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I CAN'T LEAVE HIM ALONE!!
He loves me but he needs space. I don't know how to do that. I seriously can't stop...it is like an addiction. I love him so much and can't just stop talking to him. I am so worried that I am going to screw this whole relationship up if I don't stop!!!
Help me stop!!
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Well. obviously if you are "addicted" to him , then you have a little too much time on your hands. so, pick up new hobbies, hang out with your friends, do better in school, etc., you know what i mean. Try not to think about him. Let him call you for a change.
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Ok ive been through this. What you have to remember is that even for your own sake, you both need time apart.
Try to remember what you liked "pre-bf". Listen to music, go shopping, gossip with your friends... Catch up on things that bf doesnt like to do with you. Dont make the mistake that most of us girls make - abandoning your friends when you have a guy. Keep in contact with them because they deserve it.
Men need space more than us, and its a blessing in disguise. Keep somethings just for you, "your own". I know its tempting to want to share everything with him because you love him so much. But in the end you will just lose yourself and it wont be fair on you.
He deserves to watch football and do the manly stuff he wants to too. I know you love him enough to do what is best for him too.
Start slowly, try to call him less. Try to go out with your friends. You can do it! :)
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dont stress over a guy, yeah you have had some good times give him some space. it could mean he has a lot on his mind or he needs to reevaulaute the relationship. go out with your friends and get doll'd up and have a good time!!
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You are right, it can ruin a relationship. Keep that in mind. Take some time with friends and do some stuff to keep your mind off him. I mean don't neglect him and ignore him. My friend had to deal with this but the boyfriend wasn't giving her space so they had to break up. So give him some time with his friends. And make some time for yours. You can also find some clubs to join or sports to keep you busy. But also have time for him or else you would be giving him too much space and he will think you are ignoring him. I hope everything works out for you.
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The only way I know to completely give up a person you adore is this:
"Immature love is wanting the other person to be happy only with you. Mature love is wanting the other person to be happy."
"If you love someone, set them free."
MY STORY:
S. was the first person I think I've ever loved. It lasted about six months, then our parents effectively kept us apart. I could have kept in contact, but because I knew it would make things harder for S., I stayed away- not due to lack of love, but out of respect.
If you care, really care about this person, enough that you want them to stick around, back off a little. Go do something else for awhile. Slowly wean yourself off. Cut out an hour a day of him, until you only have about an hour of "you" time with him left. If that's still too much, alternate days. Then maybe twice a week.
In the time you spent with him, do something productive, such as studying.
**IN RESPONSE TO YOUR FEEDBACK**- if you'd like to vent, I'm black_lipstick_kisses@hotmail.com
email me there. :)
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its hard like with any addiction what you need to do is try to find something to get your mind off of him possibly spending time with your friends because i bet they've been feeling neglected due to your boyfriend. It is good that you recongize that this can potientially mess up a relationship (keep that in mind) think of it this way if you spend a few days apart the more you will want to see him, start gradually by seeing him less times a week make a night for you and your friends so he can spend time with his friends. This essentially will strengthen the bond that is between you two. BREAKING THIS ADDICTION BEGINS WITH YOU. remember that. Even though its hard do it for him if not yourself because of how much you love him.
GOOD LUCK,
BRITTNI.
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