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falling for my best friend....
17 female.
i have a best friend, his name is nick :)we do go to different schools. me and nick have been friends for about 5 years now. i've always had a thing for him, but i dont think either of us saw us being "more than friends" until i started having feelings for him about 2 years ago. and thats when he started going out with his girlfriend that he is STILL going out with. i can tell they're in love..which is soo hard for me to watch. i hardly get to see him anymore, but when i do i fall sooo hard for him, it gives me butterflies when i see him. i dont think he knows that i have a thing for him but now i think, whats the point if he has a girlfriend that he is in love with. he makes me so mad sometimes because he wont hang out with anyone BUT his girlfriend. we only hangout when his girlfriend is out of town, or busy doing something :\ he is such a flirt though, like i hung out with him two days ago with a group of people and we went out to dinner, and my friend was sitting in between us, and i felt someone like grabbing my leg and rubbing it and it was him and i just start laughing and then he kept playing "footsy" with me. i just dont know what to do anymore, i like him alot and i can never stop thinking about him. i dont want to ruin our friendship that we have by telling him how i feel, because obviously he is not going to dump his girlfriend. all the girls want him, i think it's funny but he treats me different. he is always there for me. and he doesnt care what i look like, i could be wearing sweats and a sweatshirt with no make-up, but i always feel like i have to look cute when im around him. he always notices the little things i do, like if i dye or cut my hair he is ALWAYS the first to realize and no other guy does. if anyone has heard the song "my best friend" by tim mcgraw, thats exactly how i feel...
any suggestions? i dont want to stop hanging out with him, because he is my best friend.
thank you so much!
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It seems to me like he likes you both, but values your friendship too much that he doesn't want to mess it up. Definately don't hanging out with him, my advice is to simply just say, "I miss you we never hang out any more," that kind of thing. I understand that you don't want to be around her, but you might have to if you want to spend more time with him.
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Well it seems to me that he doesn't like you in that way. Now that your friendship is maturing and going through some changes, its normal for him to act like that. If he really had an interest for you like you want him to then he wouldn't be going evverywhere with this girl and putting you on hold. But don't worry he really does care for you and values you. He certainly wouldn't want to loose you. Now normally I world advise people to talk this out with one another. But I don't think you should do that because it would turn the friendship awkward and possibly handicap what's left of it. Cherish every time that he gives you. And if the situation become unbearable then tell him that your confused and uncomfortable and what is he going to do about it.
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