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boyfriend vs. best friend
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8th grade
ok so my friend Katie has been going out with this guy drew. I honestly think that the relationship is a mistake. he likes me, he lies to katie, he used her, this is their 3rd time going out, he called me a bit**, etc. ect. He is not a good boyfriend. But this is her longest relationship so she thinks that she loves him. but she says that she is not happy ( i wouldn't be either) but she refuses to break up with him. So i cant be her friend if she is going to go out with someone who treats me like crap. but i am afraid that she will choose her boyfriend over me and then they will break up and she will have no one... what should i do? and please dont say talk to her because i have already done so. any ideas?
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Forgt trying to talk to her talk to him tell him that your not going to sit around and take his crap. if he says anyitng ingnor it he will hate it. The only thing you can do really is ignore him and be there for her when she needs you. A guy shouldnt be worht losing a friendship over. Do what you think is right if you dont want to kill the friend ship dont just sit it out
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eh i had this situation, the thing is its not fair for you to make her pick you over her boyfriend, if they have been together for sometime and she "loves" him she is going to think it's going to last forever, and she is just going to think you are getting in the way of it .
you either need to be there for her, or you have to ditch her and let her deal with it .
i mean if you talk bad about him its just going to make you and her more distant, so you either have to be there or like i said not be her friend, but you have to make that decision. if she is your best friend and has been for some time you might want to ride it out, because in reality they won't be together for much longer.
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Well, you can't dictate who she dates. Yah, the guy sounds like a jerk, but she chooses to stay with him. Can't change that.
Making her choose "It's either our friendship, or HIM." Now, that's not right. What good will come of it? You lose a friend out of the deal? Is it really worth that risk?
No. You don't need to put up with him treating you like crap.
What you do is not put your friendship on the chopping block, but tell her "Look, if you are going to continue dating him, fine. But I don't want him around me, because he treats me like dirt. So if you want to hang out, be sure to leave him at home."
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