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I'm 15/f
So this guy barely turned 18. He's a senior, I'm a sophomore. I'll turn 16 in a couple months. But is that a big age difference. About 2 1/2 years?
And dating isn't against the law even if he's 18? Not doing anything sexual. Thanks! (link)
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of course its not too big! your both teenagers and thats around the same age
My boyfriend is 2 years older than me and poeple call him a pedofile. Stupid, right?lol x
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Well me and my boyfriend have been datin for one year 2months and 2weeks and sum days and im am really in love ive met the family and he has met mines its kinda funny that he said he neva wanted to get married untill he met me and its like i neva saw myslf wanting to spend the rest of my life with anybody else he has told me my mother and his mother that he wants to spent the rest of his life with me numerous times his friends get mad at me because he rather hang with me than them all i wanna knw is do u guys think that he loves me and that this could possibly grow into a marriage type relationship (link)
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SO cute ! :)
sounds like me and my boyfriend lol
YES i really do think it will last yu guys sound amazing together
And its almost certain he loves you... you have been together for so long..you really seem to know what you want in life
GOOD FOR YOU && good luck!xx
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this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you! (link)
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I understand where your coming from. You don't get on with people and wonder why they can't be nice, sincere etc
but to tell the truth, i feel like that too sometimes.. when i go to greece the people are so friendly and stuff... i think it is true though what the other person said, its because your a foreigner
Not so much england though, if you were to move somewhere I sugest manchester lol sounds abit biased but thats where i am from and i can tell you while you can find the odd superficial immature person , overall everyone is friendly.
Being from america doesnt change how you are, maybe it's the way they have been brought up, the school you go to?
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i was talking to this guy i like and hes been busy with work and we was texting he said he was going to bed so i said goodnight silly text me sometime even if its fuck you or something laugh out loud and he said ok next time i want to fuck ill holla laugh out loud jk(just kidding) i said laugh out loud your funny what i mean is text me sometime because i kno your busy but id like to hear from ya and that your still alive and kicking he said damn wasnt tryin to be funny laugh out loud ok i will get some rest. what does he mean by all of that? (link)
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Basically , he said next time i want to fuck ill holla
and you said lol your funny
So he was like damn wasn't trying to be funny
Meaning Nah im serious
But in a joking way if you get me
So yeah basically he's flirting with you ;)
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iv ben dating this guy i like but i dont want to be his girlfriend. he understands because i just went through being cheated on in my two year relationship so im not ready for commitment. but i feel myself commited to him, we are only friends, but today i had two friends over and one left then me an a guy i like just cuddled but i wouldnt kiss him, does it matter if i would have? its not considered cheating but is that wrong to do. i didnt i just wanted to. also, should i consider to stay dating the one guy or should i open my options, he lives an hour away and is younger and his parents like run him they wont even let me drive him but he is amazingly sweet. (link)
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It doesn't sound like you really want to be with the guy your dating, and it's pretty mean to lead him on.
If he understands you don't want to be commited to him then that's fine. But he obviously wants to be with you :(
It sounds to me like you just want to keep your options open, flirt with some guys, kiss and stuff.
Maybe you should stop dating this guy for a while and just see a few people. ?
Hope this helps
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how can i hint that i want a boy to ask me out? (link)
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Boys aren't mind readers...Nor are they clever at spotting signs like girls.
He needs very obvious hints that you like him and would like to be asked out.
Talk to him about stuff , anything! :) just start a conversation.
If you already talk to him, why don't you ask for his number and text him and stuff. the more you flirt, the more you can see if he flirts back and from this you can sometimes tell if he likes you or not. It might take some time, but eventually it should work.
Also, if your brave enough, you could just ask him if he wants to go to the cinema or bowling or something? If your nervous, make it like a group thing, bring your friends :)
Hope this helps xxxx
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Heyy, so I been known as a prude girl and ya I am but I'm thinkin about acutally doing something with a guy but I'm so soooooo scared and don't know how to start doing stuff withguys once we start kisssing. I mean can u you help me through this and tell me how to loosin up a litte ya know? (link)
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This happens to most teenage girls :)
If your not used to doing something, its hard and nerve wrackin and all sorts of stuff like that.
I'm from Manchester,England,& People here don't really make a big deal of sex and things...so there's a big pressure to just get on with it as if it's nothing.
this made my first time(sex) not as special as I hoped.
Once you start kissing... hmm
you could try stroking the back of his neck, wrapping your arms around his waist, Stroking his back, maybe put your hand up his shirt.. nothing TOO over the top...Most boys(if their comfrotable with it) will take the hint and maybe touch you aswell.
when you say 'Start doing stuff once you start kissing them'
Do you mean sex, fingering, feeling up?What?
Once the kissing starts the rest should follow naturally but if you want to give him a few hints try kissing him a bit more heavily or the things I said before about touching his back and stuff.
Hope this helpss.. inbox me if you wanna talk :)
Alice xoxoxoxo
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ok so there is this guy i have been tlking 2 on facebook.he is really nice and he is cute and all, and yeahhh i no i no, i shldnt trust any1 frm the internet but he is my friends friend 2 and also like her cousin or sumthing so i no he is alright like he isnt a freak or something. im 13 and he is 14. we both live in the same town (and no im not going to tell him my address or anything so dont give me those lectures) but im not sure if he really likes me/thinks im "really hot" or if he is just trying to make me think that...what should i do? i met him 1 time at my church but idk if he actually likes me.... help asap pleaseeeeeee and i would love as many answers as possible, everyones opinion helps! thanks (link)
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Ok, first of all, no lectures. I promise :)
You've met him before so you know hes not dodgy or anything.
So heres the question.. do you like him ?
if you do maybe it's a good idea for you to meet up but bring your friend who knows him. That way it won't be awkward if you run out of things to say.
Try this;;
Meet up with him with a few friends, if you get on well then you should get his number or something.
Then if you both like each other (ask him by text if you shy) agree to meet up just you two.
Hopefully you will get along great :D
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how do you tell if a guy actually likes you or if hes just using you for action?
thanks
kaitlyn (link)
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Hi Kaitlyn :)
Well the best way to tell is if your going out or not first. If he doesn't want to make a commitment to you guys actually dating but still wants to do things with you then this is a big sign hes using you. You need a boy who wants an actual relationship and doesn't rush you into doing things your not comfortable with
Questions to ask yourself:
*if you are going out...do you just hang out and be together or does he always want to do sexual stuff?
*do you feel like he actually cares for you?
My friend went through this with a boy and she ended up being used
At the end of the day its about what you want to do with him. Unfortunately some boys do like to use girls.... something about looking cool to their friends :/
Hopefully he's not using you but you need to find out really just to make sure x
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compare their new girls to their ex's ,whether it be recent or not.I was an amazing girlfriend and my ex even admitted that and there's not many girls at my school like me and even his friends loved me and thought he shouldnt break up with me.I just feel as though when he finds a new girl if he compares her with me,he will realize what he lost! (link)
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Yeah they do
i just asked my boyfriend on the phone,and he said most boys do.
But if you have split up, then its for a reason and something went wrong.
Posibly if his new girlfriend isnt as good as you (which she probably isn't !) then he will realise what he has lost
He probably misses you anyway if you were a great girlfriend! :) just see how things go xx
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Okay long story short my boyfriend told me to give him a hickey(just as a joke, no big deal), and when his mom came to pick him up she saw it. SHe told him to get in the car and they left, what should I do? Oh yeah fyi I'm 13 and a chick. (link)
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Hmmm.. did she actually say that shes mad about it ?
Maybe shes just shocked because mums can be like that with there sons :)
I gave my boyfriend one and his mum saw it but she just made a joke of it
maybe you could get him to explain to his mum that it was a joke and not a big deal ? x
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18 years old female.
i like this boy. weve hooked up before, we actually went pretty far- ive given him head twice.
this past summer i thought wed be hooking up- but it turns out he didnt want to, for some "unknown reason".
but then at the very last day of summer we ended up hooking up,
he went away for this year but he just came back recently so i texted him. we were flirting and he was beig really nice saying well chill this summer and stuff.
the convvo died eventullaly tho.
im almost positive he knows i really like him but im not sure hes into me as much
what do i do? i want to hang out with him. do i just wait for him to text me since now i know hes home and has my number again and knows im avaiable?
i jsut want to get the boy.
-thanks! (link)
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Just ask him straight- 'Do you wanna hook up?'
If he does actually want to spend time with you and stuff he shouldn't be leading you on, saying maybe and then ignoring you.
If he's doing this, its probably because he's insecure and " Wants to feel wanted " if you get me.
but if it's just a casual thing, no relationships involved maybe he just doesn't want to ? x
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17/f
Okay so I kinda like a guy at my school, he's a freshman and i'm a senior but I don't see age as an issue. We've been texting back and forth but ever since I got on my vaca he jus randomly stops answering. Last night he told me the guy that walked up to me thought I was hot and said he had good taste. So basically he told me I was good looking. I said aww thanks :) ur sweet...and I didn't get an answer...so wtf is he not interested?! In tired of the mixed signals like that!! Also I wanna ask him to my prom but now I'm afraid he will just say no. What do I do to make this better? I need to know if he's interested bc sometimes he makes comments like he is and other times he either doesn't answer or outta nowhere says um I'll let you go. Ahhhhh help! Thanks. (link)
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Im not to sure about ages since im not from america
(freshman...senior..?!)
but maybe since your abit older than him he feels intimidated ? maybe he thinks if he gets to close that he will have competition with older boys? or he might feel abit inexperienced compared to you ?
he just needs to get to know you and open up i think :)
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My "best friend" seems to get in the middle of all of my relationships,crushes,men,etc.I guess its shame on me for staying friends with someone like this,but we've been friends for 6 years so it's hard to just drop someone and she hangs out with the same people as me.But ,one time while i was sleeping she hooked up with the guy i liked (we werent dating) and ofcourse i was younger and immature,and it made me feel like crap but i got over it.Then this year,there was this kid i liked.He wasn't very good looking but i still liked him and he liked me..i talked to him almost everynight and we started to hangout and stuff. I would bring my best friend (val) and he then started flirting with her! She took no interest in him,but she gave him her number and he'd text her all the time.Instead of just not responding,she would respond ALL the time and hangout with him..and he got the wrong idea and thought she liked him ,but she continued to talk to him anyway and he stopped liking me..for her.i was mad,but again ...got over it because i got over the boy. My current ex (went out for 3 months and broke up 2 weeks ago) is the new issue.While me and my boyfriend were dating,i had a little party at my house (ofcourse everyone was drunk..) i fell asleep upstairs and the next day,my boyfriend confessed to me that him and my best friend were flirting and she sat on his lap etc.etc.they didn't kiss or anything but SHE never confessed any of this to me.He cried to me and begged me to forgive him and that he wouldn't want to lose me over her.i accepted it,because he told me the truth and even had the guts to cry.He broke up with me ,2 weeks ago..because he needed some space and was just with me way to much.We are still VERY good friends though ( obviously i still like him and i dont know how he feels about me ) we still hangout and chill and stuff.but my best friend seems to be getting closer with him.I have a class with him and so does she. She told me today that they were talking the whole class period and he asked her to hangout and that he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with me anymore (besides just friends..)She flirts with him all the time and he says he thinks shes annoying and a hoe and whatnot but in front of my face,he flirts with her sometimes too(idk if he does that to make me jealous or what).So it's two faced on both sides!I'm still crazy about my ex boyfriend and i feel as though ive lost his attention because he's already "been there,done that" kind of thing.We are all in the same circle of friends because i brought him into our group and we will all hangout probably this weekend.I basically want him back ,but i need tips on how to get his attention.I was gonna try ignoring him and then letting my friend just annoy him so he realizes that he lost me.I don't know what to do because it's hard to avoid hanging out with him ! help! we are on good terms too so idk what to do! (link)
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Oh gosh :/
Your friend is a bitch, sorry x
It's all about insecurity though.
I had a friend like her once, but as soon as she hurt me in the way you have been hurt, I ditched her.
People who bring you down in life are not worth it, people who are so insecure about themself that they feel the need to hurt others??
just wrong.
Your on a completely different level to her, seriously. Your better than that!
Don't put up with her any longer, shes had 2-3 chances and she isn't changing.
Also, when she told you he said he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with you , how can you be so sure she isn't lying.?
She could be saying it so you try to forget him and she can have him for herself :(
If he says she is annoying and a hoe, but flirts with her in front of you..... to me that sounds like he's trying to make you jealous!
from past experience I have learned to just get on with it and keep the true friends close, if it is meant to be it will happen.
Have a chat with him maybe ?
anyway I hope this helps
A xoxoxox
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Like I had dis problem with my girlfriend see I really don't like my girlfriends to drink cause who knows wats gonna happen when they get drunk :( and like my new girlfriend now we been going out 4 3months now and we love each other to death and like she used2 drink but she stopped becuz of me but she is gonna go to dis birthday party dis week 4 her cousin and I know it's gonna be alcohol there but she said she wasn't gonna drink any but her cousins might pressure her or she might just sneek and drink some and I can't go to da party so idk wat to do I'm just scared she might get drunk I told her already but she said she's not how do I know she will never tell :( (link)
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my boyfriend is the same don't worry :)
your just protective of her because you care.
he says to me, that he trusts me...just not the people that might try something when I'm drunk. Because he said that, I only drink a little bit at parties and stuff.
If she loves you she will cut down abit and try not to do anything stupid,
And if you love her then you will maybe trust her abit more ?
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16/F
Alright, so I have a friend who's all cute and bubbly and she flirts a lot without realizing it (it's in her personality). The guys tend to flirt with her a lot, too, and she just got her first kiss this week by a guy she only likes as a friend.
It made me realize that I would like to be more carefree and stress-free like her so maybe I can stop being intimidating around guys and stuff.
I'm sort of the opposite of her: serious, sarcastic, stressed (lots of stuff to manage in my life right now), and sort of intimidating, I guess. People say I can be arrogant sometimes, but I never realize it and I really want to change.
I can talk to guys, but I don't always know what to say, or sometimes I say the wrong thing.
It's not just about guys, though, I'm having trouble keeping friends because of my personality, and I want to change.
I want to be more carefree and stress-free like her, but I'm not sure how since I'm usually a busy person cause of school and work.
I don't want a boyfriend just to have one. I just want to meet a guy who I like without being awkward. o.O
What should I do?
Thanks! (link)
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You shouldn't change who you are, or how you are just to be like your friend :(
She sounds like a fun girl but I'm sure you are aswell!
If some things in your life are stressing you out, you should get some help about it. write it all down or find someone to talk to about it ?
I've been very stressy at times and I know what you mean. Sometimes friends aren't very understanding about it and just think you're being moody :(
If your very busy, try to find a time when your not tired, and do most of your school work/ course work then? when you get most of it out of the way, you will have more free time and also you wont be worrying about things in that time :) that way you can enjoy it and be a bit more relaxed!
and trust me on this one>>
when you're looking for a guy, they don't just come along.. when your just focusing on having fun with your freinds, more guys notice you and want to get to know you, specially when you look like a fun girl to be around :D
hope this helps
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