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Well i had a relationship that lasted almost an entire year. The guy meant like the world to me, i mean i really was in love. but we started having trust issues. I accused him of cheating on me with his bestfriend, a chick, one too many times and he ended it. The thing is that was more than 4 months ago and i can't bring myself to move on. A guy asked me out a very good friend of mine and i said yes but all i feel is indifference in being with him. I keep thinking about my ex and i've told him that cuase we still talk. He's a straight shooter though, he says i just need to forget him and that he's just a boy. It's clear he no longer loves me but for some reason i just cant stop loving him. Please i really could use some help
i dated this boy for two years and seven months, it's been five months, and i still have slight like the littlest feelings for him, and its still taken me this long, ive been through like eight boys, and now i am almost finally over him, my lesson is you are going to have to go through "rebounds" to get over him, and that's basically what that boy you are dating is.
good luck.
I hate these questions, but I'm so desperate and I don't have anyone to turn to.
Everything is just going downhill. Track is over, so I have nothing to do and no one to hang out with because my friends all have their own lives. My boyfriend cheated on me with a girl that I really don't think highly of, and I don't know if I should take him back or not. Everytime I see him, all I could think about is those two kissing, and how betrayed I feel. He wants to get back together and is trying, but at this time I cannot trust him. My sister keeps claiming I'm lazy because I am home, when really I just have nothing to do. I have finals coming up, plus I should be going to get my license sometime soon. My boss wants me to work a double job for three days in July, which I don't know if I could handle it. I really don't mean to complain, I just really need someone to vent to.
I need someone to tell me something, anything.
just because track is over, doesn't mean you can't still run, because obviously you enjoy running.
if you pick up a new hobby, you can make new friends, so pick something you enjoy to do, now that you have time for something else.
DO NOT take your boyfriend back there is no way you could trust him, and you cannot have a relationship with someone without trust.
and;
take the three day job, you can make more money and it will give you something to do.
hope i helped.
if you need anything else, you can message me.
17 F
My boyfriend and I are two years apart and we're perfect for each other and age isn't a factor.
I'm African American and he's white and Mexican. He's a dancer and isn't into all the "gangster" stuff (thank God).
I've always dated or been associated with older guys who are black.
So my problem is a lot of guys are still trying to get with me and of course I tell them I have a boyfriend, but they always have something to say. I'm SICK of them talking about my boyfriend and us. Yes, I know they're jealous, but gosh SHUT UP. Whats the best thing to tell them?
If you are really in love with this boy tell those other boys you aren't interested, and if they are being disrespectful of you and your boyfriends relationship tell them you don't want to have a friendship with them if they can't support you.
I met this guy about a year ago. At the time he was going out with my best friend. They had an awful breakup about 3 months ago. Me and him became very close but just as friends. He has hooked up with most of my friends but he was drunk. Now we've got even closer and like spend nearly ever day together. I have always sworn no matter how much i like him i wouldnt do anything with him because of his ex i would feel too bad. Recently he decided he likes my bestfriend and i just got so jealous and right now i can't figure out whether i love him as a brother or love him as something more.
well, i'm thinking when you were close and like best friends since you spent like every day together you loved him as a brother, but as for now since you got jealous when he liked someone else i am thinking you are starting to like him as more then a brother or even a friend..
I'm with this boy that i like alot and he's really jealous of my BEST FRIEND in the world. i've done everything to tell him that my friend and i don't like eachother that way...my Best Friend even told him that but we constantly fight about it now.I never ever talk about his 'BEST FRIEND' ever, and i never would cause i trust him...I just want to know what to do before i completely call off our relationship, my friendship is more important to me and if i have to choose i'm ending it.
yeah, it's not going to work out if he doesn't trust you with your BEST FRIEND so i mean talk to him about it and tell him that you are not ditching your best friend because he doesn't like it so if he can't deal with it then you have to end it..
good luck
ok so i think i'm gonna have my first kiss this week and i am soooooo scared so PLEASE help me. seriously PLEASE. i like him alot and i really don't want to mess anything up!!! PLEASE!!!! i just need some good tips so i can relax a little bit. thanks, please help me.
If it's just a peck, relax you will be fine, I promise. No one can be a bad kisser from pecks. Just relax and let him go in for it, just don't miss his lips, by not closing your eyes till you are like a centimeter away from your target, and you'll be fine.
Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 6 months now, and well things are great.. except for the fact that sometimes i feel like were "distant".. and well, he's kinda the first guy i've ever really loved, and i honestly want to spend the rest of my life with him.. But then sometimes i feel like were not ment for each other, or were slowing drifting away.. and i hate it, but i feel it. I really need some advice, and i need to know if these types of feelings are normal for long-realtionships. Thanks.
yeah, i was with a guy for almost three years, i thought we were drifting so i freaked out and broke up with him, yeah i know physco move, ha but anyway just talk to him about it because maybe he might be feeling the same way and if you want to be with him for a while you have to talk about allooot. so just say to him "sometimes i feel distant from you," and maybe you guys can fix it together.
I've known this girl for almost 2 years. Last July she moved in, right after breaking up with her ex. It is my fault for starting something before she ended the last. She lived here and then went back to him. Did this for about 8 months now. Well, she has been gone for a month and a half with him. She says she knows she needs to move on. She cares for me and sees herself with me eventually. There has never been a time that we stopped calling or seeing each other. I know she cares. She even told me if we moved away it would make things easier letting go of him. Well, I have given her an ultimatum to call me Friday to discuss what we are going to do. As a girl that doesn't like being told what to do, she didn't respond. But, not this weekend she has called several times a day. I told her if we didn't talk Friday night that we were through and I was moving on. Do I take this as though she wants to work something out, or should I move on? I've tried really hard and sacrificed a lot knowing she isn't ready for what I have to offer yet, but I feel she is worth it.
I think if you think she is worth it wait for her, the thing is if she doesn't like being told what to do if you told her she HAD to call you Friday she is going to push your buttons and see if she can still get you back, don't just ditch her if you want to be with her you are going to have to wait. If you don't want to wait for her tell her..
hope i helped.
let's just say that my current boyfriend's name is Adrian, and my ex's name is kenny.
I'm sooo sorry, this is long.
information: I'll just start this out that me and my current boyfriend, Adrian, has been together for about 10 months. And i had this ex boyfriend, kenny, like about 2 years ago, he's the first guy i had really strong feelings for. like i "fell" for kenny. and me & kenny had a really harsh break up, because after we broke up, he was avoiding me. Kenny, moved to another city, far away. Me and Adrian has on & off, because of alot of drama, and adrian treats me bad at times, that my friends doesn't like him AT ALL. they kept telling me to break up with him ever since our 4th month.
Okay so,
Around mine and Adrian's 10th month was coming up, kenny messaged me out of nowhere, and told me he was sorry and all that stuff for hurting me and blah. so i messaged him back saying that he was late, but it was okay.. and that it's okay that we're friends. because he said he wanted to start over. and later on, kenny aims me and tells me that the girlfriend's he had after me, which was a year ago, and was only two girls. he said that he didn't really like them, and that when he went out with them, it didn't help him at all, because it made him realize how good of a girlfriend i was before. and i told him that he was REALLY late. and he said "yeah.. i know I'm late", and he told me that he still gotten over me for the past 2 years.. that's why he's been single, and i thought he was just kidding about liking me still. so i said "well you're late now.. now I'm getting married soon... JUST KIDDING" and before i said just kidding, he said "no I'm speaking now, I'm not holding my peace". and when he told me he still liked me.. i felt really happy, to hear that kenny liked me for that long. and two days later, we stopped talking to each other.. so i was wondering if he was just saying those stuff, to see how i react. but why would he say all of those things to me? and he's been acting different towards me now since the time he had confessed to me. i was wondering if he was just joking, or he's acting like this because i have a boyfriend. and ever since he messaged me, or i talked to him, i've been confused. I guess I still like kenny, but not as much as I did before, but at least like him enough to want to see him really badly. And me and adrian, as i said, has been having on & off lately, and i KNOW that i can do better, but i just can't leave him, it's either that i like him alot (but i'm not sure about that, because he treats me bad enough), or it's because i'm too attached to him. because maybe i'm scared that i'm going to regret it if i break up with him. Maybe i lost some feelings for Adrian, because he told me he wanted to marry me, i told him not to buy me a ring, when i used to be so sure i wanted to.. but not anymore. Because when he says he wants us to get married, i think about Kenny. And everytime when adrian and I have on & offs, i cry and all.. but then he tells me he didn't mean to break it off, so i get more angry, and i tell him that i HATE it that he says that, and he doesn't mean it. and adrian says "you want me to mean it?" and i always tell him "no.. but only if you'll stop saying that if you don't mean it." but in my head, i'm angry and i always say that if he means it, then why not end it for good? because i'm tired of hearing it all the time, and hear him say that he doesn't mean it. but yet, i feel like i still want to be with him..
HELP ME PLEASE! i don't know what i'm feeling, and i don't know what to do.. PLEASEEE!
I think that you should break it off with Adrian, not just because of Kenny but just because if you have feelings for someone else and you don't feel the same way it's not fair for Adrian, but there's no way you can talk to him about it, it would really hurt him, sure for the first month you are going to regret it, and then you are going to start to realize you are better off without him being a jerk to you 24/7.
As for Kenny, Whatever happens, happens. (:
good lucckkk.
I was with this guy at the start of the year..we broke up cause we didnt talk much and were suppose to get back together and I continued to have a huge crush on him...time went by and he stop talking to alot of people because of personal prob...now he hangs out with different people and with this new girl name kelly..well kelly got moved up to my class and we started talking alot she told me how much he liked me and stuff well he had been with this girl at another school for three months and last monday I spent the night at kellys house and he called her in the morning and told kelly he was going to break up with his GF..well he told kelly after the break up that he wanted to get with me but was nervous to ask me...this went on for two days but i thought we were going to get together...yesterday I was at my youth group with kelly and she called him to come and see me he wouldnt go finally she asked why and he said cause his ex called crying and begging him to get back with her...he said he dosent know why he did it cause he dosent like her and never see's her..im on spring break right now but what do you think this means...please help
i think he still likes you.
obviously you found a great guy if she still wants him back, i think he is in an awkward position and wants to move on to you but she won't let him, i know its going to seem like a long time but you are going to have to wait till things settle down so you don't have to deal with a jealous ex.
Female//16
So, I like this guy who we will call...Bob. And Bob just got out of a relationship about 2 weeks ago, but he seems to like me and alot of my friends say that when he's around me it seems like he does too.
How do I show that I'm interested without actually going out and saying that I like him?
You could start hanging out with him more, calling him, texting him, ehh flirtiinng?
just try spending more time with him, or get his friends to put in a good word for you . (:
13/f
8th grade
ok so my friend Katie has been going out with this guy drew. I honestly think that the relationship is a mistake. he likes me, he lies to katie, he used her, this is their 3rd time going out, he called me a bit**, etc. ect. He is not a good boyfriend. But this is her longest relationship so she thinks that she loves him. but she says that she is not happy ( i wouldn't be either) but she refuses to break up with him. So i cant be her friend if she is going to go out with someone who treats me like crap. but i am afraid that she will choose her boyfriend over me and then they will break up and she will have no one... what should i do? and please dont say talk to her because i have already done so. any ideas?
eh i had this situation, the thing is its not fair for you to make her pick you over her boyfriend, if they have been together for sometime and she "loves" him she is going to think it's going to last forever, and she is just going to think you are getting in the way of it .
you either need to be there for her, or you have to ditch her and let her deal with it .
i mean if you talk bad about him its just going to make you and her more distant, so you either have to be there or like i said not be her friend, but you have to make that decision. if she is your best friend and has been for some time you might want to ride it out, because in reality they won't be together for much longer.
good luck.
if you need anymore advice, message me .
okay so i met this guy at a party, and i started talking to him over the internet. a month later, i invited him to a kickback and he came and we kissed and stuff. then i went to the movies with him on valentines day, and after he took me to the beach and asked me to be his valentine and i said yes. we're going to sadies together too, in a few weeks. i think i kinda like him, but iono. i never get to see him. even though he lives like 15, 20 minutes away from me, we almost never see each other, and we don't talk much either. and i also know that he's been talking to some other girl that goes to another school (not his or mine) and lives like 20 minutes away from him. so i guess my question is, what should i do? it seems like the only time i see him or talk to him is when i make an effort. he doesnt make much of an effort, but when we're together its like if we're bf/gf. we hug, hold hands, kiss, etc., and i just love being with him, but i don't know what to do now bcuz i never see him and i hardly ever get to talk to him. what do you think? what should i do?
maybe he thinks that you just want to be "friends with benefits" with him. like make sure he knows that you want to have a relationship with him, and once he knows that the ball is in his court, just talk to him about it, and see what he has with that other girl.
goood luuckkk.
theres this kid from my camp that I want to go out with over the summer. He likes me and vice versa. He might not come back and that would ruin my summer. Hes the one guy i want to be with from camp and it would work out if he could only come. I was really looking forawrd to a fun drama filled summer (and maybe some making out) but now im disappoined that theres a great chance he wont be there.I dont really know how to handle this. Any words at all would help. Support. Advice ( even though this is not exactly a question ) thank you.
um i think that if he doesn't end up showing up obviously he wasn't that syked about gooing. so i mean if he doesn't show he doesn't show, let it roll off your back. have fun anyways, maybe you will find someone better then this kid.
okay, basic middle school drama.
f/13
okay, so i broke up with this guy, because i did something really bad. and he got all pissed. and so, he went to New York or w/e. so i started going out with this guy, let's call him. james. aha. =] and so like, he asked me out. and i said yeah. and so my ex b/f let's call him D.I. came back from New York. and i had broken up with james. and so i told him i would talk to him later. this was during 3rd period. and so when i got on the bus D.I was back and i was like, wow. and so i was talking to the guy. james. and like my original plan was to get back with him, but i didn't i told him i had alot going on. [[which was true]] and so, i was thinking about it. and later that day, i got back with him. [[i asked him out]] and so yeah. and the other night i was thinking about why i didn't get back with him right away, and i think it's maybe it's cuz i still like my ex. D.I. idontknow. i mean, this D.I is one of the first people i said i love you to and meant it. but i never really say it without meaning it, but yeah. i mean, he's the second. and i do like this guy james. but i might like D.I more. i might. im not sure. and that's my question. do you think i still like D.I? and what should i do about it???
i don't think you should go out with either of them until you settle your feelings first of alllll.
second of alll, um i think you do have feelings for "D.I." if you told him you loved him and meant it i mean you cant really just not, not have feelings for him.
soo figure out your feelings and go for the one you want to be with.
gooodd lucck.
Well..there is dis boy dat I lyke right and he broke up with his girlfriend 2 years and sumtin months ago right and hes still not over her but she allready moved on and he didnt and i cant tell if he likes me because all the time i see him in school he flirts with me and hes maaaaaddd sweet to me and we hug each other and he treats like a girl should be treated but then again hes not over his exgirlfriend!!
Ask him when he thinks he will be ready for a new relationship, try talking to him more, and putting yourself out there. All you can do is start talking to him and hopes he starts to get over his ex girlfriend, you can't make him. Time heals everything.
He loves me but he needs space. I don't know how to do that. I seriously can't stop...it is like an addiction. I love him so much and can't just stop talking to him. I am so worried that I am going to screw this whole relationship up if I don't stop!!!
Help me stop!!
Well. obviously if you are "addicted" to him , then you have a little too much time on your hands. so, pick up new hobbies, hang out with your friends, do better in school, etc., you know what i mean. Try not to think about him. Let him call you for a change.
hope i helped.
my bf is being weird!! up until very recently he was always talking to me and stuff but all of the sudden he isnt talking to me very much and doesnt seem interested. Sunday was only our 2nd month! we have been best friends for a couple yrs and liked each other on and off the whole time. we love each other very much but idk what to do about this. also i really need to talk to him! so what should i do?? thanks
Maybe he is rethinking you twos relationship , or maybe there is something on his mind that he's not telling you. you used to best friends with him , so talk to him like a friend . ask him what's up.
good luck..
Is it a turn-off to guys if a girl has low self-confidence or in other words is shy?
um , actually any guy i have ever talked to or dated thinks its annoying for a girl not to have confidence.
F/14
Ok. the frist question is one of my friends has had a crush on one of our guys friends((Lets call my guy friend Marc and my friend who has a crush on him Rosa))Anyway,Rosa has had a crush on marc for who knows how long but the problem is rosa and all my other friends know marc is gay.Rosa was going to confess to marc last week but she was soo nervous to say anything to him that she had a chance to tell him she left running away leaving all her things with me.
A friend of ours who knows Marc really well((I'll call her kate))Kate told Rosa that if she tells marc he'll be all 'Ewwwww.....how gross' to her,and she do'sent want that((even though there is a high possibilty he might say that since he can be really cold))I just dont want her to feel hurt.Besides she also likes someone else and I tell Rosa that she should just get over marc.
But she is soo determined to tell him and I dont want marc hurting her feelings.
So should Rosa tell marc her feelings or should I try reasoning with her and tell her to get over marc and go for the other guy she likes?
My second problem((though I really dont think its a problem or not i dont know))on valentines day i told my crush that I liked him.But he said he only liked me as a friend and nothing else.But the whole time I confessed to him he was blushing,scratching his head,smiling,I was ready to yell in his face and tell him to stop doing that cause that made me even more nervous that i was.
It's already been about a week since I told him and he still somewhat stares at me like before i i confessed to him.I just dont know if what he told me was true or not cause maybe he does like and is just too scared to admit it or is just not ready for a realtionship,or maybe his parents dont let him have a girlfriend.I dont know but he still gives me the signs saying'I like you' but just not that frequently anymore since I told him.
I'm sorry for the longness,but I serously need help for my friend and me.
first off, if rosa knows marc is gay then she should know that they can't have a relationship , because he wouldn't be into her.
so try to reason with her to get over marc, so she doesn't tell him herself so that she doesn't get hurt, being since its not marc's fault.
um , and secondly, if he says he doesn't like you, you can't tell him he does. he might end up liking you, or maybe he does and he just isn't ready for a relationship, but you have to go by what he says.