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I first met this girl, she was nice, we liked each other.I proposed her and she agreed ,she tells me that she loves me so much and is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. after years i found that she lied to me about her past that she don't had any relationship in past and a virgin. but after i found the truth she ultimately tell the whole truth that she had a relationship with a guy who was tortured her mentally and physically and abused her.and she is not a virgin. i feel very bad , angry with her why she lied to me.she tell me that she was afraid that i after knowing her past i leave her,so she hide it from me. but now i can't trust her. i don't like it that my would be wife is not a virgin. i think she used me. but now she say sorry to me, wants to be with me.and wants to marry me. I LOVE HER ,but i feel very bad.and can't trust her.i feel that she is lying to me. but she is nice girl,very intelligent and very bright student,and not demanding. I don't know what to do, is there any one that will talk to me? Any advice appreciated thank you.
You need to lighten up
Your girlfriend may of been afraid to tell her past due to fearing of being judged. Right now, You ARE judging her and your actions towards this situation is very unfair.
I know in some religious cultures many men want women to be virgins before marriage. However, In today's society almost all woman are sexually active. It is the way things are and not many follow traditions anymore, Some don't even follow it even if they are religious. I believe you are being very harsh and unfair towards your girlfriend. If you really truly love her, Then you should learn to forgive her and get over it.
What's done is done, You cannot change the past. Being angry towards your girlfriend for what she has done or been through is only going to cause more misery for the both of you. In the end, It won't solve anything. What love is about is supporting your spouse no matter how bad a situation is. Right now, She needs you to help her and support her and love her for who she is as a person and not the mistakes of her past. It's not worth holding grudges, It's not worth being angry. Life is way to short, Learn to forgive. Stop being angry over stupid things. This my dear, Is something very stupid to be so angry over. Be thankful she told you the past, Get over it and move on. Stop being harsh and learn to listen, Be understanding and love her unconditionally. You get more with honey then you do with sugar.
(Rating: 4) HMMM.. I can understand. but i can't trust her. i love her but i feel very bad that she hide it from me.