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Hi,
I seem to get really nervous-almost scared about talking in groups. It's weird because if I'm talking to someone one on one it's fine usually. But when the attention of everyone is on me, I turn bright red, my voice cracks, and I start panicking. It's also quite because often it happens when I'm in a professional environment with friends, e.g. a training session with my colleagues.
It usually starts when I have to introduce myself, and talk about myself. I've tried everything you would expect- picture everyone naked, relax, breathe, do it often (introductions etc), remember everyone wants you to succeed and to calm down, pretend noone is around, etc etc.
I've always been shy, but I remember when in high school- I would always volunteer to speak in debates in my school club- I don't know where our c why things turned. I was willing to let it go as a flaw, but it's starting to affect my career now, to the extent of me nearly calling in sick just so I don't have to do it.
Seriously, any help will be welcome - I'm desperate for solutions!
Thanks.
Sounds like anxiety. I have the same problem, I am on medication and it doesn't cure me but it helps.
Not everyone is a people pleaser, You could try it in front of family or a group of friends to get yourself more prepared.
I myself am a little more complicated as I am an extreme introvert. I have a hell of a time just talking with one person.. so there is One thing you ARE good at. ;-)
Try looking into some anxiety medication but speak with a doctor to see if you need it. It may also just be nerves
To be honest, If I saw you speaking, You would be just a person. No different rhen anyone else
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice! The reason I waited so long, was because I had training yesterday with my colleagues. I was so close to calling my manager and telling him that I was unavailable to come in today because I was sick. But I went, and I was asked to introduce myself first (isn’t it always the way?!) and just before, my heart was pounding. When I got going though, I was fine. I did it all completely without fail. I was relaxed, cool, composed – thanks to your advice. So thanks again!