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Hey, i'm April. I'm 17 and live in Indiana. On September 2nd 2009 I had mt lovely daughter Avril Jane. Being a mom is not as hard as everyone always says it is. I have been dating my wonderful boyfrendd Jarrod since Sept. 28, 2008. I'm pretty relaxed and I love to help people!

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ok. i'm a sixteen year old girl and my boyfriend is eighteen. we've been together for 15 months. well it will be 15 months tomorrow! we've been having sex since april (seven months ago). he usually doesn't last long enough for me to finish so i was wondering if there was some way, that doesn't involve pills or medicine that will help this problem. thank you!

Congrats on 15 months!! My 15 months will be on the 28th!

Whenever I have this problem I wrap my legs aroung his waist to stop him and say uh-uh in a playful way...then kiss/make out for a few to give him a chance to cool down without just stopping completly.

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i just got off the phone with my boyfriend's mom. she said he has a kidney disease that is sort of like AIDS but it's not, and it's not contagious. apparently, she wasn't supposed to tell me because my boyfriend didn't want me to know, i guess he didn't want me to worry or react like she is. but she thought she should let me know, since we've been together for almost a year. we love eachother so much and i plan to marry this guy and spend the rest of my life with him. she said he should be okay, but you never know. she's putting most of her faith in God, but as we know, God can't cure everything. He let's innocent people die all the time.

but the point is, she made me promise not to let my boyfriend know that i know. and that's going to be really hard for me, since i'm already getting depressed over the thought of losing him. i need to know if anyone else has ever been in this position, and what they did to cope. or for anyone who hasn't, just let me know how to keep my cool around him and not freak out and start crying. i know he doesn't want that. he wouldn't want me to suffer with this burden, and i really wish his mother hadn't told me. any advice? thanks in advance.

When you're with him next, treasure your time together. Crying and being sad takes up the time that could have been spent laughing, kissing, cuddling, holding hands, baking cookies together. Since I personally have never been in this situation I can't tell you not to cry...but first make as many happy memories as you can. And if God works his miracles and nothing happens, you still have all those memories to look back on.

*Hope I helped, and God bless you in your time of need.

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I've met someone fabulous and who I think I may have fallen for. We ar both in our 40's, met on the internet, exchanged a few e-mails regularly for almost 2 months, until I had enough nerve to finally call him and we've hit it off pretty good. Although I have dated a few men since divorcing a man after 20 years, this man seemed so different from all others. How often do we find special ones who are only intrersted in what is on the inside more than on the outside? This guy is one of those types. He didn't care what I looked like. When we finally met in person, we hit it off very well, because I fell attracted to him. He called daily afterwards, even when he was out of town for a week with friends. He even told me that he loved me and he could be mine if I wanted. It was a bit awkward initially, but I replied, "I could see that happening down the road if things worked out for us". I told him about something traumatic that happened to me on his way back home from his out of town trip and I think my honesty may have un-nerved him for his calls stopped and when I called him to find out why--asking also if he had a change of heart and if I should back off, he claimed that he has just been very busy with "end-of-the-year" stuff to wrap up and they must be priority right now(he is a small business owner). He said that he will call me back. He returned a couple, but never initiated any calls. He has taken some of my calls and has remained very brief, stating that he will call back because he is busy...but hasn't yet.(last call to him was 5 nights ago) I am still hopeful for he did say that he will call back, but am hurt, confused, devastated and scared to lose someone special. What do you think may have happened all of the sudden? Could all of this be coincidental and everything he is saying is indeed the truth? I don't know...

I usually give people the benefit of the doubt...but in this case I wouldn't. Telling him about the traumatic experience may have scared him off. If I was you I would call him and ask him if that's what happened. He said he loved you for who you are on the inside, and that traumatic experience helped make you who you are. If he can't accept your honesty about what happened then he doesn't deserve you.

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Well, i'm a 15 year old girl. But i think i'm starting to like a 13 year old boy. But the thing is, i'm really worried about how others in my school might see it. Like when an older boy goes out with a girl 2 years younger it seems natural. When a girl goes out with a boy 2 years younger, you get looked at as if your a pedo. I'm not sure whether, i should ask his opinion and give it a shot, leave it to prevent accusations of being a pedo, or wait until i like someone my age / till i kno i deffinatley like him.
Help.

If you really like the boy then go for it. Why care what immature people think? They're not perfect. If you don't give it a shot, then who knows what could have been...

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Today, my boyfriend and I decided to not have sex anymore for many reasons! I'm happy for us and think it will better our relationship! =)

I asked him to dinner for tomorrow. I am going to give him a card, write in it AND something that will show our new promise. It feels like a new beginning and I want to give him something.
No rings because he does not wear them, it seems femininine, (I can't spell it! hahaha!) and it would seem like I was proposing in a way (even though I kind of want to! wink wink! haha). No necklace either.
I just want it to be something that lasts, maybe he can wear it, see it everyday, something! I really don't know! Thanks for the help in advance!

Just take two pieces of the same color yarn and make cute promise braclets. A piece of yarn isn't that femenime...and when you decide to have sex again you can cut his off and he can cut yours off.

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I am an 8th grader he is a 9th grader and he is definitely not the goodest guy to like. He smokes weed,drinks,smokes,sex and shit like that.I am not no goodie goodie.But yah what do you reccomend? stay away or what

Even though you like him, this time it may be best to stay away. The drinking and smoking weed might get you into trouble, and who needs that?

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my husband and I have been married for 2 years now and I am happy being married to him. Since he has come back from a 15 month deployment we have been fighting alot. Alot more than normal and it usual ends with me crying and him pissed off and we hate each other and it's always the same thing we fight about, him not helping me around the house I feel like I have to do everything. I'm tired of the fighting and so is he I want to go to marriage counseling but I'm afraid he wont make the effort. Yesterday he brings up the discussion of divorce and asking me if we ever did get a divorce what would I do. Does this mean he wants a divorce? I don't know if we should go to marriage counseling if he already believes our marriage is over. Should I just start the paperwork and give up? Help me please..

I have faith in relationships, don't give up! Ask him about the counseling and if he says no, ask him if not doing it is worth losing you. Also, tell him about everything you have to do around the house and how it overwhelms you. Ask him if he would atleast be willing to do 1 or 2 small chores for you, and how it would help you so much.

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my boyfriend's 18 & i've narrowed down what i want to get him for christmas, either-
- new earring
- new sweatshirt / pair of jeans
- cologne
in addition to (all of these)
- homemade cookies (he LOVES to eat... like, obscene amounts..)
- a giant hershey's kiss
- a hemp necklace (he loves them, i'll make it myself)
- and possibly an 'inside joke' gift... funny boxers ;)

im afraid cologne will be one of those "oh.. again?" gifts. same with the clothes. but the thing is, my boyfriend doesnt exactly switch up his wardrobe that much... he pretty much wears the same three shirts, which arent bad, but ruins them by wearing this gigantic sweatshirt, which i wouldnt mind outdoors, but he wears it indoors, and its literally three sizes too big for him. and, to complicate things, he refuses to buy "brand names" (of which he considers anything in a mall, even including stores like aeropostale??) so i doubt i could find a good sweatshirt for him elsewhere. and the jeans- i HATE the jeans he has now, and i want to get him some sexy hollister jeans, but i doubt he'll wear them.

the earring, he said he wanted, but i have no idea how to pick out earrings for a dude lolll.

we've only been going out for two months (we started dating almost as soon as we met), but i feel like we've been together for ages, and he's already asked me to his senior prom. so he is worth spending some money on.

advice?:) thaanks!

Since you bf doesn't BUY Hollister, if you give him the jeans for christmas he may wear them. As long as you get the kind of wash(light or dark) he likes he has no reason to complain. Old Navy has nice sweatshirts that aren't really "name brand". In addition to the giant hershey's kiss, bake cookies and when they're still kind of soft stick hersheys kisses in the top of them. What bands does he like? Buy him a poster or CD of his favorite band.

And for the earring:http:www.e-earring.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/cool-earrings-for-men.jpg

That style is pretty non-femenine.

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My husband and I have only been married for a few months. For about the past month we cannot get along but maybe for 24 hours. We argue over everything. We just bought a house, and can't seem to agree on anything. I feel ike I compromise constantly because he gets so angry if he doesn't get his way. For instance, he doesn't like flouresent light bulbs and I do,, but in order to avoid extreme arguments all the fluorescent bulbs have to be changed back to regular. Also, I have a 4 year daughter that calls him daddy, and he allows this to happen. When he gets mad at me he tells me that he is not her dad and he wouldn't care if we got a divorce. AFter our fights he will come to me later that night and act like everything is okay and nothing happened. He will apologize for saying dicvorce but we never work through anything. I have tried to explain to him the need to work through our issues but he refuses. I have suggested a marriage counselor and he refuses. I don't kjnow what to do and I think that I am headed toward divorce very quickly. Any advice? I don't want a divorce and I love my husband, but I can't live like this much longer.

Ok, well i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 15 months and we have this problem. I almost gave up the relationship because EVERY little thing became a fight,and he just never seemed to want to talk things out. The way I got my boyfriend to talk was pretty simple. I asked "Is us fighting all the time and not working things out worth losing all the love and memories we have?" Also, compromise, but in a different way. Ask him if you can have a few flouresent lights in the house, because it is YOUR house too.

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my boyfriend and i are trying to pick a song

any ideas?

1,2,3,4 by Plain White T's

Spotlight by Jennifer Hudson

Candy Kisses by Amanda Perez(kinda of girly but a really good song)

I'm Yours by Jason Mraz

The Reason by Hoobastank

With You by Chris Brown

Bubbly by Colbie Calliat

Realize by Colbie Calliat

Thunder by Boys Like Girls

Stop and Stare by One Republic

Fall for You by Secondhand Serenade(really sweet song)

My Love by Justin Timerlake

Let me Love You by Mario

No One by Alicia Keys

Why Can't I by Liz Phair

*Hope I helped!

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ok my boyfriend has A BBUNCH of stuff on valentines day weekend for me and him to do that he's keeping a surprise but idk what i could do because i have no money and i cant drive or take him anywhere what can i do?? please help!! :(

They say the way to a mans' heart is through his stomach. You could always bake him, cookies, a cake, or cup cakes. You could use pink or red frosting to decorate them. I'm sure he'd like them.

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love songs are good too.
idontknow but they make me miss him.
here are some that i already like.

goodbye to you
tim mcgraw (taylor swift)
breathe
so contagious
the alamo is no place for dancing
with me
getting into you
your guardian angel
only one

i dont like metal/screamo.
or top 40 music.
so what are some songs that have to do with breakups? or love songs?



thanksabunchhxx

Breaking up:
-What Hurts the Most-Rascal Flatts
-Walk Away-Paula DeAnda
-So sick of Love Songs-NeYo


Love:
-With You-Chris Brown(makes me cry)
-Gallery-Mario
Sorry that's all I can think of, sad I know.

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I've been with my boyfriend for a while, and I really want to do something cute for my boyfriend to show him how much he means to be. Does anyone have any cute ideas?

You could make him a scrapbook with all your pictures in it, with 30 (or however many) reasons I like you so much.

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hi, i just turned 18 and i live a pretty fun and active life but when i get on girls and start making out with them, i start to get hard. is this normal to get hard every time i make out with a girl because i have been with multiple girls and it really has not started to change? also, when she notices, is it a turn on or is it a turn off?

It's perfectly normal for you to get a boner when you make-out. It's just your body's way of saying that you are aroused. It shoud be a turn-on for the girl, knowing that she makes you get that way.

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Really simple .. How do you flirt !? Ino it sounds stupid but i dnoo lol. Please help x

When he tells a joke-laugh
When he looks at you-smile
When you are talking to him, touch his arm or leg and be like Oh insert name, i forgot to tell you that... Thats all you really have to do.

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I like this guy, but Im not sure if he likes me back. Im 20, hes 27. We're close friends

-He stares nd when I catch him, I ask him "what?" he just smiles and says "nothing."

-If I go 2 the store he usually comes w/ or if hes going to the store he will ask if I need anything or if Id like to go w/him.

-Sometimes we will go and get something to eat, and he will pay.

-I know it sounds immature, but we play fight occasionally, he will swat at my ponytail, poke me, slap at me, or kick me in the butt, I usually get him back, and he seems to enjoy the play fighting.

-When hes over and sits on the couch, he sits next to me. Today actually I had a stack of pillows that I was leaning on and when he sat down, he leaned on the pillows too, so we were sharing. We were laying wih our head and arms almost touchin, and he kept slapin at me and grabbing at my wrist/hands.

I know the easiest way to tell if he likes me is to ask him, but what do you guys think? Thanx in advance for the replies.

I'd say he does!

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13/f. Okay so I have this huge crush on my best friend.. and I don't know what I'm supposed to do about it. She's a girl, and she likes me too, but I'm afraid something bad will happen to our relationship if we do anything.

I'm just wondering where I should take this.

And please, don't leave an answer telling me how gross liking the same sex is- I don't need it on top of this.

thank you. [

If you both like eachother and are comfortable with your sexuality, there's nothing wrong with you two dating. Yes it is possible if you two don't work out it will ruin the friendship, but that is tr withall relationships. It's up to you to decide if it's worth the risk.

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Okay so what are some tips on making out?
Like if you know someone is going to try and make out with you but you don't know how? What are some tips. What do you do with your lips/tounge?

When you are kissing part their lips with your tounge. You do't really do all that much, just move your tounge around with theirs. It just comes naturally. If you wanna try somthing funny run your tounge across the ridges on the top of their mouth and see if they laugh.

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18/f
What are some signs that your boyfriend either is cheating or has recently cheated on you?(Even when he claims to be completely in love with you..etc etc etc)

He always seems to be on the phone.Does he have to think before he says where he has been? When he answers the phone does he leave the room? Does he always seem unavailable to hang out? Does he leave for late-night trips to the store? Those are all good signs.

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Hi, i really like this boy at my school. I'm not sure if he likes me.My best friend said ok well he likes you because she said his best friend told her! "I'm like omg!!YES!" But then sometimes i wonder if that is really true. Like most of the days at school i look at him, he looks at me for like 7 seconds then looks away right after. If i flash him a smile he gives me a weird crooked smile. We don't talk after since elemantary school and were both in middle school.He knows i like him 2.

So is he sending me mixed signals!?
Does he like me?!

please give me advice a.s.a.p

well, since he knows that you like him and doesn't really seemed bothered by it, AND looks at you for like 7 seconds, i'd say he likes you. I doubt his friend would lie about him saying that so he probably does like you. About the mixed signal thing maybe he gets nervous or flustered when you smile at him.

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