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Ciao sono Jenn. This is my advice column. I'm always here to talk, and listen. Feel free to give a shout, and I'll try my best to help you. Always here to lend an ear. Always here to share a thought.
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I have huge crush on this guy. I'm in 8th grade and 13/f. He talks to me a lot and every time we get new seating arrangements he always ends up sitting behind me. He pulls me hair and jokes around a lot too. I don't know what you would consider flirting though. But he talks to me about random things. We have some stuff in common so far that I know of. I wish he would ask me out, of course almost every girl would but if he ever did I might say no because of embarrassment. What do you think I should do? And by any chance do you think he might like me? I have 3 classes with him and 2 of them he talks to me. But of course he talks to other girls to but not a lot. Thanks so much!
I'm sure you wanted to hear something brilliant, but I'm going to just come right out and say the most obvious.. you might as well just as the boy to hangout. Maybe to a movie, or for bowling perhaps? I'm not sure what you guys are interested in, but you could as him to hangout, and see where that takes you. You never know what he'll say until you ask, and if you don't ask - you'll always wonder. Best of luck! (:
15/f and he's 17/m
So i run indoor track with him. And he's like always flirting with two other girls besides me. And i think he thinks i like him..but NO he needs to think again.,,So i need some tips on how I can lead him on..ya know ..try and give him a taste of his own medicine...
Leading him on, will only let you stoop down to his level. And that level being low only if that flirting with the other girls was intentional. It's almost better to just pretend as if you don't care, because I can tell you right now guys don't get jealous as easily as you think. If you move on, and avoid revenge.. who knows maybe he'll come crawling back to you for attention. Or maybe it wasn't intentional to lead you on. Maybe I'm wrong, I'm just going off myself and others' experience.
I hope I helped somewhat. And good luck with the situation.
hi, im a 15 year old female. i really want a date to homecoming this year. last year i didn't get asked, but i went with my friends (who all had dates), so it was me and 5 couples. It was really akward, but it was still fun. my mom says taht if i don't get a date this year, then i have to go with a group of girl "dateless" friends or not at all (which in my mind, isn't really a choice). here's the problem...ALL of my girl friends already have dates. I don't want to not go, so i guess what im asking is....how do i let guys know that i'm available without looking desperate or "easy", and how do i flirt (i guess i never took the course of flirting 101)
thanks!!♥
Well! Just casually talk to some boys whom you're friends with, or not and just make friends with some. And if they show interest, maybe they'll ask. Just be casual, looking desperate is a major turn off for guys. You could make arrangements to hang out with some boys or something to get to know them better. Who knows, maybe you'll hit it off, and get asked to Homecoming! I wish you the best of luck! I hope I helped! (: Remember boys love confidence!
16/f and my boyfriend is coming home for the weekend friday!
hes been at college and I miss him more then anything!!
I'm one of the lucky girls that have a wonderful, amazing, caring, loving boyfriend.
Since he is coming home friday, we plan on hanging out after the football game(bc i cheer) and I want to do it. haha.
What are some sexy, hot things I can do to make him like whoa! And want me really bad?(haha) Thanks!!!
Well I'm sure he already loves you enough to date you while he's away at college, because that's a very hard thing to do. If you want to do something sexy, you could "model off" some sexy lingerie or something - guys love that. Or for something sweet make him dinner, or go to the beach on a walk. I don't really know you or the guy well enough to fully address the situation. But I'm sure you can think of something. I really hoped I helped at least some bit! Good Luck, have fun, and be safe! :)
okay
so there's this guy and i don't know who he is or any thing
but everytime there's a program i see him
he's always looking at me and smilling and following me kinda
i know he's intrested but he won't come and talk...how can i get him to come over and talk with out me doing it first??
and if i have to do it first i don't wanna say anything like "i saw you noticing me"
You should definitely approach him. If you do approach him however, do it with confidence. Guys love it when girls have enough confidence to do so. You could honestly make it as simple as to introducing yourself, and asking his name. I'm sure a flash of the smile "Hey I'm ____, and you are?" would be sufficient. Then possibly a move onto asking him what or why he's there, and if the conversation progresses you could ask him if he was checking you out. If this seems too forward, maybe you could try just flashing a smile, and giving a simple wave. I wish you the best of luck, I hope you reel him in! :) Hope I could help!
This question may be stupid, but I'm honestly wondering - why like everyone but ME is getting a boyfriend.
I'm a girl, and i'm 15.
I just dont get why all my friend have boyfriends, and I dont? Is there something wrong wiht me? I've been told numerous times, that my time will come, but geez, i dont want to be like really old!! I want one soon, not because I just want a boyfriend to say "oh i havea bf" but because I really want to love someone & be loved in return, as corny as that sounds.
Ahhh is this normal though? To feel like this, is there anything I can do to get a boyfriend, like anything boys like in particular..?
Well, you should start talking to boys!
Start flirting, and communicating.
A boy isn't just going to come to you
if you don't do anything, you have to make
the inniciative to make friends! Maybe
some of those friends will evolve to
being a boyfriend! You never know!
Well good luck, and if you have anymore
questions, just ask! :]
15/F
So this year, I got to know this guy really good, and in the beginning of the year he was dating a girl. Then eventually they broke up, but I find myself having a crush on him.
I dont know if he likes me though,
I mean honestly the only way to know is to ask, but I'm scared of being rejected.
Asking is easier said than done duh.
But I think he possibly could like me because one day he randomly hugged me and was like, aghhh i missed you!! And I just thought, awwwh thats so cute. And he always says hi to me now in the hallways, and I dont know, he probably doesnt, but I'm just wondering.
Well,
I think you should ask. Because like you said [it is easier said than done] but you could never know, and you could go the rest of your life not knowing. I think you should ask.
Who knows, he might even have strong feelings for you, you just never know!
The exact same thing happened to me a while ago, and I thought the boy didn't like me, so I asked, he did!
My conclusion, is that you should definetly try! By the way it sounds, he probably has feelings for you!
Good Luck! :]
my n my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months... im 13/f and well valentines day is coming up.. and i have no idea what to get him... hes sorta a prep, he plays football, and umm idk hes just like a normal 13 year old guy.. please help!!
Get him a gift certificate to like his favorite clothes store, or something that has to do with football.. I dunno I am just guessing.
Omg, im stressing out seriously. Okay, well my boyfriend just broke up with me, my mom is always flipping out on me now, my best friend is mad at me for cutting. and nothing left of happiness is left in me. I dont know what i should i do. I just need help seriously. So please can someone help me?! Thanks so much. -- Colleen
Oh hun,
Please don't cut yourself. I know it's your descion, I am not trying to be dumb. I think you need to try to be positive, yes it must be hard I imagine but try to make the better of thing. Try to avoid your mom, that's what I do. Try to find someone else to like. Tell your best friend your sorry and you couldn't help it. Maybe you need to sit down with your mom or your friend and tell them about this. If you want more advice I am always here to talk. IM ME AT: pinkishmango24 or email me at: femmelax@yahoo.com
The best luck, this is something hard to talk about.
I have like this guy since last year. We have flirted a little bit and stuff like that, but i cant tell if he likes me. He stares at me all the time during class. But when we talk on AIM, he will be really mean. Except, today, I randomly asked if he had seen "Coach cater" because i wanted to know if it was a good movie, and he said "no, but do u want to go?" I said i was already going witha friend, and he was like "fine ur loss". I dont know if this was some kind of joke, or if he really likes me! Please help me out!
You should ask him to go with you and your friend if the friend is fine with it. You could also tell him that even though plans wont work this time maybe you could go to another movie another time? This is a tough subject. If you like him let him know, if he knows ask him if he likes you or if it was a joke. Good Luck!
I have this friend named Emily. She has recently just liked this guy named Justin. Well a week ago she decided she didn't like him anymore. Last night they were talking online and Justin told Emily that he really really liked me and he was going to ask me out and if i said no then he would like be at da point crying. I don't like him and i don't really want to go out cuz i like someone else but my friend wants me to go out w/ him... what should i do?
You should be honest and say "You are good as a friend, but I don't have feelings for you like that." I know it sucks, but it's the truth and it is better to tell him and your friend the truth, rather than leading Justin on if you said yes. Good Luck!
i feel so lonley without a boyfriend. i miss having some one here to always talk to and stuff, is that wrong?
NO! Of course that isnt wrong. I feel that way all the time. I mean its completely NORMAL, do not worry. I feel lonely a lot, but just dont get to stressed about it. There are good things about being single. Like you can flirt with whoever you feel like flirting with, you can look at guys with anyone getting mad. So there are pros and cons. Basically there is nothing wrong with that.
I am so in love with this boy.. that i have been lets say more than friends with.. ne wayz... I'm so confused now.. I don't know what to do I don't know if I SHOULD GO FOR HIM OR WHAT.. I really like him and he likes me well i would hope so.. becasue he kisses me and we act like a couple but i dont wanna be turned down if i ask him out what should I do help!! plz ill rate 5's
I think you should let him know how you feel. Be honest with him, if you cant be honest with him why bother. Well yah you get it. I hope. But I would tell him your feelings first and see what his reaction his. Go for it from there. Good luck! :D
ok, see there is this boy that i dated a while back and I really liked him until he broke up wit me, but now i am back with another guy and I am completely in love with him and our relationship couldnt be better. but everytime my friends like my ex...i get so jealous and mad...why is this? i really need some help
OMG, I so get what you mean. This has happened to me. I guess it is just human nature. That happens to me sometimes, just think about why you broke up and thats why you shouldnt be jealous and they will have to deal with him. Thats what I do. I wish you luck on this situation, cause thats a toughie.
13/f/7th grade
There's this really cute 8th grader that I like and he kinda doesn't know that i exist. I mean i see him a lot at my cousin's house and he notices me but i don't know how to get him to like me. Please, for the love of god, help me!
Okay. I understand what you mean. You can't MAKE someone like you though it just work like that. If they see you at your cousins house they obviously know you exsist they just might not be friends with you I guess. You can just start saying hi, then whenever you feel like it trying having a conversation. Then once you become friends you could like call him sometimes and be all "im bored." and i bet he will talk to you. I know this is a cliché, but if he doesnt like you for who you are he really isnt worth it. Believe me, I have experienced this. Good Luck girlie!
im sry i just picked this category cuz its where most people go. but somhing weird just happened. i was out bak and itss very dark cuz its like 9. and i look at the woods in my yard and.............i saw something. ....i dont want 2 believe wat i saw cuz peeps wud tthink im wweird....but i saw a pair of bright...hypnotic...red eyes. now im the kinda guy who think movies like signs and the mothman prophocies r wicked gay. i dont get scared by hem i getbored. but as i stared at these eyes i felt llight headed andd i kept hearing this sharp,crackly sound coming rom he eyes. then it all of a sudden took off!!i jumed up in the air i saw its shadowy silouhette in the sky. it reminded me alot bout mothman. but i live in Mass. this has really freakedd me out. should i tell som1?
I think you need to tell someone right away if its scaring you, you should be serious about it and tell. Man i know what you mean mothman propechies scared the crud out of me.. i couldnt walk around the house alone and the thought of something like that to happen to you would scar me for life, tell someone even if it is nothing.
my ex girlfriend is currently dating my best friend. I pretend i dont mind, but i really do because i still lik her and i know she still likes me, so wat should i do
Well sit her down in private and let her know you still have feelings for her and it bothers you, and see what happens! good luck!
Ok well i'm 13 and i was getting to know this girl. She just broke up with her bf. And she told me that she liked me. C the thing is i didn't know her that well and i started to try and talk to her more. I was starting to like her but i've only seen her once and only talk to her online. But i started to like her. Only i just started talkin to her 4 days ago. So i told her that i wasn't gonna ask her out until i got to know her better. The problem is now she's goin out with another guy. Is there somthin wrong with me should i have asked her out?
Plz Help
Well if she really liked you she would have waited. I bet she likes you a lot, but maybe she just needs a boyfriend all the time and when she is ready she might give you the oppurtunity of asking her out. Good Luck!
im 14 and goin wit a grl i really like but all my freinds and even my dad say i should break up wit her and go out with this other grl. the problem is i like both of them alot but the grl im with usualy hase long relationships but the other grl doesnt. if i break up with the grl im with and then the other grl doesnt last long i will be givin up the relationship i wanted 4 a one week thing. if u can help me ill be really happy. thnx
Well if you really like the girl your with and you know the relationship will last longer and actully mean something I would stick with it. Unless you feel real strongly about dating the other girl. I hope this all works out in the end!
this girl at my school like sleeps around and does drugs and drinks and stuff...and not alot of ppl like her...but she wants to go out with my best guy friend and all shes gonna do is sleep with him and get him into drugs and everybody knows and doesnt want it to happen and i dont know how to tell him that he shouldnt go out with her...
Tell him "Man, your my best friend and I am tellin yah this cuz were buds and i dont want something to ruin your life. my opinion about ____ is not so great, i mean its your choice and your life but you know she does drugs and drinks and if you go out with her she could get you in to them and i dont want that to happen. Its only my opinion but think about it."
Just let him know you really care about what could happen to him. Good Luck i hope all goes well!