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ay;pi'd say i'm good at givin advice ,but to be honest like eveyone here thinks that they're good .i take my answers pretty seriously .most of the time the reasons my answers are right is because i've been there and done it twice .im not the average teenage girl giving advice either .im a fabulous ,trash-talking ,one of a kind ,jealous ,confident ,dramatic ,beautiful ,crazy ,funny ,creative ,tv watchin ,outspoken and blunt chica;D .so i answer all private questions and ignore ratings
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i have this really good guy friend who i really like. but i want him to love me back! i dont know how he feels but we talk about our relationships with pased bf or gf with each other. i feel like i NEED TO KNOW!!!
Well you honestly can't tell if someone loves you unless they tell you .and with so little information you gave ,there's like no way to tell .but just because you talk to him and you realy realy like him, does not automatically mean he loves you .I've been in your situation too .when you feel like you love a boy and you tell youself there's hope and the slightest smile in your direction or the smallest bit of small talk makes your heart tell you your brain to shut the hell up .time and patience and the good TLC is all you can do.
xoT ;p
So my boyfriends 18th birthday is coming up soon and I'm not to sure on what to get him this year. We've been together almost two years and I'm stuck on what to get him this time. He told me something unique and special.
he's into:
*TV series
*things from his childhood (power rangers, ninja turtles)
*working out
*country music
*being a guy basically
Yeah everybodys goin on that little phase. Its adorablle.
What I would do is make him alittle gift basket. Such as:
A cute basket filled with his favorite tv series, a teddy bear or something (throw in a little somethin about you), some little kid toys that he like maybe some action figures haha (don't get him stuff thats too kiddy like coloring books), if he wears acceriies with his clothes then throw in some of that, and maybe a shirt or 2 from his favorite store. Top it all off with a card handmade by you. And when he unwrapps it all, explain each thing to him.
x T ;p
why doesnt he care anymore?
Posted Saturday June 28 2008, 7:15 pm
so i dated this guy for a year and a half on and off....the only reason we broke up was because i moved away and we barely saw eachother...well he start doin things that i never thought he would do. he start smoking and drinking and gettin high alll the time... then we kinda just fell apart and started dating other people ,but even though we were both dating other people he made it clear he still loved me , and i was the only girl he loved...and that his new girlfriend was just a crush, but anyways he heard from my x boyfirend that i did all these horrible things wit him, which was not true. but like an idiot when he asked me, i didnt deny it. and now he is acting all in love wit his new girlfriend and he doesnt even wanna speak to me anymore,...my question is... do u really think he is over me...or do u think we will get back together on day?/
Yes he probablly is. You just hurt him. Your mistake was not denying the accusations, which I think was really stupid of you. So you should tell him that those things were not true. Followed by a reason why you lied because he probabally won't believe you. Its been so long since you went out and even though he said he loves you he might not love you the way you love him, or as seriously. No one can predict the future so you2 could get back together, but there's also a chance that you won't. Think about, after all this time you haven't gotten back together and you made the chances even worse so I wouldn't get your chances to high. But miracles do happen sweetie and if its meant to be then it will work out =)
ive been dating this guy for 1 month we broke up , over stupid stuff...his x girlfriends are physco ..one try ;d to fight me and the other just completely jelous... and he is goin out wit his x, the jelous one but my bestfriend who lives 2 doors down from him told me that he told her that he doesnt really like her, and that she asked him out and he didnt wanna hurt her feelings and he said yes... and she asked him did he still like me and he told her yea...
but he wont get back wit me idk why? so what do i do?
To tell the truth I don't think you can do anything.
You could try actually getting him alone and telling him that you want to get back together but its not certain that he would go back out with you. If he was like in love with you or really really liked you then he wouldn't have broken up with you in the first place over something stupid (or he wouldn't have let you go so easily if you broke up with him). Keep in mind that people can change who they like. If things continue with him not getting back with you then get it out of your mind. It might take awhile but there's no reason to like someone who won't go out with you. Don't try the whole making him jealous thing because that's like so juevenile and when does that seriously work anyway? But if he really likes you then he will ask you out again. Just give him some time.
Andrew/14/Male:I want to make my girlfriend feel special but were not yet old enough for sex. Also i don't make alot of money. What should i do?
Every once in awhile you should bring some cheap ballons and candy or a big teddy bear to school for her. That will make girls jealous and think why can't their boyfriends do that you know. Pllus a girl loves that kind of thing. If your going for something more subtle, you should go over to walmart and get a really cute gold locket for very cheap. 30$ dollars or less. But you don't have a whole lot of money at all, by a single red or pink rose at a gas station real cheap and surprise her with it. Attach a cute little note to it even. Since its real cheap, small and loving, you should do it a lot. =)
Wel...there is dis boy and today he gave me a hug three times right and he is in the same lunch as i am in and he grabbed my hand and we hugged and e swayed form back and forth and we hugged for a long time and then we was in class me and him were talking and i he kept staring at me and im like are u spacing out??? And he was like no its dat your maadddd sexy and i w waz like ok and he kept saying it and I dont know if he likes me he i sda sweetest boy i have ever met IN my entire life he is so sweet and we have mad stuff in common so i dont know if he likes me becuase he treats me differently then all his other female friends????
Duhh girl! Is he fine as hell? Then you better get on that haha. See what he wants. Talk to him and say "hey boo, I noticed you noticing me and I just wanted to give you notice that I noticed you to," you know what I mean. But fo real you need to step up your game and see if he wants to get with you or he's just frontin. But yeah, he likes you.
i've been with my boyfriend for 4yrs and we lived together for 3yrs.6mnths ago he moved out of state.he wanted me to come with him,but i had some commitments that i just couldn't leave.since then we've been having lots of problems,we even broke up and got back together.i feel like am the only one trying to make this work because for some reason he's soo relaxed about this whole thing.now i think moving to him will actually save this relationship,but am afraid he wouldn't want me to move since he's enjoying he's indepency and am the only one making this work.should i move??
It kinda depends on how big the commitment is sweetie. I know moving out of state is stressful. But would it really be worth it. You said you have already broken up once and he doesn't seem to be making too much of an effort to get you to move. Maybe this isn't meant to be? There a reason for everything. Try and remember that. You need to find out what's best for you and put yourself first before anyone else. This is your life and can't always change it back to the way it was. It might be hard to let him go. Givve a few more days of thought ask your friends how they feel. Think about it. Your life is here and you want to move out of state with this man. Think about jobs, money, starting over... is this what you want?
My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. We have had sex before, but he thinks it would be cool if we try something new. Like having sex with one more person. He wants a girl obviously. I wouldn't mind cus i'm bi. But should we or not? will this hurt our relationship?
Yes it would. Why would he want another girl in there? Aren't you good enough? I don't mean to be blunt but come one. Yes this will hurt the relationship. How awkward would it be to have another girl fooling around with your boyfriend. It also spreads the risk of STD' so it can also be dangerous. Talk to him and really get an exact answer for why he would want this and how would he feel if you had another boy instead of a girl?
The other day my friend and I were going through a album of all of our friends. We were talking about how much we missed our friends. I was having so much fun with her. Then she leaned in. I thought she was going to tell me a secret, but instead she kissed me. I'm a girl too. I was stunned. I just got out of a relationship with a guy 2 weeks ago. I have never been into girls, but when she kissed me it seemed...right. I just looked at her in shock. She didn't say anything. She got her stuff really quick and left. We have been friends since 7th grade and now we're sophmores. She called me that night and apologized. She told me she had a crush on me for a long time, but never knew how to tell me. I told her to come over (because she was histarically bawling). When she got here she kissed me again. I didn't pull away, but I'm still not sure what to think of it. I like her, but I don't think I'm bi or lesbain. The only thing is is that when she kisses me I do feel something. Which scares me. What should I do? Should I give it a shot? or tell her I can't do this. I'm so confused
Before you decide on that, I recommend this great book by lauren myracle called "Kissing Kate". Great book and I think it would really help your situation. You can find it at borders, barnes and nobles, or amazon.com. I hope that helped =)
17 female.
i have a best friend, his name is nick :)we do go to different schools. me and nick have been friends for about 5 years now. i've always had a thing for him, but i dont think either of us saw us being "more than friends" until i started having feelings for him about 2 years ago. and thats when he started going out with his girlfriend that he is STILL going out with. i can tell they're in love..which is soo hard for me to watch. i hardly get to see him anymore, but when i do i fall sooo hard for him, it gives me butterflies when i see him. i dont think he knows that i have a thing for him but now i think, whats the point if he has a girlfriend that he is in love with. he makes me so mad sometimes because he wont hang out with anyone BUT his girlfriend. we only hangout when his girlfriend is out of town, or busy doing something :\ he is such a flirt though, like i hung out with him two days ago with a group of people and we went out to dinner, and my friend was sitting in between us, and i felt someone like grabbing my leg and rubbing it and it was him and i just start laughing and then he kept playing "footsy" with me. i just dont know what to do anymore, i like him alot and i can never stop thinking about him. i dont want to ruin our friendship that we have by telling him how i feel, because obviously he is not going to dump his girlfriend. all the girls want him, i think it's funny but he treats me different. he is always there for me. and he doesnt care what i look like, i could be wearing sweats and a sweatshirt with no make-up, but i always feel like i have to look cute when im around him. he always notices the little things i do, like if i dye or cut my hair he is ALWAYS the first to realize and no other guy does. if anyone has heard the song "my best friend" by tim mcgraw, thats exactly how i feel...
any suggestions? i dont want to stop hanging out with him, because he is my best friend.
thank you so much!
Well it seems to me that he doesn't like you in that way. Now that your friendship is maturing and going through some changes, its normal for him to act like that. If he really had an interest for you like you want him to then he wouldn't be going evverywhere with this girl and putting you on hold. But don't worry he really does care for you and values you. He certainly wouldn't want to loose you. Now normally I world advise people to talk this out with one another. But I don't think you should do that because it would turn the friendship awkward and possibly handicap what's left of it. Cherish every time that he gives you. And if the situation become unbearable then tell him that your confused and uncomfortable and what is he going to do about it.
well theres this boy..
hes so popular and cute
btw: im in 7th grade[13] hes in eight[14?]
and well he never talked to me.
it doesnt suprise me cuz i havent had a boy notice me in a while. so why would the most popular boy notice?
well i went to my freinds house and he lives right down the street so...
we rode down there.
he was beign really nice.
and now in the hallways he says hi to me and stuff:)
and his friends are always askin if i like him or think hes hott. does that mean anything?
He's probabally just being nice and friendly. Think about it. You met him and now he says hi to you. Just like any normal person. But you can work this to your advvantage by being the teeniest bit flirty and cute and funny and just and all around pleasure to be around. Make an effort to look appealing. Say hello back of course! And since he's making the effort to say hi to you, say hi back. As to his friends, you can't just say a flat out "no' because then he'll think YOUR not interested in him in that way if he really does like you. Be vague. Dodge the question by not saying a straight out "yes" or "no".
Okkay, Im going to name some people and descibe them and I would really appreciate it if you would tell me which person you think is better.
Person A - He has his own car & its really nice. He's super sweet, He is understanding, he is straight forward, He calls, He invites me places, he likes to hang out, he really fun to hang out with, he doesnt have anything against me and he likes me for me. & He is on the baseball team.
Person B- I just met him but he's really sweet and cute. My friend said that we would look cute together but there wouldnt be alot of communication because he is shy, I dont think he is shy, He has his own truck and he is fun to hang out with, he is atheletic.
Person C- I really just met him like literally, I dont really like him like him, but he's cool. He also has his own car. He's cute. Right now there isnt much to him that I know of, because I just met him.
Anyways, im sure some people are going to be like well you just met them or something like that, I dont care what yall say, just give me yalls input :) Thankss.
Well whu would you ask my input if you didn't want it sweetie? =)
I say the first guy. But I know what you mean. Like when you ask someones opinion but you do like the oposite? I understand about this whole "I can't decide bacause they're all so sweet" thing. Deep down I think you who would best suit you but you just cant/ don't want to let the others go. Am I right? There come a point in everyones life when you just need to be real with yourself.
well, there's this guy who hasn't really ever shown any reason that he would like me. we generally hang out because my roomate (at my high school) is friends with him. we occasionally talk over msn but it seems to end with us argueing cause he can be a total jackass. but yesterday we were all watching a movie and then later when we were alone, he kissed me. and then my friend came in, she didn't notice and we pretended nothing had hapened. i've avoided him all day today, but even so he hasn't called or anything. i'm not sure he actually like me... does he?
Someone doesn't just kiss you and not have a reason or some feelings for doing it sweetie. Unless maybe he was drunk or something? And even then it would have still been sober thoughts you know what I mean? Guys can be annoying, but that's nothing too big too worry about id say. Just relax and and ask him about what happened. This happens all the time in movies/ tv shows. Don't kill yourself by worrying about it though. That only leads to gray hairs. But yes, I really do think he has feelings for you.
ok see around sept i tried datin my best friend who happened to be a guy. well we dated and like we were in love with each other so much. but i moved and we both broke up and moved on. but the whole time i was gone we both had feelings for each other still. well i move back and everytime i see him he always touches me and all that. but he got out of a bad relationship and i feel im just a rebound to him. i don't know but i took his virginity... and i don't know he says he wants to date me again but i don't think i could...what do you think i should do...i really dont think he likes me cause he likes to many people..hes always over everyone..
No you're not the rebound if you both had feelings for each other like that. Even when you moved away you say that you each had feelings for each other still. So what if he got out of a bad relationship? Hearts heal. He could very much still be in love with you. And remember it wasn't this OTHER girl that took his virginity. He chose you. As to him liking other people that's normal as long as it doesn't go anywhere. There are a lot of good looking people in the world. Have some faith in him. Maybe even try out your communication skills and talk to him.
15/f.
okay so about three weeks ago i broke up with my boyfriend. we had been going out for 4 months [yes, i know that's not really a very long time] but i honestly was in love with him. i had never felt the way i felt with him with anyone else i had ever dated. he is also the first guy i had sex with. which makes it even harder. the last time i saw him & talked to him was on valentines day when we went to the movies. the bad part is, at the movies we ended up making out and everything. he was even walking around holding my hand like we were still going out. ive always told myself that i wouldnt be in a friends with benefits type relationship; because that isnt something i would want to do. since 2/14 i havent talked to him [called, texted, or seen him] at all. i feel beside myself. i dont go out with my friends anywhere anymore because they all think im a slut when they found out about i had sex with him. i really feel like i want to call him but i dont know if i should. maybe the best thing for us both to do is not to talk, but i honestly feel like i cant let him go. should i try and work things out? HELP ME PLEASE.
You're not a slut if you had sex with your boyfriend so don't worry about what they say. I think we all know the friends with benefits game and it is harder to play it when you're trying to get over somebody you love/loved. I also understand why you wouldn't want to do that because by being friends with benifits you would be considered a slut if people found out. The relationship is over and you need to deal. I don't think you should call him just for the sake of hearing his voice. You both could still be friends. You both have been through stuff that shouldn't be just thrown away, especially if you're still in love with him. But this is the time that you need to be real with yourself. Take a minute and look beyond your love, pain, and lonliness and really think about if it would be better to move on without him. Don't play games with yourself. No one is judging your decision but you. When you get cut and it heals sometimes its better to just rip off the bandaid without thinking of the pain. Just go ahead and rip off that sucker! Sometimes the cut leaves a scar or is infected and you need the bandaid for protection and reassurance. Only you can decide on how to deal with your mental and physical injuries. You see what im saying? As for your friends, well maybe their not really your friends? Make some new ones and if you can't then you really need to get your olf friends back. Call them up, make some plans, make an effort. Don't let your social life collapse becuase of boy trouble. Find a new guy! =)
Okay so I have a really big butt and like medium size boobs do guys like girls with big butts or do they like the no figure little twigs? 15/f
They deffinately like a girl with a figure. The bigger the boobs the better. A lot of guy either love the big booty or don't care. But most aren't really atrracted to stick people.
Okay wel sorry if this will be long but i have a lot to say and i need an ear to talk to...
I used to like this boy a long time ago (last year) and i told him how i felt and it pretty much just scared him off. But i got over that and now i like this one guy, cj, but he is different than drew (he was the guy i liked first) i dont know why but i just care more about him and i want him to want me like i want him. You know what im saying. But im not obsessed or anything like that. He had a girlfriend and i waited.
At one point i thought he liked me. Because we never talked at all, and he would look at me, until i caught him, then he would look away. And he threw a paper ball at me. Then like 5 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend and all, but it came up casually in a conversation. And about a week ago, he was seriously flirting with me, and this past tuesday i found out that him and his girlfriend broke up. Now we still talk and everything, but i am having self doubt.
I feel like i am getting my hopes up and i dont have a chance. He is a senior and i am a freshman but im 15 and hes 18...only three years, and we are a small community and the senior boys arent really like players, well most of them. But he is really nice and sweet. I dont want to ruin it by coming on too strong. But he was saying that he likes to talk about his feelings and he is sort of a romantic and likes a girl thats fun and has a sense of humor, (which is pretty much me in a nutshell) and he said i can be dumb funny and cute at the same time... he was teasing me and touching me with his arm constantly. I just mesh with him...
But:
1) Do you think i have a chance at all?
2) do you think he was just being nice while he was flirting or is there something there?
3) Do you think i am getting ahead of myself?
4) How should i handle this? Normally i would tell a guy i liked him as long as he dont have a girlfriend and he dont but he is the only one i have ever had trouble dealing with this. Like im not nervous or anything..you know what i mean?
Sorry its so long but i need guidance.. :)
1. I would say most deffinately. This has to be the cutest story. While I was reading I was all "aww this is too cute" lol. But anyway..
2. I don't think he was just being nice. Most people wouldn't go this far if they didn't care. I mean, its possible he would like to be friends but I doubt it. Plus he's a senior. Now I don't hardly any senior who would bother with a freshman unless they were really interested. And if he is ineterested I don't think its just a simple crush.
3. Its possible that you WILL be. But at this stage I would say that your confused and struck. Continue with your feelings but don't go too overboard and worked up to the point of obsession if that's what you're asking.
4. The big question. I say play it out. It all depends on how long the relationship (or friendship) is. If its gone on long enough (and only you can decide but don't just like give a week you know) go for it. Now when I say "go for it" I don't mean through yourself at him and tell him that your in love (or in like) with him. That could potentially phase him. Just invite him somewhere, and if you can't do that then try going somewhere special.private before, during, or after school. Tell him how you feel. The same story you told me (but not ALL of it obviously). Maybe even tell him about the past boys nonchalantely and what ended up happening and tell him how he's different. How you really feel but maybe you shouldn't get too serious. And don't send this in a note, text, or email. This needs to be in a situation where you can both talk.
I sincerely hope I helped.
f/15
1.) so i'm told all the time that certain guys like me, but how can i really tell if they do? how do guys act if they like a girl?
2.) and i told this guy i liked him and he was listening completely when i was talking to him. but do guys even like it when the girls tell them they like them? is it a good sign? do guys like them more?
it'd be nice to have a guy point of view too.
thanks in advance.
1. Well there are different types of guys out there. There are the immature ones that always flirt uncontrollably and unecessarily. They seem cute but those types of guys don't usually seem to take the relationship seriously. There are the romance kind that may leave secret notes and aren't so blunt and out there when they flirt. Those kind usually make good relationships and tend to fall in love. Then lastly we have the shady kind that just don't do anything. But usually make good relationships. Just watch out for those things. The more a guy is attracted to you, the less subtle at flirting they become.
2. Yeah guys like it when you tell them they like you even if they don't like you back. It depends on the looks and status. If your pretty and able to get a guy and are fairly known and liked by their kind of crowd then yes they would like it. If your some kind of air-headed annoying girl then I doubt it. Or if your considered the wierd girl. Its all very stereotypical and shallow but thems the brakes sweetie. If your decent enough then yes they will like you. This usually reffers to the pretty boys, jocks, and popular boy crowd.
why does it always seem that when I'm getting sexual with my boyfriend, his Hip Hop music always seems to get me more in the mood to be sexual. why is that?
Hip hop gets everyone in the mood haha! What person doesn't get turned on by its loud, vulgar, abbrasive, and sexy rhythm. Most hip hop lyrics are all about love and love making so its only natural to get sucked into the beat. The best thing to do when you get these feelings is to just move to the beat ;)
So the answer is yes, music does get you in the mood!
Ok well I've been dating this kid for a couple weeks now and heres the problem. When I'm around him I love being with him and when I talk to him I never want to stop. But then we're apart I start having doubts and I question how much I really like him. This is my first real boyfriend and I don't know if doubts like these are normal or what. Please help!
well the problem is, is that your starting to get too clingy. and dobt let that happen or you might push him away. start telling him your feelings and asking him how he feels about all this. its important to talk it out rather than keeping it inside and letting your actions take place. doubts like these happen to alot of couples and since this is your fisrt bf try not to do the wrong thing