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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. lately I've been feeling like he's holding me back.
I've always wanted to travel and do things with my life. I never wanted to be the settle down get married and have kids type. Right now I work 50 hours a week, I'm barely scraping by. I'm 21 and I haven't done anything with my life at all.
My boyfriend has just graduated college. He lives with me and doesn't have a job, and I'm supporting him, paying all the rent and bills and food and all that. So I can't afford to go out with friends and stuff. Which, for him is totally ok, becuase he's the type that likes to stay in and watch movies.
I just feel that if I stay with him, I'm stuck with this boring life forever. But I do love him for his humor, his personality, his intelligence, the sex is great, and many other things. He is a really great guy. I'm afraid that I've been with him for so long that I've gotten comfortable and wouldn't know how to be with anyone else.
I'm just so lost right now and I don't think this little explanation does it justice. I don't know what to do. Any and ALL feedback would be great.
Thanks
You may need to take a break for awhile, The relationship seems to be a bit overbearing for you. It is okay to support your spouse for a certain amount of time but you mentioned nothing of him trying to get a job. You pretty much answered your own question my dear, You should and need to do what is best for you not him. Perhaps you love him, Sometimes love just isn't always enough in a relationship. If you really do feel this way, You may need to let him go and rekindle later when he is more stable if it is meant to be. Right now, You have a life you want to live, You have goals and you shall follow them. Never allow someone to hold you back from achieving what you may only achieve once.
Best of luck
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I didn't mention it, but he is actively seeking a job. He's trying, I just think that even with him having a job, I would feel the same way. But a break is a good idea, thanks again.