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CONFUSED
I have been with my boyfriend, Derek for about, 8 months now. In the beginning, I was truly happy with him. We would spend time together every single weekend. Then, I started missing hanging out with my friends. So, I started hanging out with my friends with Derek there too. It was good until I started getting annoyed at the fact that Derek was so clingy and how we hung out every single weekend. I love him very much but he seems to not give me space. I've talked to him about it but it doesn't seem to get through his head. I want to break up with him but yet, I don't. I have these weird feelings right now and I don't know what to do. Half of me says I want to be single and the other half KNOWS I cannot live without him. HELP! :(
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Many couples go through the same thing, they get to a certain point where the novelty of being together just sort of wears off a bit. maybe you should try to schedule some times where it is ONLY you and your friends (absence makes the heart grow fonder), and then something really fun and interesting between you and Derek (to spice it up ;) you could ask him questions about himself that you've never known the answer to. he might be acting that way because he feels threatened by your freinds, this will reasure him that he IS the most important man in your life.
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well you can live without him but part of you probably still wants him around. you really just need some time. you know how people say "if you don't leave i can't miss you"? he doesn't have to leave forever but just make the visits a little farther apart, it'll do both of you a lot of good. you'll realize what you're missing when he's not there.
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You can live without him. Seriously.
Next weekend, tell him you're busy and stick to it! if he calls, don't answer. if he comes by your house, tell him you're on the way out. Get together with other friends, and if they're busy, tell him you've got to study or get a project done. Regardless of whether you're meant to be with this guy you've got to have your own independent life and train him to give you the space you need. And if he can't learn that, he's wrong for you, break up with him, it'll be okay.
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