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Im 14f and have known I was bi or gay all my life, and im comfortable with it.my best friend...ive had a crush on her for years.she knows I do, but it hurts sometimes, I really like her shes straight.im cool with our friendship.its amazing, but how can I stop you know...likeing her in that way so muxh? Cant get over it. (link)
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Hey, I'm bi too! I've been in your situation many times -- and I also had a crush on my straight best friend before but eventually got over it. Isn't it hard when you have a crush on a girl, but you can't be with her because she's straight?
I can tell that your friendship is important to you. That's one of the main reasons why you want to get over this crush. You want to be able to have a regular friendship where you feel the same way about each other, and you don't want things to be awkward between you two. I'm going to tell you what I do to get over my crushes on straight girls. These might be helpful for you, too.
First of all, it helps to spend time with other people and try new activities. Have fun hanging out and going places with your other friends -- it'll help take your mind off that one friend whom you have a crush on. Just make sure you do things that don't remind you of her, and pick things that both interest you and distract you from your best friend.
Make sure you also have boundaries. It's okay to hang out with her every once in a while, but try to reduce the amount of time spent hanging out with her. Putting space between you and your best friend will help you get over it.
It sometimes helps me to look around for a new love interest. But don't find someone who closely resembles your best friend, because you'll only compare the new person to your best friend. Look for someone who is rather different. If you look around, you'll also be able to find other girls who like girls.
Lastly, remember that love comes in many different forms. Maybe she doesn't like you the way you like her, but it doesn't mean she cares about you any less. A while later from now, you won't have a crush on her, but you will still love her. She will still be your best friend, and you will still be hers. You will look back and realize that your friendship is worth the effort it took to get over this crush.
Who knows, you might meet another very special girl -- this time, one who likes girls just like you do.
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