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Hi, I'm a 18 year old girl in a college in the US. I'd REALLY appreciate any advice.
I am not sure what to do this Saturday. A few days ago, I invited two girls I met at church called Sally and Christina to hang out this Saturday. Sally is Chinese and in charge of international outreach at church, and she wanted to invite my 4 hallmates who happen to be Chinese International students too. I said that was fine and we decided to hang out downtown and have lunch together this Saturday.
Now one of my hallmates wants to invite her Chinese friend, and Sally wants to bring along about 3 more Chinese students. I like Chinese people, especially my hallmates, but the problem is whenever they are together they like to speak Chinese to each other. I'm Asian but I can't speak Chinese, so I prefer to spend time with just 1 of them so we can speak English and communicate. I don't want to spend my Saturday with 8 people who insist on speaking chinese because then I can't understand what they're saying to each other. Christina and I will feel isolated.
The problem is, last week I tried to organise a get together with CHristina and Sally last week but then I had to withdraw at the last minute because I was sick that day (I get migraines).
How can I get myself out of this Saturday get together that I myself started? I don't want to offend anybody or burn any bridges. Am I stressing too much over nothing? Should I just tell Sally and Christina the truth about how I feel?
There's another girl called Mandy who's only free on Saturday this week, and if I can withdraw from this large group gathering, I'd much rather spend time with her because I barely get to see her.
Hope that wasn't too confusing. Thanks for reading!
Tell her how you feel, Yoy feel uncomfortable because you do not speak chinese.
Let her know you would feel more comfortable hanging out one on one. Make plans for another time, Should be fine.
(Rating: 5) Thanks :) that helped a lot