I go by Ahnee, to some. and you.
I live in Orange County CA, and it's not as great as it seems. it's just as shady as everywhere else but we're polite enough to keep it behind closed doors. Great.
I'm in highschool.
I have an opinion on just about EVERYTHING, but won't give it to you unless you ask.
I talk to people.
Sometimes i can just be a brutally honest bitch, don't ask me a question you don't want a real answer to. I refuse to coat my thoughts in sugar
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ummm i have a thing for chubby older men (late 20's-30) with the facial hair.... Ummm is that weird?
i think some of them are soooo hot :-) lol
Is it weird?
im 19 (link)
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Ha it's not weird hun, I'm into some weird types myself that people think i'm crazy for, but in the end everyone likes what they like and should be able to express it.
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okay,here is the scenario
i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:
1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.
don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff. (link)
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well i kind of doubt that it's real love after this girl has only talked to you for this short a time, but yes it could be. i talked to a guy for over a year on the phone and was insanely in love with him and hadn't even seen a picture of him. my boyfriend and i used to only talk on the phone and he fell in love with me before he saw a picture of me (we actually meet now), so yes, it is possible.
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Okay, so I'm 16 (female) and my boyfriend is 22. We've known each other since this last summer and we started talking more once he gave me his screen name.
We've liked each other for about 2 months and hung out a few times. We just started actually dating a week ago.
We make each other really happy. We argue about who likes and misses each other more. We have these deep conversations that end up confusing the hell out of us.
When I told my best friend that I was dating him, she flipped out and said "Ewww, that's disgusting." I guess she doesn't approve over the whole age thing. In my eyes, age is nothing but a number. I just wanted some opinion's.. whether it be good or bad. What do you think of the age gap? (link)
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dont worry about it. but you are gonna get plenty of people against it though. i mean im 15 and my boyfriend's 19, but we've been together since i was 14 and he was 18. the oldest ive ever gone is 8/9 years apart, everyone thought i was crazy but that doesnt matter. just ignore what other people have to say, as long as you're happy it doesnt matter. (just dont get caught having sex, im not sure where you live but in most states...well...he'd be screwed)
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of course this is about a boy. hes totally adorable and right now i like him so so much. but heres the thing. when im hanging out with him or talking to him online or on the fone, i totally dont like him. but wen we hold hands or watevr, or wen im just thinking about him, i totally like him!! hello whats the deal? why cant i like him all the time? (link)
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Well sounds to me like you like more the idea of a boyfriend or something like one more than you actually like the boy you're dealing with.
Wait for a guy you are actually totally into to try and be with, trust me everything will flow naturally then.
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when you are making out with a guy or even just kissing do guy like it when girls play with the hair (on the back of their head) or like massage their neck? what should girls hands do when making out with guys? thanks! (link)
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well every guy's different but most guys do like it when you pull on there hair gently while you're kissing. you could also run your fingers through it. You could run your fingers up and down his neck softly too.
put your hand on the side of his face, on his chest, but most guys like it when you play with their hair. it's just a matter of how roughly they like it done haha
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I have been with my boyfriend, Derek for about, 8 months now. In the beginning, I was truly happy with him. We would spend time together every single weekend. Then, I started missing hanging out with my friends. So, I started hanging out with my friends with Derek there too. It was good until I started getting annoyed at the fact that Derek was so clingy and how we hung out every single weekend. I love him very much but he seems to not give me space. I've talked to him about it but it doesn't seem to get through his head. I want to break up with him but yet, I don't. I have these weird feelings right now and I don't know what to do. Half of me says I want to be single and the other half KNOWS I cannot live without him. HELP! :( (link)
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well you can live without him but part of you probably still wants him around. you really just need some time. you know how people say "if you don't leave i can't miss you"? he doesn't have to leave forever but just make the visits a little farther apart, it'll do both of you a lot of good. you'll realize what you're missing when he's not there.
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I like this guy, Jake.
My birthday was this past Friday, and I invited Jake to my party. He said that he could come.
On Weds. or Thurs., he IMs me and says that he can't come. I figured that he got in trouble or something legit had actually come up.
I just found out that he decided not to come so that he could go to Six Flags with a girl that would soon become his girlfriend.
I'm kind of bothered by this, but I'm not sure if I should talk to him about it or not.
If you were in my situtaion, what would you do?
PLEASE TYPE CORRECTLY!! (link)
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Well if this girl he went out with will become his girlfriend, i would move on. I may confirm the story with him, bring it up casually, but I don't really see a point in giving him a whole bunch of shit for it.
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how do you make out? haha (link)
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www.myjellybean.com Dating/Flirting/Kissing
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I am 14 years old, and I have never made out before. I always just wanted to wait until the moment is right. You`re probably thinking I`m really ugly or something, but I`m actually really pretty (not to sound conceited). Anyway, whenever a guy would lean in to make out with me before, I would always push him away or turn my head. Well, now I have a boyfriend and I really want to make out with him. So my question is, how? Does anyone have any tips to give me on how to make out?
Thank you VERY much! (link)
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i know everyone says "go with the flow, it'll come naturally" and youre like "uh...that doesn't help". but seriously its true. it might be awkward the first few seconds, but just follow what he's doing. most of the time he'll be doing what he'd want you to do to him anyway. But honestly, it will come really naturally. Don't put too much saliva into it ha, just dont overthink it, the only way you'll mess it up is by overthinking it and being nervous.
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Ok so the deal is that i had this boyfriend that i truly loved and we broke up,and he is a liar and its really not worth going back with him.The point is that i still love him.I have another guy who is really nice and wants to get to know me,even though it has been 5 months since my ex and i broke up i still have feelings for him and im afraid that jumping in another relationship is bad.I feel that i might end up hurting this new guy or maybe im just afraid of getting hurt again but im also afraid of letting a good guy go...Should i take the risk and give this new guy a chance because he is really nice and does make me feel something,or should i just be single for a while more until i dont have any more feelings for my ex? (link)
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wait hun, wait. trust me. if you even have a doubt as to whether you're ready or not DON'T get into another relationship. I made that mistake and it won't be good if you're not completely over the other guy. Keep this new guy around as a friend, get close to him that way first. If he's worth keeping around, he'll stay as a friend without a problem.
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my boyfriend of 5 months is rather nosy. ive never been the type of person to share my problems with the world, i just keep that stuff to myself. ive told him this. however if im having a bad night or something he'll keep on and on and on asking me whats wrong until i tell him. i know its just because he cares, but even if i say "id rather not say" or something, he gives me the whole "but you can tell me anything" or "you promised you wouldnt keep stuff from me". same with if i start laughing about something randomly [i do that often cuz i think about funny stuff] or anything like that. basically just anything thats in my head that i dont wanna spill. i realize that its not really a big deal to tell him, but if i dont he gets mad/upset at me for it, and im finally getting to the point where i dont let people walk all over me anymore, but i feel like when i give in and tell him whatever i dont want to, im just letting it happen again. advice please? 16.f (link)
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haha i feel like i wrote that...my bf is the same way. i know it kind of sucks because some things you just want to keep in your own head but he probably just doesn't like things being kept from him in general. you have to explain to him that some things you just want to deal with by yourself in your own mind and if you need help getting through it you'll let him know and that you trust him. as for the funny things, i haven't really solved that one yet either.
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14/f =]
so, im having my boyfriend
over on saturday so we can
exchange christmas gifts and
maybe watch a movie? i'm not
sure what movie to get and what
other things we could do. also,
i need conversastion starters so
things dont get awkward. i hate
that =/ i know, i sound pathetic
but i've been spazing for the
past week about it. also, im baking
him cupcakes and making him a huge
card out of poster board. i was
wondering should i get something
else? if so, what? (link)
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hm, well for starters if this guy is your boyfriend i'd think you'd be able to just talk about whatever. but anyway, it depends on the guy for what movie choice you have but i'd suggest a comedy or something. chik flicks can be downers and that doesn't really help the whole playful conversation thing.
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How do you completely let go of someone you love so much but things just didn't work out again the third time around? (link)
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well i guess it'd be nice to hear a few more details of this question but it's ok.
You just need to realize what's right for you and become comfortable with that. You've tried, you've put in as much effort as you can and maybe it just wasn't meant to be. Just realize that and you may be mentally ok. Explain this to the other person too, they need to know how you feel completely. Move on and eventually things will get better, trust me on that one.
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There is a boy i really like, a lot. We;ve had our ups and downs and him not being able to make up his mind.
he's had tons of reasons why we cant be together, and even kept changing his mind about if he even liked me or not.
So it finally got to where i told him we could be just friends, i told him about how much he had hurt me, and he just asked why i didnt just hate him. i told him i couldnt, it wasnt that simple, and i just couldnt hate him. so he said fine, i will make it easy on you, and signed off (this was on AIM)
we went about 8 days w/o talking, which sucked. I have more than one SN, they are linked, i just dont use the other one much, but he was logged on on one of them, but not my main one. So i just IMed him "hey, its me! igot a new sn, whats up"
we talked for a while, and then he randomly asked why i was talking to him, so i told him if he didnt want me to i wouldnt, then he told me he just couldnt have a realionship right now, and i told him i knew that and we can be just friends even if it never becomes anything more, and he said we cant be friends, and when i asked why he said because its too hard for him, and whenever he is around me something happens and he cant handle it anymore...so i told him i would stop flirting, and everything. then he just went Away...so to his away message i said that i cared a lot about him, and i wanted to be in his life, even if just as friends. and the time we spent not talking (we didnt talk for about 2 and a half months...that ended about a month and a half ago) was more painful then when he had hurt me before...
when he came back we talked, kinda, but it was awkward...
so i guess my question is:
How do i show him that we can be just friends?
He has a lot of problems, i think he may be bi-polar, and he has told me more than once he loves nothing, not even his parents. But then some days, he tells me he only wants to be with me. So i get that we wont be able to be together until he gets his head clear, and even then maybe never. But i need him to be in his life... (link)
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this boy sounds exactly like me not too long ago. I wouldn't suggest getting into a relationship right now with this guy, it would end up messing both of you guys up probably more than you think. you have to trust his judgement on that one. Being friends might help him, but if he really doesn't feel he can right now,whether it's because of his mind set or he feels he needs to wait till his head clears because he really wants to be with you, you have to trust him about that too. Just letting him know you'll always be there for him no matter what will help, when he feels he can reach out to you then he will. Just stand behind him and really let him know you're there and want to be
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I want my best friends boyfriend. . . *SOB* at first we started out as just really good friends and we would play around. Innocently. We would be around my Best Friend of 11 years and cute little flirt around. He would jokingly hug me in front of her and play pucker up and tell me he loves me cuz she's mean. And we all would laugh and joke about it. Then, we started getting a bit closer, when he would play, he would mess around and get closer than we both know she would like, if she even noticed. She never does. That was fine but it's getting worse, way worse, and I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO! Because, I don't really want him to stop, but I need him too. Kinda.. . . And he skips steps, we nevcer kiss, but we have gotten close and I run away, but I WANT IT! even though i can't, & i know I can't. . . and I won't. But instead of kissing he's cut straight to, um. . . The rest of the stuff. Not "" you know, but he's been down and up a couple of times, ALWAYS in a crowd, and he gets a kick outta doing it infront of her. . . It nearly kills me, everytime, but there is a sort of satisfying adrenaline (Sorry About My Spelling)
I hate him. . . (link)
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ok this isn't cool of both of you. if you're friend see's this and doesn't care, thats you're guys' situation and if you're comfortable with that keep it going. but if you're friend knew what he was really doing, i think she would care. you need to tell your friend what her boyfriends doing, this doesnt need to be a crazy serious conversation but she needs to know somehow. and this isnt very responsible of this guy either, if he was really into you're friend i dont think he'd be doing it. I get that you like him, but you know this just isn't right as it is.
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Ok ..
I have been going out with this guy for around 2/3 weeks but I cant help noticing his strange moods.
Hes also on a game I play also known as GUNZ...An online Multiplayer game
Hes worst than a women , One minute hes fine next hes really cold and says nasty stuff without realising...Then straight after apologises..
I mean for example..The other day , msn convo went like this:
[Him] = We didnt talk much did we
[Me] = I Know..Doesnt matter we can talk now ^^
[Him] = I dont think we have any interest in each other
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Then End...Next day he doesnt understand what he said?
Under the circumstances it really hurt when he said that..
And hes just soo stroppy with me...But when hes not stroppy hes my angel :( (link)
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sometimes people really don't realize they're being assholes. i used to do this with my boyfriend all the time and didn't even notice. like i would say something really messed up and then the next day he'd still be kind of upset about it and i didn't get it. maybe you're more sensitive to things than some other people he talks/has talked to, which is normal he's just not used to it. Explain this stuff to him and he should get it eventually. I kind of did heh
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me-- kota--14 almost 15
boy-- Mark--17
K so the day before mine and marks 1 month aniversary he told me he thought we should take a break becuase we moved to fast and he needs to catch up on things. I cried. A lot. more than i should have. He tells me he still likes me and he is going to come back to me. But in his other life, he calls all these other girls baby and stuff. We still ahng out at school he still walks me to my classes and we talk ocasionaly but not as much as we used to. he tells me one thing then goes and tells people another.. Until he broke up with me i trusted him completely but now.. its like i dont even know who the real him is.... i really dont have a reason to not trust him, but for some reason i dont. We are stillg oing to snoball together and i already got my dress and he is getting his tux pretty soon. When we are together it is just like it was when we were going out, he still holds my hand, kisses me, calls me beautifull, and says all the comments like "we can do it in the janoters closset" we can skip class and go to my house. and all that stuff... I am just confused if he really wants me? or if hes using me? i just keep telling myself to not push it and just see what happens becuae honestly i love this guy and i could see myself marrying him.. and he also still talks about our future and stuff.
from what i told you... any advise? (link)
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Usually "i think we need a little break" means "i think i need some time to see what other girls i can get", unless you're in a fully commited long term relationship. Sad but true. But that doesn't go for all guys i guess. And just because a guy says things like that to a girl, sadly, i doesn't hold too much weight. Especially sexual things. For all you know another girl is having this same problem with him. The fact that he's telling two different stories (one to you and one to other people) doesnt make him seem too trustworthy. I wouldn't waste my time but if you really think you really really love this guy, you can wait till he feels like messing around with you again.
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hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch (link)
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You should just bring up her birthday to him, like "hey, ****'s birthday is this weekend, remember her? she's having a party, you should go" maybe make some small talk if you do want to start talking to him again. if he's up for it, i don't see how hanging out can hurt. but keep in mind he is dating another girl, it doesn't seem worth it since he is still on and off with the girl he cheated on you with already. Now, i don't go by the "once a cheater always a cheater" thing because people change, but this guy doesn't seem like good news. Id say leave the past in the past and move on
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well before basketball practice everyday i go like a hour and a half early, well my crush stays after for the weight room. & we contantly like play fight, and stuff. Well he had hit me to i went to run away and he chased me, then he cornered me in a doorway. & put his nose to mine then kissed me and we had started making out. Then i kept being a tease and either not kissing back or grabbing his hand leading him away, slipping a little tounge and pulling away again. Then hes like can i use your cell phone to call my mom, I was like no and i smiled & then we started to kiss somemore. Then we walked out of the hallway we were in and a bunch were down at the other end then his friend jake was like are you to dating and I was like ask him & then I went to practice. Do you think I was to easy, he knows I like him alot & do you think were dating ? (link)
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its not that you're easy, you guys were playing around and you've known him for more than like...a minute so it doesnt make you easy. as for the dating thing, i wouldnt say you were unless you guys have actually gone out someplace or he's tried to make it sem-official somehow. but this really could be the beginning of something, i hope so he sounds cute ha
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ok so i was drunk at my friends house and so was her brothers friend...we will just call him trav... and we were flirting all night until i went to talk to my friend. she said that she was really protective of him but i just left and when i got inside trav grabbed me and kissed me, several times. we have been talking ever since but my friend doesnt want us to be together because she is protective of him. We want tobe together but neither of us wants to hurt her. and she doesnt like him. What should i do? (link)
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ok i was in almost this exact situation. your friend has a certain view of this guy, most of it having to do with certain situations she has had with him which isn't portraying his real self but a tainted version.
You need to do what you want and not let your friends opinion get in the way unless she really truly believes he would hurt you, but keep in mind that people change
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