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In what way do i love him?
I met this guy about a year ago. At the time he was going out with my best friend. They had an awful breakup about 3 months ago. Me and him became very close but just as friends. He has hooked up with most of my friends but he was drunk. Now we've got even closer and like spend nearly ever day together. I have always sworn no matter how much i like him i wouldnt do anything with him because of his ex i would feel too bad. Recently he decided he likes my bestfriend and i just got so jealous and right now i can't figure out whether i love him as a brother or love him as something more.
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He hooked up with most of your friends while drunk?
I'm just going to venture a geuss here babe, but I would geuss that you don't actually love him. You want him to want you. You want him to decide you are the best girl, of the many girls he has to select from.
I could be wrong. You could really and seriously care for him and want a relationship with him.
But true love isn't where jealousy comes from. Jealousy comes from the need to be desirable and be better then someone else.
Ask yourself a few questions.
Has this guy given the other girls he has dated the kind of relationship you would want to have?
If not, why would you want a relationship with him? Do you believe he has or will change?
If he has been the kind of boyfriend you want, what things (besides just the ex), have kept you from thinking of his as serious boyfriend material?
Think about it rationally and look at his past behavoir. If you rommantically envision that he would change when he was in a relationship with you, then you are just 'needy jealous' and want to prove yourself better then those other girls by winning him.
However, if you respect his behavoir and choices in relationships, and think he'd be good boyfriend material just the way he is, it might be time to fess up about your deeper feelings.
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well, i'm thinking when you were close and like best friends since you spent like every day together you loved him as a brother, but as for now since you got jealous when he liked someone else i am thinking you are starting to like him as more then a brother or even a friend..
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I'm going to venture a guess here from what I've read. But I think you may like him as something more. The fact that you got jealous when he his with another girl just makes me think that you have some deeper feelings for him and just the way you phrased this "I have always sworn no matter how much i like him i wouldnt do anything with him because of his ex i would feel too bad" the way you phrased this kind of implies you do like him.
Really the only person who can answer this is you... you need to just think about it. Are you attracted to him? Do you constantly want to see him? Answering questions like these will let you know if you like him or not. Just a extra note if you answer yes to those questions, i'd say you like him as something more.
I hope you figure out if you do or don't and I hope this helped!
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