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i like a boy
18 years old female.
i like this boy. weve hooked up before, we actually went pretty far- ive given him head twice.
this past summer i thought wed be hooking up- but it turns out he didnt want to, for some "unknown reason".
but then at the very last day of summer we ended up hooking up,
he went away for this year but he just came back recently so i texted him. we were flirting and he was beig really nice saying well chill this summer and stuff.
the convvo died eventullaly tho.
im almost positive he knows i really like him but im not sure hes into me as much
what do i do? i want to hang out with him. do i just wait for him to text me since now i know hes home and has my number again and knows im avaiable?
i jsut want to get the boy.
-thanks!
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God. What are you kids learning these days.
Sex sex sex. It's all about sex. Girls these days are retarded, why did the ones I went to high school with have to mostly know that if you want a guy to like you you don't put out easily...
I remember the day when you had to earn it, and being a senior and a virgin wasn't exactly uncommon.
In short, it's probably hopeless. Even if this is a good guy, he's probably too young to have realized it yet and is still casually screwing around because it's there and it's throwing itself at him. (Itself being your vagina. And yes I know you haven't had sex, it's a metaphor for your sexuality)
Boys learn by effort. That which must be worked for has value. That which is handed to you on a silver platter is insignificant. This is how every single man in the world who isn't gay works. Gay guys have a different mechanic, because they're all guys and they all want to fuck something, regardless of other emotional needs.
In more practical terms, if you put out quickly you'll get no respect. Period. By "putting out quickly" I mean engaging in sexual behavior before you've spent any real time getting to know each other, and before you've established the mutual desire to date each other.
"Hooking up" is something that college kids who want to get drunk and wake up having gotten laid the next day do. It's an adult choice to fuck a stranger knowing full well you won't regret it enough the next day to not do it again the next weekend.
Then kids got ahold of it and changed it to "casual intimacy of any sort" and everything's all fucked up now. You're all idiots, we never used hooking up as a way to get with someone you wanted to date. Hooking up is about getting your rocks off, end of story.
And until you're old enough to have experienced relationships for yourself, to be able to know that you don't want a relationship because you've been in a decent one to know the difference, you don't need to be hooking up. It distorts your entire perception about male-female interactions.
Casual sex is not the basis for adult relationships, and the adults who engage in casual sex know and understand this. You're mixing everything in together and it's why you're on the internet upset and feeling rejected.
Someone steered you wrong.
I get that alot of your friends and others you know probably do it. Just because it's common doesn't make it smart.
Give up. Find a new guy. Flirt with him, get him to ask you out, get to know him. Relate to him as a human being that you like, who likes you, before you let him touch anything remotely intimate on you. It's really not that hard, you can mange it in a few dates, usually a month or two tops.
And if all a guy want's is sex, throw him back. He's runty and immature, and needs a little rejection to teach him not to be a dog panting after pussy.
Somewhere along the way women started forgetting to teach their daughters that men have to be trained.
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Just ask him straight- 'Do you wanna hook up?'
If he does actually want to spend time with you and stuff he shouldn't be leading you on, saying maybe and then ignoring you.
If he's doing this, its probably because he's insecure and " Wants to feel wanted " if you get me.
but if it's just a casual thing, no relationships involved maybe he just doesn't want to ? x
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