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Am i ready for another chance?
Ok so the deal is that i had this boyfriend that i truly loved and we broke up,and he is a liar and its really not worth going back with him.The point is that i still love him.I have another guy who is really nice and wants to get to know me,even though it has been 5 months since my ex and i broke up i still have feelings for him and im afraid that jumping in another relationship is bad.I feel that i might end up hurting this new guy or maybe im just afraid of getting hurt again but im also afraid of letting a good guy go...Should i take the risk and give this new guy a chance because he is really nice and does make me feel something,or should i just be single for a while more until i dont have any more feelings for my ex?
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i think going with this guy if your interested its a good idea =) ..because most of the times a new guy makes you forget about the last one when you find out its better than the other one =) but please be kind to this guy you don't want him to get hurt start dating but everything slowly XD
good luck!
Diane
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its up to you
if you feel as if you dont want your ex to break your heart agen, go with the other guy
stick with your choice
also, if the other guy isnt as good as the other one treats you, stay with your ex
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listen, i know what it feels like to be afraid to get hurt, and i know what it's like to have to let go of someone who you think is the perfect guy for you. it really stinks, but you said he is a liar and is not worth going back to, so there you go. a part of you might be telling you that he's great and that you shouldn't let him go because of how much you love him, and love is rare and blah blah blah, but then theres us on advicenators telling you to move on, even if you don't want to, i think mostly everyone agrees that you should.
well if you don't decide to move on from him, then i guess the only thing you can do is tell him how you feel. i mean what do you have to loose? not much right? the only thing you could possibly loose is a friendship, and you might not what to loose the friendship, but maybe it'd be like a sign for you thats telling you that it is really over for good and you don't have to worry about whether or not he loves you anymore, you can move on with your life. if he does love you back, well then thats great! =] just make sure your absolutely positive that he won't lie to you.
so, if you do decide to move on, i will tell you now that there is no saying how long it will take. you've got to start with baby steps, and then it will become easier. ok, the first step, is to completely disconnect yourself with him -- don't contact him, kind of avoid him i guess =. it's just easier to get over him if you don't talk to him or see him, that way you won't be reminded of your feelings for him. the next step, is to go out with your friends, have some fun, it will really take your mind off of him. don't worry about any guys, it's time to have fun! Ok, so after that you will start to see that your feelings for him are fading a bit, so even if you do still have some feelings for him (which you may) you have to start to get to know this nice guy you told us about. you don't have to jump into a relationship or anything, you just have to open up your options to other guys, and you already have your first option waiting for you =] just give him a chance, it's not like you are commited to him, and from there you just sort of have to see what happens.
if you let go of your ex, you will feel so much better. you'll meet new guys, and not have to think about how heartbroken you are. it will feel great to move on, because it really stinks to be stuck in the same point in your life for a long time.
hope i helped =]
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wait hun, wait. trust me. if you even have a doubt as to whether you're ready or not DON'T get into another relationship. I made that mistake and it won't be good if you're not completely over the other guy. Keep this new guy around as a friend, get close to him that way first. If he's worth keeping around, he'll stay as a friend without a problem.
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hey, i think that you should stay single for a little while but get to know the new guy. tell the new guy that you may want to get into a relationship with him in the future but you want to get to know him first. go out to lunch with him or maybe see a movie =].
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well, i'd say move on with that old ex. you just said how rude and mean he was too you.. by lieing. you also said it wasn't worth getting back with him. he may lie again to you, worse than before.
the other guy seems nice.. and he wants to get to know you =] i would stay friends with the new guy.. until you are 100% sure you are over your ex. i have been there too.. same situation.. i had a guy that wanted to go out with me, and i went out with him (to try and get over my ex.. rebound i guess). i pretty much thought that i was doing good with him, he really liked me alot. then i started feeling guilty for being with him, when i had my ex on my mind constantly. i ended it right away because i wasn't ready for the relationship. i thought i was but i was wrong.
my advice is to keep that new guy.. as a friend for now. he seems nice, but i wouldn't go out with him until you are ready and over your ex because you will hurt him and yourself. if he is a good guy he will understand why you don't want to be in a relationship and will wait for you until you are ready =]
good luck! im here if ya need to talk!!
<3 Amanda
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My opinion is to get with this nice guy. He will help you forget about your jerk ex. bf. Also, love is full of risks, the only ways to have love is to take a big risk. Hope i helped you!
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