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My Awkward Life Needs Some Help
16/F
Alright, so I have a friend who's all cute and bubbly and she flirts a lot without realizing it (it's in her personality). The guys tend to flirt with her a lot, too, and she just got her first kiss this week by a guy she only likes as a friend.
It made me realize that I would like to be more carefree and stress-free like her so maybe I can stop being intimidating around guys and stuff.
I'm sort of the opposite of her: serious, sarcastic, stressed (lots of stuff to manage in my life right now), and sort of intimidating, I guess. People say I can be arrogant sometimes, but I never realize it and I really want to change.
I can talk to guys, but I don't always know what to say, or sometimes I say the wrong thing.
It's not just about guys, though, I'm having trouble keeping friends because of my personality, and I want to change.
I want to be more carefree and stress-free like her, but I'm not sure how since I'm usually a busy person cause of school and work.
I don't want a boyfriend just to have one. I just want to meet a guy who I like without being awkward. o.O
What should I do?
Thanks!
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Hi, I understand what you said. I was like you serious, stressed and intimidating. But at the end of my schooling I came to know that many guys actually liked me but were kind of scared to talk to me. I din't understand why then. Now I do and I changed.
You don't have to be like your friend. Never change your ideals and opinions, every one's unique. But don't stress yourself out so bad. You should enjoy your life. You think too much for everything i guess. Try taking things lightly. I don't mean that you should neglect your studies but just don't take anything too seriously. It spoils your mood and your peace completely. Everyone has something to keep them busy, school, work, fightings with friends or someone else. When somethings bothering you badly and you can't solve it just wait for it to get solved. This would help you be stress free and care free.
And think before you say something to others, if it might hurt them just don't say it. And if you don't know what to speak, it's ok, think and say something but don't stop talking at all because you may say wrong things. You learn only when you try. If you have said something inappropriate then just say oops sorry, i shouldn't have said that. They won't mind. There are a lot of guys who want to talk to you but they don't know if you want to. So rather than staying quiet and serious say anything you want to. They will understand you, will know you that you are a person who sometimes doesn't know what to say. Have fun, cheer up, smile always, stay in a good mood.
Hope this helps you. If you want to ask anything else I would be glad to help you because I know what you are going through. But this process takes time. You need to try. So good luck! Live Life, Love Life!!
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You shouldn't change who you are, or how you are just to be like your friend :(
She sounds like a fun girl but I'm sure you are aswell!
If some things in your life are stressing you out, you should get some help about it. write it all down or find someone to talk to about it ?
I've been very stressy at times and I know what you mean. Sometimes friends aren't very understanding about it and just think you're being moody :(
If your very busy, try to find a time when your not tired, and do most of your school work/ course work then? when you get most of it out of the way, you will have more free time and also you wont be worrying about things in that time :) that way you can enjoy it and be a bit more relaxed!
and trust me on this one>>
when you're looking for a guy, they don't just come along.. when your just focusing on having fun with your freinds, more guys notice you and want to get to know you, specially when you look like a fun girl to be around :D
hope this helps
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