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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now,and I recently found out that I was pregnant.
I don't feel that it is right for me to keep as I still have alot to do with my life. I am 24 and he is 25.
He on the other hand thinks we can work things through and he says he will take care of me and the baby.
My problem is,he is always so busy with and he sometimes doesn't keep in touch unless I do.I look at things now,three weeks into my pregnancy and I really don't believe how he behaves now will be any different to when I am 9 months pregnant.I love him and I want to one day have children with him,just not this one. Maybe when we are married and he will feel the full extent of this responsibility. Right now I feel like he doesn't feel it and that he has his priorities focussed on work stuff. Mind you,I wrote here because even sitting him down to have this talk has been hard and I didn't wanna do it over the phone nor talk to someone who will just judge me.
Help Me.
Agree with Dragonfly, You are a smart young lady.
Not many seem to see what reality holds nowadays. Although some say the choice of adoption will haunt you, Have you considered an open adoption? You can arrange adoption to where you have visitation rights.
It will not make you a bad person for deciding to put a child up for adoption, I is far more selfish for someone to raise a child knowing they are not able to give the child what it needs. Unfortunately, When it comes to raising a child it has to be 50/50 with both pafents, not one.
Remember dear, A child is a lifetime. If you are truly not ready that is okay. Doesn't make you bad.
(Rating: 5) Zanes it's like you read my mind. We actually had a discussion and I mentioned to him,among other issues,the fact that this ain't a gamble.We know how long it takes..9months.Then we know that after that,we have about 18 solid years of parenting.If I don't feel up for it now,when i'm not making that much money and I don't feel like I have his support or even my parent's full support,does it make me a bad person to want to have a kid at the right time? No.