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Me and my ex were dating for a year and everything seemed almost perfect. Of course we would argue quite a bit but it was small stuff that every couple goes through. We both loved each other very much and never lied to each other or anything like that. Sadly my dad passed away from brain cancer and it took a toll on our relationship. I wasn't able to be there for him and
I became depressed. We had a small argument on December 19th and he told me he was done with me. I told him I was so sorry for everything and that I would try harder but he didn't want me anymore. He said he was doing it for me and that he wasn't able to be there for me, he aslo said he wanted to fix himself. I told him multiple times how sorry I was and that I realized I was not there for him. I told him how much I loved him and that I wanted to be there for him now and that I regretted everything I did. He said he still cared about me but he just couldn't be with me anymore but maybe in the future. A couple days later he tells me that he is over me and that he has moved on and I should move on. Then a couple days later he tells me he still has feelings for me again and that he wants to love me. Then he popped by my class two days in a row and we had lunch together and he asked for a hug. Only to have him ignore me again. It seems that he is constantly changing his mind about how he feels about me and ignoring me. I finally sent him a message about how angry I was that he was constantly changing his mind and told him to talk to me when he made a final choice and that I still loved him. I also told him I would always be waiting for him because I dont want anyone else, he was a big part of my life. I told him that if he never messages me after that I will message him in June to see how he is. It hurts because he was able to move on so quickly and all I want to do is love him and be there for him. He never replied to the message and I know he read it. I feel so confused because he would message me and see me and then ignore me again. I dont know what to do I love him so much and I know he is going through a lot right now. He even admitted he keeps pushing me away because he feels numb right now and doesnt care about anything. He also said he couldnt keep going on knowing how much he is hurting me right now. Is their even a possibility we could get back together? I feel like a part of me is missing I just care about him so much.



First my condolence to your fathers passing.


As for the boyfriend, He needs to go. It was wrong of him to bail on you when you needed him the most. Understandably, You have every reason to be depressed. As sorry as he may be, It doesn't cut it. Relationships are about trust and most of all supporting one another and if he can't be supportive in one of your most needed times, Then he just isn't the one for you. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who I can't rely on when I need them the most. It was wrong for him to jet, I don't care what his excuse is or was. Darling, Sometimes we need to find our strength and learn that toxic people only cause us harm in the long run. You do not need him, You do not want him and most of all you do not love him. You need and should find someone who loves you, Someone who will support you through the good and the bad and will be there when you need them. You have nothing to apologize for, You've done nothing wrong. Lift yourself up, Be strong. If you need help, Get yourself therapy. Don't let more pain in, He isn't worth your pain.

Be well

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