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We have been together 3 yrs now and living together one year. He has a 10 yr old daughter. I have raised my daughters already they are grown and married. I also helped raise my grandson who is now the same age as my boyfriend's child. Here's the deal...I encourage his daughter to be more responsible such as getting her homework done...cleaning room etc. He's not very good at staying on top of her to do these things. She was pouring milk for cereal the other day and I said "be careful...don't pour too much"...and he said I was riding her too much. I feel like a third wheel. My boyfriends sister warned me that he spoils his daughter too much. Anyways...any suggestions?




You need to talk openly about this with him.


Tell him you are committed to being apart of his life as well as his daughters and you only want the best for her. Reassure him you are not trying to ride her too much but you are only trying to look out for her best interest.

Express how you feel, Tell him you feel like a third wheel. You are only trying to do what is right. If he becomes offensive then ask him what you both can do to make things better. Remember, You must work as a team in a relationship. You both are in a relationship and have been for quite sometime now and when it comes to being in a relationship with someone who has children, You indeed do some co-parenting it's just part of a package deal, A committed one anyhow.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. Accepting the pkg deal is a big commitment on my part. I just don't think he realizes that.
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