Hey everyone my name is Kayla. I'm very good at giving advice, i have been almost all of my life. I'm the person my friends and even people im not friends with would come to for help. /Knowing that ill be there for them. Ask me about anything and im sure i can help you with it! If you need advice and i am not available on advicenators my aim screen name is.. CutUpAngelz013 and my E*mail HAS BEEN F*d up so E*mail me @ my cousin's E*mail ~>Sharada31cent@yahoo.com... i would be happy to help you...!
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my friend found out someone who likes me and wont tell me who he is coz she said he is horrible.
plus the 1st time igot a boyf i was the only one foolish enough to say yes to him coz he really was a BAD BOY.
my second boyf was horrible and everyone hated him-even me!!!(i only went out with him coz of my stingy friend joanne)
and thats all i went out with and i havent even kissed any one else coz der all mingers but ive had plenty of offers just not from the right people.
the only time some decent people aked me to french kiss them was at a disco but i said no to all 3 of them on the same night and ive regreted it eversince iguess i was just nervous
what i wanna no is:
1.do i just attract mingers
or
2.am i afri to get my heart broken if i ask some one that i like (link)
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ok im not exactly sure what the hell a minger is .. like is it the bad boy type or what but yea .. i can help from the info. that i know...
WEll id say maybe you are the type of person that attracts these so called "mingers" and you are afraid to get your heart broken at the same time.. cause take it from a person who know.. getting your heart broken .. is like the worst feeling ever.. so i dont blame you for being afraid but you just gotta learn to find that courage inside of you to step up and take a chance.. you never know what you could get out of it.. ;)I say go for it...
hope i helpedd***
***Kayla...
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So I really like this guy.. I think he likes me too! I am 14 and he is 17 but he is really sweet and I saw him tonight and when his friend was givin us a ride home he held me the whole time and was warming me up. The thing is I think he miiiight like someone else but im not quite sure.. I am starting to like him though.. what should i do? (link)
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Okay i can definetly relate to this because i am in the same situation.. except im 14 and the guys 18... not exactly legal... which is why we dont date...
My advice to you is if you DO date.. Keep it on the low. Be very secretaive and i wouldnt tell your parents if its something that they wouldnt be okay with because if they found out and didnt approve he could get into some BIG trouble and i mean BIg... but yeadefinetly keep close to him and if you think he likes another girl.. ask him about it.. thats what i did when i was doubting myself between me and my guy. We worked stuff out and everythings good for now... Just Listen to your heart and do what YOU want to do.. dont let anyone else make your choices for you...
Hope i helped...
***Kayla...
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Me and my boyfriend broke up because I thought he was cheating but we worked out things and are back together but how to I tell my mom that we are without her getting mad? I'll rate high! (link)
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Your mom will understand trust me im sure she was in the same situation before at some point in her life. Explain to her that you thought that he was cheating but you two worked things out and got to the bottom of things and want to have another go at it. I dont think shell be mad....
But if he did cheat on you... id make this his last chance to prove himself...
Hope i helped...
***Kayla...
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ok so my "buddy" wants me to give him a handjob and i want to also. we are both excited about it, but heres the thing : he told me hes nervous and would feel more comfortable if we did this when our two friends (who are a couple) were hooking up in the same room as us. This is kind of weird for me. I mean, ok i will do the whole public thing but not the first time we do this you know? My question to you guys is, do you have any ideas on how to come to a comprimise or how I can get him to feel more comfortable so its just us 2 in the room? (link)
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Just talk to him and tell him that its uncomfortable for you to have someone else in the room while you are doing it... i mean.. that is kinda gross if you think about it you dont wanna have to listen to someone else hooking up and doing "stuff" if ya know what i mean , while your in the same room.. i dont blame you for not wanting to do it while they're there with you two...just explain tohim that its your first time doing this and youd rather not feel awkward and uncomfortable and tell him that maybe after you do it and youve done it for the first time that if he still feels the same way about having someone else in the room while whatevers happening is happening then your either down or your not plain and simple...
***Hope i helped...
***Kayla...
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What's the difference between dating and "going out"?? Thanks! (link)
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i think "dating" someone is liek when you go out on dates with someone like to the movies and to dinner but your not actually an official couple or anything and "going out" is when your actually in a relationship and you are together and you hug and kiss and do "other things" possibly... other than that i see no difference.. there basically the same thing...
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How do you tell your parents that you are bisexual? Please help me!!! (link)
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ok this would help if i knew how old you are but its ok...
Just sit them down and tell them the god honest truth... they might feel a little weird about it at first or they may even be mad.. youll never know but sooner or later they'll have to accept you for who you are ...
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ok, this might be long so i'm sorry, but i really need help. me and my boyfriend just broke up a week ago after dating for 3 years..he says he still likes me, he broke up with me because he wanted "a break" because we had been fighting a lot when we are together he still kisses me on the cheeks but i'm so sick of just crying cuz i don't have him and i want him back really bad, but i don't know i can't tell if he really likes me still or not, should i move on? or what should i do? pleassseee EVERYONE leave what you think i should do PLEASE!!! it would help so much! (link)
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ok so heres what you gotta do... its simple... he says that he still likes you .. then have faith in him! Maybe he still does... if hes still hugging and kissing on you then apparently theres some sort of feelings that exist.. ! Trust yourself and Trust in him.. if you still love him... dont let him get away... tell him you want you two to be together again... tell him exactly how you feel about him...im sure its mutual...
Hope i helped some..
***Kayla...
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I think my boyfriend is cheating on me because one of my friends seen him letting a girl sit on his lap the past two days and he kinda flipped out when I brought it up. She is also going out with one of HIS friends but they dont act like they are going out and he has her number in his cell phone and has recently talked to him on it. She told someone he was ugly and that it was a lie about her sitting on his lap because someone wants to break her and her boyfriend up. Is he cheating and what should I do? (link)
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okay... maybe your being a little insecure right now... but maybe not.. try talking to the girl upfront and ask her if what your hearing is true or not.. but you never know, she may lie to you... after talking to the girl.. proceed in confronting your boyfriend about the matter.. ask him in a very mellow and suttle tone/way.. whats going on...depending on how long him and this girl have known each other , you never know , they could just be good friends... but then again...
So if i were you i would investigate and ask your boyfriend, but if he starts getting mad just try explaining to him how it makes you upset hearing all thses things and how you dont want to lose him... if he still gets mad then change the subject ...
But if you keep hearing that things are happeneing between your boyfriend and this chick.. id try either catching them in the act... or just whooping some ass...
haha hope i helped :)
***Kayla...
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hey... heres my problem. theres this guy that im crazy about. he likes me too. so he says. and he acts like he does online. but not on the phone and somewhat does in person. i cant tell. and im pretty unconfident in myself cuz my bf broke up with me a while ago. and i was in love i thought. and for some reason i feel like i need so much reassureance. you know. it sux cuz i like him adn he likes me. he says he wants to ask me out. but in person. and when i went to school with him(he lives 30 min from where i go to school) as a guest he just introduced me as a friend. and never asked me out. we were together alone for a long time and he never did. i almost cried when i got home. i was so excited adn then it was broken.what would you do. and how do i know for sure that he likes me without questioning him like no other
signed confused lover (link)
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if all else fails hun just ask him.. upfront... face TO face... make sure hes looking you in the eyes that way you klnow hes telling you the truth.. and simply ask him if he truly likes you the way he says that he does.. and if his reply is yes.. and he STILL doesnt ask you out.. then you gotta be a little aggressive about the situation and ask him why he said he was gunna ask you out and then it never happened...you never know... maybe hes just a little nervous.. you gotta liberate him... !
Hope i helped a little...
***Kayla...
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heres the story. me and my ex had dated for only like 5 months. i knew i loved him. he loved me. so for our big 5 i got him a gold chain for 175$. he loved it. well our friends had an anniverary party for us. me and him went to his backyard adn were talkign. then started to make out. then things lead to more. a lot more. we went into his guest house and you know. it was both of our first times. and i loved it. then 2 nites later i hung out with one of my guy friends who was drunk and about to pass out. so i picked him up and he kissed me. ididnt kiss back but still. well ididnt tell bryan cuz i didnt want him to think anything happened. bad choice. my friend was with him the next night and was drunk and told him that i made out with him. so not. bryan believed him.and he broke up with me. i cried for so long. it took a while to get over him. but i kinda did. i found a guy i really liek and he likes me. but he wants to ask me out in person. we hung out and he didnt. he said he forgot. but idk. were both grounded and cant hang out really. and he is in wrestling so that puts a hult on things too. 2nite he asked if i was still in love with bryan and i said no. but i am. but i care alot about this guy too. there is no chance with bryan anymore. but ya. adn i dont wantto date smeoneif i still care aobut bryan. i dont want to say no tho what should i do? (link)
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ok... it always takes a while to get over your first TRUE love trust me.. i went out with a guy for 8 months and it took me the same amount of time to get over him and move on... yes you may still have feelings for bryan but if you really like this other kid then just tell him the truth.. yes you still have some sort of feelings for bryan but you know it'll never happen again and you really like him and are ready to try and move on...youve got to learn to try and make things happen on your own.. you never know... maybe HES afraid to ask you out.. be the bigger person and ask him before someone else does..!
***Kayla...
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Ok i am 16 female and i got to high school and my boyfriend (getting married) is like 20. Well the other day he seen me hugging my Step-Brother and he was like this that you boyfriend and what are you doing with him anyways. Well told him that it is my Step-Brother and he is going back home and i dont know when the next time i get to see him. But my Boyfriend just said bulls**t. And he is always with other girls. but he don't know thhat i know about it. But then i just said that if you are going to keep on saying that i am cheating we are though so he said fine then i said ok we are over. but i still love him. Was it wrong for me saying we are over or did i do the right thing? (link)
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Hun you definetly did the RIGHT thing... if hes going to sit there and be out and about with other girls and leave you home praying that hes not cheating on you and hes going to make you worry like that then hes not worth it... PLUS he was you step brother... why the hell would you honestly do anything with your step brother.. your boyfriend (x) must have had 10 kinds of issues to think that..! Your better off with out him hun..
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Okay so Ive been raped,cheated,used and more in past relationships. But I've know this guy for about 3 years now and weve been dating almost 6 months. Were very close and well I really really think I love him...Is this possible..were sophomores in highschool and weve been best friends ever since 7th grade. We have the same family background and everything. He talks of me being his wife someday..what do you all think? (link)
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Hunny i think it sounds great.. i know it may be hard seeing how youve been through so much but ya gotta learn to trust him.. listen to your heart. He sounds really great and from the looks of it you two seem perfect for each other... its good that you two have known each other for a while too because you two have to know each other so well... i hope you two work out for the best ... it seems youve come so far.. dont give up now babe*** you diserve to be happy and dont let ANYONE tell you otherwise!
***Kayla...
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I am really close friends with this one guy. I can tell him everything but I feel like he thinks of me as a little sister. The thing is I wish we could be more. He is like the perfect guy! He is tall dark and handsom, he has ambitions set for him self, he is active in sports and at school! he is romantic and i feel like I can talk to him about everything! It got me thinking about how I could show him the real me! I started thinking and here is what i thought
Maybe I could save up and take him out to a really nice place for dinner and then a movie! But then Im thinking ok is that to dorcish? PLUSS he doesnt even think of me that way and he is way out of my leage!
Im not sure what to do.. Should I just forget about it and stay good friends with him?
sorry it was so long
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ok first off hunny NO one is out of your league... you can get any guy or any type of guy that you want if you work hard enough for him ... Try simply telling him how you feel about him..but dont get too brutal with your emotions cause you might scare him away... any we both know you dont want that ... after you have confided your feelings to him if he begins telling you that he Does Not feel the same way.. then dont be so worried about it ... agree to remain good friends and then maybe afterwards hell realize that he has some feelings for you too... (guys always have delayed reactions to EveryThing...!) but you never know ... maybe you come to find out he feels the same way.. but youll never know unless you try...
***Kayla...
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me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a month and a few days and when im around him i cant speak. he makes me so happy and im always smilin and he even said i dont tell him things. i want to tell him things but we only talk on AIM and when we r at skool we might see each other maybe 4 times for like a few minutes. i love him with all my heart and he means the world to me. before we were goin out i could tell him anything but now i lose all my words and when he says somethin i just laugh or somethin. how can i talk to him like i do everyone else?pleae help (link)
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ok.. you need to gain your confidence back.. it may be hard but you have got to learn to trust in him like you did before you two developed a relationship... try to talk more in school and call each other on the phone... being able to open up to your boyfriend is one of the most important factors in a relationship. You also need to hang out more OUT side of school..if he truly makes you happy and you want to stay with him.. this is very important! Seeing more of each other is the biggest step in a relationship.. thats what helps you develope a connection...but in order to develop a connection you must be able to confide in him...you have to get rid of those butterflies in side of your stomach if you really want things to work out...
***Kayla...
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K, I need help with 3 things actually:
1-I met this guy at a party, and at first I really didn't like him all that much, and I was really confused, and I seriously didn't know what I wanted, I was having a rough time with other things at the time... But then I decided, I liked the guy, and today he told me he likes this other girl and he doesn't like me at all... And I seriously don't know what to do, I'm just kind of tired of feeling hurt and let down by guys...
2-I also THINK I like this other guy, and I seriously think I could be really happy with him, but I don't know if he likes anyone, if he has a girlfriend, or if he'd even be interested in me "in that way".
3-I have this "friend"... and I stopped talking to her because we just didn't exactly feel the same about certain things... I thought we ended on good terms, but then I found out they have been saying REALLY mean things behind my back. Calling me fat and ugly and a bunch of other stuff. Which, from what she knows about me, is a seriously low blow. What should I do? Please help. (link)
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Okay for the first part... dont even worry about it..forget him.. most guys are so confused at what they really want...yea it may hurt your feelings for him to have let you down in such a bluntly honest wayy ... but at least he told you the truth and didnt just let you continue thinking that something might happen...
And for the second part... get to know this kidd a little more... find out his interests, ifhe indeed does have a girlfriend or not, and make sure that you are completely interested in him... if he doesnt have a girlfriend and you are positive that you like him and that you two could go far.. take the plunge and ask him out on a date or to just hang out with you and some friends... se how it goes from there .. but remember to remain confident..
***Kayla...
OK HAHA APPARENTLY I MISSED THE THIRD PART... :)
ok i say that you confront her about this .. that way she knows that your not afraid of her and that youve got somethings that youd like to say about her as well... tell her how you feel about her face TO face but dont be just as bad as she is and go telling the whole school her business... and if , when you confront her, she blows up and starts laying out all your business , by this point there will probably be a croud of people around you two, .. thats when you lay allll her sh!t out ....
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ok im 13 8th grade and this guy asked me to go with him.
i really dont know how to say no to guys.
I AM EXTREMLY NOT ATRACTED TO HIM.
and i dont want to go with him.
hes going to kiss me.
PLEASE HELP.
i rate 5s. (link)
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ok... hopefully you didnt already say yes... but if you did just let him go in a nice wayy...go easy on him.. tell him the truth .. that your not really attracted to him and your sorry for leading him on. If he still doesnt get it .. just swallow your pride and say no...
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ok there was this guy i met shopping.
and then i found him like 3 monthes later on myspace.
and now i like him and i dont no if he likes me.
but he has me on 2 on his top 8.
and he said
do you still like me?
and i was like
YES.
and he goes.
do you wanna hang out sometime.
then i said.
definently.
and yeah
he never replied.
i need help!!
please!
i rate 5s for trying! (link)
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Try messaging him back.. i knwo my space and it definetly f*s up sometimes and messes up messages... either that or he hasnt been on and hasnt gotton it yet.. but if he has been on send him a message and ask him when he has the time to hang out with you... if he has aim trying i*ming him on there ... u gotta be agressive sometimes to get what you want..
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simple question, long story behind it, but i want to know, what do girls want in guys? (link)
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ok dont listen to that i am crying guy... hun not ALL girls are back stabbing b!tches...
i cant tell you what ALL girls would want in a guys but someone like me would want a guy that..
1) Listens and doesnt just let it go in one ear and out the other...
2) Never lies... i hate it when people lie to me.. it hurts worse than ne thing and im sure alotta other girls would say the same..
3) When u say you care about them.. MEAN IT!
4) Doesnt let their friends influence how they feel about that person but then again respects their friend when their friend tells them their g/f was caught doing something wrong (like cheating*which I'D never do at leats..)
5) A guy who can hang out w/ his g/f and his friends at the same time.. i hate guys who would diss their friends for their g/f.. thats just wrong ..
6) a guy that can be honest and tell you the truth about how your acting or if you look bad w/o thinking youll get mad at him...(i wouldnt)
7) A guy that can make a girl laugh ...love that the most...!
8) A GUY THAT WILL DEFEND THEM..
I cant say these things would go for all girls but they would for a person like me.. im not high maintanance or anything like that... i just want someone whos honest for the most part.. to bad around elmira u cant find ne of them.. :-/ but i prolly didnt help you much .. haha i guess it all depends on how the girls act in your area babe... but if you ever need someone to talk to my screen name is... CutUpAngelz013
***Kayla...
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hey um, i dont know what to do anymore because there is this girl that i have liked since like pretty much an exact year ago, and well after the summer i realized i liked her even more, and well everyday that i see her, (every other day not including weekends) i tell her that she looks beautiful and how was her day and what did she do, and she gets all mad and tells me to stop. it hurts me alot when she tells me stuff like that, and on top of that almost everyday in class, she talks about alot of other guys in class even though she knows i like her and i sit by her, she is always after seniors when she is a freshman, and she thinks shes mature enough to be dating one. anyways she is always getting her heart broken when guys tell her that she isnt mature or has low self-confidence. one day since were in band drum line, she got on the bus after a game crying and that was the worst thing i have ever seen and i asked her if she wanted to sit next to me and talk about it and she said whatever and sat next to me and told me someone said she was annoying, then her friend got on and asked her if she wanted to sit with her and she just got up and walked off leaving me alone. well anyways in class she tells this guy she loves him and all of this nice stuff even though shes joking around but sometimes i wish i could get that much, and it seems like every guy she meets that isnt a freshman is her next crush i dont know what to do anymore its been a whole year and she still doesnt care i need help. (link)
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***Well this may not seem like good advice but hunny i say Screw Her... if youve tried to tell her how you feel and tried making a break through to her and shes still just completely blowing you off when your being as sweet to her as you are... then i just say drop her... one day shes gunna realize she could have had something so great .. and someone that truly cared for her and you'll be moving on with your life without her.. babe youll find so much more happiness with out her dragging you down...
***Kayla*Marie aka CutUpAngelz013
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okay my bf is normally this great guy that lives by so many morals.. i know.. hes told them so many times.. but recently hes been acting totally different.. and couldnt give the time of day.. me n his best friend (carrie-a girl) are friends too. but not as close ahve noticed tthat hes acting different.. and not himself.. hes been very mad and just closed in.. hedoesnt talk to her as much.. and normally gets mad when i try to fix things that i think are going wrong.. hes not very fun ne more.. and seems more like a hassell and i have more weight on my shoulders to carry in this relationship.. he doesnt really act liek were bf/gf.. he doesnt hold my hand or put his arm around me.. like he could care less.. idk waht to do.. should i stay together with him or break up with him>? help! (link)
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***Hunny the best advice i can give you is just to talk to him about it... sit down with him and run through everything thats been on your mind.. and maybe you can even get your friend carrie involved with it too... because it seems to me that somethings going on with him that hes not sharing with you and i think you both need to find out what it is... and try to help him through it and/or sort it out with him... it always helps to get inside someones head and try to see things through their perspective..maybe he just needs someone he trusts to listen... you could be that person hes waiting for to help him make the break through he needs...
***Kayla...
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