Hey everyone, I have been giving advice on this site since I was 16 and have always been honest with the askee. I just feel that there is no point in lying as I would hate to be lied too and thats why I always tell it like it is. I also feel that when people lie - it causes more hurt than good. Anyone after honest advice - feel free to send me a question!!
Also if you EVER need additional advice just send me an email and I will get back to you :)
Dxxxxxxx
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This is going to be quite long... My very good friend introduced me toher boyfriend's friend via blackberry,she's been trying to hook me up with a lot of guys but I'm so scared of getting hurt bcos of my ex boyfriend.. I hadn't seen this guy, except thru d pictures we send to eachother we chat often and he tells me that he enjoys the conversations and he really likes me.. Well somedays ago, he told me he was coming to my school, in my school there are 2 campuses the law campus and the main campus which is for other courses, and these campuses are far away from eachother, I receive lectures on the law campus but I reside on the main campus. he told me he was coming to my school 5minutes to a lecture I had by 4pm, I told him that my lecture would start at 4pm and end by 6pm, so it would be late to see me but unfortunately the lecturer said we wont have a class but just a test, while I was having this test he was calling me and texting, I couldn't answer the calls or the text bcos of the test... When I was done with my test, I replied his text that I would see him on the other campus which his familiar with and I ran to another friends room in a hurry to freshen up bcos I was looking messy, while I was doing that he was calling me and I didn't know because my phone was beneath my bag... So I just ran out of the hostel in a hurry to make it to the main campus and behold he was approaching the hostel of the law campus, I was suprised I greeted his friend which I was familiar with (my friends boyfriend) and I entered the car, the next thing this guy started insulting me he didn't even allow me explain why I wasn't picking up his calls he lashed at me and finally told me to get out of his car, and he drove off... I felt so useless, I felt like the floor could swallow me , and finally he deleted me off his blackberry contact going back to the other campus which I reside in I was in tears... I don't know what to do and I was already starting to like him until this happened.. (link)
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To be honest honey I dont know if this is the advice you want, but I will say what I am getting from this scenario. This guy seems like a major idiot, if he cannot understand that whilst you are in a lecture you may not be able to text back and if he wont even give you the time to explain then what you should ask yourself is what if.... If you guys did go out and you had to cram for an exam or do an all nighter last minute for an essay would he again lash out due to selfishness. You need a guy that will give you time to explain yourself if your late, a guy that understands the pressures that you are going through with your studies and a guy that wont fly off the handle and block you due to nothing. You can do so much better than this BOY and you should not feel embarrassed.
I hope I helped and that you find someone that appreciates a gd thing when he has it!!
Sorry if you felt I was harsh!!
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I never thought I would be saying this... but I just started dating this guy 3 weeks ago and I cant stop thinking about him. I've known him for 2 years now, so I pretty much know him. This is my first real relationship and its scary. It's so weird that I miss him all the time and want to spend all day with him. We just have this connection - we get along so well. So, is it love? Is it too soon? 20-female. (link)
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I would say that this is the falling part of love, btw its never 2 soon my friend told her current bf after a week and he the same. My fiance told me on the 3rd date and my dad told his current wife and she agreed after a couple weeks. My point is no-one can tell you when your in love you just know and I think your definetly on your way 2 there now wether you tell him thats up 2 you. In my case it took a bit longer but I wouldnt change it for the world. I know its scary trust me - I am still pertrified 8months on but its worth it in the end!! Enjoy this feeling and when you finally fall deeply in love you'll know and wanna tell him straight away, like I did about a month into my relationship at around 2 in the morning when we were trying to sleep!!
Good Luck and I hope all goes well with you both!! If you could private message me and let me know how it goes!!
All the best, hope I helped!!
Yours,
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Paige...I have this crush! i dont know if he likes me tho!!!we have been talking al lot on facebook!!!I am sooooooooooooo shy to tell him that I like!!!lik...his friends,his brother,AND a lot of other people say he likes me...But i dont believe them!!! He has to tell me!! Everyday I wake up sobbing because Of him!!! I miss him if i m not around him for more than1 hour!!! i cant believe I am tellin u this because i am so popular I am soooo hard to get too.But with him I feel...I fell so different!!!When he talks to me I cant help giggle ing!!I cant help a smile when I am around him!!! he is the hottest guy in school!!!What should I do???I m heart broken when he is not around me!!! Please wright back to me!!!tell me what should do...PLEASE!!! (link)
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Hey there hun,
I have been through something similar to this before so I get the missing him and the feeling down because u dont feel you can be with him. What you could do is invite a group of your friends and a group of his out then this way you wont feel so self concious and it gives you the chance to show him the side of you that he perhaps doesnt get to see through facebook!! A thing which you should also do is maybe try and get something to keep you occupied like a new hobby, or even try keeping a diary - they may be percieved as old fashioned but they will help balance out your feelings as the way you feel about this guy is very intense and you need to balance it out or it will drive you crazy!!
Another thing which you could do is over time try and distance yourself from him - as absence does make the heart grow fonder!!
Good luck hun, and dont listen to certain advicenators who are telling you u are being 2 needy!!
Hope I helped!!
Dxxxxxx
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15/f
It's kind of a long story. I started dating this guy. Still had a crush on another guy. This other guy is my friend. Still talk to him..and I still like him. He just turned 18. My boyfriend is 16. Just extra info.
So I'm kinda confused what to do because I love my boyfriend. But you know how it is, you're attracted to other people. I found out my boyfriend liked another girl too. We ended up talking about it. Fixed it. And its fine. But it still kills me.
This other guy, we've been friends for about 2 years. Friends with his sister, so I mean, we're pretty close. I know he's into me and all that. We wouldn't really do anything about it anyway though. So I'm not planning on leaving my boyfriend for him. Cause I'm not planning to get with this guy. He's 18 and I'm 15, almost 16. The thing that gets to me though is that he compliments me alot and flirts and is a pretty good friend. My boyfriend is better though. I don't want to leave him at all..I just don't know what to do.
I don't know what is the best to do in this situation. I mean, I know alot of people have dealt with this before. Just when it happens to you, you get really confused. Maybe you can see it from a different view and give me some advice here.
If you don't mind me inboxing anyone let me know. Cause I think I'm gonna need someone to help me with this. Thanks so much! (link)
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Hey huni,
Well you've answered your own question lol your happy with your boyfriend so you stay with him and keep your friend who you also like and if things do (hopefully not) break down with your bf then at least you have your friend 2 fall back on. He will make you feel better when your down and maybe one day in the future you guys will get together!
About your bf liking another girl - like you say when your with someone you can b attracted 2 others its human nature!
But when you finally find the one guy for ever (it may b mr 18 or mr 16) then eventually he wont b able to think of another girl without comparing how much better you r than them - like you have done with mr 16 and mr18!!
You can message me if you want - if you like my advice that is!
Good luck hun!
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My "best friend" seems to get in the middle of all of my relationships,crushes,men,etc.I guess its shame on me for staying friends with someone like this,but we've been friends for 6 years so it's hard to just drop someone and she hangs out with the same people as me.But ,one time while i was sleeping she hooked up with the guy i liked (we werent dating) and ofcourse i was younger and immature,and it made me feel like crap but i got over it.Then this year,there was this kid i liked.He wasn't very good looking but i still liked him and he liked me..i talked to him almost everynight and we started to hangout and stuff. I would bring my best friend (val) and he then started flirting with her! She took no interest in him,but she gave him her number and he'd text her all the time.Instead of just not responding,she would respond ALL the time and hangout with him..and he got the wrong idea and thought she liked him ,but she continued to talk to him anyway and he stopped liking me..for her.i was mad,but again ...got over it because i got over the boy. My current ex (went out for 3 months and broke up 2 weeks ago) is the new issue.While me and my boyfriend were dating,i had a little party at my house (ofcourse everyone was drunk..) i fell asleep upstairs and the next day,my boyfriend confessed to me that him and my best friend were flirting and she sat on his lap etc.etc.they didn't kiss or anything but SHE never confessed any of this to me.He cried to me and begged me to forgive him and that he wouldn't want to lose me over her.i accepted it,because he told me the truth and even had the guts to cry.He broke up with me ,2 weeks ago..because he needed some space and was just with me way to much.We are still VERY good friends though ( obviously i still like him and i dont know how he feels about me ) we still hangout and chill and stuff.but my best friend seems to be getting closer with him.I have a class with him and so does she. She told me today that they were talking the whole class period and he asked her to hangout and that he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with me anymore (besides just friends..)She flirts with him all the time and he says he thinks shes annoying and a hoe and whatnot but in front of my face,he flirts with her sometimes too(idk if he does that to make me jealous or what).So it's two faced on both sides!I'm still crazy about my ex boyfriend and i feel as though ive lost his attention because he's already "been there,done that" kind of thing.We are all in the same circle of friends because i brought him into our group and we will all hangout probably this weekend.I basically want him back ,but i need tips on how to get his attention.I was gonna try ignoring him and then letting my friend just annoy him so he realizes that he lost me.I don't know what to do because it's hard to avoid hanging out with him ! help! we are on good terms too so idk what to do! (link)
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Hey hun,
Okay firstly - I know that you dont wanna hear this but your friend is not trustworthy at all!
She has went with two guys you like and your recently ex - wat was she playing at? You know that you agree, because no true friend would have done that. The first thing I always say to people I am giving advice 2 is take yourself out of the equation. Now read the question as though for the first time and you are gonna advise this girl what would you tell her?
You would tell her never ever- leave her in the same room as any guy u like! and when your out don't let her get to him because if he sees that shes interested he may end up getting with her. But if you get there first and say hi smiling your sweetest smile then maybe go and flirt with another guy checking (discreetly) if hes watching. If he is then he's still interested, if shes flirting with him then (time to b harsh) its time to never trust her as a friend with secrets and sorry to say but you need 2 set him free hun. Its a true saying you've got to let what you love free 2 see if it comes back 2 u! and you never know maybe in time when your happy with someone else he will come crawling back and you will be able to make the choice!
I hope I helped hun!
Its a crap situation for anyone - sorry your living it!
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okay well lost my virginty to my ex well ii was a virgina and he wasnt and now that me and him are broken up what do i do hes mad and hes saying a bunch of things about me and know what do i do (link)
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In this situation I think that the best thing to do is laugh off all comments and don't retaliate!!
I know that you will probably read this and think what ????
But in the end you will be seen as taking the high road and he will be seen as scum!!
Ignorance is bliss and also it will really P*** him off!!
Which I am sure will be a bonus!
Hope I helped!!
Good Luck!!
Dxxxxxxxxx
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This guy, Carson and i went out for about a year. We were so amazing together, but ofcourse we fought once in a while....i loved him, and still love him so much. Everyguy that i have ever been with does not compare to him at all. This guy named Justin and I have been talking...we have been talking about going out maybe cuz we kind of like each other.....for about a year, carson and I didn't talk...he would prank call me or talk shit about me to my friends...yeah, you guys are probably thinking that this is so fucked up..true, but i think he was only trying to get my attention....so anyway....we are talking a little bit..nothing big, just texting...and he wants to write a song together and record it....he knows how much i love singing..and i feel like he is using this to see me.....he asked me if i wanted to chill after we record the song and i told him i couldn't, so he told me we should just do it another day...i think he was mad, but at the same time he wants a day when he can record and chill with me....he jus doesn't want to record only....but i miss him so much :(...i love him more than a can say....i know that someone else better will come in the future...but for now i only think about him....and with justin, i don't know what to do...we are going to hang out and everything...and i'm just scared that if i say yes to justin, carson is going to want me back....it would be nice to be with justin because he is a nice guy really...but i'm inlove with carson...all i wanted to see is what you guys think about the whole situation.....but another thing i wanted to ask about is this....so i'm known to take forever when i text people....i did that to carson....and he does the same thing to me...and it drives me nuts....i just do it back...example would be him texting me in the morning...then i text him back around eleven..then he will text at five..and then i text him before i go to bed and he texts back....sometimes we wait a whole day to write each other back...its driving me crazy....this probably makes no sense but tell me what you guys think about it...is he doing it on purpose like i am? or is he busy? or what do you guys think? (link)
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This Carson guy seems to be your first big love and thats so awesome that you have experienced that but I think that maybe and dont hate me for saying this but maybe you should concentrate on this Justin guy and see how that goes and if that doesnt work out then if Carson is still around you should then take it as a sign. I guess what I am suggesting is that you leave it up to fate - if you and C are meant to be then you still will be after a few months or how long you and J last. In the case of the texts I think that he was just doing it on purpose and the thing about the song was obviously meaning you!
But in the end you know what your heart needs and I would say follow that instinct!
Good luck whomever you chose!
Sorry I wasnt much help!
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Guy 1: Hates guy 2, I think he likes me and I like him and we have a lot in common.
Guy 2: Just my friend. Hates guy 1. Has a crush on me. Knows I like guy 1 and does NOT like it AT ALL!
Both are single
How do I handle this situation? (link)
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If guy two is a true friend then he will realise that even although you love him as a friend you like guy one better. In the case of guy one I say if you find out for sure that he feels the same as you do then go for it and guy one will if he is a good friend live with it. In the end if they don't put aside their differences then you need to talk to them both together and give them an ultimatum!.I know that this isn't the best advice but good luck!!
Hope I helped and good luck!!
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Just to warn you guys, this is gonna be long.
15/f
On tuesday me and my boyfriend broke up. On tuesday night we were emailing eachother and he told me that i wasn't listening to him and that the point of the convorsation was not to break up, but to tell me he didn't think we were in love yet. I know this is not true because the first thing he said was 'i know this might come as a suprise to you, but i don't see us going far in a relationship'. Sounds like a breakup to me. He told me i was the most amazing thing and that he wanted another chance. i told him i didn't know and that i'd talk to him at school on wednesday. Meanwhile i was emailing a few of his friends and they told me that he broke up with me because he wanted to ask this girl paige out. Apparently he tried some wierd scheme to make paige breakup with her boyfriend but it backfired and thats why he came back to me. So then wednesday came around and he was waiting by my locker to talk. i said hey but then didn't say anything immediately. He stood there for no more than 20 seconds while i put my bag in my locker and he said 'well i guess your too any to talk so i guess i'll just leave you alone'. Then he didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. Now his friends are calling me and telling me there are several people he wants to ask out. But he keeps emailing me saying that he really cares about me and that they're lying. He says he only wants me and would never lie. Today is thursday and i was sick today and can't go back to school until monday. I'm scared he really is going to ask out these girls while im not around. I want him back to but i don't wanna be to late. I also don't know if i should take him back. I trust him, but i don't think so many people would lie about something. Anyone have any ideas?
XXXOOO,
Lonely_girl (link)
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Hey honey,
I am so sorry that you are in such a crappy situation!
But I think that you know that you should just let him go, he is obviously not worth your attention or even worth your thoughts!
He thinks about other girls and you know that, my friend recently went through the same thing and she realised that she needed to just let him go and although it was a little hard she felt better for it!
Guys that play the field like to have someone there that's comfy and that's all that you'd be sorry if that's harsh but you don't need that!
Love will happen you just have to get rid of him, get past the hurt and then you will realise that this guy was so not the guy for you and when you do finally find the right guy he wont even think of another girl because he will have you and these guys do exist!
Also your friends must be really awesome to tell you what he has been saying and hanging with them will get you past all this crappiness and on to MR RIGHT!!
If you hate this advice then try and take yourself out of the situation and imagine that its one of your friends that is going through this and ask yourself what you would tell them to do?
Hope I helped!!
Good Luck!!
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20f
I've been dating this guy for about three months and he has a problem with not calling me. He doesn't have a cell phone (I do) and I really hate calling his parents house to reach him and bug them or leave it up to them to relay a message. I've told him a few times I have a problem with him not calling me when he goes five or seven days and he got better.
About two weeks ago he got kicked out of his parents house (long story) so now he is staying with his grandparents, and he didn't call me for ten days! He finialy called yesterday but we didn't say much, I told him I felt like braking it off but that I wanted to talk about it later (he said okay).
I know he's not in a good place right now (mentally) and isn't thinking about calling me every few days but on the other hand I feel like I'm just making excuses for him.
I have some friends that say dump him and others that say let him have one more chance. I know its my choice/desision.
But I wanted an outside opinion on the situation.
Any ideas? Thanks. (link)
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Hey hun,
This is a tough situation to find yourself in, but if it were me I would determine how much more of all this nonsense that I could take and also how much I liked him. I understand that he is going through a hard time but does that mean that you have to get brought down with him and that is whats happening he is making you question yourself and whether you are being to hard on him. When in actual fact if the situation were reversed he would probably have dumped you by now. If none of this is convincing then take yourself out of the equation and ask yourself what would you say to your friend if she was going through this?.
If its meant to be then its meant to be chic.
Good luck with whatever you decide!!
Dxxxxxx
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ok so i have a bf whose unexperienced when it comes to dating hes only had one other gf whose super pretty but she cheated on him cus he "never did anything" not even a kiss so i am like his "guinea pig" he even mentioned that he just wants a gf in high school to have practice and doesnt plan on going further than high school and when we first started making out he insisted on making out every day and every time we hang out idk if he likes me or jus using me to "practice" i dont wanna waste my time but i read tips or w/e and he does look into my eyes alot and he tells me how much he likes me but i think im paranoid or somehting? does he like me? (link)
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Hey chic,
Okay when you got with him he did tell you of his intentions so in the begining he was defo just stringing you along. But this does not prove anything its similar to the whole friends with benefits situation sometimes what starts as a fling of sorts can turn into a lot more. Although hun if I am being honest the only way you are gonna find out is if you ask him, but I get that maybe you cant and thats fine so what you can do instead is go with it. If he does like you then you'll still b together but if not then you have to prepare for the worst hun and enjoy it whilst it lasts.
Also even if you guys do split as planned, this doesnt mean that he doesnt like you, would you kiss someone you didnt like every day??
Good luck chic, I hope that all works out and if not then dont let it get you down you will meet someone one day that will sweep you off your feet and you wont even see him coming!!
Hope I helped!!
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Okay, let's see if i can get this right. i am 15 and i am female. ive liked this one guy for a long time, almost two years now, and ive like him the whole time (even when ive had other relationships and other crushes). at one point in time we were extremely close but never dated, meaning, we were always together and flirting and whatnot. After a few weeks, he asked me out, and i said no because "i didnt want to ruin what we had", which i extremely regret now. Anyway, we kept flirting and doing things even when we werent going out. He even told me once that he loved me and i completely believed him. He was always there for me and when my grandfather died he was the one that gave me a shoulder to lean on. Then my friends starting hating me because my whole world revolved around him and no one else. Eventually i realized that i wasnt the only one he was flirting with and "loving". When winter came around, his sports picked up and i never heard from him anymore (although i saw him in school). I hated him so much, he had actually told me one day that he didnt have time for me and i would have to wait until summer (you can just imagine how crushed i was). after that i refused to talk to him and he would stop me in the hallway and he just didnt understand why i hated him so much.
Recently, ive started talking to him again. For some reason i cant get him out of my head and honestly, i love him, even after the heartbreak and all the tears. I just dont know what to do. On one hand im happy again after so long of faking it, then again on the other hand, i know he is just gonna do the same thing to me again.
Please help me. (link)
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Hey chic,
here's the thing what i am gonna say is gonna make you unhappy either way but, I think you need to drop him from your life all together because as you say your happy now that you don't need to falsify your feelings but again as u say he WILL do it again and you WILL get hurt. In the greater scheme of things you need to decide would you rather get hurt now and spend the next few months with heart ache and sadness until something better comes along. Or are you gonna wear your heart on your sleeve and tell him how u feel, then hopefully have a few months of happiness before the heart break. The choice is yours and I don't mean to be cheeky when I say this. But this is what I can offer advice wise.
What I will say is, good luck and no matter what happens keep the faith if you guys are meant to be it will happen. If you guys aren't then it wont, but if you guys aren't then someone better and that will worship the ground you walk on will turn up when you least expect it!!
Hope I helped!!
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Alright, ill just cut this short and get to the point:
Well i am 15 years old, my boyfriends 15 years old. We both go to the same school. Started going out about 7 months ago + have been since then. We have one of the best fricken relationships i have ever witnessed in my life. I do NOT know what i would be like without him in my life. I love him with all my heart, so much that no one can understand that except me + him. But i have been grounded and havent gotten to see him on the weekends at all for about 3 months now. (Except i see him at school, but still) And usually if that happened with someone else, they would have broken up with me cause they cant wait for me to be ungrounded. But him, no, he has been with me through this all and has stuck with me through it, and still loves me and acts like he always does. And it just makes me so fricken happy that hes like that. Cause of him, i am able to trust people more, and i dont know..i just get this wierd feeling thinking about him all the time..but a good wierd ;) And it feels SO good to know that he loves me and that i have nothing to worry about with him, cause i havent been with him on the weekends cause i usually always am. But in the past, my ex-boyfriends have cheated on me, lied to me, and almost every bad thing you could think of. And thats where i got my trust to dwindle down to almost nothing. So when i met him, (Dominick) I thought this would all happen again and i didnt trust him AT ALL. But once a week or so into our relationship, i got a big wake up call; I realized that he was the only one i could trust and that he was just the right one for me. It was so wierd though, cause i just got this really good feeling and i just realized all this. It was actually kind of cool if you ask me. Like i realized that he was the one i want to spend the rest of my life with + i just love him SO MUCH! But yeah, my real question is..would you call this love? I KNOW im in love but i just wanted some opinoins out there.
Thanks for taking your time to read this + sorry for the length. But thanks ahead of time! (link)
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Hey huni, Hell yeah i'd call this love some would say that ur 2 young but tbh I think and I am sure that you'd agree that love is ageless. So good luck and I hope that you 2 last. I am glad that you have been lucky enough 2 find someone that can make you trust again!!! That is very rare!!
I luvd your story btw, good luck and I hope that you guys last forever and ever!!
Dxxxxx
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My boyfriend and i were together 11months, we were in love and everything just seemed perfect. We were best friends before we started going together and then we did, things just started to slow down kind of, i think we wanted to see what else was out there as 11 months is a long time. Since then he's kissed other girls n tht at clubs but i've not. Thing is when we're out we still act like what we did when we were together just without the sexual part of it. At his 18th when i said goodbye to him he told me he loved me and naturally i said it back.I hate it becuase i feel like we're in love and want to be together but we're only 17 so have like live our lives. But i really do feel we're meant to be and when we are out together we just act like normal with no awkwardness.
However i don't no if its just me that feels this way or even reli what i'm feeling. I'm too scared to ask him incase he doesn't feel the same or if he does i don't want to get my hopes up about getting back together.
Any ideas what i'm thinking or whether i should talk to him and what i should find out about him?
thanks (link)
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Aww Hon,
Thats a real crap situation your in!! Okay well I think that the only thing that you can do in this situation is talk to him, this will help you realise how he really feels!! If you both sit down and perhaps discuss exactly what you feel for each other then hopefully from this you can also work out how you feel!! However it might also be an idea 2 find out if he's dating anyone else before you go in there and ask how he feels!!
Also just because of your age doesn't mean that you cant be in love, love is ageless so if he isn't dating anyone else, do what your heart tells you and don't b ruled by your head alone!!
He has told you that he loves you so this is positive!!
Give it chance if he does love you and you never no you guys could live happily ever after!!
Good Luck either way!!
Hope I helped!!
Dxxxxx
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I am curious to know what is the position most couples do when they have sex for the first time (with each other)? Anyone know of any good sexual positions for the times after that?? I was just curious, because this came up in discussion earlier today and want to know some other opinions... =]
Thanks.
I rate high for good answers!!!
-MM- (link)
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I think the most normal position for the first time is missionary with the guy on top. After you are both comfortable with this then you can both discuss different positions that you would perhaps like to try or have tried before. I take from your usage of the words (with each other) that you have both had sex so you should both be able to talk about sex and positions you'd like to try out. For ideas on this there are plenty of books out there about this, if you can't go in and buy one yourself then you can always order one from the internet like amazon!!
Good luck with everything!!
Hope I helped!!
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15/f
ok so i have 3 really good guy friends. problem is, they're all basically in love with me. 2 of them tell me constantly that they are, and the other one i just recently started dating.
one of them i dated a year or so ago, but were such good friends that i dont even think of him as an ex anymore. the second one i met beginning of last school year, and has pretty much liked me since then. the last one ive been friends with for a really long time and never really thought of him as something more.
so i decided to go with one of them to homecoming just as friends (the third one that ive been friends with for a long time) and then, he asked me out. i was really caught off guard and didnt know what to do. so i said no and maybe something would happen after homecoming. since then i kind of changed my view of him, like maybe i did like him. but i knew i only felt like that because i knew he liked me. so after homecoming and he asks me out. i say yes, but never and still dont feel quite right about it. like i value our friendship much more. so i dont know what to do about that..... like should i end it or what? but theres more... thanks for reading all of this.
so my ex has like me for a long time. has never stopped liking me for like... 2 years now. and he keeps bugging me about going out with him and stuff but hides his feelings. i dont know why. and i will always care about him. like he will always be my best guy friend. but sometimes i get the feeling that i want something more. not like a relationship, but idk.
and then the other one that i met last year is hands down the nicest, sweetest guy i have ever met in my life. and i feel really bad because hes in love with me, he even wrote me a song like last week to tell me how he feels even though i have a bf. and he says he finally found the girl hes been looking for and wants to be with me and will wait and so on. and i have like him from time to time in the past, but it fades. and now recently its coming back, but stronger.
so heres the deal. i am so confused. what should i do? i want something more with all of them, but i hate relationships right now because they never work out.... who should i choose? and what should i do about my current bf? (and since we've been going out he doesnt really talk to me, i know hes nervous but come on...)i dont want to lose any of them..sorry if this is kinda confusing... i didnt really know how to put it into words.
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I think what you should do is ditch your non talking bf and as for your other three guys I think you should tell them all that as much as you are flattered you need some time to figure things out and that if they really do feel for you they should be patient. Then what you need to do is take like a week or two of being single and figure out who you feel the most for instead of having all this stress on your brain!! After your feelings are sorted and you have thought about it I am sure youll know who to chose for a bf and who to keep as just friends!!
Good Luck and I hope all goes well!!
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18/f
Alright i like this guy sooooooo much.
and his best friend told me he really likes me back, but idk the other day he did'nt really act like it.
anyways all of his roomates like me a lot, ha they even told me they like me a lot more than his ex.
which is a good sign.
but anyways...i dont want to seem like im trying too hard, or not hard enough...
but i honestly like him sooooo much!!!!!
so so much lol
help.
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The age old dilema lol Why dont you invite him to the fliks or sumthin as 'friends' and see how he acts when its just the two of you.
The thing with guys is that theyre the same as us real good at hiding their feelings!! sometimes they need it spelt out !! So if you get any vibes from him when your alone as 'friends' I say go for it!!
Good luck sorry Im not much help!!
hope all works out!!
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hey im 14/f hes 14/m
well lets start off and say i like him i alot and we passs each other in the hallway all the time and talk and after our practices(mines cheer and his is baseball)okay we talk alot and if i dont give him a hug hes like oh i see how it is.okay well one time i hurt my wrist really bad and statred crying and i had to go to the trianer at our school. well he was done there and once i got in and he saw i was crying he was right by my side seeing if i was okay and what happend. after i was done crying. i asked him how bad i loooked he said you all ways look cute. that made me smile really big.okay some homceing night he went with his girlfriend but they brooke up last week. any way he left her to come talk to me and he was like wow rachel you look amazing. and he huged me really big and spun me around and then hes like save me a dance okay. i said oh yes i will. so later i walked up to him durning a fast song and i was like im waiting for my dance and he said oh i see. hang on lets go get a drink so we did. and then a slow song came on!!! and hes like oh do you mind if we dance to this song i dont mind at all. i said the samme thing.so we danced his girl frined didnt look to happy. so we danced really close to each other for the rest of the song then. it stoped playing:[ and hes like my girls probly getting mad at me. so i should go back but ill callya later. well he never called bc he went to a partty after words with some of are freinds.okay so this week i bruised my arm and he said let me see it so i let him then he kissed it. and it was so cute. he said now its all better right. everytime in the hall he touches me like in the arm or waist its nice. but he also knows my past history with guys and im scared he might not wanna date me because of that. does he sound like he would? (link)
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hey there this story of you two is sooo cute lol by the sounds of things he does like you but wat you hav 2 do is make sure he has split up with his gf first cause he sounds like this may b why he hasnt done anything set in stone yet!!
But yeah I say go for it!! if they r not together there is nothing to stop you and your history is just that HISTORY!! I doubt that hed talk to you if your history was a problem!!
Good luk and be happy everyone deserves it including you no matter what your history may be!!
hope I halped and that it all works out!!
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Male, 25
My girlfriend keeps trying to push me into sexual things I'm not comfortable with. When I say no, she asks what kind of guy I am and such.
How do I get her to respect my decisions and not end up fighting as a result about it? (link)
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hey there okay i think what you should do is sit her down and explain whats wrong but if she wont listen then what you hav to do is sit down and wonder is she really worth it if she cant respect your boundaries??
good luk and i hope it all works out!!
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19/f
My boyfriend doesn't even care about me anymore. I feel like our relationship has run it's course, even though I want it to keep going. I want him to care about me again. How do I get him to care about me again? Or is this just over?
Other people have their ways of coping: Getting back and getting revenge, like seeing other people to make your partner jealous. A lot of people doing things to get attention, which is usually self-destructive, like drugs, drinking or being promiscuous. I don't want to do those things because I'm not stupid. Those aren't even the right things to do and will only drive him away.
I'm going back to college soon and I thought that'd be reason enough for him to see me more, like he should see me as much as he can before I leave.. but sometimes I feel like he'll be glad to get rid of me.
He makes me all these promises that he can't keep. It's funny because HE is the one who offers to see me on his day off, then ends up canceling after I had been waiting for him for three hours. This keeps happening, and stupid me, I always think he's gonna pull through. When we DO see each other, it's like he only does it so I'll shut up.
Every time I call and confront him about this, I pour my heart out and end up getting yelled at. He says, "This is exactly the reason why I don't want to see you. All you do is whine and nag." I feel like he doesn't try to listen. I DO understand that he's tired, but then again, HE is the one who proposes that we go out in the first place and ends up standing me up for one reason or another.
Am I wrong? Is he wrong? I don't even know what to do anymore. All I've learned is that I gave and gave and gave and got spat on in return. It's like I went against the world to be with this guy and ended up with nothing. I feel like banning relationships for a loooong time. (link)
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Hey honey ,
youve confronted him and hes nt even tried to explain!! it could b that hes gonna miss you so he feels that he should put some space between you but somethin tell me this isnt the case if im being honest you answered your own question you wait after he makes plans then cancels them wen youv already bn waitin three hours ask yourself would you do that for anyone else?? i dnt think you would so what i suggest is tell him its not workin for you like this and ask does he feel the same!! if he answers you then go with your instincts and if he gives his usual answer say goodbye to him i no its hard but in this case its what needs to b done!!
p.s dnt give up there is the right guy out there for you who will wait hours to c YOU and nt the other way around and who will feel bad if he has you wait three seconds!!
good luk for the future!!
sorry its long!!
hope i helped!!
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