but it does sound like you were hiding something because most feel like if there isnt anything bad about them then you dont care who sees them. try and explain to your bf that you just dont see why he cares but if it were me i would let my bf. i ask him if i can see his txts. hope i helped :)
My boyfriend has this really hot friend that like and i think he likes me, i really like my boyfriend, but i don't know about him, because he flirts with other girls. What should i do?
ok well i think its wrong if he flirts with other girls but i also think its wrong if you like his friend!! whats the difference? cause even if u dont mean to you probably flirt a little with that cute friend of his hahaha stay with your bf, forget the friend FOR NOW, talk to your bf about flirting ( i did and he says he doesnt mean to and thinks im the hottest girl ever and only cares about me :] ) and then if things dont work out with your bf then go for that cute friend! but not immediatly unless he did something wrong or you will seem like you never cared about him hope i helped :]
HiChick
Okay so I guess I'll start this whole big story from the very beginning. My friend and I just walk around school in the morning before class actually starts because there's nothing better to do. And after a few days my friend started noticing some kid that would always make really "awkward" eye contact with her. After a while of noticing him, we realized he was always in places where were. So we decided to follow him around some days and it was really fun because he never realized. One day while my friend and I were talking about him our other friend over heard and told us the kids name. So my friend and I found his Facebook and decided to talk to him. After a while of talking to him I realized he was a really cool guy. I eventually got his number and we texted non-stop. It became so much that if I didn't answer back within 5 minutes he would send another text saying '?'. Anyways, basically his phone got taken away, and in school it's just way to awkward when I even try talking to him. I always try to keep in my head what I'm going to say, but when I face him I can't think of anything. I really like him, and I know he likes me but I just don't know how to make us 'normal' after texting so much. It kinda just made me more afraid of him and everything more awkward. =/ What should I do?
i know you might not be comfortable with it but one day just muster up all your courage and go ask him whats going on! just even starting saying and wahts up when you see him in passing in the hallways and maybe ask him when he gets him phone back to start a convo then you know complain about parents and im sure you can get a great convo going from there! you just have to give it a try! good luck
HiChick
im 14/f, and i really like a few guys. So:
guy 1- he is nice, sweet, funny, has a job (DJing) easy to talk to and hes adorable. I liekd him for a year and asked him out before, but he said no, but that was like two years ago. Well i was crushed by him, but i got over it and now were really close but im starting to like him again and my friend tells me he likes me but idk because he always liked this girl, but wont admit it.
Guy 2- Hes sooo cute, funny, fun to flirt with and be around, and he just takes my breath away. The problem is my friend told me he told her he likes her, but i dont believe my friend because shes always lieing but i dont want to be a bad friend and be like wtf i bet he didnt.
Guy 3- He is cute, funny, and called me beautiful. He doesnt really hang out with my group and i'd be his first gf, but hes adorable!
Guy 4- hes funny, but kinda annoying and really lieks me, everyone thinks so, and he is cute.
so those are the reasons i like ALL these guys.
I dont want to like 1 because im afraid to get hurt. I dont want to like 2 because of my best friend. I dont want to like 3 because i would never see him (dif friends and classes). I dont want to like 4 because a lot of my friends hate him. Which one should i use all my attention to, and try to get to go out with? i know you dont know them, but i really want a bf, and dont want to spend all my time thinking about 4 guys and losing them all. THanks!!
Hey! i agree with the girl below me-your bff isnt that much of a bff and you should really take a chance with the first boy! Dont be afriad you can only get something if you put something out ;) good luck!!
16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated.
Please dump him. NOW! He is just using you and doesnt respect you at all! What he is doing to you is terrible! Hes making you feel bad for standing up for yourself! You are worth sooo much more so get rid of the idiot and find a boy whos worth you! hope i helped :)
HiChick
2 years ago i went out with this guy for 5months and after 5months i lost the "beginning relationship spark" but i thought i didn't like him anymore but i knew i still loved him. anyway i didn't know what i was feeling and i broke up with him. he was my first love and i was his. not too long after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and has been with her ever since but now two years later i miss him ALOT. last night i was crying hysterically. like screaming crying because i missed him so much and i want him back. i havent cried over a guy...ever! just when we broke up. we started going out on the day before valentines day (today) so im not sure if valentines day is bringing these emotions but last valentines day i was fine without him. we've been texting for about 2 months now but not talking about me liking him. just boring conversations but now his phone broke so we havent talked in a week and i can't call his house, that would be wayyyy too akward. i did request him on myspace though last night so im hoping to talk to him on there. BUT, these feelings for him aren't going away and i havent felt like this or missed him in 2 years but now all of the sudden i can't remember why we broke up. i really really really want to tell him that i'm still in love with him but he's been going out with this other girl for almost 2years. i need to get this off my chest but even though i would rather him be with me than her, i don't think im quite mean enough to tell my ex i like him right before he celebrates valentines day with his girlfriend.
what the heck do i do about this???
i think you dont really miss him i think you missing having him as a bf. im sry but i dont think you really want him back bcause i think if you had a bf you couldnt even be thinking about him! Kepp your mind busy and try checking out some new guys ;] im sure you will find someone great soon!
ok well i understand where your coming from but i can tell you that if you guys broke up for whatever reason he wasnt the right one. There WILL be other guys!! I know it might not seem like it but there is a guy out there for you and you will find him-its just not going to be your ex! Just wait some more-the right guy is worth waiting! i know you might not want to hear this and think im full of crap but i have several friends that went until like there jr year NEVER having a bf and then meeting this amazing guy from for my one friend a completely different school. You will fing him-JUST WAIT! I promise a guy is there for you waiting for you like your waiting for him. Hope i helped :)
Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Since before we started dating, we've been saying "I love you" and I thought I did love him. But now I really know, I think I really love him. I mean it's so hard to describe. How can I really tell? And if I AM sure, how can I tell him that I REALLY DO MEAN IT. Some things he does makes me mad, but then when I think I'm mad at him I start crying because he's perfect. I never truly am mad at him. He's not like everyone else. I really am at a loss for words here. How can I tell if I really love him / if I'm in love with him. Thanks. I'd be willing to talk on email if you could really help.
idk if your in love with him. tahts huge and only you can figure it out for yourself. i think of being in love with sumone as them being a part of you. you think about them all the time and cant imagine not seeing them and being with them and thay are really part of you. i think it takes a good while before your in love with someone but thats just me. Just say you know how we have alays said i love you? he will say ya. then say well i dont think i really knew what that meant then. and he will be like ok and then say but now i really love you. and i just wanted to tell you that and how much you mean to me. or sumthing like that. i hope i helped :]
~HiChick~