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All of my friends have either thought about or had sex...and i don't know what choice to make.....cause most of my friends are having sex and i don't wanna b one out of the bunch that doesnt have sex....so please help me before i make a wrong descision.. (link)
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DO NOT just do something because everyone else is doing it. Please think about it in your perspective. Do YOU want to do it? Are you okay with the possible consequences? Pregnancy, STIs, STDs, UTIs, etc. For now, I say don't. It isn't worth it. Sex isn't all it's cracked up to be, trust me :)
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ii really like this boy :( (link)
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Well, if he really does like this other girl more then you have to let him go. It's hard to admit but it is true. It sucks, but you can't make someone like, or love you. Stay around to be his friend, just incase it doesn't work out with the other girl. But other than that, that is nothing else you can do but try and move on for the time being, and if he becomes single, or changes his mind, you will be there. :)
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I've been hurt many times in relationships and I've lost trust in guys. I became one of those girls who led guys on and dropped them, made plans I didn't intend on keeping and said things I didn't mean. I did that even to guys I liked. Now I'm changing things but the weird thing is I'm realizing I'm really into this guy i screwed over manyyy times. He isn't the best guys, he smokes ALOT, skips class, and drinks but for some reason I keep falling for him. He was one of the guys I actually did like but I made plans and didn't follow through 5 different times so hes pretty much lost all trust in me. I don't really know what to do because I don't want to want him but I can't help it. Well he ended up being at this party I was at and we talked and I appologized and he was being really sweet and cute. He tried to hook up with me and I didn't because my friend was already mad at me cause she says I was dancing like a whore so that probably didn't help things, turning him down. Me and him are friends but part of me really wants more. Everyone says I can do better than him but theres something about him that I can't let go of. For some reason even though he isn't the best guy and he isn't very attractive i feel like I can trust him. I don't know if I should go for him and work my ass off to try and get him or I should just try and move on (which hasn't been working.) (link)
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Well, to be honest it seems like you answered your own question there. If you like him as much as you say you do, then go for it. Don't let anyone else try and tell you what is best for YOU. If it does turn out to be a mistake, so what, that is how we learn to not make them again. I have been there myself. I think you should go for it, because if not, you will always be asking yourself, "what if?"
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ok 14/f/straight
soome of these shouldnt be in this category, but i have a lot of questions!!
1. what IS oral sex???
2. my bf is having his b-day this coming monday, any ideas of what to get him?
3. what is feeling up mean?
4. im in a school orchestra and so is my bf, we have a concert in December, we will be able to be alone in a room making out,,, HOW DO YOU MAKE OUT/FRENCH KISS??? idk, ive never done that b4, and i KNOW he wants to, and i do too
5. How do i get my bf to put his arms around me, like you know how guys put there arms around their girlfriends waist??? well how do i get my bf to do that to me???
Im sorry i have so many questions, and im sorry if you cant answer them all, but answer what you can please!
thanks!!! (link)
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I am going to answer these as clearly as I can and to the best of my ability.
1) Oral sex, when performed by a female on a male is when the female puts the mans penis in his mouth and sucks on it, usually accompanied by motion of sliding it in and out, mimicking the act of sex. When a man does it to a woman, he licks the womans vagina usually around the clitoris, which is the most sensitive part of the vagina. This can be accompanied by fingering also if the man and woman desire it. This is also what "eating out" means. Because the man is licking and sometimes lightly sucking on the womans clitoris and other parts of the vagina.
2. How old is he? The easiest thing is to see what he needs. Maybe it's some new clothes. What's important is to pay attention when he says he wants something, or that he thinks something is cool, etc. Keeping in mind it's reasonably priced. For example, when my bf and I go to the mall, I pay attention to what shirts he says he likes, or styles etc and then I remember that when birthdays or holidays come around.
3. Feeling up generally means when you are touching someone's private parts. A common example would be a man feeling a womans breasts. It can also refer to him feeling her vagina or her feeling his penis. Under or over their clothes.
4. Making out starts off as a simple peck on the lips, then both partners open their mouths, usually one has their top lip on the others bottom lip and you slip your tongue inside each other's mouths. Moving it around slowly. It's awkward at first, but you usually fall into a rhythm.
5. You can hint at him that that is something you would like him to do. You can't force him to do it. Dropping hints should work, and when he does do it, let him know how much you like it.
6. I think I explained this eariler. It means when a guy performs oral sex on a girl.
If you have any more questions, just let me know!
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what is a good kind of colonge for guys
one that girls love
not like axe or tag
but actuall cologne (link)
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Curve Soul
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ok so im going to see my crush tomorrow at the football game, only prob. he is coming there with his ex gf and i just found out they watched tv together today.but he says that she was sending him mixed signals. so question one should i even bother going to the game? if i go should i just ignore him? or should i steal his attention? and what should i do to be unforgetable? how should i dress,act,etc? man im confused (link)
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Well here is how I see it....are you going to the game tomorrow JUST to see him? Is it a planned thing between you and him? Or are you going on your own and just plan on seeing him?
If you and him planned to go together, bringing his ex is just disrespectful and you should not even bother going.
If you are going on your own and are going just knowing you will see him there, AND you know he is bringing his ex, then it probably means he is still interested in her. Especially if they were hanging out watching tv together, etc. It just seems like he still wants to be with her.
So you can choose to go still, if you wish. Thought it seems like he still wants to be with her, you can still go and try and show her up. You can draw attention to yourself by dressing cute, classy, nice. (Though guys claim they like girls who dress skanky, they only like them because they are easy. Those girls are NOT the type they SERIOUSLY date). So don't show up with your boobs hangin all over the place lol, that's just trashy. Showing his ex up by looking sexy and cute without being trashy will make it harder for her to talk crap about you.
You can also steal attention by just making general conversation with him. Act normal. Don't overdo yourself. Coming on too strong will scare him away. Also, don't be disrespectful to his ex (no matter how much you don't like her) because that will just come off to him like you are a bitch, (excuse my language lol). So be nice, funny, cool, and that will most likely work. Just be you, and good luck!
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help me with ths guy problem - Today, 02:55 AM
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ok so i've had a crush on this guy for 7 years and i just told him recently how i feel . we talk all the time at least once a day. but the prob. is his best friend whom i have no interest in what so ever has a huge crush on me its to the point of obsession and the guy i like used to date my little sister. he is the same age as me though, he just think it be weird to be with me after dating my sister and i also believe he dont wanna hurt his friend's feelings. up till three days ago i thought we were just friends thats it but then he started say he wanted to " Sleep with me" i accidently sent the message to his friend, who says he is just messing with me. but he confroted his frend(my crush) online last nite and i was talking to my crush at the time and he(my crush) said that his friend was asking why he(my crush) was hitting on me . my crush im'd me saying that he could get himself out of trouble with his friend. he told me what he told his friend he said that he was using reverse psychology on me then laugh about it with me. i said twice well he(my crushes friend) dont have anything to worry about its not like u have feelings for me right? and he never responded. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? DOES HE LIKE ME OR IS HE JUST MESSING WITH ME? PLZ HELP
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A bit confusing but I think I got it lol. I have NO doubts that your crush wants to sleep with you. Why? Because a guy doesn't just "say that" stuff, he almost always means it. Now, what you need to ask yourself is....is he saying he wants to sleep with me because he really likes me? OR, is it because you recently told him how you feel towards him, so he feels that you will be 'easy' because he already knows you like him. I only say it like that because I don't want you to end up getting hurt if he just sleeps with you because he knows you like him, and that you would do it. I do think it would be a bit weird since he was dating your sister, and his friend would probably be hurt too. But, this is a decision you are going to have to make. Really look at the facts. Pay attention to how he acts towards you. And especially ask yourself the question "why" for what he is doing/saying. Why would he be saying this now? Would he be acting the same way if I hadn't told him I liked him? etc...let me know if you have any more questions! or if there is anything you would like me to clear up.
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ok ; i toLd my boyfriend about me cheating yesterday [ monday ] & he was upset , didnt taLk to me aLL yesterday or today . i just kept assuring him i was sorry and i Love him with everything & everything i couLd think of . weLl today i caLLed and was Like do you want me to come voer and he said yea . i went & it was hard at first he was crying & everything i said i know i fucked up . but my Love for you is reaL & so on ..... & then i started cryin because he was Like well i dont know how i can trust you again & forgive you i dont think i can .. then he Looked at me , saw the sorrow in my eyes and grabed me and hugged em adn said iLL give you one more chance but if you ever do anything like that ever aagain kiss me good bye & i just started crying and everyinth . we made up with kisses and other thigns ya know & he toLd me straight up its gonna take time to see how he feeLs so i hope everygi works out . thanks (link)
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I am so happy for you!! That is almost EXACTLY how my bf and I made up. Things will be okay after some time. I can't express how glad I am. You two sound like you have something good...something real...keep it up! Be strong :)
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ok im in tears .... idk why its just getting to me now ; but me and my boyfriend have been dating aLmost 7 months now . im in Love with that boy & hes my everything . over the summer i cheated on him with the boy he hates most ''/ i feeL so bad , i HATE my seLf so much for it - the one thing i have in Life that means so much to me i fuck it up with my stupidity . im so scared to teLL him because he toLd me he wouLd break up with me if i cheated on him ''/ id literaLy be crushed i dont know wat to do
i cant keep this inside anymore ... N0 one knows & i wana teLL him so bad but nothing good can come out of it ''/
pLease heLp & this is serious . (link)
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Let me tell you, I was in a similar situation not too long ago. My bf and I had been going out for about 6 months when I ended up making out with my ex. I felt really bad and kept if from my bf for a long time. He told me the only way he would leave me was if i cheated on him. Well one day we were talking about this subject and I told him I had something I needed to tell him. I told him what I did, and I was crying and apologizing a million times. He got very upset, and hardly wanted to talk to me. We did talk it out, and although he was upset for some time after that, we moved on.
Now, i don't exactly know your situation, but this is the best advice I can give you. If you are in a serious relationship with your bf, and you two truely love each other, you need to tell him. In the end you will feel a lot better, and you won't be walking around with this guilt. Explain to him how bad you feel, and that you feel that telling him is the right thing to do because you DO love him. Explain that it was a stupid mistake, and let him know how much it would kill you for you two to break up over this, but tell him that you respect him enough to tell him the truth, because you don't want any secrets between you two.
I think by doing this, he will see your true feelings, and that you feel really bad about it that you just want to tell him because of how it's been eating at you. If he feels the same way, he will see past it eventually. Understand that he may or may not be upset with you for a while after this, but you know in your heart it's the best thing to do. You don't want that cloud hanging over you and your relationship.
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Hi, umm Im the girl you answered a question about me having a lot of guys friends and how one of them stuck up for me whne Nick called me butch.. well hasn't even been a week and people are driving me batty.
ahh Stevens still in ISS... and so's Nick.
Well yesturday.. we had cooking and I got stuck wiht becky.. thank good DJ,JJ, and Nathen. Well im friends with Nathen.. and JJ was making jokes about how its a womens job to cook and all this sexist crap.. well then Cole joined and Nathen already hated this kid so they got in a talking arguement and as Nathen walked away he like said to me under his breath..
"Err I wished he'd die.. of cancer."
Well I tweaked on him because ive senn what cancer does to people and after a while there gone. like there bodys still on earth but anything else is gone.. and I screamed at him!
I was like WHAT! I was like noo even I cant stand Cole but never EVER would I wish death on anyone!! Expecially not cancer.." and he was like oo oo i didnt mean it like that.. I was you still said it! what is wrong with you.. have you seen what cancer does to people! and my Uncle passed away November 4th of last year and not a day goes by i dont think of him.. I love him and he lived 9 months after finding out he had cancer but maybe 6 months tops into it he was gone.. and i told him this.he was like ughh oo.. ee..
And i remember in the last question i said all my guy friends were just friends but I knew I did have feelings about Nathen.. and I never expected this from him he didnt know.. about my Uncle but he still said it..
Well i started crying and actually ran to the ISS room to talk to Steven
Mrs Berry it was cool aslong as we were quite. Well I hugged him.. and basicly cried on his shoulder.. I told him everything about me liking him and how he said it and Stevens attitude changed completely.. first he was like ohh come here.. are you okay like completely friend.. next minete he stil cared but i could tell i hurt his feelings. And now im not sure about anything like does Steven like me??? I love Steven as a brother as a best friend as someone i can count on.. not a boyfriend. Well i had to leave and as I hugged Steven he was stiff..
I had PE afterwards and I have that class with Nathen and he just looked at me..
I dont want to be the person who cries alot of but at the moment that doesnt madder.. im gunna lose two of my good friends over something thats Nathens fault.. but i like Nathen i think because when he sai it i wanted to claw at him..
Explain to me why im feeling like ahhhhhhhhh
Stevens my friend, if i knew he liked me never would i explain it in such a good detail, i thought he loved me as a sister.. not girlfriend Ive never look at Steven in that way but this whole week has sucked NOW i feel acward around my friends because what if they like me, and i hurt there feelings??? I love them and would never wanna see any of them hurt. But Steven wont return phone calls, ive asked about him but everyones like no hes fune BLAHH BLAHH when i know there lieing they didnt see him face.. i shouldve listened to people when they said it was a possibilty that he liked me, but like thgey dont know him,but i just feel akward around the guys.. what if there loking down my shirt (something ive never worried about) just dumb things jeez im paranoid..
Please help again..=D..=\
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It seems as though Steven will not come out and admit that his feelings were hurt for some reason. My personal opinion says he likes you. You should really sit him down and talk to him about it. Explain where you stand with him (how you said you like him as a brother...not a bf...) and say you are sorry if his feelings got hurt.
I'm sure Nathen wasn't thinking when he made the comment about cancer. People don't think. It's like when people say..."oh, that's gay..." and there might be a homosexual man standing around, or whatever. People say things and don't think about what it actually means. So I don't think he meant it that way. But still, it's good that you made him know that he should think next time, because people really do go through Cancer, and it is nothing to wish upon anyone. I do think Nathen likes you, I also think you need to have a conversation with him about this too, though it may be hard, it's the only thing you can do to clear things up, and not walk around to awkward and confused all the time! That's the only way you will know things for sure.
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Hey.. we are two average 15 year old girls. We really want to have more guy friends and eventually a boyfriend. We have a few guy friends but we def. want more. We have a lot of friends in general but we need more guys friends. We are trying to plan something to hang out with them but if that doesnt work than we need more help. We dont have their sn's or phone #s either. Please help us get some more guys friends! thanks sooooo much!!!! (link)
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The main thing you have to work on is being bold! Don't be shy! I know its easier said than done, but sometimes guys are shy too, and being bold just helps. Get friendly, maybe a bit flirty, and then just ask for their sns or phone numbers. Tell them they are cool and you wanna chat some other time other than just being there in person. Also, if you want more guy friends, bring up something random about them happening at the time, (for example, if a guy is wearing a cute shirt tell them you like it...then ask where they got it...) and keep going and introduce yourself in the middle of the conversation, and just become friends that way. It always works for me! Then continue to get closer to them, talking with them, seeing what you have in common, plan some days to hang out or whatever...and you might just get yourself a boyfriend!
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ok so today me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt have proctection but we cant get it because none of our friends know and we arent going to go and buy them ourselves so he just takes it out before he feels like he is going to finnish, well today he said he didnt feel it until 10 seconds before he finnished and he pulled out and about 8 second after he finnished. i freaked out of course but he said he could feel when he pre cums so i dont know if i should believe him or what. ALso, what are the first signs of being pregnant ? (link)
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The pull out method doesn't work. Most men cannot feel most, if any of their pre-cum..which gets realeased usually very soon after he becomes aroused and sexual things start happning. It acts as a natural lubricant...just like when a girl is "wet". Same idea. The thing is that pre-cum can contain millons of sperm, which can get you pregnant. I don't understand why it is so hard to go get condoms? Also, even though you may not think you are at risk of getting an STD, you can get HPV and be at risk for cervical cancer. Look it up if you don't know much about HPV, by the age of 50, 80% of women would've been exposed to it.
Just a bad idea all around. The first signs of being pregnant are headaches, nausea, soreness of the breats, among others.
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where is the clit? (link)
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The clitoris is a hooded body part at the top of the genitals, above the urethra and below the pubic bone and hairline. Basically if you are sliding your hand down the middle of your chest, right where the vagina starts on the inside of the lips. It is in what looks like a hood and it feels like a ball shape, though shapes of clitori are different for every girl.
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Hi this is a stupid question but Im a black girl and Im attracted to skater type of guys only and in my collage we have alot of guys like that but whenever I ask them out they always say no!They would say they are not attracted to me but yet they date mixed raced why do you think they only date mixed girls and not black girls? (link)
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I don't really think they don't like you because you are black, seeing as how they date outside of their race. Maybe they don't feel they have much in common with you. Are you the skater type yourself? If you are into the same things they are, do you let them know? Do you have good friendships with these guys before you ask them out? That's important.
If you really think it's a race thing (though I would doubt it is for EVERY skater guy you come across) then that is a shame. But i think you need to keep trying to build good relationships before you ask them out. If you need more help or want to add information i don't know, then just shoot me another msg!
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okay so my bf fingered me the other day. it was just one finger, but it still kinda hurt. i was completely wet (and by the way, do guy's think that is just a little gross if the girl is really wet), but anyway, if just one finger hurt, then isnt sex going to hurt pretty bad? oh and also, i want to give him a blowjob, and i want him to like it. but im not really sure what will pleasure him the most. (like im scared my teeth will rub against his penis..and that would hurt wouldnt it?) and what does cum taste like, in case i decide to swallow? (link)
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Sex might hurt the first time, it is different for everyone. Usually it isn't too bad. Though it might sound funny, fingering right before you have sex might be helpful. Most guys love it when a girl is really wet, it makes them think, "oh wow, she is really turned on by me", and it generally just gives them a good feeling.
As far as oral sex goes, i'm pretty sure once you do it, you will know how to shape your mouth as to not scrape your teeth on his penis, it's not hard to do. The only way you will know what he likes it to just try it, and have him tell you what feels best.
Cum can taste differently depending on what the guy has eaten earlier in the day. If he eats fruit, its a bit sweeter than if he were to have eaten fish, which would make it taste more bitter. In general, it is usually a bit thick and bland tasting.
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when is it considered not being a " virgan " r u still a virgan if only the girl has an orgasim and not the boy ? do both people have to finnish to have sex ? or is it if one person does ur both not virgans haha im confused :/ please help me figure out if i am still a virgan haha :] (link)
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It has nothing to do with having orgasms. Both of you could have sex and now achieve an orgasm and still not be considered virgins. If his penis has penetrated your vagina then you are no longer a virgin. Now, if you have only had oral sex..whether or not you are a virgin is up to you, depending on whether or not you see oral sex as 'sex'.
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okay so i love attention. so is it weird that i want to be a slut? i mean, ive done kind of sluttish things before but not to get the reputation of being one but i want to? is that normal or totally strange? and if not then what can i do to get it? (15/f btw.) (link)
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A lot of people love attention. Being a slut really won't get you much. You will get used more than attention. It would most likely be negative attention at that. Why would you want that? I does sound quite strange, defidently not normal. That question made me sad just reading it. :/
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I really like this guy and right now we are just texting each other, well I am going to watch him race saturday. I havent heard from him since monday. Should I be worried or not? I mean he could be busy working or just tired am I losing my mind? (link)
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It sounds like you might be a little nervous, so you might be over analyzing things. I don't think it is anything to worry about at all. But you are def. not losing your mind lol
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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First off, thanks for the compliment! lol Second...my bf and I wrestle all the time, and I have won PLENTY of times! My legs are very strong, and I am way more flexible, those two combined have helped me win a lot. Who says girls can't be more athletic than guys? Just because we are girls, doesn't mean we can't beat a guys but every once and a while, no matter how big or small we are!
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Would your boyfriend pick music over you? (link)
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I think it depends. The way I see it, if something comes along (an offer or what have you) where he would get the chance to do what he's always wanted to do. I mean that as, if there is that opprotunity, and I happen to "be in the way" (one way or another) I think that he should. But I dont necessarily know if he WOULD do it. But I would 100% honestly want him to. Just because I think it would be such an awesome experience for him, and he's been wanting it so long. I mean, i'd always be here waiting for him, whenever he'd be able, or want, to return. But yes, i think music is more important. Because I had that feeling once...
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